| Should I tell her hes a cheater!?
Posted: 9/2/2009 12:54:15 AM | | Have you tried telling him you're gonna tell her if he doesn't back off? See if that has him scrambling to cover his a**? | |
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| Should I tell her hes a cheater!?
Posted: 9/2/2009 2:14:24 AM | Posting on his wall is 100% wrong.
Don't fool yourself into thinking that by merely posting on his wall, you're somehow innocent of telling his girlfriend about his ways.
If you have the balls to write it on his wall, then you should have the balls to tell her directly - because her finding out is the point.
By taking this "indirect" route, you're publicly embarrassing this guy to not only his girlfriend, but to everyone else that may look at his page i.e. friends, co-workers, family, even potential employers. That is wrong.
It's a private matter; do not give air to his discretions in hopes to target one audience member.
Tell her or don't. That's your choice. But, if you decide to tell her, do it like an adult.
Best of luck. | |
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| Should I tell her hes a cheater!?
Posted: 9/2/2009 2:37:13 AM | First off this is just plain childish!
You dont KNOW either of these people, so you own them NOTHING.
You are ASSuming what kind of relationship (if any) they have.
Even tho I will admit that I would like to be told if my SO was doing that sort of thing to me... chances are if she IS his gf then she wont believe you anyway and you just wasted YOUR time.
If your into playing games, you could always send him a picture of a d1ck and tell him how much you'd like to use "your" stuff on him. 
Block/delete.... Move on. | |
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| Should I tell her hes a cheater!?
Posted: 9/2/2009 3:20:06 AM | | I guess it depends on what the messages say. Just based on the description(And depending on how SWEET "sweet" is), I could be dating several of my old friends on Facebook.... but I'm not. If you're wrong, you look like a major doofus. | |
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| Should I tell her hes a cheater!?
Posted: 9/2/2009 5:35:36 AM | dont get involved, you have better things to do with your time and other people's affairs are simply not your problem or business. severe ties with him, delete him off your facebook and just have nothing more to do with the situation. last thing you need is him making some sort of trouble for you online (posting rude and mean comments or getting his buddies to play tricks on you, whatever... dont underestimate how immature and sleazy a guy like this is)
"she" will eventually catch on to what is going on as a "player" can not hide his behavior and once her suspicions start, she will be even more intuitive to all the details that she is obviously missing. If she is aware about it and its an open relationship, then to each their own... do what's best for you and not what you might think would be in the best interest of others.
Everybody suggesting that you get involved, mock, make some sort of public showcase of this because "he is a loser and deserves it" sounds like they have anger/pain issues on their own.... jeesh, move on and be happy with life and dont partake in the negative... you will only invite more of what you seek! | |
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| Should I tell her hes a cheater!?
Posted: 9/2/2009 5:44:57 AM |
By taking this "indirect" route, you're publicly embarrassing this guy to not only his girlfriend, but to everyone else that may look at his page i.e. friends, co-workers, family, even potential employers. That is wrong.
It's a private matter; do not give air to his discretions in hopes to target one audience member. and cheating on his girlfriend, assuming that its his girlfriend isnt wrong, sorry he deserves what he gets, if he's dumb enough to add her to his facebook, and comes on another woman, well he's too stupid and deserves to be mocked,smacked, b1tched slapped blah blah blah. | |
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| Should I tell her hes a cheater!?
Posted: 9/2/2009 9:33:12 AM |
and cheating on his girlfriend, assuming that its his girlfriend isnt wrong, sorry he deserves what he gets, if he's dumb enough to add her to his facebook, and comes on another woman, well he's too stupid and deserves to be mocked,smacked, b1tched slapped blah blah blah.
Those would be ulterior motives then.
If you post his actions on his wall, you've crossed a line. At that point, it'd be less about informing the girlfriend so that she may make a proper decision and more about public humiliation of this guy.
It's not the OP's place to make a spectacle of his apparent infidelity.
See the difference? | |
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| Should I tell her hes a cheater!?
Posted: 9/2/2009 10:15:10 AM | I think you are making an assumption about his status with the other woman, at least based on what you have posted to date. Many men/women have friends that they flirt with, miss, send hugs and kisses to that are not in an exclusive relationship.
However, the second issue of him requesting inappropriate photos, I would reply to him on face book simply as saying you didn't appreciate the request and felt it was entirely out of line. based on that, you are deleting him as a friend.
If someone else has a inkling of a problem with him or that this is happening to others, you provide an opportunity for them to look into but your part is done.
Just my opinion of course. | |
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| Should I tell her hes a cheater!?
Posted: 10/3/2009 3:37:07 PM | | The fact that you admitted you got hurt in the past clearly shows how personal this is to you. You have no right and no business sticking your nose in between them. I suggest you stay out of it and keep your shit to yourself. | |
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| Should I tell her hes a cheater!?
Posted: 10/3/2009 3:42:07 PM | Girl...drama follows you around like a dog.
He "added" you to facebook? Well duh, you have to accept the add in the first place.
Yes, by all means, tell her. That ought to insure more drama for oh, at least another week or so. | |
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| Should I tell her hes a cheater!?
Posted: 10/3/2009 4:06:44 PM | He'll just delete anything on his wall, so there's no point in doing anything there.
If you want, just message the girlfriend and mention it. Don't need to get involved beyond that.
The sooner she knows, the sooner she can make a decision and move on with her life. | |
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| Should I tell her hes a cheater!?
Posted: 10/3/2009 9:37:07 PM | In this instance, I think I like the passive-aggressive approach, that being
leaving a message on his wall responding publically, revealing his private request for
naked pictures from you.
He wants to play games? Make him play by house rules.
If you saved the request from him, it could be his fall from the gf's grace
should she come to his pitiful defense.
Not saying I would absolutely take that road, but it sure would be tempting.
I'm just saying.
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What she said. Do it. Then delete/block him and step away. I found myself in a similar situation before there was a FB. Be prepared for his backlash, and be prepared to change all of your number, etc. He will backlash and he will be majorly pissed. So, the advice of others might be the better route, do nothing and walk away. These kind of guys are bif players, she will figure it out on her own. You wanting to out him may just be your bieng pissed at being dupped by a pro. | |
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| Should I tell her hes a cheater!?
Posted: 10/3/2009 10:02:43 PM |
If you post his actions on his wall, you've crossed a line. At that point, it'd be less about informing the girlfriend so that she may make a proper decision and more about public humiliation of this guy.
It's not the OP's place to make a spectacle of his apparent infidelity.
See the difference? good point vfcdvfcd, the only thing I would disagree with is embarrassing him publicly , adding a woman to a social site knowing he has a girlfriend who most likely would notice his friends list of women is growing like Oranges in Florida. | |
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| Should I tell her hes a cheater!?
Posted: 10/4/2009 3:13:27 AM | karly, that depends entirely on the *reason* you want to tell her. if the reason for telling her is a secret desire on your part to break them up, then i'm not so sure you should say anything. on the other hand, she does deserve to know...so they can either fix it or move on.
be forewarned, if you end up with him...well, you're aware of his character attributes (or lack thereof!) oh...and they usually have an excuse that sounds pretty good...and i imagine they think they'll never again cheat if the right person comes into their lives...all i say to that is: once they've crossed that taboo, it's always easier a 2nd time...or a 3rd...a 4th...a...lol! | |
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| Should I tell her hes a cheater!?
Posted: 10/4/2009 3:23:42 AM | he put a gun to your head...is that how you added him on facebook? first worry about your actions, it is obvious you are interested...run the other way then do not have anything to do with him....regarding his girlfriend...do not get involved...you do not know her...and she will not believe you or she will make excuses for him...she will realize what is going on...that is not your job...take care of yourself and respect yourself | |
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| Should I tell her hes a cheater!?
Posted: 10/4/2009 3:41:01 AM | I'd add her as a friend in Facebook and then see if his attitude towards you changes. You could try by just sending her a message saying something like, "I see we have a mutual friend." or "How do you know ........".
Would you want to know if someone was doing it to you???? | |
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| Should I tell her hes a cheater!?
Posted: 10/4/2009 6:30:36 AM | | Is he on dating sites? You could send her a message with links to his profiles(s) and let her take it from there. Then I'd delete him from my friends list and block him if possible. | |
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