| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/19/2009 10:56:22 PM | | Many a times I've experienced romantic moments without much if any money being spent...they usually involve candle(s), cuddling, going for a walk at night hand in hand, any surprises, nice special dinner at home, breakfast in bed...sometimes it's just the little things | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/20/2009 4:51:26 AM | | Recently, I've felt so happy and in love, I just about cry if I think about it too much. For part of that time, we were just about completely broke. In fact, I sometimes wonder if I felt more intensely happy BECAUSE we had no money. It's a marvelous feeling to realize that love really is enough! | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/21/2009 9:19:18 AM |
Absolutely.Nothing is free thse days, not even love!
guyd42: That's correct ! I wonder how a man would feel being invited in the house of the woman and not offering him a drink of water/pop soda/food ? Because the woman does'nt want to open her wallet ? Food and water/ pop soda COST MONEY..
Or the man* invited* a woman to meet each other , they can not meet in restaurant or coffee shop if the man won't open his wallet.... Will the woman agree to meet him in the corner of the street ????? The rule of thump is who gave the invitation is the one who foot the the tab whether in a post restaurant or MacDonald hamburger...
This has been practice since the olden days, (bible) the man bring crops,chickens ,sheeps ect. to the intended. And the father of intended will accept the "gift " and cook a feast for the man and he see to it that the man is satisfied of his intended hospitality..
This is reality >>" It is in Giving that we recieve ".... Even for love. | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/21/2009 9:28:59 AM | Romance is about telling/showing the other person that they're special in your life.
That can be done in many different ways. You could pick a blue corn flower in the middle of the freeway and give it to her, saying that it reminds you of the color of her eyes. That would be a lot more personal and less expensive than sending a dozen red roses. Yes, there are women that prefer the red roses, because they cost more. But I guarantee that there are many women that would rather have the single flower, because it showed that you remembered the color of her eye and that you went out of your way to pick it.
The most romantic events/gestures are personal. They're 'custom tailored' to the person. And those are the best memories. They don't have to cost much, but imagination helps.
Bake your own fortunes inside a fortune cookie and leave it on her car seat (passenger seat might be better), find out where festivals are happening in your area and go there as a date.
Get some hershey's kisses and collect the little tabs at the top that say 'kiss' and wrap them and give them to her, to be exchanged for a kiss any time she wants to. Make up your own coupons for whatever. Meet for a 'french' picnic and bring bread, cheese, wine and both speak only with french accents. ........ | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/21/2009 9:47:40 AM |
Iknid of agree with guy42. I think being wealthy is a big turn on for most women.
The reality is if a wo/man sees you in a better position financially they'' go for you.. by hook or by crook...
Some wo/man has no money but they got talent of being a great company and they have great asses ,gorgeous looks , moneyed men and women spend money on them for their company ,until they got tried of them, that is a harsh reality..
( wealthy people have nobb with wealthy people ).. Poor people have nobb with poor people .... I am in a middle class ,so I expect a middle class people for friends/dates.. | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/21/2009 10:47:39 AM | Msg79: Thanks Varinia, that was very creative to do, on datings, we all pay bills,that sometimes there is not very much left on cash flow ,for we still have to think of weekly gas for our car. and that is reality...
I would rather a guy take me for a picnic split a Subway sandwich/coca cola and I will cook him a gourmet dinner in my house or give gifts in return, instead of begrudging a dish of food cost 6.99 +drinks of 1.20+tip ,in the first place he was the one who invited me, and branded as a Gold digger lol ?????
It is in my breeding that I don't open my wallet to show the world that I am paying a man's dinner ,it has nothing to do with being desparate for a date or I have more money than him ,,,it has something to do with my education and station in life and my culture... Most of the time I gave a cash discreetly to my date to pay our meals( who drives 4 hours round trip to see me, I understand his financial situation high morgage, 3 cars, truck,regular car,one is Porche etc..) What is so funny he gave back the change in front of the Cashier,and I felt so embarrased, I will winked at the girl and said hmm, he is giving me a tip....( If I am in serious a relationship and we 'll go on a trip/ vacation I will give my share of expenses to him in advance)... I guessed here in USA most people does not observe Etiquette on socializing...
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/21/2009 10:55:33 AM | They are, but not for the cynical reasons you might expect. Spending money on a owmna is important for three reasons:
1) The fact is we live in a world where money is life. Everything from housing to health care is distributed according to one's ability to pay. A woman who cares about herself, or any children she may have, simply cannot afford to date a guy who's broke, no matter how much she may want to.
2)Men who are reluctant to spend money on women often have ulterior motives. They see relationships as a power game between men and women, and want to see how much crao she'll put up with. Women know this. A man who won't spend money on a woman might as well have "playa" written on his forhead.
3) What, is she supposed to pay for eveything? | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/21/2009 11:27:36 AM | grendal : The way I understand of some men,s thread here in POF,they expect a woman on * first date* to pay for both of them when obviously the men are the one who invited the ladies to see them..
Etiquette dictates me that I will not pay for a man's dinner on first date ,UNLESS I was the one who invited him for a date... And he better be a Hunk,drop dead gorgeous, and extremely savvy.....
[ quote] A man who won't spend money on a woman might as well have "playa" written on his forehead. For me I call it parasite..
The gauge of a man is his pride and dignity not his wealth, on how he impress a woman and others. | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/21/2009 11:53:25 AM |
A friend of mine drives a BMW and wear very expensive designer cloth. You should see women drooling at him.... No ,not at me......It's hilarious. His GF is 20 years younger.... It does work. Big time !
Yes, that is true!! it work also for young guys too, who would fall for older woman as old as their mother as long has she has money.... I feel nauseated of these young men who got nothing except the peniz to score , they may not be that great in that department who knows...LOL. | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/22/2009 8:08:37 PM |
Women like creativity in a man...trust me.
Honesty is also very important to romance.
Has nothing to do with the size of your wallet.
Does have everything to do with the size of your heart!
A note saying 'I love you' in my lunch is far more romantic than a ride in a stupid car. Actions that show you made an effort are always more appreciated.
All the 'stuff' we accumulate [sic] means nothing when we die. The imprint we leave on people’s hearts is what counts at the end of the day.
None of these things cost you a precious dime, just a little thoughtfulness on your part, just think of her for a change instead of yourself.
Yeah, the above pretty much sum it up...especially the last statement quoted.
Men in general want to be the provider, protector and whatever else ‘they’ feel defines ‘their’ masculinity. Women in general want to exude ‘their’ femininity and however ‘they’ perceive that for themselves.
Romance...or more specifically, romantic gestures...reconfirm, re-avow, reaffirm to the other that they’re still significant, worthy and the person in your life.
Sure, there are dates which are more ‘romantic’ than others...but to me...that’s not really romance. Rather, it’s more to do with circumstances, surroundings, situations, etc. Someone trying to ‘romance’ another on the first couple of meets/dates, has ulterior motives.
As stated above, showing and acting that the other is on your mind...constantly...inherently...from the time you wake up until you go to sleep...and without a doubt...you just can’t wait to see again. Believe me, you will figure out how to show her...and more than likely, she will show you how much she appreciates you did. These are very significant deposits into the Love Bank.
JMrO
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/23/2009 1:32:29 AM | In my opinion, of course it is. Now the challenging part may be finding out what the specific individual you're interested in finds 'romantic'. Everyone is so different, I think good old fashioned attention to detail, and some key questions will open the door to finding out..with a like minded woman of course. I think you will be surprised how many great women are out there that value substance over 'style' monetarily speaking. Good luck  | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/23/2009 2:09:22 AM | I dont need a man to pay for a date and/or romance! I may not be well off but I can certainly take care of myself!
I'm not going to lie, It would be nice but It's not what makes my decisions, thats for damn sure! | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/24/2009 7:34:30 AM | | You can be romantic WITHOUT opening your wallet. ROMANCE IS A FEELING like one post said. Learn what it takes to generate it. If you do open your wallet, it should be because you CHOOSE TO after establishing a connection (just do it at your own risk). If you TAKE THE TIME TO UNDERSTAND HOW ROMANCE AND ATTRACTION WORKS YOU'LL REALIZE MONEY DOESN'T HAVE SHIT TO DO WITH IT. Read on it, research it, do whatever you gotta do. Guys stuck in that mindset (of opening your wallet for romance) become endless targets for golddiggers. In that case, you can't blame the woman for capitalizing on an opportunity. Just my opinion. | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 10/18/2009 8:24:58 AM | | Just a bathtub and candles is romantic. But I guess if you are not at that stage, you need to have some creativity. Rowboat ride? Picking flowers? Making dinner with candles? Going for a drive to see a sunset? Going to the beach to see a sunset? | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 10/18/2009 8:32:11 AM | OP: Romance is one thing, great sex is another. I am afraid that they neither lead nor result in each other. My ex husband used to get his guitar out and sing me a love song he wrote for me, and boy! Could he sing! That was romantic and cost nothing at all.
My ex boyfriend didn't have one romantic bone in his body, the sex was great. Last time I checked sex doesn't cost money.
It seems that some peopel associate romance with spending, in which case hookers gotta be the most romantic women on earth. | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 10/18/2009 8:37:30 AM | It depends on your definition of romance.I think it's romantic when my boyfriend kisses my hand or even just picks me a rose from the garden or sends me a sms just saying I'm thinking of you. These little things make me so happy. Now if he got me a hotel room heaped with flowers and expensive dinner, I'd probably be overwhelmed.
I like my little gestures.. but that's just me. | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 10/18/2009 8:52:17 AM | | i once had a boyfriend who said he didn't like to go anywhere...so i said sure why not ..we will just stay home ..you can arrive with your treats from taco bell and we will watch tv and get lovey-dovey on the couch...before too long he realized even though i have the biggest package deal from my dish subscriber...this gets boring real fast...he was asking when we are going somewhere..i said no, no...this is fine...i am comfortable here...although i was gaining weight...so be careful what you wish for, guys... | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 10/18/2009 9:07:24 AM | Msg:1 , For some reason a company of two or more have to met and sit down in front of meals/drinks and this is a practiced all over the world,just to do chitchat or enjoy each other companys.. It was even practiced before/ after the birth of Christ in the biblical times.. It shows that you are giving your best to that person and it is called hospitality ,courtesy and respect. How would you feel if I invited you to my house ,and asked you to bring your own food and water or popsoda because I don't want to open my wallet to buy food and cook it because** you are not worth it ????
I heard somewhere that a great deal of women are dissatisfied with their sex lives because of a lack of the proper romance.
There is no such thing as PROPER ROMANCE when it comes to physical LOVE expression. It is a human beings nature and they are inborn with it.
Women are not satisfied of a man who act a like street dog, who will just shag a woman and that is all.. | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 10/18/2009 9:16:53 AM | Oh my *God*, yes!
Maybe it's just me. I'm a huge sap and find the romance in a lot of things, but yes, yes it's definitely possible! In fact, the romance that *doesn't* come from the wallet is the most romantic of all! Hell, it could be as simple as getting lost in each other's eyes. Really think about that statement. I'm smiling just thinking about it. *sigh*  | |
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