| First meet at home
Posted: 9/12/2009 7:25:52 AM | its true.. that has happened like forever...
thats just as stupid really though isnt it?
i suppose theres also the planning side of it too - its hard to hide the duct tape and pick axe on a night out lol | |
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| First meet at home
Posted: 9/12/2009 7:28:02 AM |
Be very careful with online dating and never give your address to someone until you have seen him several times and only when you trust him.
Never give your home phone number either - only a mobile number which you can change if things become awkward.
Never give the details of the location of your work either.
You have to be very careful to protect yourself and any family you have from the weirdos that are online. You think I am exaggerating - no - not at all. Better to be safe than sorry.
Absolutely correct Baby ... I would not dream of asking to stay in on a first date, but like cornucopia, I have collected ladies from home .. although I know I am a nice guy, there are plenty of guys who are not.
Sounds to me like these guys are married and wanting a free shag !! | |
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| First meet at home
Posted: 9/12/2009 7:31:43 AM | | I have been collected by a lady from home! ;) It's ok, I paid for dinner.... | |
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| First meet at home
Posted: 9/12/2009 7:34:50 AM | Phrases that women apply to debates like this such as:
all they want is a shag for free
confirm my suspicions about most women; they regard sex as a commodity to be paid for by the man, one way or another.
I know this is off-topic, my apologies!
With regard to the debate in hand, I can see absolutely nothing wrong in trying to economise, to me that shows a financially astute and responsible man or woman.
It's the idea of someone you've not met coming to your home for a first meeting.
Maybe meeting in the park with some food and drink is the way forward!
One of my PoF "first dates" consisted of us going shopping, so anything's possible!
Edit below: No, but he has clearly been led to believe that sex is to be paid for...I'm not going to speculate on how he came to that conclusion!! | |
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| First meet at home
Posted: 9/12/2009 7:39:27 AM |
Phrases that women apply to debates like this such as:
all they want is a shag for free
confirm my suspicions about most women; they regard sex as a commodity to be paid for by the man, one way or another.
Oggers said exactly the same  is he a woman too?
OT
Whether a woman asks a guy to there house for the first date or vice versa it is still silly and can be unsafe. | |
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| First meet at home
Posted: 9/12/2009 7:39:42 AM | | I was invited to go and stay with someone for first date. That may sound shocking but we'd been chatting on and off online for months and it was made clear that there was a bedroom for me. people phoned to make sure she was OK throughout the weekend and we'd previously exchanged postal addy's and sent birthday / Chrissy cards. | |
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| First meet at home
Posted: 9/12/2009 9:01:27 AM | OMG!...Hanneke...I cant think of anything worse than a date with a guy AND his young kids! I'd be gone like a shot!
AND come to my home? No way Pedro! | |
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| First meet at home
Posted: 9/12/2009 9:18:15 AM | Bit silly to let a stranger into your home for a date, yet so many do it after a night of alcohol and a cheap kebab!
First meetings should be somewhere public where if either party is not suited they can then make polite excuses and do a runner. | |
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| First meet at home
Posted: 9/12/2009 12:56:47 PM |
Bit silly to let a stranger into your home for a date, yet so many do it after a night of alcohol and a cheap kebab!
First meetings should be somewhere public where if either party is not suited they can then make polite excuses and do a runner.
That night is the first date and the trip home is the second ;) The difference is that you won't go home with the person if you don't like them. So you don't meet them for the first time in your own home and discover that he brought along plastic sheets and rope. (just to be a extreme).
Of course it's not safe either, but there IS one level of security there, compared to first time meeting at home. | |
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| First meet at home
Posted: 9/12/2009 1:55:59 PM |
I know a guy who brings his young kids to early dates
I had a date with someone who bought child along. I was in shock when I saw them both as he never mentioned it beforehand. Upon meeting he asked me where my son was!!!!
Back to the post.....like most people have said if they want to have a first date round yours then they are expecting to have sex. I wouldn't give anyone my home address. Even though they may just be a gent & wanting to pick the lady up from her house, I'd hope they would understand the reason why I'd prefer to meet them in a public place.
Also first meets/dates are probably best if it's just a drink. Then if there's no chemistry, you don't have to sit though dinner wolfing down your meal before escaping. | |
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| First meet at home
Posted: 9/12/2009 2:38:19 PM | First meet at home! Are you mad why not put up a sign at your gate
AXE MURDERERS WELCOME! | |
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| First meet at home
Posted: 9/12/2009 6:19:42 PM | yep that pretty much sums it up
Hes looking to get his leg over!
Sorry but its true.
I mean if i was looking for nookie thats where you go for it isnt it, and a takeaway and a bottle of tescos finest is a rather cheap way of getting it too!
guys a loser!
ditch him and move on | |
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| First meet at home
Posted: 9/13/2009 5:12:37 AM | I have a perfect example here. This happened yesterday.
A guy here that I have been speaking on and off with and has asked me out before but i didn't take him up on it asked me out again...this time I said ok, gave him my mobile number and he said he would text Saturday afternoon,
True to his word he did, Immediately said 'Hi sexy (grrr), so we have a date next saturday then, better bring your handcuffs to keep me inline'...I laughed that one off and replied, how distant are we (so we could arrange where to meet)
hid response was...' Do you live alone? make sure you are wearing your stockings'...blah blah a couple other things
I text back and said why do you want to know if I live alone, and no I dont (just in case), and it wasn't going to be THAT type of date and he's got the wrong woman for that!
No response. Done.
See, THAT'S why they want to come to your home for a first date. And that was a 50 year old man. treating me as if I am a service provider.
I give up here. | |
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| First meet at home
Posted: 9/13/2009 5:42:46 AM | first meet at home
a bad idea as they could be anyone
if a man even suggested a first meet at my place or his place i would turn him down flat
and also think how many other women is he suggesting a home meet up to | |
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| First meet at home
Posted: 9/13/2009 5:53:56 AM |
True to his word he did, Immediately said 'Hi sexy (grrr), so we have a date next saturday then, better bring your handcuffs to keep me inline'...I laughed that one off and replied, how distant are we (so we could arrange where to meet)
hid response was...' Do you live alone? make sure you are wearing your stockings'
WTF? Thats just wrong, it sounds like a sad desperate pervy fecker, please dont tar all us 50 year olds with the same brush, he obviously is one of those that thinks date=shag, it may be an indication of what other sites he's been active on. | |
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| First meet at home
Posted: 9/13/2009 6:01:27 AM | no, of course I wont tar all 50 yr olds the same...the point I was trying to make is that it seems worse than if he was one of the younger ones because you could put it down to immaturity...but a man his age acting like a sleaze bag...
and yes, i agree...lots here think date means sex...wrong, | |
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| First meet at home
Posted: 9/13/2009 8:18:05 AM | HA HA! Very funny replies by people here! Never laughed so much!!
But on a serious note yes first meet at home is VERY DANGEROUS INDEED!! DONT DO IT!! The guy who asked you too and such a dumb wally!!! | |
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Posted: 9/13/2009 8:25:20 AM | | Personally, I see no harm in either or parties meeting each other in their own homes. This is of course, after quite some time of correspondance! I think, it's has to do with "where you feel comfortable". If you're BOTH happy to meet in a home inviroment, and feel it's the right thing to do? Then why not?? | |
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| First meet at home
Posted: 9/15/2009 5:19:31 AM | Post from:-
*Nats*
"Guys that want to come round to yours on a first meet are just looking to get their leg over (although no doubt endless guys will come and say differently)."
I wonder how Nats would reply to the following question?
'Do women ever want their 'leg-over, or is it just men?' | |
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| First meet at home
Posted: 9/15/2009 12:08:57 PM | I was talking to someone on here last week,he e-mailed loads through the day,didnt like it if i didnt e-mail straight back (i have a life)
anyway
he asked to meet at mine this week,he had it all planned,he said he would come while the boys were at school,and would sit opposite me so he could see what knickers i was wearing,(he said wear white)then said he would see if i was wearing any .Then said he would kiss me as soon as he saw me,and wanted me to brush up against him tight.
yeah right,as if im having him round here while im alone,i wouldnt even have him around if i had someone here.Hes in his 40s,he should know better.
I havent spoke to him since. | |
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| First meet at home
Posted: 9/15/2009 12:14:26 PM |
Post from:-
*Nats*
"Guys that want to come round to yours on a first meet are just looking to get their leg over (although no doubt endless guys will come and say differently)."
I wonder how Nats would reply to the following question?
'Do women ever want their 'leg-over, or is it just men?'
not quite sure why you've asked me that question when the vast majority of people on this thread have stated the same thing
but, do women ever want their leg-over? I'm sure there are some women that are just looking for one thing but speaking personally? no, not just for the sake of sex. Sex should be part of a loving relationship imo | |
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| First meet at home
Posted: 11/2/2009 4:35:50 AM | If a guy wants to meet u at home on a date only then hes only after one thing
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| First meet at home
Posted: 11/2/2009 4:47:34 AM | Hey, if some nice lady wants to come to my house for a first meeting, great! Place could do with tidying up a bit! 
Seriously though, as others have said, if a man wants to go to your house on a first meeting he probably wants a shag (and can't invite you to his because he hasn't hoovered or he can't get rid of his wife or hide the kids' toys.)
No point in getting all psychoanalytical or judgemental about it because men don't have the monopoly on the sexual predator business. Say yes or say no. Personally I'd never go to hers or mine on a first, but we're all adulta, we can decide for ourselves what to do and I wouldn't presume to say that no one ever should. But coming back to the fairly obvious sexual intent behind such an invitation, I recently had a conversation with an almost stranger that went a bit like this:
"Fancy a shag?"
"No ta"
"Pizza?"
"I'd rather have a curry"
"Sorted."
Some people will make an automatic assumption about who started that conversation, and some will recognise that it could have been me or it could have been her.
And I'm not going to tell you. | |
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| First meet at home
Posted: 11/2/2009 5:02:25 AM |
Although I agree with everyone here I would like to add another view point to see if anyone else can see the difference.........
A lot of people will go out drinking on a Saturday night and have a 1 night stand with a complete stranger some will be blind drunk but some will do it just because they can or want to etc. Some (not all if the pavement next to my work place goes by anything) will happen in one of the peoples houses.
They may have known this person 5 minutes.
How is this any different apart from the fact drink is involved so lessoning the senses?
The difference is that they have known that person 5 minutes, which is 5 minutes longer than they have known someone from an internet dating site before a first meet!
I can't believe anyone would be stupid enough to agree to meeting at home. | |
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Posted: 11/2/2009 5:17:18 AM | I cant believe two very similer threads r still going here at the same time! But anyway....
I would never dream of and never have met somone in a club and had a one night stand. However I will hold my hands up and admit I have, in the past, gone to somones home. The differance being is for some reason that after talking to somone on line you seem to THINK that you know them and of course that is just not the case. I have been very lucky and not come a cropper BUT of course I reliese that could have been very differant. And certainly wouldnt advise to do the same. | |
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