| As a single parent how do you spend time with the significant other?
Posted: 9/22/2009 5:35:05 PM | Again we disagree, lol
Look I don't mean to spend every date with the kids, but whats wrong with a day at the beach with the kids and a friend. I go places with my kids and people they rarely see and it doesn't bother them , or meet people at the beach, they play and have fun never to see them again, and they aren't heart broken. I'm just saying whats wrong with them meeting just as a friend? No PDA. Peace | |
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| As a single parent how do you spend time with the significant other?
Posted: 9/22/2009 5:41:53 PM | Because the INTENT of the PDA shows through to kids. They SEE that there is an interest MORE than if you were with any other adult woman like your sister, or mother, or your best buddies WIFE..
They SEE it. Kids KNOW
Edit: Think about this for a minute.. Take your own "Look at that" meter into a social situation, a company gathering, or just inner office politics. If you pay attention, you can SEE the energy between two people in subtle body language, smiles, looks from afar.
Hell, I can tell how a date is going when I watch people standing in line for a movie. I can see those that are "going through the motions" or are "REALLY into each other" or are "married so long they should've split up 20 years ago"
I mean.. do you really think your kids wont see it and start questioning IN THEIR MINDS?
Then, you have to ask yourself.. What if they DO really like this person.. long before I even know if I like her/him enough to consider something serious?
That is the challenge and frankly I say after the TRAUMA of a divorce, and the total breakdown of THEIR wished for intact family, you have a GREATER responsibility to err on the side of THEIR emotional needs, than your own. MUCH MUCH greater. | |
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| As a single parent how do you spend time with the significant other?
Posted: 9/23/2009 8:34:12 AM | Ha! That PDA can be craftfully hidden, even though kids are intuitive. If you are a good actor and able to tamp down that desire to hold her hand or those loving glances at her and if she can do the same, it can be done so that the kids are none the wiser. I have hidden a relationship from even adults. If I can do that with adults who have the life experience to sense this type of then, I know I can do it again and my daughter would be none the wiser. I met my ex (her father) where I used to work. We had dated for two years before anyone and I mean anyone in the office was told that we were in a relationship and believe me jaws literally dropped. It was truly shocking to them!  People said "we had no clue". There was absolutely no PDA, not even the subtle kind like those subtle smiles at each other from across the conference room table during a meeting, or BS excuses to stop by his office. No he was not my boss or anything like that. So what I'm saying is that you're a good enough actor or she is a good enough actress to be able to conceal believably her affection for you singlesuperdad the kids will be none the wiser and you could enjoy a day at the beach with the kids and her without jeopardizing their hearts if things don't go as planned in the relationship. You'll get to enjoy conversing with an adult while watching and having fun with the kids. | |
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| As a single parent how do you spend time with the significant other?
Posted: 9/25/2009 8:08:35 AM | | yep that's the problem with dating a single parent. no time for the relationship. that's why a lot of people won't date us. no big deal....goes with the territory though. but i will say if a single parent makes their children their whole world (and not like how it would be with two adults in the same house where kids used to go outside and play by themself and not hover around mom and dad) then dating is difficult because it's unrealistic to have child centered houses where adults are suppose to run things | |
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