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| met my soul mate, but he doesn't want me
Posted: 9/16/2009 6:36:55 PM | yes miss heartofgold! we do have more than one soul mate. for all the past lives we have lived we have made more than one soul mate.... and as for your soul mate it could be the reason that he is not seeing things as clearly as you could be because his last rebirth may have occurred in the mist of a solar flair over an aluminum plant. therefore causing him and you to have separate realities....
now in order to align his aura with his past life you have to find a two left footed roster with only three black tail feathers. now it is important that this****is all white. with the exception of the three black tail feathers. for the best results one should be higher and two should be equal, and the three lineup to form a triangle.
now while you are searching for this****.. understand you can do so only between 11:pm and closing. only where there is alcohol and loud music blended. you may not wear a bra. when you bend your left breast must be exposed. you must except all offerings of alcohol, and must show gratitude by bowing for each offering......
in order for this to work you must find six friends... who will find six more friends...who will find six more...and so on.... and each person has to mail one dollar in an new envelop. the envelope has to reach me unmarked except for the address and all the stamps have to be identical. also for every hour you are searching... on the fifty seventh minuet you must all send another dollar
now when you find the****phone me... but be sure no more dollars are sent. | |
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| met my soul mate, but he doesn't want me
Posted: 9/16/2009 7:35:31 PM | OP, I agree w/ porkchops and cassago- basically this one is about you accepting his wishes (and lack of them) and just....letting go. Hard to do,I realize, but an inescapable part of life | |
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| met my soul mate, but he doesn't want me
Posted: 9/16/2009 7:54:00 PM | | I know what you mean when you feel someone is the right person for you and that no-one else could come close to them. Unfortunately, they don't always feel the same way and this is very common. It's very painful, but all you can do is to acknowledge that he doesn't share your view of things. Maybe he was very close to your soulmate but not quite. Maybe there is someone out there who would be closer and feel the same way about you. There is no point trying to persuade someone if they are not feeling the same way; leave them to it. If, one day, they realise what they've lost, they'll come back, but don't expect that. Mentally send him on sabbatical - assume he'll be away for two years and get on and have a life without him. This allows you to not completely give up but gives you a rest from the stress of wanting to be with him now. Look after yourself, look to the future and recognise that you have a better idea of what your real soulmate might be like. | |
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| met my soul mate, but he doesn't want me
Posted: 9/16/2009 8:50:37 PM | | you know what? I know how you feel. I also see it way out of line for some people to be as rude about this as they are. truth is there is alot of fear in all this. but ill say ive been there and I hear you on this. I hope we do. and good luck :) | |
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| met my soul mate, but he doesn't want me
Posted: 9/17/2009 1:14:47 AM | Just because you think he's your soulmate, it doesnt mean he thinks the same way too.
This right here proves that soulmates dont exist.
Now take a minute to get off the crackpipe,and maybe come back to reality.. | |
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| met my soul mate, but he doesn't want me
Posted: 9/17/2009 4:35:37 AM | | Thank you so much, that was funny. I get it. I just want to thank everybody on here it has helped to let it go and made it look completely stupid on my part. I just wanted that "feeling" this time around and I am going to have it. I lived so long without it. | |
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| met my soul mate, but he doesn't want me
Posted: 9/17/2009 6:19:30 AM | OP, Do you think maybe you "manufacture" that feeling because you miss it so much?
I am being self reflecting here. I have made that mistake more than once in my life. After long periods of one date wonders and nothing really clicking you meet someone and just go wow. You get caught up in the endorphines of a new relationship and don't use the analytical side of your mind.
I think most of us have made these mistakes when we were younger and have now learned to take this slower and more casually. Time is the true test of whether or not you are with the "right" person. | |
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| met my soul mate, but he doesn't want me
Posted: 9/17/2009 7:41:55 PM | | Soulmates, whatever they are, are reciprocal. If that person doesn't want you, it isn't meant to be, therefore=not soulmates. Find someone worthy of your time and wipe this person from your mind. | |
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| met my soul mate, but he doesn't want me
Posted: 10/8/2009 5:27:23 PM | This guy sounds very much like the guy I met on the Mingle 2 site...who knows..same guy? We started messaging in Feb. and hit it off right away..spent hours at a time..we live far from each other, but he was either messaging or phoning me almost daily. He was the one who started talking about a future together and wanting to date only each other,..I was more cautious, and said you can't say that before we meet...then you will know whether there is a spark...oh no, he said...he knew..he was positive.
Finally in May, we met, and there was a spark, for both of us, at least that's what he said..then we met again, in July...all went great. Then I didn't hear from him in over a week...and when we messaged, he seemed different...I would hear from him less and less..so I asked him if he had lost interest in me...he said no..but I checked on the Mingle site..he said he was going to take his profile off there...lo & behold, he didn't have his picture on there..now he does.
I feel hurt, and bewildered...he seemed so open & honest | |
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| met my soul mate, but he doesn't want me
Posted: 10/8/2009 9:31:29 PM |
I met my soul mate on a different site and we had been talking for over eight months.
Talking?
No meeting?
If you were only talking, then it was talking. How on earth can someone be that important to you through speaking and never meeting?
I suggest you give your head a shake, pull up your socks, snap out of it and get on with your life.
And no more talking...............more meeting in person.
^^BG^^ | |
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| met my soul mate, but he doesn't want me
Posted: 10/15/2009 10:39:45 PM | | First of all there is to such thing as a soulmate second of all if there wasnt you would not be because even in the bible it says god made two to become on which is talking about your soulmate I dont care what this world trys to make me believe i have been seaching for mine for 32 years and i will not give up till i find her because love is the strongest feelings on earth and nothing can take that away from me its a gift from my heart to hers I love my future wife and if she has some my future children with all my heart and i have not even met them yet so dont give this person that Soulmate's dont exist BS because They do exist if you havent found yours it just means your not looking. | |
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| met my soul mate, but he doesn't want me
Posted: 10/16/2009 2:04:12 AM | | Huh???? You mean Angelina Jolie is not my soul mate????? But, but........faaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaark! I hate these dum-dum illusion shattering forum posters. What do they know, eh OP? I think you're the one for me....don't mind my nunchucks (its only for show)...say would you be interested in looking at a variety of drawings? They're not really drawings...more like a splatter of ink...tell me what you see in those. Keen? | |
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| met my soul mate, but he doesn't want me
Posted: 10/16/2009 4:02:15 PM | | What you mean to say is he was your sole mate, not exactly what a sole mate for him was. Sometime we want something we believe is right for us that we over look what the other person wants. It is actually being selfish because you didnt get what you wanted. Obviously he wasnt your sole mate because the feeling was one way, if that what you would settle on as a sole mate. Get over it, move on. | |
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| met my soul mate, but he doesn't want me
Posted: 10/16/2009 8:57:39 PM | If people had soul mates there would fewer relationship failures.
I think people like to project the soul mate mystique on those their involved with because it makes it so much more romantic *barfs* | |
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| met my soul mate, but he doesn't want me
Posted: 10/16/2009 9:03:20 PM | OP,
You talked online for a LITTLE while, even an 8 month REAL LIFE relationship isn't the most amazing accomplishment.
Quit your "oh poor me" crap and meet someone who actually wants to be with you. That soulmate crap is just ridiculous in your case because you weren't even in a real relationship. I'm willing to bet you came on WAY WAY WAY too strong, brought up marriage with kids and a house with a white picket fence within the time you were talking.... tell me I'm wrong. | |
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| met my soul mate, but he doesn't want me
Posted: 10/16/2009 9:49:28 PM | | saaad. i do know that guys can present themselves as one way being into you and then suddenly vanish. everyday. all the various reasons in all the other threads. barbie answered her phone, he suddenly saw that he had a woman who was into him, anything. very common reason is that he's really holding out for someone who looks a certain way and you don't, even though he's obviously attracted to you and enjoys being with you. all that can be there, but he'll vanish once he realizes what he's done and that it's not what he's been holding out for. | |
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| met my soul mate, but he doesn't want me
Posted: 10/18/2009 5:30:57 AM | I think those who ahve been divorced\widowed and have foudn another parnter would think it is a mircle ot have a 2nd soul mate
That 'those' would be in the millions of people around the world
One more thing - the sucess of a relationship is what you do, not how you tag it...
As you get older, you begin to unerstsand your emotions, value them, and. above all, manage them
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| met my soul mate, but he doesn't want me
Posted: 10/18/2009 9:03:54 AM | Hello hartagold,
My soul mate died;that is the only way one loses their true soul mate. A true soul mate knows without you saying anything.
Could you have by any chance been seeking a commitment from him?
Be aware that sometimes we ladies tend to create what we long for and if it is not reciprocal than we erred.
There is a difference between romantic fantasy idealization of a relationship and the passions of two hearts entwined for life. Read Shakespeare's sonnet 116 and 1Cor.13:4-8
If true love is not returned then it is not true love. It may be infatuation, fantasy, idealization, hopeful desire, potential future but it is not the true love of soul mates.
There have been some good responses to your soul mate situation. Take heed to sound advice, grow by it, ignore the unkind remarks and go on.
The reason I know you were not true soul mates, dear girl, is because you have found a new fellow so quickly.
It takes many years to recover from the loss of true love because if it is true love, a soul mate, it is not lost, merely moved into another dimension. For it always lives in your heart.
One wonders if there could be another soul mate or at least a passionate companion for the future, I honestly do not know. I sometimes like to think there could be but other times find it hard to believe that one can have two great loves in a lifetime.
What I do know is that in order for you to find a true soul mate you need to find yourself. Your validation can not come from the man you seek.
Become the woman that your soul mate would seek, be the woman who has a passion for life and a zeal for love that knows her worth and does not gush or rush a man. Become the type of woman for the type of gentleman you desire but do it for you. Your happiness needs to come from within. (The only man that can validate you is the person of Jesus Christ.)
Be at peace within and know that love is like a rose that will bloom in time and never dies, for the petals will be pressed in your heart forever.
Be well, blessings and shalom. Praying that someday you will be someone's soulmate and honor that true love.
Maggie
PS: 'red_relaxed' writing the definitions is helpful. Not all men are romantics; those are the poor dears that are feeling ill at such a post (makes me wonder why they read it). It could be that they read it because they desire a great romance, to be loved by a woman, no matter what happens. They use down to earth terms for soulmates such as the one called, 'a stayer'. | |
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| met my soul mate, but he doesn't want me
Posted: 10/18/2009 10:58:11 AM | | hey, who cares what pc thinks, he`s nothing to you, yes you can connect and yes you can be rejected and yes it hurts like hell, hello!, think its called being human, luv yourself hun, as the title of this site states, plenty more POF! | |
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| met my soul mate, but he doesn't want me
Posted: 10/18/2009 1:37:35 PM | | Oy vez. he was not your soulmate, but a close second and I am sorry it didn't work out and that you are hurting. look on the bright side, your REAL soulmate may be comin' down the track as we speak. you can wallow in your pity if you must for a while, but the sooner you get happy and start lookin' for the next opportunity, the sooner it will happen. | |
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