| Wanted : A Chemistry drug !
Posted: 11/2/2009 4:54:59 AM |
That CAN happen, yes... but if they're great looking, great personality, love close, have common interests, and you still don't have chemistry, and it happens more than once in a long time -- it's you, not them -- and your problem is LOOKING FOR CHEMISTRY!!
It's neither person. A guy can be good looking, but not your type. You can think a guy is handsome generally but not be attracted to him. If that's the case there's nothing to do but shrug and move on. Chemistry is usually based in attraction, so without that it ain't gonna happen.
Chemistry can take a long time to grow - it's not supposed to happen overnight, but has to start somewhere. It won't grow if it doesn't start. | |
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| Wanted : A Chemistry drug !
Posted: 11/2/2009 5:08:55 AM | it's almost impossible to answer your question, but i'll try. i have to start with a couple of questions:
what does "ALMOST just right" mean, and how do you know?
and assuming "just right" becomes available, how long must that feeling be maintained?
and at what intensity?
see, i don't know if this is a question of your being some kind of an endorphin addict, or whether your criteria for choosing a partner are unrealistic, or whether they are indeed realistic but you just haven't gotten "lucky". by the way you have chosen your words, i wonder whether the truth lies somewhere between options #1 and/or #2.
personally, i'm inclined to say that if i came "so close" to "ALMOST just right"... then i would be looking at other real important things besides my feeling-feelings.... like are there any serious character flaws or do we have most of the same values and some of the same long-term goals? if the answers are "no" and "yes" and "yes" respectively, then i wouldn't be so quick just to dump the guy just for the lack of a constant buzz. | |
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| Wanted : A Chemistry drug !
Posted: 11/2/2009 10:01:59 AM | Well, it does exist, but don't ask your doctor or pharmacist for it just yet. And it probably will come in a nasal spray, not a pill - it's oxytocin.
http://www.canada.com/Technology/love+reduced+pill/1152013/story.html | |
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| Wanted : A Chemistry drug !
Posted: 11/2/2009 10:19:08 AM | | Nope, I wanted the real thing and it to be right. If it didn't happen, I was happy with my family. Finding someone to share with shouldn't be the result of artificial influences. It should come from within. The more I know my fiance, the more I am attracted to him. I still say a problem people have is they meet too soon without getting to know the person before the meet. Once you meet, if you didn't get to know the other person, it seems pretty superficial. I won't deny I dig the whole package, but just looking at the outside do you really think you will give this person your best shot? Knowing the inside and then seeing the outside, it is like icing on the cake, it is an added bonus. If you made a connection via phone calls and email, you have a tendency to give the person you meet a better opportunity to get to know you and you them. jmo | |
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| Wanted : A Chemistry drug !
Posted: 11/2/2009 11:20:01 AM | There are LOT'S of "Chemistry Drugs;" if you require a legal one, booze (lots of it) frequently kindles chemistry between the most random people!
Mme. C. | |
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| Wanted : A Chemistry drug !
Posted: 11/2/2009 11:36:40 AM |
Instant chemistry is bu***hit in my humble opinion.
I agree.. the only thing you know right away is whether or not you are physically attracted to someone and that isn't "chemistry".. it's "biology"
There have been lots of women for whom I initially felt a strong attraction only to have it fade quickly as I got to know her... and those for whom I became very attracted to as I got to know them better... true chemistry... simply takes time. | |
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| Wanted : A Chemistry drug !
Posted: 11/2/2009 1:33:27 PM |
So my hope is rekindled that chemistry will happen again and one day, without the fatal flaw !
Okay, cut the suspense, what is the fatal flaw. We want to know!! | |
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| Wanted : A Chemistry drug !
Posted: 11/8/2009 12:17:04 AM | | I wonder. .even though someone stated that physical attraction and chemistry aren't the same thing, doesn't physical attraction have something to do with chemistry? I mean, you can't really have chemistry with someone you're not physically attracted to, right?Had a date with someone a week ago, and I was just curious was happened, why it didn't work. He said it was because there was no immediate chemistry. I guess I took that as he wasn't attracted to me. I 'm not sure if that's what he meant or not. Also, don't you think that if someone is very nervous/shy on the first date, that also kills chemistry? Because that's what happened. .I was too nervous/shy. Which always happens when I'm attracted to the person. .I clam up, and get nervous. | |
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| Wanted : A Chemistry drug !
Posted: 11/8/2009 7:11:08 AM | | My previous post agreement with everone! Knowing all along it was wrong . U have to work at any thing , chemistry is bull | |
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| Wanted : A Chemistry drug !
Posted: 11/8/2009 7:51:50 AM | | I agree with Peggy, I dont want to waste time on emails and chatting on here too long. Just to find out when you finally meet in person, there's nothing there. Thats why I'm ready to meet them after one or two conversations on the phone. And they usually get scared and I dont talk to them anymore...lol | |
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| Wanted : A Chemistry drug !
Posted: 11/8/2009 7:57:13 AM | | Basically, someone saying that they didn't "feel chemistry" is just a polite way of saying "I don't like you enough to try and make it work." :( Of course, no one wants to really say that, so they say they didn't "feel chemistry". | |
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| Wanted : A Chemistry drug !
Posted: 11/8/2009 7:58:26 AM | OP I understand why you may think that, the thing is if there was a chemistry "drug" you wouldn't want it.
Chemistry is hard to find because it's no ordinary experience. If it were then it wouldn't be that special, as common as a bowl of Corn Flakes. That would devalue chemistry and you'd be popping those pills to hook up with the mailman one day.
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| Wanted : A Chemistry drug !
Posted: 11/8/2009 8:17:43 AM | Romantic chemistry (there are different types) usually stems from physical attraction...and grows over time.
I think a lot of people say "chemistry" and instead mean "attraction" though, which is what causes the confusion. | |
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Posted: 11/8/2009 9:13:52 AM | chemistry was a subject at school so i have no idea whats going on there but i feel the " attraction " thing every day i go out and see gorgeous women, where my mind goes into over drive.....lol, and some times i get the feeling on here when i see a gorgeous woman.
However nothing really happens.
tho i have in the past just gone up to a woman in the street etc and told her how nice she looks, i tend to get a thank you but thats about it.....lol
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| Wanted : A Chemistry drug !
Posted: 11/12/2009 1:35:39 PM | | Attraction is due to certain brain chemicals being triggered, so it IS based in chemistry. Therefore, "feeling the chemistry" is actually an accurate phrase. | |
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| Wanted : A Chemistry drug !
Posted: 11/12/2009 2:59:41 PM | As usual, subject analyzed to death......if you've ever had it, you know what it feels like, you're brain might not even be able to comprehend it....yes it can happen at any age....in fact we used to laugh and question, what the hell is going on here? And lets qualify that, not just sex, but doing anything together...I feel lucky to have experienced it in my life.
even though someone stated that physical attraction and chemistry aren't the same thing, doesn't physical attraction have something to do with chemistry? I mean, you can't really have chemistry with someone you're not physically attracted to, right? - wrong, sorta....I could date the hottest models and not feel a thing, the person I found this chemistry with wasn't even my "type"....it was mindblowing how she became more beautiful on successive dates, it was a life changing experience.....its also something you can become cracked out on if you lose it.......... | |
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| Wanted : A Chemistry drug !
Posted: 11/12/2009 6:03:04 PM | Well what the HEY....I'll weigh in on this, I think the difference between chemistry and attraction is....attraction is just that (speaking physical) and chemistry is an attraction that MAY have a physical component or not, it's an attraction that's well like a magnet. An unconscious force that draws you towards that person....ehh it sounds lame, maybe.
I've known, talked to and even dated very physically attracive (to ME) men. I have a very short ...umm...well interest span, not attention, INTEREST. Physical attraction alone doesn't keep my interest very long (probably be measure only with a stopwatch). It doesn't mean there's anything WRONG with them, they could be also great conversationalists, educated, intelligent...blah blah.
Chemistry is that indefinable "force" if it were that, if you could explain or define it, that would kill it. To have a drug to fake that....NAW!
There's just some things mankind shouldn't be screwing around with IE screwing up. No chemistry drug..GAK...if I had to slip something in someone's drink to have chemistry with me...as long as there's crosswords puzzles...no need for that. | |
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