| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 1:43:10 PM | Let me start by saying you are a beautiful young woman. You might be in love with this guy, I don't know. But I can guarantee you, this isn't your future husband.
He told you right off that he hasn't played the field enough. He's enjoying the time he has with you but eventually he will move on. Someday you will be glad he moved on too....trust me on this.
Who you are today you will NOT be in 8-10 more years. You will change and so will what you want in a man. The stronger you feel for him, the less you will believe me right now.
Think about it this way...nearly every woman close to my age (mid-40's) will tell you pretty much what I just told you. What are the odds that we are ALL wrong? | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 1:48:47 PM | While I disagree with the statement that most men will cheat, maybe he's just in the the proper headspace for a serious relationship. Plus, you two are both young, how serious do you want things to be? Myself, I think I was 28 when I met me ex-wife. I was dating people at the time, and had enough. I thought she was the one, and I wanted to get married. For the record, I never did cheat on her. Why would I ever get married, if I ever thought I was going to cheat. I was dating, and could have continued to date, but no. I was ready to be with that one person for the rest of my life, and hold her above all others.
I guess he just doesn't feel the same way. I say take it for what it is, don't invest too much in the relationship, and let life happen. What will be will be, tell him though, to have the decency to let you know if he wants to stray, so you two can end it. That way he at least respects you enough to do that, rather than run around behind your back. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 1:54:21 PM | My ex stated that early in our relationship.Well determind as iIwas ,I was out to show him he needed no other women but me.I got creative .I got costumes, toys,make up, candles lotions, crazy places, crazy positions.I even checked out pornos for information and ideas while he was at work.It was like I had many personalities.I blew his mind. I wore him out.(I took naps in daytime when he was working.)I lost weight. He made up tickets with suguestions(virgin, farmers daughter,prison guard,pow,race car driver,drunken bum) Id have to draw 3 from the red heart box every night.
My ex was a sex addict (a true addict )He was in counceling for it .It got to the point he was abusive.I didnt mind pleasring him at first then he got too demanding then it took a turn towards dangerous.Of course yours is not like mine was.I was with him 8 years . Hes still bragging to his friends I was the best he ever had.
However if its a good relationship , get spicey. It can be fun for the both of you.Above all talk it out with each other not friends or forums. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 2:15:33 PM |
If he is an honorable man, he won't cheat no matter what. In any case, being happy with what you do have is usually good motivation to keep it.
Agreed.
He isn't totally and 100% happy with you. I feel he is in mid-transient.
He will always have that curiousity and when sex-life becomes blanc mange over time the desire for different women becomes more irresistable for him.
Most likely he will act on it. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 2:49:49 PM | Taliz88, ok get off the computer and run to your closet or your parents closet and grab your dads biggest and grubbiest boots, put them on.
And kick your boyfriend's ass to the curb and do it from the living room, if his ass hits the door on the way out so be it.
Your boyfriend is a loser and I dont care if you think he's not going to cheat , which he will and he's going to give you a friend that keeps on giving
I cant believe someone is sooooo naive to think he's not going to cheat ??? good luck by the way Tinkerbell has her waterfront condo up for sale in Xanadu its right next to Elvis. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 3:36:29 PM | | OP, i have a question about your profile. you say not to message you if you are older than 26. yet your preferences state you are looking for a man from ages 21-30 so this doesn't make any sense. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 3:45:09 PM | Taliz, I'm in a very similar situation with your boyfriend so I have a sort of better idea where he's coming from. Let me ask you one question. Which of the two following situations would you prefer:
(a) he's with you because you happened to be at the right place in the right time when he was fishing.
(b) he goes with X other women and eventually chooses to be with you. He has many options but you're his first.
Please take a few minutes to think about it, don't just answer with your "gut feeling". | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 4:13:42 PM | Hun, Your 21. Your relationship dynamic is JUST begining, its in its infancy. You may not know this, but you probebly havent been around the world enough yourself yet.
As another poster mentioned... if I was 26 with a girl who was 21, I wouldnt be looking , I would consider myself blessed and act occoridngly.
You dont want that uncertainy in your life... your never going to ever feel deep security with him. Evertime he's late coming home, that question is going to cross your mind. And this is a powerful concern, you wont just ignore it out forget he said it. And I do suspect, if he can say, he can mean it maybe later in the relationship act on it behind your back. Invest your love and time in someone who is smitten with you, not just another stop on his score card.
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 6:14:42 PM | I just have to chime in here........
I'll ignore that OP has a dating profile.........
Taliz88 if you truly are in a relationship and he truly respects you and wants to be with only you.......he will not feel that he needs to have sex with other women.....period. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 6:26:49 PM | If it's constantly on your mind, then he will eventually cheat. I don't know why, but it works like magic. Probably because when you think about it you start taking preventive measures (be it seducing him with sex, showing more affection and care, or sneaking into his e-mail) and that eventually destroys the relationship.
If you feel he is thinking it, he probably is. There is only one cure - shift more of your love and attention to yourself. Be available to him, but not overly available. When he gets to do a little more in terms of earning your love he'll get this silly idea out of his mind. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 6:41:03 PM |
Hi, well i asked him again that question recently and he said he still does but he will "ignore" them because he wants to be in the relationship with me. Dont get me wrong he is a good guy and i know he loves me.. but he just has these desires to experiance more women.
Should i get out?
If he loves you he wouldn't express his desires to sleep with other women. His comments show a distinct lack of respect for you and your feelings. Dump the shallow tw*t and find someone worthy of your time, beauty and energy. Best of luck der! | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 7:17:38 PM |
.........at the start of our relationship he said he felt like he hadnt slept with enough women........
Right then and there, I would have wished him well and sent him on his merry way.
But failing that, if he keeps talking and thinking as such, I would just walk out the door and leave it at that. Especially if you KNOW in your gut he is going to cheat. Save your self the heartache and hurt. - Because trust me, being cheated on is a hurt like no other. Been there and done that and ain't going down that road again. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 7:37:23 PM | | One good partner is all you need, just learn skills to spice up the sex. Having sex with multiple partners don't guaranteee satisfaction. In your partners case he just want to have sex with other women. If I were you I would let him and you go on ya merry way and have fun too. Don't allow mind games hold you back. You are both young. ...go go have fun. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 7:42:09 PM | | If I was dating someone and they had said that to me I would drop them faster than a hot rock. In this day and age you can't be too careful. Hard telling what kind of diseases could be going around. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 7:43:41 PM | | not to be a jerk off, but if he said that he probably has'nt slept with enough females, with some there could be a quota that i don't know about, or something off the wall like that. or the guy could have just been joking, what it comes down to in the end is what will you do? it's your call and it sounds like your trust has went down the drain alittle. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 8:02:23 PM | I'm sure this may sound cold, but there is something to be said for life experiences. Let's say you were the only girl he had ever slept or had a relationship with, then you would be both the best and the worst.
The more he/she has to compare you with, the more confident he/she is in the decision. The dilemma he faces is if he lets go for the sake of "experiencing more women", he may find he had the right one to start with. And risks losing you in the process. Something for him to think about if he hasn't already done so.
Right now I don't see where he has commited any crime other than thinking about it out loud and sharing it with you. It wouldn't really be right to kick him to the curb based the chance that he might cheat any more than any of us should be kicked to the curb for fantasizing sex with some movie star. We thought it we didn't do it.
Now see what you've done Angelina Jolie? You've ruined so many relationships. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 8:14:13 PM | | That is going to have to be totally up to you and what you think you can deal with. If he is still thinking that he has not slept with enough women then yes he will likely at sometime in you relationship cheat regardless of how nice he is because he’s not ready to settle down yet. So if finding out that he has been with another woman would be a relationship ender, then maybe you should start looking for someone who is more where your at in wanting a relationship with just you. | |
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