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| sex drive in women over 40
Posted: 9/27/2009 10:33:30 PM | I think men who insist the sex drive of women peaks in their thirties are using that as an excuse to seek out women in their thirties.
I hazard to say that many women whose sex drive has declined after menopause significantly, didn't have a raging sex drive to begin with even when in their so called "prime".
Many of us have had a raging libido since our twenties, and age has not changed that fact.
Considering that women's sex drive, just like men is secondary to testosterone, and not the female hormones, it is not necessarily less post menopause. In some women the level of testosterone is higher post menopause. When the ovaries are removed surgically the level of testosterone decreases 50%. The other fifty percent of testosterone is made by the adrenal glands.
When you consider the role the mind plays in arousal, the fact that a postmenopausal women still has an adrenal source of testosterone, in the absense of fear of pregnancy, worry about interruption by children, and increased confidence that goes along with maturity that it is highly possible that a more mature woman, who has always enjoyed h er sexuality, will find it even better with age? If you read the women responding here, it seems to be the case. A woman who in not sexually driven, is not likely to be a regular on the sex and dating forum.
I can only speak from personal experience here, but at 55 (had to say that since today is my birthday, and first opportunity to claim that ) I have never enjoyed my sexuality more. I think about sex more, at times its a preoccupation. I desire my partner sexually more, think about making love with him multiple times a day. I masturbate almost daily, and sometimes more. When making love with my partner my sessions are far more passionate, and longer lasting. They are also more satisfying than when I was younger, because I know what I want, and am comfortable exploring with my partner, and asking for what I need. I have more fun experimenting, whether it be lotions, or role playing, or toys, or touch...I am not so sex crazed that I would engage in casual sex with anyone. I don't engage in casual sex at all at this stage in life. However, I would use my sexual wiles to have my way with my man at any given opportunity. I hope he never thinks all I want him for is the sex, because our relationship goes much deeper than that, if it didn't I wouldn't be interested in him sexually, but... if he did not enjoy the sexual part of our relationship, I would not be nearly so happy with him as I am.
When a man makes a woman feel loved by being her friend, treating her with respect, showing her affection of a nonsexual nature, knowing how to listen and be supportive, it is only natural for a woman to desire him physically. When you enjoy your sexuality and have a caring partner it makes you desire it all the more. Likewise, if a woman shows her man that she appreciates him and all he does for her, accepts him as he is,
trusts him, is able to relax and have fun with him, respects him, he will find her desireable sexually, even when her body itself is "past its prime." The way you interact with each other outside of the bedroom has a profound effect on how things go inside the bedroom.
As the "King" so aptly put it...
When I walk through that door
Baby be polite
You're gonna make me sore
If you don't greet me right
Don't you ever kiss me once, kiss me twice
Treat me nice
I know that you've been told
It's not fair to tease
So if you come on cold
I'm really gonna freeze
If you don't want me to be cold as ice
Treat me nice
Make me feel at home
If you really care
Scratch my back and run your pretty
Fingers through my hair
You know I'll be your slave
If you ask me to
But if you don't behave
I'll walk right out on you
If you want my love then take my advice
Treat me nice | |
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| sex drive in women over 40
Posted: 9/28/2009 2:14:11 PM | | it is obvious that you will never get a woman, because you probably never had one to begin with. With your attitude you are defiantely doomed, not all women are what you are describing, and there are plenty of men, that are looking for women to take care of them. So don't blow your horn too loud, and put all of us in a category like that. | |
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| sex drive in women over 40
Posted: 9/28/2009 11:35:51 PM |
Happy Birthday Widowsdesire! I love your posts!
Thank you lovinlifeat44 for the birthday wishes, and glad you like my posts!
As to sex drive in women over 40, its a darn good thing someone created electricity.
If they had not I would suffer from carpel tunnel syndrome for sure. Right now
I am having an affair with B.O.B. I don't think my lover minds. If he had to satisfy all my sexual urges and release all that pent up tension, it would kill him, or at the very least he would have to give up his day job, because he would never have the energy to work after I get through with him. | |
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| sex drive in women over 40
Posted: 10/3/2009 6:53:22 AM | thanks again to everyone who has commented i find it is normal for me to have such a high sex drive and i am enjoyin so is my lover
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| sex drive in women over 40
Posted: 10/10/2009 5:04:49 PM |
well Im not over 40 (yet) but pretty derned close to it (39) and my sex drive continues to increase as I get older.
Your may increase until your period stopped. Then you'll consider how to keep it going. However, it's not good as some guys take hormones... | |
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| sex drive in women over 40
Posted: 10/10/2009 6:37:07 PM | dym dym dym lol.. 99% of the women said yes it is high. May be I am looking in the wrong places or women of wrong age lol... Any of you ladies in New York area interested in chatting. For once I would like some one who has a drive just as high as mine lol....  | |
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| sex drive in women over 40
Posted: 10/10/2009 11:42:45 PM |
I think men who insist the sex drive of women peaks in their thirties are using that as an excuse to seek out women in their thirties.
Ya but isn't this the same reason women go for the younger men in thier 20's saying that thier sex drive is way higher than men in thier 40's?
We men hear this so much that I think alot figure there is no way we can satisfy women our age because they already have this preconceived notion that we have low sex drives.
But a man seeking out younger women for higher sex drives is so frowned upon these days, yet women seeking out younger men for higher sex drives is acceptable these days. Ya gotta love the double standards these days too. God why do we all have to generalize based on a handful of people we know or experience? | |
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| sex drive in women over 40
Posted: 10/12/2009 10:52:05 PM | I'm over 50 and my sex drive just keeps going up. I think about it all the time  | |
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| sex drive in women over 40
Posted: 10/13/2009 12:01:25 AM | Overall, I think it stays the same mostly. My wife is 42 now and her sex drive is about the same as it was when we met when she was 37. I'm not sure what her sex drive was like when she was younger, though. I know that she gets tired easier and doesn't feel as good as she did years ago, so even though her sex drive is the same, she is unable to have sex less often, though.
Ed | |
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