| Guys- At What Point Do You STOP Searching Online When You've Met Someone???
Posted: 9/5/2009 7:12:47 AM | "I think tho this is something that both parties should be interested in doing"
Exactly right. See, some guys DO get it!
If you spend more time worrying why he hasn't taken his profile off, rather than get to know him, he isn't right for you. How can you get to know someone when the other party is still chatting with, and getting to know others??? Just remember, if you have been out at least 4 times, there is something there for both of you, so RESPECT dictates, no one else should be getting in the way, until you both decide it isn't working out. | |
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| Guys- At What Point Do You STOP Searching Online When You've Met Someone???
Posted: 9/5/2009 8:26:33 PM |
As I say in my profile, dating from the internet is evil. There is always the temptation to keep looking for something better!
That is worse than shooting the messenger. That is blowing up the medium! The internet has little to do with producing more serial daters - or outright deceiving bast**rds. The internet just makes it easier and quicker. That was the whole idea behind the internet in the first place, to make information and interactions available at the touch of a keyboard.
He said...well, I am concentrating on something but I am sorry to say, it is with the other woman I was seeing. We decided to give it a go and both pulled our profiles.......I know my situation had the communication, or at least I thought we did....but obviously not.
This guy would have done something similar even 50 years ago. You can count yourself lucky that with the speed the internet provides, this was all over in a matter of weeks/months. | |
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| Guys- At What Point Do You STOP Searching Online When You've Met Someone???
Posted: 9/6/2009 8:36:21 AM | Personally, I'm not so certain a person gains much respect when they are dating more than one person at a time. It's the same as being online. Your attention is focussed on your desire to "keep looking". People with such a behaviour treat others like a commodity being sold at stores. If you find something better within 30 days you can exchange it.
It's my opinion that a person multi-dating and/or trolling this site for other potentials, while giving someone the impression there is a possibility of long term, isn't worth the time or effort. Multi-tasking with house chores is one thing. Multi-tasking with other people's lives, family and emotions is totally different and totally selfish.
These type people don't deserve respect. Nor, do they deserve sympathy when such behaviour comes back to bite them in the ass. If you can't focus on one person at a time then chances are you live your life the same way.... it's not worth getting involved with such an emotionally fvcked up person. | |
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| Guys- At What Point Do You STOP Searching Online When You've Met Someone???
Posted: 9/6/2009 9:55:07 AM | I stop searching when I feel that there's a connection developing, but I won't remove my profile until I know we're both interested in taking things further.
However, after I've started talking with someone, I'm less likely to keep searching to try and find the next person I want to message because frankly, I want it to work out with the woman I messaged first! | |
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| Guys- At What Point Do You STOP Searching Online When You've Met Someone???
Posted: 10/27/2009 7:48:07 PM | It depends on what you're here for.
If your intention is just to make friends then you aren't searching profiles checking out photos thinking about them in a way that means more than just that.
If you are in a relationship then you shouldn't be searching around for potential, unless you don't want to be with that one you are seeing.
Personally, I would stop looking around on here myself after I knew the dates were becoming more than just an occasional thing only because I believe the girl would deserve my focused attention and I would be all for giving that to her. | |
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| Guys- At What Point Do You STOP Searching Online When You've Met Someone???
Posted: 10/28/2009 10:31:40 AM | Respectfully, I would definately stop right away... in fact... over 2 weeks ago I've ended my search exactly when one lady in particular who made it known that she's very much impressed with me... meanwhile... she's far more lovely than I would've ever hoped for... which I just can't figure out how... of all people... is this possible.
Although we're taking our gradual time to know each other right now... it's important for us to build on an excellent foundation of trust.
I was sort of with somebody else for a long while a little beforehand... but that one was quite a bit anxious be a mother, so we both agreed to stay in "safe practice" until either of us find ourselves at least as fortunate... well... then again... soon after I told her the news... she suddenly no longer had that "overwhelming" urge to get pregnant... which seems rather odd to me... but I did warn her from the start about what might happen. | |
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| Guys- At What Point Do You STOP Searching Online When You've Met Someone???
Posted: 11/1/2009 8:10:02 AM | Well I can't speak for the rest of the 'adult' male species, but if I'm seriously interested in someone and have started relations with, the profile goes OFF line. Call me an old fashion fossil but that's how I was raised. There is 1 woman out there that I'm going to make very happy, when she answers my messages...
A lasting relationship starts with mutual attraction, grows into a trusting friendship, a blossoms into everlasting love. jmho
thanks and good luck
northern | |
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| Guys- At What Point Do You STOP Searching Online When You've Met Someone???
Posted: 11/20/2009 5:06:57 PM | It's nice to see so many people with respectful attitudes!
I was clockstruck12... I removed my profile because I was seeing someone... the one this whole posting was based upon... didn't pan out... so I'm back... my new title is fitting... yet I look to the future with hope, these postings sure do help! | |
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| Guys- At What Point Do You STOP Searching Online When You've Met Someone???
Posted: 11/22/2009 11:19:45 AM | | Well, I see alot of guys that just cant seem to stop fishing. It seems like an obsession. They date and still continually go on the site all the time. Its as if they feel that even though they have a great one and they likely do,,, there will always be one just that much better. I believe they will NEVER be happy finding anyone. Not until they see what they are doing. They say they long for a long term or a one and only but NOT,, they keep fishing just like a gambling thing. Too sad. But thats why they are still alone. Good luck and if you like someone enough then turn off the POF until you decide if they are worth being exclusive and date them. Give them your undevided attention. The same for the women on here !!!! | |
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| Guys- At What Point Do You STOP Searching Online When You've Met Someone???
Posted: 11/22/2009 3:44:34 PM | When she is willing to sacrifice a limb, invites me to watch and I stop her as she draws blood. Then come here delete the account and start a new one, realtionships don't last so it's good to have a B-plan.
Seriously why stop at one when there are so many that are singlw at my age?
I'll never be lonely when I'm old, the retiremnet home will be packed. | |
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| Guys- At What Point Do You STOP Searching Online When You've Met Someone???
Posted: 11/24/2009 1:14:21 AM | Personally I would, and did, shut down all the intro sites, you don't really expect me to believe that dating happens on line, when we became seriously involved. At some point there is a feeling that this is the person with whom I want to have a look at being exclusive. It didn't work out, but that is what dating is all about. Finding out.
If the same feeling develops for another the same thing will happen except I think that the next time I will simply go into hiding (hide the site) until things work out. It's kind of a chore to rebuild everything. Once I know I won't be using it, bye-bye site. | |
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