| Texting over Calling or Both??
Posted: 9/20/2009 7:44:31 PM | [Texting over Calling or Both??
( Hmmm, OK.....results so far
Pro Texting: 55%
Anti Texting 32%
Both are OK 11%
2% either not clear enough in their answer, or , repeated postings by the same person trying to make sure that all of us fcukin' dummies heard them the first time.
Kimbo ~~
'g'nite. | |
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| Texting over Calling or Both??
Posted: 9/20/2009 9:08:09 PM | | Texting after meeting someone is fine with me, as long as it's used for short communication, not used for full conversations, otherwise, I get frustrated with it, and say, "Just Call". If I felt like typing all the time, I would have kept it to email @ POF. | |
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| Texting over Calling or Both??
Posted: 9/21/2009 5:31:24 AM | I don't text. Don't have a cell phone .. and IF I did - I still wouldn't 'text'.
IMO - "We" (men and women) have enough Communication Issues without abbreviating words that are misunderstood Even in the long form!! lol
nope . .. email is bad enough .. phone is a step up .. in person 
The Only text I ever use (when it's appropriate) is: ,,!,,
lol .. and Yes it is appropriate (when it is appropriate)  | |
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| Texting over Calling or Both??
Posted: 9/21/2009 5:54:44 AM | I think those itty bitty key boards have taken over everyones itty bitty brains...and no I dont text...might pass something thats funny on but...I do call and like to talk to a real person unlike the rest of the world....later | |
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| Texting over Calling or Both??
Posted: 9/23/2009 7:14:28 AM | I don't mind texts in general, but what about this experience:
I expressed interest and notified of date/times I could meet. No meeting was set up. However, immediately after I expressed an interest in meeting, the next five days were filled with up to 10 text messages PER day bidding me good night at 11 pm, good morning at 6 am and multiple references to me being his sweetie/honey scattered among them. This might be adorable if I'd met the guy. Without having met .. its . . odd, creepy and/or inapp0priate. | |
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| Texting over Calling or Both??
Posted: 9/23/2009 7:33:06 AM |
Why do men text you these days instead of call?
These topics are too funny. I did not even have texting on my phone until I started online dating and every single women wanted to text me. Just sayin... | |
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| Texting over Calling or Both??
Posted: 9/23/2009 7:40:21 PM | Texting is great but there is so much missed in trying to learn who someone is if you never talk. I do enough texting and emails with my flight students trying to work around schedules. I'd rather have a more proactive role with someone I may have a romantic interest in; particularly after meeting a few times.
The occasional daytime text as a reminder is romantic. Nothing but texts through the day and evening might say something different. | |
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| Texting over Calling or Both??
Posted: 9/23/2009 8:05:02 PM | Nobody has said "It makes it easier to talk to multiple people at once!" yet. Surprising.
People are less jerks than I thought.  | |
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| Texting over Calling or Both??
Posted: 9/23/2009 9:04:32 PM | | It depends on the situation. If I think someone is busy I'll text. If I am absolutely sure they're not, or if I need to talk right away, I'll call. | |
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| Texting over Calling or Both??
Posted: 9/23/2009 9:29:57 PM | | A lot of women like talking on the phone. A lot of guys don't like talking on the phone. Any questions? | |
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| Texting over Calling or Both??
Posted: 9/30/2009 8:28:13 PM | Maybe it's just me--and this is possibly also true for some other people under 40--but I generally get responses to text messages and emails faster and much more consistently than I do in the case of voice calls. Talking on the phone is...well...plain weird--you can hear the person, but the audio quality is poor ( even over a land line) and they're clearly not with you or near you--weirdness all round, I detest phone conversations. Since I can't hear or otherwise sense the other person when I'm reading a written message, it just doesn't feel as weird to me, so I'm quite comfortable communicating in writing when I'm not with someone.
My preference is as follows.
Face-to-face conversations > letters by conventional post (yes, I write letters from time to time) > email > IMs > texting >> voice over phone/IP. | |
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| Texting over Calling or Both??
Posted: 9/30/2009 8:59:09 PM | There is no replacement for personal contact. I ignore texts messages as a general rule. (Unless the person knows I can't take a call in advance and chooses to text rather than delay communication.)
I went out with a guy once and he texted me the next day with "How RU?" I never responded and deleted him from my phone. I have cancelled a date before because the guy made me make half the arrangements and did it all over the internet and I just didn't feel the love so to speak.
What it boils down to is effort. If there is interest there is effort. Texting is weak, inpersonal and lazy. Thumbs DOWN!! | |
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| Texting over Calling or Both??
Posted: 9/30/2009 9:33:49 PM | I always call but I seem to be calling when they are busy or another wrong time it seems like I am bothering. Most women like guys to call but in my experience when I call at the wrong time they almost never call back and no matter what I am doing it is not a bother to me since I like most men initiated the contact with the women, Women are so hung up on guys initiating all the comunication, when this happens and they do not call , I text.
In guy culture guy bashing and petty complaints like thes are normal, every woman is a princess in some way and we must comply by their rules wants and demands.
So here they are demanding no texting so baby call also , can't you or the interest and work is only up to the guy, have a brain to contact and set something up too, no we would not think the less of you , really. | |
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| Texting over Calling or Both??
Posted: 9/30/2009 9:43:07 PM | | I hate having long conversations via texting, but a "thank you for the date, had a great time" message is totally fine over texting. I too see it as a different form of communication. | |
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| Texting over Calling or Both??
Posted: 9/30/2009 9:46:02 PM | i like calling better, personally it just gets the job done.
and since i like to talk alot, i feel a conversation is more personal and direct if someone calls me, vice versa. | |
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| Texting over Calling or Both??
Posted: 10/7/2009 7:13:18 AM | There is no replacement for personal contact. ... What it boils down to is effort. If there is interest there is effort. Texting is weak, inpersonal and lazy
I totally agree with cifuareal1. TOTALLY.
Let me add ....
I'm not interested in a relationship with a Blackberry. I despise text messaging. Even worse are those who have to text when your out with them. 99% of texts I receive are complete garbage. It's worse than drugs - it turns adults into juveniles. An abuse of useless dialouge. What is supposed to be a convenience has turned people into zombies. I find it a very impersonal form of communication, at times rude, can be misinterpreted, and leaves little room for compromise (other than by more text messages). Dedicated texters have a complete break with reality, it isolates them - and we all know that being isolated can make a person incredibly lonely - and guess what, greater compelling the need to text even more. When I encounter someone who has to send 5 text messages to say one thing, I get the feel they worship pain. Texting gives the appearance of being needy/clingy - more often than not that turns out to be true. What can possibly be that important on a I need to know now or my world will end basis? A medium that preys off of itself, hysteria, and paranoia - creates insecurity - it is the new social disease. Personally I'd rather see a woman with a gun in her hand, at least I would understand her intent - lovely.
Lyrical Reference:
"And their holiest book is a PDA,
It's got God's cell number if you find time to pray"
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| Texting over Calling or Both??
Posted: 10/7/2009 8:01:49 AM |
99% of texts I receive are complete garbage.
You can always spot the ones that don't have kids  | |
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| Texting over Calling or Both??
Posted: 10/7/2009 8:40:03 AM | I went out with a guy last year that flirted with the waitress, wore shorts, and repeated a story about going to some city and how expensive it was about 3 times during our meal. I thanked him for the date at the end of the date. This guy sends me an email the next day beitching that I didn't send him an email to thank him for the date...geez...
If a dude texts you and you want him to call you, text him and say it! You just say, give me a call when you have time. Then don't respond to other texts.
Communication problems in the begining of a relationship are not good and get worse. | |
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| Texting over Calling or Both??
Posted: 10/7/2009 8:49:37 AM | texting is okay...but NOT in place of a REAL conversation.
I'm guessing that is more of a younger generation kinda thing?
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| Texting over Calling or Both??
Posted: 10/7/2009 9:01:14 AM |
If a dude texts you and you want him to call you, text him and say it!
Or just call him...
This is actually what I like best about texting.... there are times when it may be inappropriate to call (early morning, she's at work, late at night)... but you can always send a text message. She can ignore it, message back, call, or ask that you call.. all being perfectly appropriate responses.
I think it makes communication a lot easier in a busy world. | |
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| Texting over Calling or Both??
Posted: 10/20/2009 5:36:55 AM | i text because i don't know if it's a good time to call, and i like writing.
i don't like the sound of my voice on the phone, so i'm not keen on calling and hoping they pick up. Do i leave a random 'umm' 'err' voicemail, or just leave it as a 'missed call' and try again later?
texts are nice and easy and more convenient for us both.
but i don't mind calling. I sometimes think it's a bit pointless if it's just to say "hi" or "i'm thinking of you" | |
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| Texting over Calling or Both??
Posted: 10/20/2009 7:34:00 AM | | I do both. Text and call. I do text more thou... Last night I called the guy I am dating because I just needed to hear his voice. | |
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| Texting over Calling or Both??
Posted: 10/20/2009 7:53:03 AM | hi blkcwgrrl if i may add into the comvoe i had those things it happen to so im kinda in a tight spot but it can mean moltable things it probly means thay have something to hide or ther just plain shy on calling  | |
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| Texting over Calling or Both??
Posted: 10/20/2009 8:00:13 AM | I don't mind an occasional text from a friend, but as a general rule, I HAVE A PHONE TO TALK (VERBALLY) TO PEOPLE.
I was exchanging IMs with a man on Yahoo one night and I gave him my phone number so we could talk. What did he do? He texted me. I called him and said that if I had wanted to continue typing, I would have stayed on Yahoo.
Funny, we never did meet--that was the last of the correspondence. (Evil grin.)
I think men text because it avoids being entangled in a phone call and he can do other things while texting. I say "men" because women rarely text me. | |
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