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| Persistance can wear a girl down til she gives in - Does it work for guys?
Posted: 9/4/2009 9:50:37 PM | this goes for guys and gals..
if you have to convince someone repeatedly to go out with you or do something in general,would you really want them like that..its not a genuine response...find someone who really is interested..you'll know because you wont have to debase yourself to get there | |
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| Persistance can wear a girl down til she gives in - Does it work for guys?
Posted: 9/5/2009 3:56:17 AM | Persistence = stalker creep weirdo to women, I am 99.9 percent sure that if you do not have an interest in a man... you do not want him to be persistent.
The only time that has ever worked is because you were attracted to him initially.
Please stop posting trash like this.
He finally gets the girl...
This isn't a romance movie...
It's more like..
He finally gets a restraining order. | |
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| Persistance can wear a girl down til she gives in - Does it work for guys?
Posted: 9/5/2009 3:28:29 PM | | I would say no.. If someone isn't into you they're just not into you..No matter how much time and effort you put out there.. Now I know in some cases there are some men who will indulge the female even if he isn't really interested in her beyond something physical and all the female is left with is the feeling of being used.. So I would say no.. One thing I've learned and heard from many men is that if he really wants you. there is nothing that would ever stop him from pursuing you ever...But if he's not interested he's just not no matter what.. | |
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| Persistance can wear a girl down til she gives in - Does it work for guys?
Posted: 9/5/2009 4:07:55 PM | | If I'm not attraced, not interested, not looking etc, and I say so quite bluntly....and some guy is STILL pushing it? It's time for the Block User Button! Pushy people are not attractive to me...if it was a friend that was trying to start a relationship...I might give it a try, but would also try not to have expectations, and to let things run their own course be it in an intimate relationship, or going back to just being friends | |
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| Persistance can wear a girl down til she gives in - Does it work for guys?
Posted: 9/5/2009 8:58:32 PM | It's never happened in real life, but it has happened on dating sites. I don't like it at all.
I'm not one to chase women either.
I guess that...for me, if someone rejects you early on, there must be some reason for it.
To me, this doesn't bode well for a LTR.
I think that the pattern established early on will continue. In other words, the way that people treat you in the beginning is the way that they will always treat you. So...if you give chase at the start, you might be expected to kiss their respective ass for the rest of eternity.
Things should not be so one sided. There should be some balance, I think, if the relationship is meant for the long run. | |
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| Persistance can wear a girl down til she gives in - Does it work for guys?
Posted: 9/5/2009 9:14:37 PM | Even though I am a woman, I have to put my two cents in on this one with a bit of a story:
There was one guy I was seeing for a bit, and he was interesting, but he just didn't seem to do it for me, nice guy, but whatever. He continuously pursued me, this is the "persistence" you're talking about. I kept telling him no, setting boundaries that he obviously wasn't respecting. I ended up getting "worn down/out" and finally agreed to be his girlfriend. What this was was emotional abuse and stalking. I was definitely not happy in this situation. It might work if the girl is playing hard to get, but if she sets hard boundaries, then respect them | |
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| Persistance can wear a girl down til she gives in - Does it work for guys?
Posted: 9/5/2009 9:28:02 PM |
You know how sometimes guys are very persistent when they like a particular woman?
There are men that do this sort of thing, however, I'm not one of them. I don't believe in chasing women down, trying to convince them to like me. I think men who do this are suckers who end up getting used in the end. In my view, these woman finally give in because he is the last option she's presented with at the time or she needs or wants something he can provide. Personally, I don't want to be an option, I prefer to be a priority.
I was just wondering if this same "persistant" approach ever works on guys.
No. A lot would have to change to suddenly make me interested. Perhaps, though if I needed something she had I would take the opportunity. However, I'm too independant for that sort of thing, and prefer to find the whole package. | |
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| Persistance can wear a girl down til she gives in - Does it work for guys?
Posted: 9/6/2009 8:18:29 AM | This was my approach with my very pretty Vietnamese ex. We never really got past the "lukewarm phase" when it comes to intimacy. I'm simply not her physical type. She's looking for tall, DARK and handsome.
In short, this doesn't work. She's either interested right off the bat or she's not. We can "plant seeds" and then walk away...that's all we can do. | |
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| Persistance can wear a girl down til she gives in - Does it work for guys?
Posted: 9/6/2009 9:40:39 AM | I know how to take a hint. And I've even been told at a later date that, apparently I've taken hints that were in my imagination rather than reality. But sometimes it's hard to tell so I opt to be safe rather than sorry.
When the situation is reversed, persistence doesn't usually work on me but that's not a hard and fast rule. One case in particular, turned out that I just didn't have her pegged correctly and the more I got to know her, the more I liked her. If she hadn't been persistent, I would have passed her by and missed out on quite a bit. That wasn't a case of me being "worn down" though. | |
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| Persistance can wear a girl down til she gives in - Does it work for guys?
Posted: 10/24/2009 6:04:58 PM | | yeah, i was never good at pursuing someone to the point that they give in, in my eyes if you don't like me in the beginning you will never like me. Can it work on men I guess so, but I think it's rare that a man will all of a sudden be attracted to someone after years of being chase. for the most part I think if it was the case, it will be strictly "settling" whther it's the woman or the man pursuing. "Well, you are the only one around so i might as well be with you!!!" sort of thing. | |
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| Persistance can wear a girl down til she gives in - Does it work for guys?
Posted: 10/27/2009 7:50:54 AM | | One of the times I volunteered at a public tv station, a girl and I liked chatting. She found me on, I think this very site, and we continued chatting. She found me attractive and we even went to the Fair. I didn't find her attractive, despite our common interests. She wasn't Jewish which was something I'm particular about. Fortunately, when I told her I'm not interested in being a boyfriend she took it well. We've continued talking. | |
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| Persistance can wear a girl down til she gives in - Does it work for guys?
Posted: 10/30/2009 2:34:48 PM | "I'm surprised to hear this actually works at all. I associate persistance with not being able to take a hint and move on."
Here's a recent interview with Sandra Bullock:
Serendipity brought Bullock together with husband Jesse James. The two met when she went to his bike shop to introduce him to her godson, who was a fan.
"After that meeting, Jesse tracked me down. I had no intention of going out with him. I said no for a month, but then I got to know him. I wasn't looking for a relationship, but he committed for the long haul."
So, I guess it does work. | |
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| Persistance can wear a girl down til she gives in - Does it work for guys?
Posted: 10/30/2009 3:36:19 PM | ^^^^ But only in the case of the guy being the persistant one. It shows how "into" her he is. Many women require this, their "No" really meaning "try harder", or "keep trying until I figure you're worked hard enough to earn my attention". IOW, it's not the guy wearing her down, but her wearing him down by testing his resolve. Women who do this don't want to go to the lowest bidder, or appear "easy".
It doesn't work in reverse because guys don't think this way. He'll typically know at a glance whether he's interested or not, and no amount of persistence on her part will change that. | |
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| Persistance can wear a girl down til she gives in - Does it work for guys?
Posted: 10/30/2009 3:43:41 PM | ^^I didn't know that "no" had so many meanings, other than just saying "no"....
I dated a girl who I was friends with. She would always kid that we should go out, and later I found out that she was being serious. We weren't a great romantic couple but are still good friends.
Women I know don't pursue the way we do. They continue to give hints that hopefully us oafish men pick up on and act. | |
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| Persistance can wear a girl down til she gives in - Does it work for guys?
Posted: 10/30/2009 4:59:12 PM | Persistence can wear a girl down alright, then she gets a retraining order(just kidding).
Its never worked for me and in fact it has taught me an important lesson: Invite people into your life, be happy if they decide to come in to it, and let them come and go from your life on their own terms. Worrying about how to get somebody into my life or how to keep them there just causes me to much stress and turmoil for no gain. | |
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| Persistance can wear a girl down til she gives in - Does it work for guys?
Posted: 10/30/2009 6:26:45 PM | Remember guys are just different from girls. If the guy is into you, he'll be easy to catch and easy to keep.
Kinda into you, easy to catch not so easy to keep.
Not into you at all, bad thing to get into, let's say you catch him at a weak moment, or drunk, and sleep with him, now what? He's obviously either in your group of friends, or you work with him, or some other thing where you had all this opprotunity to chase after him to begin with, and now forever he is going to be wishing for a time machine backwards, or invisibility for either you or him! He in all probability isn't going to fall in love with you, ohhh contrare, it's going to probably end badly.
So why would you want to? Unless you just want wild swinging monkey sex for one nite. | |
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