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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 8/31/2009 8:29:47 PM | tissue shrinkage in the elderly?
......err, that's 8 and 4% of what?
well now gaddy will have the perfect excuse,
"so sorry dear, i can't find it..... it's age related you know." | |
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 8/31/2009 10:16:00 PM | We had criteria when we were younger? Who knew?!!!
Had several long term boyfriends over time when I was younger. Seems I always picked the quiet guys who made me laugh. Don't think much has changed. Matters now that my dates have some security like I do, something I am SURE I wasn't looking for 30 years ago. | |
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jbogie
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Joined: 9/30/2008
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 9/1/2009 12:50:27 AM | aside from my aversion to milfer behaviour, i focus more on my own behavior than make a list of criteria about what i expect from others. i leave that all to my "right brain" to ferret out, when the time comes. then as i have questions about what my instincts say are not quite "sympatico", i may go to my left brain logic to try to put what i "feel" into words.
i have observed that some situations appear to work more for me. but, also as i learn and grow, i have concluded that if i want to be "happy", i need to adjust to different cultural or political climates in order to communicate at the best level. this is not always easy and i welcome those who meet me half way! however, this all is assuming that our core "values" are not in conflict and it's worth my own adjustment or attempt to reach out.
to grow myself in this way, i try to remain open and ask a lot of e-buddies and platonic friends as to "how" they see things. because, it appears that i often see things differently or as they say "march to the tune of a different drummer". i've always been that way, was usually the first to do something or 'fess up to something i did.
my problem is that i expect the same or am just totally amazed when someone ascribes an intention towards my behaviour that i never would even dream of thinking (let alone doing). or: someone makes a choice regarding whether they want to know me or not-- based upon their "criteria", that i find so very "wierd" to me or simply because of my looks! i mean chemistry is great, but don't stop at my looks, nor expect me to not want more than chemistry.
so, i guess that's my criteria right there. don't project your own underlying intentions or history onto my actions! for me, that demonstrates you are stuck in your own past and not very flexible about "growing" a future.
well, i am sure this statement will just knock me off a lot of people's list of their own criteria. well, so be it. it gets me closer to my goal by weeding out and being weeded!  | |
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 9/1/2009 3:51:23 AM | One criterion has not changed and I hope it never will - if you want to date me, you have to know that "criterion" is singular and "criteria" plural.
NAILS ON CHALKBOARD!!!! EEEEEKKKKKK!!!!
Well, when I wrote the subject line it sounded right. And, yeah, I know criteria is plural. I kinda saw "criteria" as a "group" or "list". Have your list changed? Has your list changed? hmmmm... I consulted a friend whose minor in college was English. He told me that he thought it could be expressed either way. LOL. Big help, that.
Anyway, I do know this much... I'd never date someone who was a Grammar Cop on a friggin' internet chat forum. And, if some lady writes me a passionate love letter, I won't fret if she doesn't cross a "t" or dot an "i", but that's just me. | |
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 9/1/2009 5:30:36 AM |
jbogie.....if you ever decide to change sides there's a wide array of man boobs available here
For gawd's sake Miss Daffy! You my friend owe me a new monitor after that comment! Blew coffee all over it reading that statement.  | |
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 9/1/2009 5:59:48 AM | | My criteria have always been plural even in their absence, as has the list of my criteria always been single, which it is beginning to feel like I have always been, maybe due to my singular lack of criteria. | |
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 9/1/2009 6:25:14 AM | If I state that my only criterion is that we are both interested in each other, does that mean that I have criteria?
Not to worry about "shrinkage", it will just tighten things up for everybody concerned...... | |
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 9/1/2009 6:41:43 AM | g'day miss mirabelle.....
i get so sick of all the "uptight puritans".....can't help myself....it's lot's of fun!
cheers from oz,
pammie | |
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 9/1/2009 7:39:01 PM | When I was a teenager and in my twenties, I wanted everything. I even went so far as to check on their family's health issues and life expectency.
Now I just want someone that is intelligent and interesting to talk to.
I still admire cute bums alas all I do these days is look. Still window shopping is fun. | |
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 9/1/2009 7:50:51 PM | yeh.....cute buns are a turn on for me.....
i also like shopping,
not so keen on the window shopping though. i prefer the real thing. | |
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 9/1/2009 10:26:24 PM | Possibly our priorities and what we look forward haven't changed over time, but rather the order of these and the weighting we give to each.
Smile now thinking back to the 16 yr old who had boobs as first priority in a mate. How things change over time, boobs are now only third or fourth lol. | |
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 9/2/2009 1:18:34 PM | | Daffie, you are quick! What tissue? Why, certain brain tissue! Not only that, the brains of the obese, with their 8% greater brain tissue shrinkage, perform as if they are 16 years older than the brains of the lean; the brains of overweight people, with 4% greater brain tissue shrinkage, perform as if 8 years older...this at about the age of 70. Just do a search on brain shrinkage. The study turns right up. Truly frightening results. Keeps me going to the gym and eating right! | |
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 9/2/2009 1:48:25 PM | Wow. I don't really even need to respond to this thread. I see I have many things in common with several of the ladies who have come before me.
My criteria is probably about the same, except I don't make "excuses or exceptions" anymore for men that are arrogant, rude, or self-centered. I don't care what your childhood was like...if you're 50+ years old you've had PLENTY of time to "work on yourself", and if you didn't.....well, that's not my issue.....
~~~Love this... I may have it framed!
put more priority on personality, commonalities, and intelligence. I have never been attracted to another type, but I would date them just to see. Now I don't have time for that. ~~~I feel ya sister! time is moving very quickly these days!
I have always desired a man who knows what he wants and is decisive. As far as looks, well personality will definitely add or subtract to my physical attraction to a man. ~~~ Give me a handsome alpha male 
Intelligence and personality has always been the big attraction for me. Not that I've always chosen wisely, but looks were always less important. It's still the same. If a man stimulates my mind, my spirit and my sense of humor, then he will win me over. ~~~ I'd really like to choose wisely this time!
Make me laugh...I love a wicked sense of humor when I was younger and now...the difference is now if someone has addiction issues I'm not allowing myself to become involved with them. ~~~Yup..been there, done that...my gawd woman we must be cut from the same cloth! lol
I've always been a sucker for a guy who can make me laugh. | |
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 9/2/2009 1:58:09 PM | My criteria or criterion or whatever you want to call it( just for the grammar police)seems to be getting a bit "less picky" each day, and the day after and after, and so on.
I might be getting that disease, where people fall in love with objects. Oh, and I think I've already shrunk all I'm going to including in the brain area.
dunno!
outdoorgirl | |
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 9/2/2009 2:29:42 PM | | As you're headed in my direction, I'll be watching to see your progress, for the day when less and less picky finally allows me some hope. Months? Years? | |
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 9/2/2009 2:38:55 PM | Farceur, I already dream about you every nite. If only we were closer, I'm to the point where i could give a little.
outdoorgirl | |
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 9/4/2009 1:21:51 AM |
... what I desire in a mate has changed a lot since my youth. How about you?
OP - not a lot has changed for me but then I don't think women are as controlled by hormones as men initially. (Generalising ladies, don't hammer me.)  More wiggle room as I've learned to accept we are imperfect creatures.
I've always been attracted to older men with personality and intellect although finding a 70+ male that ignites my interest has become an almost self-defeating pursuit (given that 10-15 yrs was the preferred age difference in my youth). Honesty/integrity - always been a "must have". Learned with age / experience to value kindness & caring more highly . Then again, was attracted to a very kind man in recent years who lacked any drive / backbone and it put me right off. To quote mirabelle13:
.... a man who knows what he wants and is decisive. Call it strength of character? And must have something nice about the face - nice eyes, or lips or smile.
To Moonchild48: Just ignore him (Gaddflye); not worth your time.
To thecatsmeoww:
So you feel sort of pressed to make a decision lest you be called leading him on.
I can't understand why you would say that. Why should you care what names he may choose to call you? Sticks and stones. Be true to yourself and buggar anyone who doesn't respect you.
To leekatherine:
-- a great kisser! Tell me, how many of you all have been kissed breathless?
Oh yes!   And not just breathless.... How could I have forgotten to include that on my profile??? But not a lot of men are, so maybe I'll leave it off and then he can surprise me.  | |
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 9/4/2009 4:26:46 AM | | Whenever I was younger the ones that I liked were kind of dumb........today I value someone that is intelligent, well read, works hard, and is a healthy person. Back in the Day they only had to have long hair, and tight Levis to get my attention. Even through looks might get that hard glance, if they are missing the rest of it I am not interested. Well balanced is what I am looking for today............. | |
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| How much has your criteria changed?
Posted: 9/4/2009 6:21:54 AM | | The rules have changed for me... I mean, my sense of what is moral and what is not moral. I took back my sense of morality from religion and I run it myself now. When I was quite young, I was encouraged to see real biological factors i.e., my own body, as a kind of enemy! You probably always knew that was nonsense... but the change was radical for me, and yet it was non-violent. As far as criteria for selecting a partner goes, I think I have moved from being aware of what I want, to being aware of what she might want (should we get together). I notice I have backed off when "what she wants" (or what any friend wants) is inclined take sovereignty over my own mind away. Earlier in life, I would have been more easily seduced. These days, it's much more take it or leave it, but, oddly, there is more there for the taking... but I am more aware of the traps (theirs and mine) ... xxx | |
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