| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 8/31/2009 3:53:57 AM | My criteria hasn't changed at all.
I'm still attracted to a man who I can respect. A respectable and respectful man who has a genuine sense of humor, has a "lady killer combination", in my books. | |
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 8/31/2009 4:55:22 AM | i'm pretty much with ffs here.
there's nothing more sexy to me than an intelligent, articulate man who can make me laugh, and who knows how to laugh at himself.....someone with whom i can have a great time, whether we're making love or making the dinner.
i won't go out with a smoker.....that didn't use to bother me but now that i no longer smoke kissing a smoker would be like kissing an ashtray.
i'm not as materialistic as i was. i'll always have a roof over my head so nothing much else worries me as long as i'm able to pay my bills...... i used to take a lot for granted, but with age comes the wisdom of realising how fortunate my life has really been.
health and happiness are my major priorities now, and one usually leads to the other. | |
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 8/31/2009 4:55:44 AM | | hmmm, that's very interesting.... I never really was aware I had any criteria.... yeah, gorgeous eyes always seemed to bring out the flirt in me, that was always the first thing that drew me in...but I also seemed to notice how they treated the waiter at the restaurant, if they were road-rage-aholics if a bad driver cut them off, how they treated their mother or sister, if they could be playful with children, if they always used please and thank you..... I guess I have always leaned towards a kind person with much personal warmth way back when and right now. | |
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 8/31/2009 8:15:43 AM | "I've come to appreciate this quality and think it belongs in my slunbering senescent picker file."
I think this is more the point for me .... becoming more concious of the less obvious things that I have used as core picking criteria ... some to my benefit and some I now know might be there that I now use as criteria not to pick. grins.
For example, I am happiest with people who lead like a captain of a ship who make me feel appreciated and respected. Relationships or work projects. A team. This feeling has in the past caused me to ignore it if they also have a lack of loyalty/faithfulness. So, I now remember to check for both. grins. | |
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 8/31/2009 8:37:07 AM | As I thought people matured as they got older, they actually regress. Best of luck to you, you’ll need it![/quote ] ^^^^guyd42^^^^in regards to your comment...... Believe it or not there are still lots of fit, athletic, good-looking 45+ men in the world. Just because you yourself don't fit into that catagory...doesn't mean they aren't available or accessible to ME.  | |
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 8/31/2009 8:43:49 AM | | Oh yes my Criteria has evolved with time. Guess that's why I'm still single and looking on and off. Just speaking for myself it takes someone more that just a breathing hot babe anymore. As I think about this I now have this long list of things that other person must have, should have or I could take them if other things where different. | |
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 8/31/2009 9:09:46 AM | For a few years, when I was really young and really insecure, a guy's looks meant too much to me--I saw him as a reflection of how attractive I was. Yeah, stupid, I know!! But fortunately I grew up, and it is amazing to me how I see most people as "attractive" now. That does not mean I feel chemistry with everyone I consider "attractive," however; chemistry is relatively rare but has very little to do with appearance! And of course, certain traits would override any "chemistry" that seemed to be there--I can "turn off" of a guy in a nanosecond if he says something racist, for example.
I'm willing to share some time with almost anyone--once. After that, there would need to be something more to keep me coming back for more. That "something" could just be the fact that we had fun, or were really comfortable, or whatever. No external criteria for me (I just cannot even fathom the criteria here on POF, and how people X-out someone who has kids, or whatever, b/c that has nothing to do with who that person is--although it does affect their time and lifestyle-- and our friends come in all different type of "real life" packaging! Not a criticism at all, by the way; I just don't "get it.") | |
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 8/31/2009 9:17:22 AM | Hey Free,,,
some people aren't worth wasting your time,,,
Look at his history of posts and you'll see the anger and bitterness that is evident in almost all of them,,, | |
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 8/31/2009 9:33:16 AM |
No external criteria for me (I just cannot even fathom the criteria here on POF, and how people X-out someone who has kids, or whatever, b/c that has nothing to do with who that person is--although it does affect their time and lifestyle-- and our friends come in all different type of "real life" packaging! Not a criticism at all, by the way; I just don't "get it.")
I sure can relate . I don't get it either what does someone get by repeatedly saying I don't want a woman that is.......................There seems to be a few that keep this theam alive and people spun up . If you say these things over and over its kinda like abuse . Also I don't get their cheerleading lady friends that seamed to have been blessed with those genes egging them on are feeding them .I am going to have a great day today . And heaven forbid don't say nothing on the forum the neighbors will hear ....That's how my criteria has changed ..........goin
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 8/31/2009 9:47:47 AM | Call me shallow but physical attraction matters MORE to me now than when I was younger.
I'm attracted to fit, athletic, good-looking 45+ men. Beer guts, man boobs, and skinny arms and legs just don't do it for me. Sorry but I still enjoy SEX.... and I'd prefer to be visually turned on by the man I'm with rather than having to close my eyes and fantasizing about George Clooney etc.
I to still enjoy SEX, and I certainly don't have a beer gut,
but I wonder what your other parameters are....So I made up a little form for you, so we can see if I qualify.
***** min. ********* max.
Chest: _____ ********* _____
Butt _____ ********* _____
Bicep _____ ********* _____
Calf _____ ********* _____
" Manhood"
Length _____ ******** n/a
Girth _____ ********* n/a
Non-smoker okay Y____ ******** N____
I'm really "excited" about this, so hurry up and fill this out.
George | |
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 8/31/2009 10:39:55 AM | | So, if I put 5'8" to 5'10", 135 to 145 lbs, blonde, properly proportioned, divorced or widowed, children over 20, 42 to 46 YO, has a trust fund, a sailboat over 30', well-read with a recognition of the absurdities of life, likes to drink in the evenings, can cook (I'll clean up), has a winter home in Mexico near a marina, and has an majority ownership in a publishing company, and is looking for an unpublished writer to support.....that would help narrow it down? | |
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 8/31/2009 11:15:52 AM |
Call me shallow but physical attraction matters MORE to me now than when I was younger.
I must admit I also find it more important to me now then it was when I was younger. I think when younger I got to know people as friends first and so attraction developed over time.
Now when I meet someone I really have to decide rather quickly if I find this person physically attractive to me or not. The reason for that is if I was to date him and attraction did not develop it would not be exactly be fair to to him. So you feel sort of pressed to make a decision lest you be called leading him on.
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 8/31/2009 1:04:36 PM | | I just found another reason for sticking with slender women. A recently completed study of older people showed tissue shrinkage of about 8% in the obese and 4% in the overweight versus the lean people. This is on top of the risk of diabetes and heart disease, of course. I really want a healthy partner who takes care of herself. | |
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 8/31/2009 1:15:59 PM | Mr. McFlye??? Which begs me to ask you the question?
Are you suffering my any type of "tissue shrinkage" my love?
Oh gawd, I need a
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 8/31/2009 1:22:39 PM | Its probably my OCD, but "criteria" is plural!!! Either your criteria haven't changed, or a single criterion has changed...
As for Ms Moon, generally with men, due to declining skin tensile strength, it stretches, and things just get bigger and bigger.......:)
Some criteria probably should be changed in order to avoid a "surprise"!!! | |
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 8/31/2009 2:35:33 PM | The key people in my life were lightning-bolt beginnings. We saw the Light in each other's eyes from that first look.
In my middling years, I frequently dated people who were nice, a pleasant date or a few, but no soul connection. It's like having a relationship with a library book. Nice for an evening with a glass of wine, but not a keeper.
Having grown quite content on my own over the years, it would take another lightning-bolt to jolt me into a romance. I don't care whether he's bald or broke. It's what's inside that counts. I desire the ultimate wildness, the connection of the spirit.
That's why my nickname is . . . Callothewild
PS OTOH, he needs to wear the full-sized cowboy hat without the trainer string.  | |
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 8/31/2009 2:39:06 PM |
I'm really "excited" about this, so hurry up and fill this out.
^^^^Dear George^^^^
No need to fill out the little form you made up for me....as you do not qualify in regards to meeting my criteria due to your age.
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 8/31/2009 3:08:42 PM | As I get older, my criteria has become more fine-tuned, I think, than undergone an actual change. Part of that came from figuring out who I really am and what type of person I would be more compatible with. When I was younger I had many, many more 'can't stands' and now I have more 'must haves'.
I've never been fickle about looks, though, and that hasn't changed. That's not to say that I wouldn't be rendered temporarily retarded if one of the men from '300' happened to walk by me... | |
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 8/31/2009 3:20:42 PM | The same (very same in some cases) gal that got my attention 30 years ago - might get my attention today.
- if she was nice looking to me then and now (even with bOOb droop)
- if she was a good person, toward all people then and now.
I have never ever .... ever liked people that think they are better than others - in race, religion, money or any other fashion.
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No my likes / dislikes have not changed. | |
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 8/31/2009 4:50:34 PM | I am grateful every day that my criteria has changed - a week or 2 ago, there was a thread about women and did they judge a man by the car they drove..... yep that was me when I was 15/16! Did the guy I was interested in drive a 'cuda with a shiny sparkly paint job? or may a hot red mustang, or a restored 57 chevy..... or heaven help him the kiss of death was a pinto or a beat up toyota .... In fact my husband that I chose at the ripe age of 18 drove a convertable lebaron sports coupe, had a hot job, nice suits.... and then yes my friends I divorced him when I realized 13 years later that we had nothing in common.... other than our children - and that is debatable even.
So the answer to the question is absolutely its changed .... I want a man with a sense of humour, a caring attitude about me and others, a man who believes that family is number 1, and mostly someone who I can talk to ..... I am thankful every day for that ...  | |
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 8/31/2009 5:08:03 PM | | I expect a relationship to be 50/50 anymore. I'm not dedicating my life to making sure she's entertained and has the best, that's too draining. We're in this together or I'm out of here. One thing hasn't changed, I'll never date large women, or those with 'a few extra pounds'. I'm tired of always being judged my my appearance and height, so I'm not afraid to have my own preferences and stick to them. Women keep saying they want a guy with no baggage, good job, completely honest, no temper, no addictions, intelligent, and driven. I can offer all of that and more, so I feels it's fair to want some of the same in return. And when I read a woman using the word 'qualify' in her wish list, she's automatically disqualified in my rule book. | |
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 8/31/2009 6:36:19 PM | I'm really "excited" about this, so hurry up and fill this out.
^^^^Dear George^^^^
No need to fill out the little form you made up for me....as you do not qualify in regards to meeting my criteria due to your age.
Oh sure . Have it your way.
Another "qualifier"
You know, internet dating isn't like going into Burger King.
You don't get to just order a Whopper, and dress it up the way you want it.
GC | |
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 8/31/2009 6:42:52 PM |
You know, internet dating isn't like going into Burger King.
You don't get to just order a Whopper, and dress it up the way you want it.
^^^^too bad huh^^^
George you look great for your age...I was just messing with ya. | |
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 8/31/2009 6:47:13 PM |
One criterion has not changed and I hope it never will - if you want to date me, you have to know that "criterion" is singular and "criteria" plural. Thanks for your imput. (scraaaaape)
Do I need criteria?
Would having some help me?
Would it make a difference if I had a way to sort the woman who aren't interested?
If my anatomy was such that just by existing I was guaranteed more pursuit than I wished to let catch up, then picking and choosing would be practical. Being that I am instead a man, the problem never presents itself. My job is to measure up, not to apply the selection criteria. As things are, all I could use criteria for would be to decide whom to chase. That might help in a situation where for some strange reason I was inclined to pursue someone I didn't want. Otherwise, once I'm interested then sorting has been done, which is to say, I picked one out of the many empty trees to bark up. It happens when I mistake the rustling of the wind in the leaves for the sound made by crinoline. | |
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 8/31/2009 7:01:49 PM | | I've changed my criteria a whole lot, and I'm glad. And one thing has been added -- a great kisser! Tell me, how many of you all have been kissed breathless? I haven't and I'm adding it to my list, daggone it. | |
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