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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 7:37:23 PM | | One good partner is all you need, just learn skills to spice up the sex. Having sex with multiple partners don't guaranteee satisfaction. In your partners case he just want to have sex with other women. If I were you I would let him and you go on ya merry way and have fun too. Don't allow mind games hold you back. You are both young. ...go go have fun. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 7:42:09 PM | | If I was dating someone and they had said that to me I would drop them faster than a hot rock. In this day and age you can't be too careful. Hard telling what kind of diseases could be going around. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 7:43:41 PM | | not to be a jerk off, but if he said that he probably has'nt slept with enough females, with some there could be a quota that i don't know about, or something off the wall like that. or the guy could have just been joking, what it comes down to in the end is what will you do? it's your call and it sounds like your trust has went down the drain alittle. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 8:02:23 PM | I'm sure this may sound cold, but there is something to be said for life experiences. Let's say you were the only girl he had ever slept or had a relationship with, then you would be both the best and the worst.
The more he/she has to compare you with, the more confident he/she is in the decision. The dilemma he faces is if he lets go for the sake of "experiencing more women", he may find he had the right one to start with. And risks losing you in the process. Something for him to think about if he hasn't already done so.
Right now I don't see where he has commited any crime other than thinking about it out loud and sharing it with you. It wouldn't really be right to kick him to the curb based the chance that he might cheat any more than any of us should be kicked to the curb for fantasizing sex with some movie star. We thought it we didn't do it.
Now see what you've done Angelina Jolie? You've ruined so many relationships. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 8:14:13 PM | | That is going to have to be totally up to you and what you think you can deal with. If he is still thinking that he has not slept with enough women then yes he will likely at sometime in you relationship cheat regardless of how nice he is because he’s not ready to settle down yet. So if finding out that he has been with another woman would be a relationship ender, then maybe you should start looking for someone who is more where your at in wanting a relationship with just you. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 8:44:05 PM | he is 26 and you are 21... hmmm... apparently you dont feel you have also had enough experiences either... after all you have a profile on here.
and he's only 26, he is still trying to find himself, so that might be a normal thing or perhaps he never really had the chance to date that many women...
does he remind you of this "quest" of unsown oats? or has he gotten over it? | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/12/2009 4:08:41 AM | he was honest with you about his thoughts on the matter, yet his behavior demonstrates that he is perfectly willing to stay exclusive with you. what exactly is the problem?... because i don't understand how one logically arrives at cheating behavior from making open & honest expressions of thought. please explain.
"you feel like he still thinks about it alot".... in other words, you've been obsessing about this statement of his for months. isn't that right? it grows in your mind like a parasite, and therefore the only conclusion you can reach is that his cheating is all but a foregone conclusion.
put down the psychic hand grenade and just tell him that you want him to continue to be honest & forthright with you, should things ever get the point where he believes he really needs to start spreading the wealth, so that you can get on your life without any unnecessary complications. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/12/2009 4:13:32 AM | Taliz88m
i think this is a lot for you to have playing on your head for so long.
remember, actions speak louder than words and only you and your bf know where things are at in your relationship.
if you can't handle it, maybe you need to find someone that you feel better with either way it goes.
scarry thought to keep going with someone feeling this way and keeping it all bottled up inside of yourself. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/12/2009 4:44:47 AM |
i didnt state all men cheat i said this could lead to cheating. Is there a way to fix this problem?
Well, my cat was going after all kitties in our neighborhood... one visit to the vet took care of that... snip, snip 
Now, I am hoping that you don't plan to get your boyfriend neutered...
I have spoken to my Boyfriend about this but he is adamant that he will ignore these feelings because he wants to be with me. Now i dont think he will cheat but at the same time i dont want to find out a few months from now he can no longer ignore those feelings especially when iv put in so much into this relationship.
At this point the only crime he committed is the "crime of thought"... (don't tell me you never wondered what would it be like if you were to jump that cute neighbor?) Real players don't talk about that stuff... they play the field while talking about how much they love you (see the movie "I love you to death" - very funny)
*shrugs*
Besides, who knows what will happen in few months?
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/12/2009 7:05:03 AM | no disrespect my friend, and I cant say what my reply to his statement would have been a year ago, but I can say what my reply would be if a man had said this to me now, bye, girl we find ourself allowing someone to treat us bad, we know it not right, and yet we go deeper and deeper, yes he will cheat! he already has cheated! ok, listen again to the words, he is saying to his woman, which is you, I HAVEN'T SLEP WITH ENOUGH WOMEN YET, ok, now wisdom is : insight, good sence, judging one course of action and words wisely. get out girl, too much stuff going around, you in fighting a loosing battle, one thing for sure you spoke well when you said...... my ......BOYFRIEND, GET IT, boy | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/12/2009 8:33:31 AM |
I'll ignore that OP has a dating profile......... I won't. The OP is "skirting" this issue; pun intended  she might think what's not good for her goose is good for her gender (again pun intended). It's easy to modify a PoF profile to indicate that you aren't looking for new partners. The OP hasn't done this; so why should she really care if her partner hasn't slept with enough women yet? | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/12/2009 8:41:54 AM | | OP, the lesson learned here is: Make a fake throwaway profile before posting on the forums if you want people to stick to your actual topic instead of prying into your profile and judging you for it like the little nosy self-righteous ba5tards they are | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/12/2009 8:53:23 AM |
OP, the lesson learned here is: Make a fake throwaway profile before posting on the forums if you want people to stick to your actual topic instead of prying into your profile and judging you for it like the little nosy self-righteous ba5tards they are I dunno about this sentiment; I initially thought the OP's dude should not feel like seeing other women; but given that the OP has an active dating profile, why should he overcommit himself to this relationship??
Oh, how could one expect to receive valid advice in these forums if one's practice deception in their profile? The advice you'll receive will be flawed. To think otherwise is being foolhardy. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/12/2009 9:22:04 AM | | As with most of the messages here I can't really comment on the problem, although it would be nice to feel like part of the online community (and mainstream society in general). I haven't slept with anyone so what do I know? | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/13/2009 10:55:36 AM | I would want to know
1) How not sleeping with "enough" woman bodes for your relationship.
2) What he believes is to be gained by sleeping with "enough" women.
On second thought, I'd have to rethink the relationship purely on the
basis of his remark. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/13/2009 11:06:00 AM | | you're 21 chances he's not going to be yours the rest of your life are pretty good....don't worry about it and just enjoy the moment...thats what being young is about....stop worrying about the future, you have your whole life ahead of you | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/13/2009 12:21:00 PM | | If he is around the same age as you then he had barely begun his dating life. Don't plan on forever at your age, if he is already expressing feelings of relationship confinement he is going to leave eventually. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/13/2009 12:29:47 PM | Personally I think its just a matter of time before he sinks his shaft into another girls honeypot. The only question is when.
If your a smart woman, you'll leave him..like right now. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/13/2009 12:57:16 PM | Taliz, I agree with what most have said already: you should get out of the relationship. Good guy or not, he has expressed a desire to have sex with more women. You're young. you have options, and you have your whole life ahead of you. What advice would you give to a friend were she to tell you that her guy wanted to sleep around to gain more experience?
I know it isn't easy to walk away... but you should. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/13/2009 1:04:55 PM | you know... i think ive slept with enough women! im not going to go into numbers but my interest in 'putting it about' has most definitely gone.
to the OP, like the others said - get out before you get hurt.. it sounds to me like commitment isnt on this guys mind yet so he is fairly likely to wander at some point. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/13/2009 1:36:35 PM | | i was in a 3 year relationship with a girl, im 23, my first and only real thing, she was my first and only. i understand how you and he feel as we have been in the same situation. my gf asked me many times if i wanted to "try" other women. the honest truth is this, i did in fact want to broaden my horizons but i wasn't interested in doing it while i was with her. i didnt read every post but i think you said you were together for a year. emotions are an evil thing and when you are put into this situation its really hard. where does your relationship stand right now? if its great then feel ok b/c i don't feel like most people are just cheating whores. (even though my ex IS FOR SURE!) you have to know how you feel about it, if he brings it up a lot and you have your doubts now, anytime something strange happens your gonna think he cheated on you and if the relationship gets to that point then its gonna fail anyway. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/13/2009 1:49:23 PM | Monogamy really isn't the only option available to us. Unless you explicitly want to be with the same person for the remainder of your life, then don't assume that's what every relationship has to become. There are open relationships, polyamorous relationships, short-term relationships, purely intimate relationships and a multitude of other types of relationships to choose from. Not wanting to settle into a monogamous situation does not mean one is a loser, a cheater, a dead-beat, etc. Let's move on from these reactionary ideas of the past, people.
I think we would all benefit from being more unabashed about what we want out of life. If someone else doesn't want the same thing, then they don't have to date you. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/13/2009 2:04:42 PM | | It seems like he is telling you pretty clearly that a one-woman relationship is not really what he wants. You appear to be insisting on the one-woman relationship. He is going along with it, but it isn't really what he wants. If given the opportunity, I think the chances are good he will go for it. I think that is what he is trying to tell you. I think you are trying to ignore what he is trying to tell you. I don't understand why you make a big deal out of it when you are accepting him on these terms. If it is a big deal for you, break it off and keep looking for someone who wants you on your terms. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/13/2009 2:13:34 PM | What is he ? Some sort of Animal or Jerk?
Since when women have been lowered to be his " bedtime meat"?
What gives him the try to have such little respect for women? ( sexual encounter )
Are these women some " whores" or something?
What gives him the right to EXPLOIT them?
Why is it a small group of us women have equated love with Sex?
Are you saying if we give him Sex, it means that we love him? If we Don't give sex it means that we don't love him. SInce when Love is continquent upon whether we give sex or not? Why do we have to give Sex to get love.
To the small group of women around the world who are that LONELY and DESPERATE to tolerate that kind of disrespect and exploitation of us women.
Get a live. One that will make you feel very fulfilled and rewarded.
Go volunter at church, or the animal shelte, or to some some little kid who has no one to love them .
Fill your time with MEANINGFUL, REWarding things , until the right person comes along.
What are we doing with me n that think so little of us , like we are some sex object or someting.
Losers and Jerks think that way.
He himself is looking for fullfilment, meaning, peace of mind, a sense of accomplishment. And he is using women to acchieve this happiness.
He needs to get his fulfilment in God/ spiritual matters, Charity and Civic responsibilities and a Career but NOT in women. He needs to get a LiFE! | |
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