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| Why Do Disgraced Politicians' Wives Stand by their Side?
Posted: 9/16/2009 10:11:27 AM | It takes a hell of a lot more backbone to stand up beside your husband in support of him in front of a nation than it does to plop yourself down on the sofa with a pint of Häagen-Dazs and drown your sorrows in vanilla bean ice cream. Maybe they should have the backbone to "slap" them in front of the cameras just to show the nation that they don't approve of the man's behaviour.. :) | |
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| Why Do Disgraced Politicians' Wives Stand by their Side?
Posted: 9/16/2009 10:30:15 AM | Uhhm, the easiest explanation.
1. They can stick by there husbands and enjoy the posh lifestyle, freebies, power and favors it garners.
2. They can bounce and give it all up.
Shit it worked out for Hillary just fine. | |
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| Why Do Disgraced Politicians' Wives Stand by their Side?
Posted: 9/16/2009 10:38:06 AM | kofi - 68,
Funny you asked this question, lol, and I was thinking the same thing. Last night, I watched "The Secret Lives of Women" on messy divorces and I'm not sure the exact politican's name...but he was one who came out of the closet and admitted he had an affair with another man. Anyways, on this programming, the wife was telling her side of the story and basically the main reason she stood by him during his speech was because of their daughter. So it was a front, she was one way on camera and another way out of the public's eye. However, I can't see why any woman would do this, I know I couldn't. Have not a clue why the men do this. Why not get it all out in private?
Is this a sign of the strength of their love/relationship or an attempt by the woman to help keep the "gravy train" on tracks? Would YOU stand by your man/woman under such conditions?
It's definitely not a strength of love or strength of any thing in my book. It's pathetic and saddening. However, I do believe it's all about the "gravy train" or moving on up in the political world. | |
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yna6
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| Why Do Disgraced Politicians' Wives Stand by their Side?
Posted: 9/16/2009 10:56:32 AM | More likely the wives like their positions and wealth that riding on the coat-tails of their cheating spouses brings to them. Why give all that up? Courts are not near as harsh as they used to be, so the women would find themselves losing out a lot! Simple self-interest keeps them from leaving. Look at it as "greed" and you have a much clearer view as to the whys.
They don't want to rock the boat and ruin the ride! | |
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| Why Do Disgraced Politicians' Wives Stand by their Side?
Posted: 9/16/2009 12:01:37 PM |
My question is: Is this a sign of the strength of their love/relationship or an attempt by the woman to help keep the "gravy train" on tracks? Would YOU stand by your man/woman under such conditions?
Which gravy train is that? Most people in politics make FAR more money in the private sector than they do in politics.
Depending on the circumstances, it's a sign of strength and integrity as far as I am concerned. If my husband was in the middle of a firestorm - even one where his f-up put him there, dayum straight I am going to see him through it - nor am I going to add to the burden. There'll be a private reckoning later of course, but that would be between us and the rest of the world doesn't need to know about it or see it. | |
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| Why Do Disgraced Politicians' Wives Stand by their Side?
Posted: 9/16/2009 12:36:42 PM | Lint, it's logical and smart thinking.
If women had a backbone, brains, and self respect they'd dump a cheater.
Only a woman with no self respect stays and thus condones her husband's negative treatment of her and their children if they are any. If she stays she sets a poor example for their children, telling the children that cheating is acceptable.
These women are educated and can be self sufficient. | |
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| Why Do Disgraced Politicians' Wives Stand by their Side?
Posted: 9/16/2009 12:49:54 PM |
Why Do Disgraced Politicians' Wives Stand by their Side?
My question is: Is this a sign of the strength of their love/relationship or an attempt by the woman to help keep the "gravy train" on tracks?
Would YOU stand by your man/woman under such conditions? hmm I'm just guessing here, but successful politicians tend to be charismatic, so could it be that, combined with the fact that they often have long relationship histories and families to take care of?? | |
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| Why Do Disgraced Politicians' Wives Stand by their Side?
Posted: 9/16/2009 1:04:51 PM | I think it's a combination of 3 things:
1. It's much like the Monarchy where there's a strict sense of duty and 'stiff upper lip' attitude,
2. Regardless of what other members of the legislative bodies in question, the press, and the general public are saying, one good visual to the contrary (a.k.a. a picture's worth a thousand words) will cast doubt on the couple's detractors,
3. Politicians and their spouses often have had politicians in their families for generations and have spent their lives being groomed for their positions and therefore they know what they're getting into from the start. | |
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| Why Do Disgraced Politicians' Wives Stand by their Side?
Posted: 9/16/2009 1:25:18 PM | I think I have no clue why anyone stands by their spouse after cheating.
I guess I'd have to talk to the people involved to find out why...if I was
really interested, which I'm not.
Who cares?
Relationships stay together after cheating all the time, politicians are just in
the media and get recognized for it.
I'm not interested in the personal lives of anyone else...if I was I guess I'd be
a republican.
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| Why Do Disgraced Politicians' Wives Stand by their Side?
Posted: 9/16/2009 1:28:21 PM | | It's her job as a politicians wife, to stand by her man, because some PR people think the public is stupid and will think the rumors can't be true, see the little woman is still there. In reality, many women (or men) stand by their spouse when this sort of thing happens. To each his own. Besides, how do we know what the other spouse has been up to, maybe they have more important agendas than who's screwing around. Unless someone is spilling secrets to sexy spies, what do I care, my question is, are they doing their jobs and are their transgressions illegal or damaging to the public. People cheat, I may not like it but it doesn't mean they aren't good at the job I elected them to do. If you are going to base your opinion of a person's ability to do their jobs well on whether or not they cheat of their spouses...be careful what you wish for. | |
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| Why Do Disgraced Politicians' Wives Stand by their Side?
Posted: 9/16/2009 1:32:08 PM | Lint, it's logical and smart thinking. If one actually thinks logically then they would choose the side that has the highest investment and return on investment. Logic does not require emotions to take part in the whole scenario nor does it dictate that there is only one solution to a problem.
If women had a backbone, brains, and self respect they'd dump a cheater. In your opinion.
Only a woman with no self respect stays and thus condones her husband's negative treatment of her and their children if they are any. If she stays she sets a poor example for their children, telling the children that cheating is acceptable. Again, in your opinion... and completely off topic.
Refresher for you cupcake: This topic is Why Do Disgraced Politicians' Wives Stand by their Side? | |
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~Kyn~
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| Why Do Disgraced Politicians' Wives Stand by their Side?
Posted: 9/16/2009 2:43:19 PM | Why Do Disgraced Politicians' Wives Stand by their Side?
I think everybody's pretty much covered it all in the thread although if they werent men of power... would these women still do it? I dunno... seems many other women do that arent in the same position as those.
Would YOU stand by your man/woman under such conditions?
Not a chance in absolute hell.
It would be bad enough being betrayed... but to publically humiliate your wife and your family like that... its one of the lowest things a man can do.
I dont blindly believe anybody in the face of accusations... including my own husband. I wont pre-judge you... but I do want to know the truth and whether or not my husband was a politician... the outcome would be the same.
If the accusations are there... I'll find out what I need to know before I draw a conclusion and I wont be standing next to him publically until I do.
Waaaaaay too many times women have covered a man's ass... whatever their motivations... only to find out they've been completely duped.
To me the only thing worse than that... is knowing and still doing nothing about it.
Cant help thats I feel that way but I do. I think Im harder on women in that aspect.
It wouldn't have been me that did the dirty... so I could easily hold my head high
...they believe their husbands' success is a direct reflection on them
Lint and I are gonna disagree on this...
Their success is as much of a reflection on me as is their personal behavior... thats how Id feel about it but then my motivation behind being with my husband would be love and not power or money. Maybe thats the difference between women like them, and women like me?
Its one thing to have him embarass you in that way... but its another to stand there and voluntarily embarass yourself on a personal level because you dont want to believe it or choose not to address it.
From an outsiders perspective what went on with Bill was one of the biggest facades thats happened. I felt embarassed for the people.
And it wasnt just a case of Lewinsky... that only came out after the Jones incident.
How many others are there that are still out their keeping their mouths shut and still covering his ass?
Alot of women put up with alot of crap with philanderers for many many years... playing the forgiving wife... and its absolutely no guarantee the marriage will last for another 10 yrs... just cos you've put up with the previous 10.
All too many of them find out further down the track... that when he's "finished" creating decades of misery and pain to her and his own family... when her youth is gone... when her moment to find happiness with a decent man that will treat her well is gone... when he finds something else he "wants"... he'll completely think of himself... he'll discard you like he's done to all those other women along the way ...
... he'll still leave.
Self respect is a price you set yourself. | |
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| Why Do Disgraced Politicians' Wives Stand by their Side?
Posted: 9/16/2009 3:16:39 PM | Lint, darling, I'm very aware of what the heading of the thread is. My eyesight is perfect and I have a brain.
Disgraced politician's wives stand because such women have no backbone, brains, and self respect. That's what I stated earlier if you were paying attention at all, which you clearly were not.
Hmmm someone condones cheating. Some of us DO NOT!
Nothing I stated was off topic sweetie and I don't need a refresher in anything.  | |
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| Why Do Disgraced Politicians' Wives Stand by their Side?
Posted: 9/16/2009 3:44:23 PM |
Disgraced politician's wives stand because such women have no backbone, brains, and self respect.
While that may or may not be true, the same could be said of *any* woman. In this particular case though, the question specified politicians' wives.
OP, I agree with the posters who said it's probably politically or financially motivated, and of course they will be getting something of their own out of the deal as well. Whether that be security, the 'prestige' of living a higher-profile life, or even a financial windfall in exchange for maintaining a united front.
I would guess a lot of these political marriages, especially the more long-standing ones that have been through the ringer with scandals like these, are likely just for convenience in many ways anyway. | |
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| Why Do Disgraced Politicians' Wives Stand by their Side?
Posted: 9/16/2009 6:10:32 PM | Both sides of the divide are guilty of the crime. Remember what Dems did to Sarah Palin infact her daughter caused her the Vice Presidency.
ummm...do you seriously think McCain had any chance at winning the presidency? when hell freezes over. he had NO chance. | |
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| Why Do Disgraced Politicians' Wives Stand by their Side?
Posted: 9/16/2009 6:59:34 PM |
I have often wondered how the hell GW Bush's wife was able to pull it off.
Ever see the "Stepford Wives"? She's got the personality of a manikin. If she's not embarassed every day by shrub, she's simply blind or dumb or both.
Just curious, when did GW stand in front of the country and lie repeatadly for months, to the american people ?
He lied about the need to invade Iraq for years among other things. You're not serious, right?
Because they have no backbone, brains, and self respect.
You got that right.
because some PR people think the public is stupid
And of course they're right.
If women had a backbone, brains, and self respect they'd dump a cheater.
In your opinion.
And in the opinion of most people who can't stand liars and cheats.
Only a woman with no self respect stays and thus condones her husband's negative treatment of her and their children if they are any. If she stays she sets a poor example for their children, telling the children that cheating is acceptable.
Again, in your opinion... and completely off topic.
Refresher for you cupcake: This topic is Why Do Disgraced Politicians' Wives Stand by their Side?
Refresher for YOU cupcake. That was exactly on topic. | |
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| Why Do Disgraced Politicians' Wives Stand by their Side?
Posted: 9/16/2009 7:35:35 PM | Could be to make him suffer an horrible untimely death when least expected. LOL
and enjoy all the rations    until that day.
Seriously wouldn't true love forgive? Although if "true" wouldn't have took you there in the first place. LOL
As the record used to say, "Cheaper to Keep Her", now the shoe is on the other foot. | |
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