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| Should I Be Able to Accept My Husband Smoking Pot?
Posted: 11/3/2009 11:48:49 AM |
I would much rather be single, than to be with a pot head. I'd have to agree with this comment.
A lot of people may have occassionally smoked pot at some point in their life. And most of these people outgrow it. But, someone my age who still smokes pot is someone who's let it become a central part of their life. 30something, and 40 something potheads that I've known are usually people who spend too much of their day stoned, to the point where it interferes with all other aspects of their life. Which certainly isn't someone who I'd desire a relationship with.
I'd rather remain single and keep waiting for someone who I'd enjoy having a relationship with. Rather than settle for some burn-out who's pot habit is going to annoy me. | |
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| Should I Be Able to Accept My Husband Smoking Pot?
Posted: 11/3/2009 3:46:59 PM | Hi l4m1l,
I hope you won't take this badly but I feel the need to speak up.
Pot is not healthy, but relax, it isn't the devil you make it. It's no worse than booze or cigarettes. Eating McDonald's 4 times a week is as bad for your health (really bad - cholesterol , diabetes, heart problems, obesity... ). Coca-Cola is bad, but that is treated like food and is given to children, daily. Sitting on one's fat ass all day and staring at a computer screen is pretty unhealthy.
There is so much crap out there about pot, most of it lies. Weed does not make people aggressive, alcohol does. Weed does not damage your liver, booze destroys it. Weed is not good for your lungs, but cigarettes are just as bad... and remember that people smoke way more cigs than they do pot (because they can). And yet cigs and booze are respectable.
By the way, there is a reason people smoke pot: it feels good! It helps them relax (as does alcohol). It is pretty close-minded to condemn it without even having tried it. It wouldn't kill you to know what you are talking about.
Now since when does cherishing someone have anything to do with smoking pot? There is no connection there. Your mate can cherish you and like pot. Did you not make a vow to cherish and love him? Did your wedding vow include an exception for pot smoking? If it didn't, you are as guilty of rejecting him as he may be of displeasing you. The art of compromise is more demanding than pointing out your mate's weak points.
Pot is, like many other things, a dependence. Your husband is just being who he is. He doesn't smoke pot to spite you and you shouldn't make such a case of it. To be frank, if my mate told me she was considering leaving me because I smoked weed, I would hold the door. You married the man - you didn't become his owner.
Lastly, you seem to think morals and pot are linked. This makes no sense. By your appraisal, would a person addicted to coffee be immoral? How about someone addicted to the illusion of being better than others? How about people who promise to love, cherish and obey and six months later add conditions? How many times have you driven by a homeless person and not offered help? If you want to be moral, go all the way.
I recommend you separate. If your feelings for each other are so shallow, you shouldn't be together.
Good luck and relax, it'll be a breath of fresh air!
Peace. | |
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| Should I Be Able to Accept My Husband Smoking Pot?
Posted: 11/3/2009 5:58:06 PM | | you guys must be young, stop the pot ,stick to your morals and send him away if he can't grow up, how about this , if you love me unconditionaly you will let me screw arond, make sense to you | |
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| Should I Be Able to Accept My Husband Smoking Pot?
Posted: 11/3/2009 7:05:47 PM | | If you cant accept him due to pot smoking all you can do is give him an ultimatum, either stop smoking pot or you will seek a seperation followed with a divorce. If he wants the relationship to succeed he will stop. I would assume that includes you not drinking alchohol also, remember he can say the same thing with any stimulant you may do in the future. I occasionaly partake in a little hooch, and know it is better and safer than drinking. But were not discussing me its your SO | |
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| Should I Be Able to Accept My Husband Smoking Pot?
Posted: 11/3/2009 8:07:53 PM | a) You will never meet a violent pot smoker
b) Pot should be legal (in my opinion)
c) The same people complaining about pot are regularly drunk
d) He is a communicating man.....
e) He is being upfront and honest
f) There is more here than meets the eye............................. | |
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| Should I Be Able to Accept My Husband Smoking Pot?
Posted: 11/3/2009 10:58:43 PM | If you don't like it......Tell him. If, he doesn't change his ways......
You need to make up your mind what is more important........
His smoking pot or you having him in your life????
You either have to accept or risk losing him forever.
Soulmates can't be found everyday. Trust me... | |
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| Should I Be Able to Accept My Husband Smoking Pot?
Posted: 11/11/2009 5:23:27 AM | America doesn't need more wastoids and zoneouts now or in the future.
we are at a crossroads in our history. America needs bright clear thinking individuals in our society, not laid back stoned out freaks doing illegal and unproductive drugs.
those that smoke marijuana and all other illegal drugs contribute to the downfall and moral ethical erosion of our great nation. we need people to pull themselves up by their bootstraps and make our country stronger sans dope. | |
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| Should I Be Able to Accept My Husband Smoking Pot?
Posted: 11/11/2009 1:34:17 PM | TOMic,
Good to see you my friend. Not surprised either, as we both seem to be pretty passionate about this issue.
America doesn't need more wastoids and zoneouts now or in the future.
we are at a crossroads in our history. America needs bright clear thinking individuals in our society, not laid back stoned out freaks doing illegal and unproductive drugs.
those that smoke marijuana and all other illegal drugs contribute to the downfall and moral ethical erosion of our great nation. we need people to pull themselves up by their bootstraps and make our country stronger sans dope.
Gonna be pretty hard for our society to "pull itself up by the boot straps" when we're all busy getting treated for the skin cancer caused by tanning salon owners such as yourself.
Speaking of which...those hours people are spending in your tanning beds cancer-frying themselves...are those folks engaging in productive acts, country-strengthening acts?
Know that I'm not trying to convince you, been done that road before and it is like arguing with a tree. Just trying to point out that everyone has their peculiarities and it is just a question of which of those peculiarities you are willing to work with. Personally, I don't think I would take anyone who frequents a tanning salon regularly seriously. I mean, the evidence is crystal clear that this is one of the MOST unhealthy things you could ever do to your body and would seem to me that someone is more interested in vanity than health. I'm pretty sure that isn't a dealbreaker for you but it is for me(like pot is not a dealbreaker for me, like it is for you. In fact, I'd much rather my loved ones smoke an occasional bong than sign up at a tanning salon...much less dangerous and destructive.
OP:
Others have said it better than I can, pot is not the issue here, just a red herring for the deeper respect and compatibility issues you two have going on. | |
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| Should I Be Able to Accept My Husband Smoking Pot?
Posted: 11/11/2009 2:24:22 PM | | to answer the question for the OP no drugs or even a ciggy for me is a straight red there is zero compromise, but curious how a this conversation went from dope to sunbeds.............. no put your foot down and say no or divorce his ass | |
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| Should I Be Able to Accept My Husband Smoking Pot?
Posted: 11/11/2009 2:35:09 PM | It sounds to me that he is wanting out of this relationship but is too chicken shit to stand up and just leave...the pot simply sounds like his lousy excuse cause he knows how you feel about it.
The most healthy thing you could do for yourself is to remove yourself from this situation. Give him back his stuff and tell him to leave. You might hurt a little while but you actually have to take control of this situation and free yourself to find what YOU want… which is a beautiful, happy and healthy drug free relationship with a man who appreciates YOU..
But first you must appreciate yourself. | |
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| Should I Be Able to Accept My Husband Smoking Pot?
Posted: 11/11/2009 2:48:28 PM | don't EVER go out in the sun mr. dope smoker.
one ray of sunlight on you and phffffff you got cancer. you get destroyed sort of like a vampire, only slower. according to you, everyone living out in the sun will get cancer.
you are a joke.
i spent 30 yrs in a steel mill paying taxes. i spent 15 yrs as a landlord owning luxury apartment buildings and paying taxes. i have a painting company that pays taxes. my tanning salon pays taxes. i have participated in political events of all sorts from trustee meetings to attending governor's races to shaking hands with major presidential candidates at rallies. i vote at every election. i go on the radio talk shows and espouse my beliefs.
and you mr, dope smoker have the gall to question me and try to make light of a legitimate business?
some odious turds need to be flushed out of sight. people like you weaken our country. we have too many wasted zoned out mindless zombies walking around bottom feeding off our economy. you are like a lead weight around a drowning man.
you mr. dope smoker are a joke. without a punchline. you sicken me and most other right thinking Americans. | |
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| Should I Be Able to Accept My Husband Smoking Pot?
Posted: 11/11/2009 3:02:26 PM | It sounds like he is putting his drug habit above his relationship w/ you.
I would find that intolerable. I hate pot smoking too. I can't relate to someone who smokes pot.
You might grow resentful if you give in to allow him this habit.
If he wants to leave you over it, maybe he's not such a keeper.
So you can get married a third time. How can you be a soul mate to someone who really isn't there?
Hope it works out whatever you decide. | |
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| Should I Be Able to Accept My Husband Smoking Pot?
Posted: 11/11/2009 3:11:09 PM | TOMIC
[and you mr, dope smoker have the gall to question me and try to make light of a legitimate business?
Lighten up man ~ !!!!! Seriously lighten up .... errr what is that bran of teeth whitener do you use ... hahaha | |
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| Should I Be Able to Accept My Husband Smoking Pot?
Posted: 11/11/2009 3:17:10 PM | TOMic,
I don't get the vicious response. I wasn't trying to attack you personally, just trying to point out that everyone has things they do that are clearly unhealthy, unproductive, and to some extent wasteful. That could be smoking pot or tanning or any other number of things.
I'm not saying you're a bad person because you enable and encourage people to give themselves cancer...necessarily (See, isn't hyperbole fun?)
And that laundry list of things you've done...good for you! I, too pay taxes, am fully employed, well educated, have traveled the world, volunteer, am politically active, have served my country...Do we get awards or something now? Is this show and tell? I believe you're a perfectly wonderful (although maybe over-reactive) person. Really, I do. No need for a resume. | |
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| Should I Be Able to Accept My Husband Smoking Pot?
Posted: 11/11/2009 6:28:40 PM | Don’t only accept it, join in! And he didn’t choose pot over you. Part of what he is came back into his life for his own reasons. They have nothing to do with you. Understand them or move on. But if you stay, do it at your own risk. He will resent you for not accepting him.
Yah, yah,… I know. | |
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| Should I Be Able to Accept My Husband Smoking Pot?
Posted: 11/11/2009 6:50:44 PM |
if there's nothing wrong with it then i assume you want your baby, your children, your teenagers and your surgeon smoking it while he's doing open heart surgery on you.
Fool.
I'm never going to have a baby, or children...and where is he point where she said he was a surgeon? Don't call me a fool, as I highly doubt he's doing open heart surgury while baked. | |
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| Should I Be Able to Accept My Husband Smoking Pot?
Posted: 11/11/2009 6:57:44 PM |
some odious turds need to be flushed out of sight. people like you weaken our country. we have too many wasted zoned out mindless zombies walking around bottom feeding off our economy. you are like a lead weight around a drowning man.
you mr. dope smoker are a joke. without a punchline. you sicken me and most other right thinking Americans.
You watch too much fox news there buddy. You're just the type that runs around scared of things you don't understand or comprehend.
http://djembe1664.free.fr/DjembeMag/marijuana_propaganda_poster1.jpg
And quit acting like natural plants make people go silly. Marijuana is a tool, just like any other. You can hurt yourself with it if you misuse it, just like you can hit yourself in the****with a hammer if you run out of nails. | |
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| Should I Be Able to Accept My Husband Smoking Pot?
Posted: 11/12/2009 6:06:47 AM | this area just had a murder with 2 others injured in gunfire over a marijuana buy near Youngstown.
try to tell anyone or the neighbors involved in that or any other lowlife type of drug transaction that i should lighten up. tell the innocent bystander's family and friends that it's no big deal.
you can lose your job, your children and your life over dope, marijuana included.
wise up. you could be the next victim. then it will be up to your loved ones to bury you.
i'm on to other issues. | |
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| Should I Be Able to Accept My Husband Smoking Pot?
Posted: 11/12/2009 2:28:53 PM | another thread about the evil weed.
Ok...to the O.P. while I do not agree with your views on Pot, I can understand that if your hubby gave it up to be married to you, it is unfair of him to expect you to just accept it.
Except that those marriage vows tend to go something like 'for better or worse etc..." which means that while you may feel you have and are entitled to the moral high ground here, you're breaking your vows the same as he is by saying that you will not accept him for better or worse...only the way you want him. Again, I see where you're coming from if you're one of those "pot is the devil" types, but you're no more ritcheous here than he is.
He doesn't need "help" as Pot is NOT a drug in even the sense that sugar or caffeine are drugs..., is NOT physically addictive and aside from making you hungry, horny and then sleepy, is really quite enjoyable and harmless.
So...my advice is first and foremost, go learn about pot. Learn about why most of the western world has decriminalized it, even embraced it for it's many benefits, and most importantly, why the DEA (lobbied by corporations with vested interests in lumber and paper) and certain right wing types have been at war with a simple, non processed, otherwise non harmful plant than millions use every day with little to no ill effects.
I don't know if you're a drinker of alcohol, but the poster of message 128 is correct in his suggestion that pot is far FAR less harmful than many things you currently have in your kitchen cupboards...like sugar...or worse...artificial sweetners...McDonalds etc...
Whether you smoke it or not, it's time people made INFORMED decisions on what they pontificate about. The propaganda machine needs to be stopped unless you prefer being treated like cattle... | |
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