| Should I tell her hes a cheater!?
Posted: 9/1/2009 1:07:04 PM | I would hope that someone would have the courage to tell ME if my boyfriend were acting like a jackass and hitting on everything that moves. Why pay attention to potentially false hear-say from someone who you don't know? If you believe it and question the dude and it's false, you look insecure. Wouldn't you wonder if the woman ratting out your dude could be acting that way just to break you up with him so she can have him all to himself?? Better just to be perceptive and use your common sense instead of taking the 100% word of total strangers. | |
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| Should I tell her hes a cheater!?
Posted: 9/1/2009 1:11:29 PM | | I don't know, I suppose I'm looking at this situation by asking myself how I would want it if I was in that person's shoes. Would I want someone to tell me? Sure ignorance is bliss, but I absolutely would want to know and ASAP. And if it really was as he says, just an inside joke among friends, then I'd probably get a good laugh with my friend about it too. No real harm done. I'm not sure why you necessarily have to gain something as some put it, to simply throw out a FYI to another person. There's not really much involvement, it's just a simple heads up. I'd appreciate the thought, even if it turned out that it was un-needed anyways. | |
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| Should I tell her hes a cheater!?
Posted: 9/1/2009 1:20:17 PM |
That way you tell not only the probable girlfriend but anyone else he might be attempting to play.
Forgetting for the moment how childish this seems and the fact that this guy might actually want to retaliate in some way ...do any of ya'll even have a Facebook page? The minute something is posted on his wall, he will get an e-mail telling him and he can simply remove it. | |
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| Should I tell her hes a cheater!?
Posted: 9/1/2009 1:26:24 PM | | I got cheated by 3 ex. One was with my all time best friend. Everybody knew but me. One day, someone couldn’t watch this happening and told me. I’ll never forget. What if it was you? Would you hope that someone tells you? | |
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| Should I tell her hes a cheater!?
Posted: 9/1/2009 1:30:10 PM | OnlyThis-
LOL, not being a social networker (yes, I am on a couple due to initial curiosity upon being invited years ago, but decided the whole phenom to be tedious), am not entirely
saavy.
I thought perhaps that might be the case--being able to remove wall postings.
You make a good point about retaliation, and that should be a serious consideration.
That being said, I would ignore/block/delete the putz and let those
who get involved in his game figure it out. | |
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| Should I tell her hes a cheater!?
Posted: 9/1/2009 1:40:00 PM | you should tell her and forward the messages to her that he sends you so she knows for a fact hes cheating on her | |
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| Should I tell her hes a cheater!?
Posted: 9/1/2009 1:44:10 PM | | Yes you should. Aren't you Christian; do on to ther swhat you would have done on to you! FYI, I have had guys ask for my naked pics and all kinda of stuff, mnay owmen are desirable. And so are many men but, no one desires and liar, cheater, jerk-off kinda person. Hell yah I would tell her and set him up somehow to teach him a lesson. He is a complete cruel jerk and I would not have even accepte dhis invitaion on facebook, seeing you don't have to unless you want to. | |
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| Should I tell her hes a cheater!?
Posted: 9/1/2009 1:45:01 PM | Why did you let him add you as a friend on FB? You should have hit the ignore button.
He sounds like a real winner. | |
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| Should I tell her hes a cheater!?
Posted: 9/1/2009 2:19:26 PM | Be a friend and tell her. If you don't, you become his passive accomplice.
If he doesn't want people tattling on him he should stop being a jackass. | |
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| Should I tell her hes a cheater!?
Posted: 9/1/2009 2:19:30 PM | | Post on his Facebook wall that you've finally got those nakey pictures he wanted and what email address should you send them to? JUST KIDDING! Seriously, it's best to stay out of it. He sounds like a weenie and if he really is, this girl will find it out soon enough. | |
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| Should I tell her hes a cheater!?
Posted: 9/1/2009 2:30:37 PM | | Once she has incurable herpes, warts, HIV, or children would be an excellent time to tell her that he's a cheater | |
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| Should I tell her hes a cheater!?
Posted: 9/1/2009 2:35:03 PM | Northernexposure, I dont understand the logic in that
Be a friend and tell her. If you don't, you become his passive accomplice.
If he doesn't want people tattling on him he should stop being a jackass. first thing is the woman in question isnt a friend , and the OP has mentioned she doesnt want anything to do with the hump, and what do you think gets accomplished if she decides to rat the prick out?
Do you think his girlfriend will believe her? the girlfriend could be in that " in love" stage and even if the good Lord descended from the heavens and told her that her beloved prick of a boyfriend is cheating, chances are she might say " no he isnt" blah blah blah.
I think she should post it on his wall and let the whole world see how much of a pig he is and hopefully the girlfriend has enough sense to contact the girl and say WTF is this about, and lets get together so we can beat his ass, its kind of the ole La Cosa Nostra line rule of thumb, beat his ass first, ask more questions and beat his ass again for being stupid. | |
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| Should I tell her hes a cheater!?
Posted: 9/1/2009 2:39:00 PM | Simple.
Just tell the girlfriend that he is a cheater, post screenshots of him asking you for naked pics etc. Then, if they try to contact you (either the guy or the girl) just block them, delete off facebook, don't answer calls, etc. | |
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| Should I tell her hes a cheater!?
Posted: 9/1/2009 2:56:20 PM | | I think the main thing here is him asking you for nude pics. Chances are he has asked other girls to do the same. Post on FB about the nude pics: there maybe other girls who need to know this information. | |
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| Should I tell her hes a cheater!?
Posted: 9/1/2009 2:57:59 PM | it may not really be your place but who cares. if you want to, do it.
just don't do it like you are bitter and be prepared for how he reacts towards you. besides, he may just be her "friend" and she is using him or they have an open realtionship. ??
side note, you should have never accepted him on FB. | |
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| Should I tell her hes a cheater!?
Posted: 9/1/2009 7:07:00 PM | | Unless you are a good friend of the woman's and know the situation of their relationship, I think you should stay out of it. And I would block this jerk. | |
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| Should I tell her hes a cheater!?
Posted: 9/1/2009 7:30:06 PM | In my opinion it's her lesson to learn. Sure I'd want to do the admirable thing as well but in the end it's his word over yours and love is blind so she will just pass a blind eye guaranteed. Obviously he's a smooth talker if he's got her wrapped and is seeking others to entangle in his web so I'd save your breath...........
She will eventually figure it out.... now if it was a friend of yours then hell yea say something but seeing as she isn't, I'd just move on~ | |
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| Should I tell her hes a cheater!?
Posted: 9/1/2009 7:37:58 PM | | i would want to know. shell figure it out sooner or later. sooner is better in my opinion. im sure it wont be easy but its the right thing. the easy thing is to opt to keep the gf in the dark. she has a right to know the truth. you arent intruding on their lives. you were dragged in by her lying, cheating bf. it doesnt matter what anybody thinks of your motives. it certainly isnt petty. | |
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| Should I tell her hes a cheater!?
Posted: 9/1/2009 7:58:36 PM | Who's to say the "I miss you!!" girl is his girlfriend?
It could be his sister or his cousin etc. You could come across looking rediculous if you post to some stranger you don't even know before you know what the status of that person is to him about some drama going on between you and him. I think it's best to lay low for awhile first and scope out the situation before assuming things.
I mean I post on my cousin's walls and my nephew's wall how I miss them and love them etc.
Does that mean I'm thier girlfriend or SO? Absolutely not and I would have a very low opinion of some wacky nutty woman who sent me an inbox message telling me some drama filling gossipy story of how they were cheating on me. | |
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| Should I tell her hes a cheater!?
Posted: 9/1/2009 10:58:24 PM | You are making some pretty big assumptions from the sounds of it. If you were very certain she was his gf tho, then yes, it would be appropriate to tell her | |
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| Should I tell her hes a cheater!?
Posted: 9/1/2009 11:20:11 PM | OP -- Someone once said that it's the responsibility of those with power to use it to help those that don't. Responsibility to use it...
You have a power at your disposal...power of knowledge. He hasn't slept with you so while it's not necessarily "cheating" per se, it's dirty pool asking someone OTHER THAN your SO for naked pics. That's just foul ball.
You have power. It's your responsibility to use it.
Watch how fast he turns the request into yet another "inside joke".
Ha ha. I'm laffin'...ain't you? | |
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| Should I tell her hes a cheater!?
Posted: 9/2/2009 12:54:15 AM | | Have you tried telling him you're gonna tell her if he doesn't back off? See if that has him scrambling to cover his a**? | |
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