| At what age do you Just Give Up?
Posted: 9/10/2009 8:42:53 PM | I haven't given up, but I'm no longer willing to indulge anything other than open, honest, and liberated interaction. I'm very comfortable with who and how I am, I know I need someone who is the same and who will accept this of me.
It is difficult to find, but I (obviously) do not believe it is impossible. I have my profile here, but it is not the limit of where I go or look to meet people (mostly "offline").
Frankly, the only 'instant endings' here are those that involve dishonesty, suspicious/paranoiac, or accusatory behaviors. The rest is open for exploration and understanding, as anything other than negative or hurtful behavior should be.
My "list" is short and (experience demonstrates) uncommon, so it stands to reason I'm going to have to be patient to find what I seek.
I'm ok with that. :) | |
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| At what age do you Just Give Up?
Posted: 9/10/2009 9:10:03 PM | | sigh, for a guy if u still want kids just donate some sperm. you know ur kid's out there with who ever. | |
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| At what age do you Just Give Up?
Posted: 9/15/2009 10:30:31 PM | | R U kidding- only 30 and too tired already? Do you feel you will not have energy left at say 40 or 45. If thats the case, concentrate on finding some sports to play and get your game on. What happens if you snip it and find the girl you want, then the whole thing becomes an issue. As far as this girls point of view ... well you just made a decision that two people are suppose to make, without having even met the one. Who knows- you may even meet someone who gives you more energy then you ever dreamed you would have. A good mate will make you soar. Giving up when your 50 may be an option, seeing you dread taking care of kids in your 40's. You will see- you can have as much energy as you care to have- provided you take care of yourself. By the way, if you like kids and are old enough to have partied like an animal in your youth, raising kids when you have the correct mindset (older and wiser) may be ideal. | |
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| At what age do you Just Give Up?
Posted: 9/16/2009 1:31:03 PM |
R U kidding- only 30 and too tired already? Do you feel you will not have energy left at say 40 or 45. If thats the case, concentrate on finding some sports to play and get your game on. What happens if you snip it and find the girl you want, then the whole thing becomes an issue. As far as this girls point of view ... well you just made a decision that two people are suppose to make, without having even met the one. Who knows- you may even meet someone who gives you more energy then you ever dreamed you would have. A good mate will make you soar. Giving up when your 50 may be an option, seeing you dread taking care of kids in your 40's. You will see- you can have as much energy as you care to have- provided you take care of yourself. By the way, if you like kids and are old enough to have partied like an animal in your youth, raising kids when you have the correct mindset (older and wiser) may be ideal.
I my experience, if you have not found anyone when you were in your 20s, then you will never ever find anyone, because past 30 you too old to be of any interess to anyone, since they are already have found someone | |
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| At what age do you Just Give Up?
Posted: 9/16/2009 4:21:02 PM | OP....my advice to you....you never ever give up...things are the way they are supposed to be for reasons none of us know...but it certainly doesn't mean at this age you should give up. As far as your question do I or do I not want children...nobody can really answer that for you....In your still moments , what does your gut instinct tell you...does it feel right? If so, then go for it....Kids are a blessing no matter what age you have them at ...you never experienced the joy of a child saying I love you for no reason, seeing having them make that first birthday card for you and the look in their eyes when you see the work of art they just spent hours doing for you, watching their first hockey game or little league game, taking them to their first move, coloring and doing crafts with them., being there for their first smile, being there for the first step they take..nothing better in life then those first moments...I think we all have that inner child in us ...
Good luck | |
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| At what age do you Just Give Up?
Posted: 9/16/2009 5:42:46 PM | I gave up after 28 and two kids later. My eldest is 21 and my youngest 12. The worries never end, no matter what the age of your children.
Trust me, I don't rest from the cooking, cleaning, laundry, and everything else. | |
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| At what age do you Just Give Up?
Posted: 9/19/2009 4:08:36 PM | Why would anyone give up? Not put in as much effort but to give up, no no no...
Just keep looking....
Cherie xx | |
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| At what age do you Just Give Up?
Posted: 9/19/2009 5:04:28 PM | | never...i know people who are happy and in relationships in their 50's or 60's ...sometimes you get lucky at a older age...i am enjoying being friends with different men...it is harder...just because i am more confident and pickier,,,i am confident that god will help me with my romance | |
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| At what age do you Just Give Up?
Posted: 9/19/2009 5:05:14 PM | | i agree with you...gq sunset...you do not take too much crap...no drma, no issues...life should be simple and enjoyful | |
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| At what age do you Just Give Up?
Posted: 9/19/2009 6:29:07 PM | Thanks Calientcutie,
You don't in your heart ever give up, it's like in acting, there are no small parts only small actors.
If you don't have the skills to be make your role in a relationship believable no one will stick around to watch the show.
Over 30 you have to believe in yourself and what you have to offer, you also have to have been a better person than at 20, and realize that hope is the purpose that drives us mercilessly towards achieving our dreams but only skill will make those dreams come true! | |
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| At what age do you Just Give Up?
Posted: 9/20/2009 10:38:14 PM |
You don't in your heart ever give up
Yup and that is why I now am asking that the desire be removed from my heart. I want to accept the fact that I will always be alone but it's can be hard when the idea of it hurts so | |
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| At what age do you Just Give Up?
Posted: 9/22/2009 12:43:15 AM | | To me, giving up is not an option because by doing so I feel I'd only be accepting a self defeatist attitude. And in my own humble opinion, you can't accept to get respect from those you like or admire if you walk around with a pessimistic head all the time. If you're having trouble finding true love or the right mate then maybe it's not the people out there but the negative energy that you're generating around you. People will pick up on that real quickly too! | |
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| At what age do you Just Give Up?
Posted: 9/22/2009 3:14:00 AM | For me, it was back in the 1970's, when I gave up on starting a family. I was in my early 20's. That seemed like as good an age as any.
That was when I decided to be childfree, not to have any kids. It was a great burden lifted from my shoulders. Maybe not such a great burden, but my shoulders were small and weak at the time.
Around the same time, I had made a firm decision not to get married, either. Then, I was free of the two things that most tend to age and wear down men.
When I determined not to settle down, as they say, finding the right person became unnecessary, so that was another thing I didn't have to worry about.
All in all, leaving the rat race was the right thing to do. Marriage and family are greatly overrated. | |
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| At what age do you Just Give Up?
Posted: 9/22/2009 6:05:09 AM | | Some ppl in life are just meant to be alone, without a spouse. Where i work, i meet a surprisingly high amount of them who've never married, never had children (these are the elderly in their 70's and up). Sometimes i think that thats what my role in life is. Giving up? Eh...not necessarily giving up, just not as hopeful about it as i used to be. | |
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| At what age do you Just Give Up?
Posted: 9/22/2009 5:55:47 PM | Give up ? Give up what?
Life is fun. Life is good. Enjoy it while you still can! ....
You don't need to be married or be in a dead end realtionship to enjoy life... haha
Maybe instead of crying, whining .... you peeps need to start having some fun....
You'll never ever going to be at this age again. Stop wasting the only valueable thing in this life... TIME! | |
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| At what age do you Just Give Up?
Posted: 9/22/2009 6:41:32 PM | | I wonder how does every define giving up??? Is it if you see someone intresting you run away from them??? is it if someone asks you out you would say NO???? Do you just stop asking anyone out??? How about moving into a cave???? | |
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| At what age do you Just Give Up?
Posted: 9/23/2009 3:28:39 PM | I am 28 and I contemplate giving up sometimes. but then i think that god..or whatever you call god...has a better plan than that. and i think that waiting for a match that feels right is imperative.
i could have said yes a few times...
but it would have just led to a few divorces.
trust your instincts and your heart...
not just your eyes.
i think you can manifest wonderful things into your life. just belive it. | |
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| At what age do you Just Give Up?
Posted: 9/23/2009 10:41:34 PM | No matter where a person lives on this planet, all people possess the same attributes, aspire to better themselves and improve their standard of living. It is how attributes are harnessed to achieve a positive potential is what differentiates people.
Living life is an adventure; life is what you make of it. Work is for paying the bills; it is what you do with your life and leisure time that counts. Having a partner, regular sex and children will not make a person happy. You have to be happy within first.
People who are happy in life get involved in activities that interest them. Therefore be adventurous and try something new. People who are happy in relationships form a bonding which is not sexually driven. The quality of sex enriching their lives becomes not the relationship but an expression of the relationship. There is a big difference and it shows in their facial expressions and social conduct. | |
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