| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/13/2009 12:28:38 PM | "draw her a bath with candles and bubbles and join her"
"Are we talking about a 1st, 2nd or 3rd date here?
If some guy lured me to his apartment and drew me a bubble bath I would be out of there faster than a dog with it's tail on fire."
Yep! That about sums it up! Well said ninja - (hiyaaahh, beaking 2x4 with forehead...ouch)
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/13/2009 12:36:52 PM | "Romance has little to do with money, it is a feeling you invoke. A piece of jewelry or a nice night out can be wonderful but you don't need either in order to feel that special closeness."
ROFL!
No...(laughing uncontrollably)...but those things sure don't kill the mood either, now do they. I mean, haven't you ever seen those "diamonds are forever" commercials!
God...I need a drink!  | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/13/2009 12:40:15 PM | | the most romantic first date I ever had was he picked me up in his lime green beat up vw bus, and we drove to san fransico to the beach in the rain to watch the waves,that was one of the best dates I ever had, we didnt have much money, but we made it work, we spent 6 years together doing that kind of stuff. Its not all about your cash.Its the person you spend time with. | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/13/2009 12:41:22 PM | Now that is what I call a perfect date! Has nothing to do with a second childhood and everthing to do with not taking adulthood (or yourselves) too seriously!
Well done baby. you are a true romantic at heart. | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/13/2009 1:06:36 PM | Personally I think you need to know the person before you do romance. First date is not for romance, but to get to know the person and have fun.
Any type of romantic date is going to cost money, but everything in life does. You drink a beverage it cost money, even water isn't free you have to pay the water and sewer bill.
You can have romantic dates inexpensively by not going to the finest restaurants and making your own meals such finger food to feed each other. Wine, cheese, grapes, strawberries, crackers, etc. Candles are cheaper to burn than electricity. Turn the radio on instead of buying a cd or burn your own of great romantic music. Rent a video if you want something more than looking deeply into each others eyes, Casablanca is out on blue ray.
Of course a nice shower for two is always fun before you hit the sheets. | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/13/2009 1:34:15 PM |
Most women will find a ride in a Porsche much more romantic than one in a beat up Volkswagen.
Only if:
#1. You have a high maintenance chick on your hands and she's dazzled by shiny objects
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#2. You can't get a woman's attention on your own and need the Porsche's help. Therefore diverting her attention away from said male. 
There are some of us who aren't all hellbent on material 'things' in life.
I find more simplistic ways are the best and the most memorable.
I mean the whole thing IS, is the person you're with. And I guess it would be a good thing to have a Porsche or some other bright shiny object to divert attention if you are just not that great of a date.
I don't know about you.......but............I like connecting with the person rather than a car or whatever.  | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/13/2009 1:35:56 PM | [Oh, the generalizations about women, do they never end?!!
I would find it much more romantic to ride in a volkswagen with someone I connect with on all levels, versus driving around in a Porsche with a dud.
It is not the place, the stuff, the extras, it is the person. ]
Amen to that mandanj | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/13/2009 1:41:21 PM | | I appreciate your many arguments that challenge the myth that one has to open their wallet to show what is in one's heart. I give you credit for everything you have said. But guess what! I would have been married many years ago but it did not happen because I wanted a Las Vegas Style with minimum spending. My lady partner thought I did not really love her for wanting such a thing. She gave me the crap that marriage is the single most important event in a woman’s life. So my other question is if romance can survive without the wallet, what about the wedding? | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/13/2009 4:32:40 PM | It's a red flag if the woman is more concerned about the money spent on the wedding than she is about the effort spent on the marriage. Modern weddings are a pathetic excuse for an overpriced social event and some women can get so caught up in the splendor and excess of the ceremony and making it their special day that they lose sight of the actual purpose of the vows being taken.
I've got nothing against spending money to make the day special as I will enjoy the celebration myself, but I better be getting a damned good wife out of the deal, not just bills and memories of a pre-divorce party! | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/13/2009 4:37:19 PM |
She gave me the crap that marriage is the single most important event in a woman’s life.
Aren't you glad you dodged THAT bullet???
Come ON...you're not going to spend the rest of your life whining about some woman who was a gold digger are you???
If you think not having any money is a date killer, lack of confidence will beat that out every single time. | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/13/2009 4:47:44 PM | Yes, especially if you use a money clip instead of your wallet for your cash, or you carry a lot of change and have to wear suspenders. 
There are things you can do that are free that women appreciate, but no, you probably can't just be a complete tightwad | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/13/2009 6:51:26 PM | Yes, in fact its easier to be romantic when no money is involved. Romance does take effort however and sometimes it takes some creativity. Effort for instance would be actually making the commitment to remember things like birthdays and anniverseries; the creativity part comes from spontaniality. The best romance is spur of the moment, no though just action.
A great example of a combination would be say for example to tell her about how magical something you did with her was. Say: I reminded a girlfriend about our first date and how we went for a walk and it seemed the entire world paused for the two of us as we watched the sun set together. I thought of kissing her then but we had really just met only a couple hours before and I thought it might be too forward. I told her how she must have been reading my mind because it was right then she leaned in to kiss me on the lips and we spent a good portion of the rest of the night kissing under the stars and holding each other.
Honesty is also very important to romance. | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/13/2009 8:03:39 PM | imo, I find it in poor taste for men or women who use money to impress someone you think they love or want.
And the gesture may be nice but if the intent is not,then it just a dog and pony show.
mezbexreturns said,
The most romantic things that have ever been done for me have either been spoken, written or in the way he touched me.
Yes, that is what love really is all about. | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/13/2009 8:19:07 PM | | of course. there were lots of great ideas mentioned. i'd love for someone to go look at a waterfall with me??? i generally don't go for guys who have more money than others because of how they've treated me. so i've learned. but even some who don't have much money are doing either half their ages no matter what she looks like or looking for barbies and then complaining about having to spend money. you don't get it both ways. i told one guy who wanted a girl to have manicures and pedicures all the time that i wasn't budgeting over $50 a month for pedicures right now. He was looking for someone who wanted to do cheap dates too | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/13/2009 8:24:10 PM | to me romance looks like this;
Laughing spontaniously to something you both find funny..
Watching a bird take flight... while walking in silence, just being close.... no need to do anything but look at her and see if she "saw it" too...
Shared moments that create the bond of memories that make up a life well lived... aware | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/14/2009 4:26:24 PM | carolann0308 said,
Do your best feelings come from a certain object someone gave you? Or is it a fond memory of time spent together or family gathered for a loving celebration?
The best moments of my life just have involved a special time or a great laugh I shared with a person I loved.
Just lovely Carolann....no words can say it any better............amen. | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/14/2009 5:06:28 PM | Romance is about listening to her, then doing something for her that shows you listened and respect that what she said is important to you. And because she is important to you your act of selflessness shows you care about how she feels and that what matters to her matters to you because you love her.
Has nothing to do with the size of your wallet.
Does have everything to do with the size of your heart!
Their desire for a man with a Porsche, stems from their need to feel secure. If you are responsible, and ambitious in your life, you will be responsible and ambitious in the relationship. Like Depeche Mode said, " It's a matter of trust ". | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/14/2009 6:34:44 PM | | The men who have made me feel most special didnt spend a dime on me. Its about how you make someone feel. A note saying 'I love you' in my lunch is far more romantic than a ride in a stupid car. Actions that show you made an effort are always more appreciated. | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/15/2009 8:17:34 AM | | I have been takin to the philharmonic dressed to the nines by limosine by a man that left me feeling flat and did not feel as much romance as I did while once sitting in a Dunkin Donuts with a man who read to me while I melted away...ahhhh. It really is all bout the connection you have with someone. | |
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