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Posted: 8/29/2009 8:53:43 PM | | Sure they can. I had a friend who was married seven times to the same three ladies. | |
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tacu
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Posted: 8/29/2009 9:23:32 PM | If both people have deep feelings for each other. There's always a possibility of a reunion. But both must agree on how you want to handle disagreements/misunderstandings before they happen.
Although people need to be caring of each others feelings, one must ultimately care for ones own. Again it boils down to communication. If both can listen to how each are feeling and both are considerate of each others feelings, I think you have a good chance.
If you need to win back a persons confidence, he is still thinking about his feelings and you are thinking about his feelings, but who is thinking about yours. No one. You could be setting yourself up.
We all make mistakes, but holding onto the mistake, is pride and not love. Not many can sit and listen to someone telling you how you hurt them. But people need that expression, to get that leftover anger/hurt out of their system. Its all about taking turns in being that strong foundation.
If the person is worth it. . .go for it. | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 9:27:17 PM | | Ah sometimes the reconciliation is due to comfort zone, just used to one another's ways. You do have to work and put effort into recognizing what drove you apart in the first place. There has to be in some cases rebuilding of trust and learning to communicate. But if there was abuse of any kind stay the H___ away, that scenario will rarely change because their ego may think you couldn't find any alternatives other than themselves, so they think "GOTCHA" It does take a concerted effort to get the basics worked out, if both are earnest that forgiveness and trust can be restored that is a tremendous testament to both people. | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 9:39:30 PM | ^^^^
Communicate well and rebuild trust and it could work...and it has for some couples....when both people take ownership of their part in the problems that created the prior breakup.
I wouldn't say no to a reconciliation if I felt here was something to rebuild, and that we had both grown beyond the issue.
My ex husband is an alcoholic, now sober for several years. A few years ago we explored the possiblity of getting back together. After much discussion, effort, and thought, I finally said no because he still acts like the same old drunk except now he's sober and fully cognizant of what he is doing and it drives me crazy when I have to be close to it....but we have remained good friends. | |
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Posted: 8/30/2009 5:26:06 AM | | this was a discussion that we had at lunch whether it is be a ex boyfriend or friend or ex we really didn't pick one ,just a topic at lunch and thought I would put it put it out there to see what other people felt.As for myself I would have to agree with most and ex should stay an ex. | |
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