| sex drive in women over 40
Posted: 8/29/2009 2:26:51 PM | I'd  Love  to find a Lady, over 40, that still has an increasing Drive...
[haven't , yet...]
It's that kind of woman that I take great pride in satisfying...to her hearts desire..!!
The problem being...the 'Distance Factor' always seems to have such a Major bearing on just _connecting_ in any tangible way...
Before we can even discover what _could_ be a Fabulous relationship, the door gets *Slammed*, on a triviality..!!! | |
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| sex drive in women over 40
Posted: 8/29/2009 2:30:49 PM | | Speaking from experience... no honey ,, our sex drive doesn't drop.. at least not for me,, happy being 52 years young. where as men ,,,,, saddly sex decrease or they can't get it hard... so looking for a younger man now. | |
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| sex drive in women over 40
Posted: 8/29/2009 2:31:22 PM | In my experiences a woman's drive may increase but desire varies greatly. Menopause when it hits tends to play havoc with the ladies desire and emotional state, but lordy when it is there you better have the time for them :-)
The only serious concern is inducing extended massive orgasms on older women who have heart issues or are not very fit. That is not meant as a joke. I think the mind of older women is more willing, but the body can have its limits. After a few hours of inducing pleasure and orgasms on someone they can be pushing themselves too far, you can have problems. It is a reality that should not be ignored, and not laughed off. The one advantage these days is that most older women are more conscious of their health and heart limits. Many are in better health then they were in their 20's. They also appreciate a man who stays in good health as he gets older too, as they are aware that fitness and sex drive are more closely linked then the false belief of hair lines or thickness of a wallet. :-)
Vagina secretions tend to lack much more, requiring the use of things like more lubricants (which can be fun in its own way). I think some women find this personally insulting, but they shouldn't. Any decent man is not going to be bothered by it.
The oen caveat -- mean just gets meaner with age.
Older women who have spent twenty years hating men and have a lot of hidden prejudices about male will only get worse in their forties or fifties. I have found more then a few that harbour deep seated resentment and hatred of males, that can boil to the top when a date does not goes the way they want, or if you explain that you do not want to sleep with them. They get personally insulted and seem to develop the cold-blooded attitude of a homicidal lunatic. If you get any red flag at all that this kind of attitude exists I would recommend to any man to just head for the door. No amount of understanding or kindness will cure someone of that mindset.
Don't hate the messenger on this one. You ladies ask for honesty on the forums so here you have it. It is too common a reality that men encounter.
Personally I don't see the fascination with younger women. But then I never fell for the herd mentality when I was younger either. When I was younger I personally found young women a waste of time in the sack. The modern ones are a lot more loose and free about their wants, but in the 80's they were more worried about their hair and cellulite. I don't date or get involved with modern young women romantically out of choice and by watching what others go through with agism and gold-digging.
Older women in general are more relaxed with the whole process and know a good and worthy man when they meet one. It is the ones that think "hey I have spent twenty years raising kids, now I just want to f*** around" are no better then men in their twenties that want to just seed their oats -- dam the consequences on other people. They lack empathy for other that makes them worse people at an advanced age.
But, always spent my time with women 40 or older and have no regrets on that. Have no intention of changing those patterns of picking a mate. Older women have a wider variety of interesting personalities and desires. I guess it is like the old saying -- some wines do improve and taste better with age.
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| sex drive in women over 40
Posted: 8/29/2009 9:41:56 PM | My sex drive has definately increased but I think it has more to do with my attraction for my partner and how enjoyable the sex is for me. A great partner will keep you wanting more and more and more of him. A big part of how enjoyable sex is for this woman (and I suspect a great many of us) is directed related to how interested our partner is in pleasing us sexually. Selfish lovers need never wonder why women over 40 don't seem to have a high sex drive... When we were twenty we might not have minded but over 40....hell you better be putting into it what you are taking from it or we won't stick around for an encore performance. | |
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| sex drive in women over 40
Posted: 8/29/2009 10:49:08 PM | | I am 59 years old and my intimate "encounters" just keeps getting better and better all the time . I certainly don't see it ending anytime soon, far from it. Don't worry so much, all in good time. | |
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| sex drive in women over 40
Posted: 8/30/2009 4:04:20 AM | My experience is that the women I know and dated have a far higher drive than when they were younger. And now they know what it's like to be sexually frustrated. It's pay back time for all those years they "toyed" with us young, explosive teenagers.  | |
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| sex drive in women over 40
Posted: 8/30/2009 4:16:43 AM | if you feel like you can;t have sex whenever you want, you crave it more, if you feel like you can, it;s a low priority item.
has no one else been in a relationship here? age has little to do with anything... perception is everything. | |
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| sex drive in women over 40
Posted: 8/30/2009 5:34:57 AM | Well here we go again, assumptions about sex drives lol. I have aways had a high sex drive and if you look at my profile you will see i should be settling down by this time with some knitting instead of indulging, but not so. Me and my partner have the most satisfying sex life and he takes me to a higher and higher plane, or should that be planet!
As for drying up secretions, never had that problem - just pass me another towel lol. | |
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| sex drive in women over 40
Posted: 8/30/2009 1:18:04 PM | i am over 40 years of age....i am more confident,...more sure of myself...know what i want
know what i do not want...love myself and respect myelf
maybe men do not like confident women
anyways being forty and over is glamorous
look at hollywood | |
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| sex drive in women over 40
Posted: 8/30/2009 1:26:27 PM |
if you feel like you can;t have sex whenever you want, you crave it more, if you feel like you can, it;s a low priority item.
Yup. Sex is like air-no big deal unless you aren't gettin' any. Lol
has no one else been in a relationship here? age has little to do with anything... perception is everything.
Geez! Haven't seen anything that profound on here in a looooong time.  | |
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| sex drive in women over 40
Posted: 8/30/2009 2:08:52 PM | People like lepetitehomme are womanizers they berate females to try to make themselves feel better.
Sex drive only decreases temporarly if they are factors in your life such as poor diet, lack of exercise, deppression, low self exteem, stress, etc. | |
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| sex drive in women over 40
Posted: 8/30/2009 2:29:51 PM |
if you feel like you can;t have sex whenever you want, you crave it more, if you feel like you can, it;s a low priority item.
Kind of ironic how that works, isn't it? | |
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| sex drive in women over 40
Posted: 8/30/2009 5:56:02 PM | It increases with age. Heck, I could have been winning the gold at the Sexual Olympics if there were such a thing and if I had an SO. | |
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| sex drive in women over 40
Posted: 8/30/2009 11:37:30 PM | Among lesbians, women in their 40s are considered to be really hot.
I've gotten more comfortable with myself as time has gone on and I've also picked better lovers. My love life got a lot better after 40. (Also got out of an unsatisfying marriage.)
People are different. Some people's interest lessens but not this woman. | |
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| sex drive in women over 40
Posted: 8/31/2009 8:35:53 AM | it's been my experience in the last 15+ years that women in thier 40's and 50's are just plain freekin horny and I sure ain't complainin either | |
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| sex drive in women over 40
Posted: 8/31/2009 10:06:51 AM | | the whole myth of women peeking as they grow older is just that a myth, older women just have less sexual hang ups | |
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| sex drive in women over 40
Posted: 8/31/2009 8:20:51 PM | | I am over 50 & my sex drive has escalated & doesn't seem to be tapering off. The problem with that is that I have no regular partner to share it with. | |
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| sex drive in women over 40
Posted: 8/31/2009 8:21:31 PM | haha.. i don't think this forum is a very good way of deciding whether the increase in libido is true, seeing as how the majority of people on this site are over 30 and this is a sex and dating forum.. which people who aren't interested in sex probably don't frequent.
so it would make sense that every response from a woman here has been that yes, her sex drive has increased significantly with age.
but, i'm just eighteen. ha. so i don't know anything about this libido you speak of. | |
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