| | Article On Mature Ladies and Dating.Page 3 of 14 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14) | Tryagan:
And when their cats get mature, they will start looking at younger studs.
LOL. My cat is only a year old! What happens if I start looking for young studs now? | |
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Posted: 9/13/2009 5:50:06 PM | Goes to show you cannot believe everything you read... Regardless of the article the fact is that age 40+ women are mature, that is what makes us okay and capable of being on our own. However, ultimately if the right and perfect person was to enter our lives, we would probably be content and happy. In fact we are probably at our best and can give so much in a relationship as we are not exhausted with demands such as young children and trying to build our careers. We are much happier in ourselves and have enough self esteem to be able to handle situations without drama and conflict. Unfortunately some men our own age have categorized us into a false image, maybe how their ex's were, thinking we are all bitter and jaded... We are not... We just happen to be single....  | |
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Posted: 9/13/2009 7:26:53 PM | If you read the fine print in researches.......they normally consist of only a few thousand individuals. Most research is a farce considering how many humans there really are in the world........ | |
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Posted: 9/13/2009 8:51:33 PM | adventurousme57 - Msg 51
Tryagan:
And when their cats get mature, they will start looking at younger studs.
LOL. My cat is only a year old! What happens if I start looking for young studs now?
If you only start looking, not too much will happen. You have to show them that you are really serious. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2009 9:02:56 PM | I would be one of those "mature" ladies. I have no interest in getting remarried. I divorced 29 years ago, have been single ever since, and love having my freedom and independence. My cat died, but for the past 12-1/2 years I'd had my rottweiler as my constant companion.
I can't think of a single reason why I would want to marry at all. I'm happy with life.
While I enjoy the company of men, I can't imagine how I would benefit from marriage and what a man could bring to the table to make it worth me giving up the life I have.
I haven't read all the posts, but maybe a few comment on why we mature women should consider marriage and for what benefits. I can't think of any. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2009 9:33:56 PM | bellelaurel - Msg 56
I would be one of those "mature" ladies. I have no interest in getting remarried. I divorced 29 years ago, have been single ever since, and love having my freedom and independence. My cat died, but for the past 12-1/2 years I'd had my rottweiler as my constant companion.
I can't think of a single reason why I would want to marry at all. I'm happy with life.
While I enjoy the company of men, I can't imagine how I would benefit from marriage and what a man could bring to the table to make it worth me giving up the life I have.
1. I don't think any man can measure up to your rottweiler.
2. In what way do you enjoy company of men?
3. In your case, the only thing a dream man could bring to the table, would be a big chew bone for your companion. | |
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Posted: 9/14/2009 8:09:06 AM | | Now I'm confused. If this were true, what are all of these women doing on POF? I am pretty sure they are looking for company. | |
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Posted: 9/14/2009 8:53:55 AM | | Some are here for the company they found in each other, being companions in not looking for men. That's what they say. "I'm here just for the forums." Why it's done at a dating site, well, that is because that although they aren't looking for men, being someplace where men are looking is a good way to talk about not being here to look for men. If they were at a site for women to talk about not looking for men but that men did not come looking for them, explaining to each other why they aren't looking for men wouldn't have a context. | |
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Posted: 9/14/2009 8:58:22 AM | Let me add, obviously I'm here on this site to find dates! And I have no complaints personally; everyone I've met has been very nice, intelligent and fun to talk to, so my compliments to the men on here; just haven't found the perfect match yet, but overall I'm having a great experience on this site.
However, what you said, Ismene (quote below) definitely applies to some other women I know.
I don't think these women are "happy" to remain single. I think they have compromised because they feel they would rather remain single and be a whole, free person rather than give their life to someone who doesn't appreciate and value them. | |
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Posted: 9/14/2009 1:33:02 PM | | It is probably a question of priorities. Many women 40 and up have children to raise and educate for another x years and need to work for enough income to sustain them and their chidren. Those are admirable priorities and consume most of their time and energy. Others want to date and make it a priority, hopefully to meet another man to marry. Whether to date or not is just another choice we make in life at whatever stage we find ourselves. I think most folks of either gender prefer to be one half of a couple but many times other things take precedence. | |
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Posted: 9/14/2009 1:43:01 PM | Taking this with a pinch of salt because most men my age are so sorted with their under ten year old children, and paying money to the ex or bragging about giving her the house the car and whatever else they can put into an e-mail to me, WTF. Do I care what they did with any other woman or her kids
Does this make me angry at the e-mails, "NO" it does not - Do they want sympathy or a round of applause, I dont know but telling me they are finacially tied to another woman or life is not attactive at the early stages of meeting up AND far from being enticing as per a potential date.
So at my age: mature, yes, sorted in life, yes, I would love to meet prince charming, who sweeps me off my feet and makes the story book ending to both our lives but honestly too many men got too many problems which I find sad and to be honest cant be bothered to listen to, let alone allow them to end up in my life.
Happy to stay single - but will to give prince charming a run for his money  | |
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Posted: 9/14/2009 1:45:17 PM | | The men you described got run ragged for their money just that way. I think the word is out now, and Princesses are in somewhat less demand. | |
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Posted: 9/14/2009 2:08:55 PM | While getting married again is not on my agenda, I am still interested in dating, romance, and all that it entails. Short of marriage or live-in. I have seen, by reading the forums on dating sites, that some women seem to be happier with their dogs than they would be with a man.
That is beyond my comprehension.
I don't look for younger men. They just seem to come my way. So, where are the mature men (very mature in my case)? A lot of us mature women are looking for them.
Come out! Come out! Wherever you are. | |
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Posted: 9/14/2009 2:11:51 PM |
I think the word is out now, and Princesses are in somewhat less demand.
Oh no! Whatever am I going to do now? Is it too late for me to start over with a new occupation?
OT: I like to think of myself as a mature lady who is looking for mature people to have new mature friendships with. Of course, if I were to take it into the realm of dating, I would have to confine the "mature people" to a "mature man" - I'm just not into dating a "mature lady" or any female for that matter. | |
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Posted: 9/14/2009 2:20:02 PM | Well .... I am no lady (just checked to be sure) and ......
After over 40 years being attached to a female ...... yeah I can understand their - lack of need.
Someone recently told me "you need to get a life".
In the vein of the conversation - that meant "get a female in your life" .......... WHAT?
I had a female in my life for over 40 years. I have GOBS of experience at having a female in my life.
What people mean by "get a life" ........ amazes me.
I HAVE A LIFE lol.
If I don't have a life now ......... what the heck was it all those married years?
I think people telling others to "get a life" needs to get their own life  | |
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sk1960
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Posted: 9/14/2009 5:18:58 PM | I have heard friends say to me - you need to find someone so you're not alone. I'm not alone, unless I want to be! I have my kids, my grandchild, my friends, my job, my volunteer committments, my curling (in the winter), my camping in the summer, my travelling in the winter .....
Now my friends - yes, I would like to find a companion, a friend, a lover ... someone to fight with  and someone to make up with  ...... someone to share a beautiful sunrise or sunset with .... just for a moment or two or maybe more.
But I haven't been lucky enough to find someone to walk with me for more than a short journey (other than my first marriage which was far too long a trip now that I think about it) .... but that won't stop me .. not just yet ... I'm still looking, and hoping ... | |
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Posted: 9/14/2009 6:26:23 PM |
Now I'm confused. If this were true, what are all of these women doing on POF? I am pretty sure they are looking for company.
Same with me.. I agree..
and I'm hoping they find ME..!!!
Is about all I can say about this thread..!!
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Posted: 9/14/2009 7:32:44 PM | On one of the forum topics is "Why do Older Fit Men prefer 25 year olds?" I am an older mature lady that is fed up with the men today. I would love a LTR but all I am getting are men only interested in SEX (which is OK) but I want the whole package and being told I am Loved by someone who actually means it. I am tired of the PLAYERS out there, bored to death.
With some of the older men they are only interested in younger women. OR the men are couch potatos glued to the TV week in and week out. I have other interests and plan on continueing to stay active, life is too short. I am content to be on my own but if ever I do meet that special someone that turns my head, I am all for it as long as he is decent and respect others, which a lot of men today lack. | |
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Posted: 9/14/2009 7:48:33 PM | | To add to another question, Why am I on POF? I did have hope to meet a decent, loving man for a LTR but have been let down to all the so call "MEN" that have very little respect for the opposite sex and then they wonder why women are the way they are. I WONDER? I continue to be on POF for the forums and enjoy expressing my point of views. Maybe one day men might wake up instead of acting like total fools thinking women are only good for sex or household chores. I know a lot of single women and we all have the same point of view about men. We are tired of being used and not getting anything in return but disappointment. Does that answer your question? Single again and loving it this time around. | |
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Posted: 9/14/2009 8:05:56 PM | Maybe one day men might wake up instead of acting like total fools thinking women are only good for sex or household chores.
First wife.. teacher (6th grad)
second wife.. Reg Nurse (high risk neo-natoligist)
third wife.. Owned 7 (in 6 states) LARGE (well known) retail men's clothing stores)
(BA in Buss.)
fourth wife.. Manufactured childrens clothing (U.S.A.Kids) Buss grad student
Fifth wife..corporate owner 7 Medicl clinics Col Grad..
Most my old girl friends all AS, or MORE "capable" then me..
my COMMANDING officer was a female..
My youngest daughter is a corporal in San Bernadino Sherriff dept..
the other three daughters are a pediatrician, ceo at chrysler corp, and lawyer in Az.
I do NOT feel that quote applie to ME..
I judge women as I do MEN..
by their charecter, abilities, and past.... IN THAT ORDER..
thank-you..
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Posted: 9/14/2009 10:53:55 PM |
I read an article recently which after some research suggested that most women in the 40+ age range who were no longer married were on the whole most likely to be happy to remain single in future rather than seek another partner.
I think that what happens is that grown up women don't have to settle for the first man who comes along to take care of her. She is self-reliant, self-aware and now an informed consumer. That doesn't mean she opposed to marriage, but realizes that real love exists outside of that union between two committed people and there are other ways to live and enjoy life. She does not have a sense of urgency she may have once had. The biological clock (child bearing years) have passed and that natural urge to create a family doesn't exist for her any longer.
Growing up, the Cinderella story was the only one we were told. When we grow up, we realize that there is more than one way to tell that story and Prince Charming is a loser.
Personally, I hope to find love. If marriage is an important step for the man I love, I'm open to it, but don't have to have it or even necessarily desire it to be fulfilled in the relationship. | |
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