| disclosing cronic illness on profile
Posted: 9/29/2009 10:55:29 AM | I go with the majority on here. Second date or before if the issue comes up thru IM's or phone calls. I have a combination of a few things and even the doctors' aren't sure what's up with that.
They do know I'm not contagious and in all three cases they just keep saying we'll keep an eye on it. One they say is not growing so they assume it's not cancerous but time will tell. If it turns out that it is then I'll adjust my profile accordingly. | |
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| disclosing cronic illness on profile
Posted: 9/29/2009 11:15:48 AM | I have had a hereditary immune condition my entire life. It's not contagious, and my kids won't have it. The biggest thing is that I have to get an IV infusion once every four weeks.
When you have either a rare or an infamous condition, it tends to define you in the eyes of others. I'd rather be the author of my own story, so I don't share it with others until I'm sure its serious and even then I try to be casual about it. If you give her a real serious look and say "Sit down, we have to talk", you turn it into some serious after-school-special moment and can scare someone off. I try to be real casual and make it seem like a normal part of life and that there's nothing to get excited about.
The last girl I dated got the name of the condition and researched it on the internet. Medical journals have a way of making everything seem so darn serious and it really spooked her. I'll try and avoid that in the future. | |
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| disclosing cronic illness on profile
Posted: 9/29/2009 11:31:08 AM | | I don't think chronic illnesses need to be posted in a profile but somewhere soon while getting to know someone within the first couple of Emails or phone calls or however you conduct your communication in the beginning. For instance, I can't see the need for someone like my ex to put his narcolepsy in a profile but it would certainly be a shock to someone's system if he held off telling them about it and had an attack of it during the first date and slumping into a paralized sleep state of wakefulness (yes, it's a strange illness). He's perfectly capable of a relationship with a person suited to him but they'd have to be able to understand the nature of the illness and be able to cope with it and be understading of the limitations it may pose. | |
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