| met my soul mate, but he doesn't want me
Posted: 10/19/2009 11:15:46 AM | hi there
everyone has a soulm8
otherwise people wudnt stay together 4 40 to 50 yrs
if he making all the excuses then he aint worth it hun
i thought i had that hun he came into work an gave me his number we talked an met 4 coffe an chatted an one day we got personnal then he cudnt perform an got shitty an walked out
he kept sayin he cudnt get wiv me an then he wud keep txtin or askin me to call which mucked up head
i thought he wud b so gr8 to b wiv but i have come to realise he not the one 4 me
coz he just disappionted me wiv his promises offering to take me out rell me not to plan owt an then nothin id b sittin at home waitin an nothing not even a txt or call
but i have come realise if there is someone out there u will find it , it mite take tym hun but it will x | |
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| met my soul mate, but he doesn't want me
Posted: 10/19/2009 1:02:05 PM | OP, I feel your pain. But the reality is, you love him but he doesn't love you.
If it were meant to be? It wouldn't be so hard to convince him of this, he would've known by now. It doesn't matter if you came on too strong or not. You should always be yourself, that's how you know if the person truly accepts you for who you are.
Don't wait for a man to tell you it's over, YOU say when it's over.
The longer you spend wasting your time with him? the more you're missing out on meeting other genuine guys and the person who'll make you truly happy.
Don't settle for less....settle for the best ;)
And yes. Though it may not seem like it now? You will fall in love again. | |
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| met my soul mate, but he doesn't want me
Posted: 10/31/2009 11:04:20 AM | Interesting. So much anger and bitterness toward the idea of "soul mates". So many SINGLE people with the answer on this one. Seems to me being single might be an indicator of a lack of authority on this one. Sort of like if I said "hate to break it to you but there is no god". How many of the so-certain soul mate deniers would jump all over me? Or ask how I can make such a claim and where is my proof? How could I, a mere mortal, know the truth about god? I might ask, who are the single people to talk with such conviction and derision as to the existence of soul mates?
Without judgment on the OP's situation, I think that there could be a possible existence of soul mates. The universe operates in ways beyond our current comprehension. Energy cannot be destroyed only recycled - who in this forum can aver that we don't experience cyclical death and rebirth? Who here can define exactly what love is and not just there estimation based on bias, upbringing and experience?
Indian philosophies talk of a Samsara through which we bring karma from the past into the future. If we believe this, and I see no reason to believe it any more or less than all the other made-up philosophies and religions, people are on different paths trying to align their fate so they can escape the cycle. Through our own actions we can extend or shorten this. Perhaps with soul mates, if they exist, we meet them until over and over again until we align. To say if one does not share your view wanting a relationship with you surely means they are not your soul mate neglects the fact that they might not be in a place to accept that love. The other person or maybe even yourself might "talk yourself out of it", can we not agree that people do that? That we as humans make bad decisions even with good information? Why must it be that when we meet ou soul mate they must be in the same head space or they aren't our soul mate? Why is everyone so sure we live once and all the thing that "should happen, will happen" in this life? How are peopl so sure there are no soul mates but believe in this mystical notion of "meant to be"?
Truly, those of you most harsh on this obviously distressed OP should examine your own bias, fears, anger as well as the validity of your beliefs. Seems some are so quick to shout down someone else's pseudo-science beliefs without regard to the ones they hold.
Love is not a science. Love is not yet universally defined and agreed upon. Feelings are varied among individuals and the beliefs we hold about this subject are our "best guesses" for none of us holds the answers. It is up to us to move through this life improving ourselves and cobbling together our ethics and beliefs about love as best suits our rationality and emotionality about it. Then we can find one who shares our feelings and beliefs, opens our hearts and may or may not be a "soul mate" as you wish to define it.
I know what it feels like to be opened up in that way so I don't so quickly dismiss the notion of soul mates. There is an inexplicable feeling of connection. Love doesn't always work out and that, unfortunately, cannot be pinned on mystical forces or someone not actually being our soul mate. That blame lies squarely on us and our choices. We can mess up a good thing. Let him who is without that flaw cast the first stone at the OP | |
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| met my soul mate, but he doesn't want me
Posted: 10/31/2009 11:09:07 AM | "and not just there estimation based on bias, upbringing and experience?" typo, of course should read -and not just their estimation based on bias, upbringing and experience?
Please excuse any other typos, typing way too fast on a weekend - left my brain at work. | |
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| met my soul mate, but he doesn't want me
Posted: 10/31/2009 1:24:39 PM | Did HE consider YOU HIS soul-mate-? Takes two. Maybe he was scared to death to delve too deeply into his own soul-!
Yes, I believe we are all part of the same human soul, and, as such, there most certainly are multiple soul-mates. Oh, sure--we all have our odd quirks and idiosyncracies, but, at the core, we are all of the same human soul. Don't sweat it. You'll meet another "piece" of the human soul. | |
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| met my soul mate, but he doesn't want me
Posted: 11/2/2009 11:25:36 PM | In answer to your question, I think we do have soul mates. But I believe the following with regard to that subject.
1) There is a remote chance that you two could be soul mates. But it may simply not be your time, so to speak.
2) We can also have more than one soul mate. However, it is not always in the form of a love interest. It could be a child, best friend, or some other person in our life who makes an impact of some sort on us.
I also do agree with the others here who have suggested that you move on. If this other person didn't see what a great thing they had, ultimately it is their loss.
Best of luck | |
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| met my soul mate, but he doesn't want me
Posted: 11/4/2009 4:28:15 PM | | Realize that if he doesn't want you he was never your soul mate. THAT is reality. You are able to move on. You just don't want to. You are too much in love...but not with the phony soul mate. You are in love with the idea of being in love. | |
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| met my soul mate, but he doesn't want me
Posted: 11/5/2009 10:57:34 AM | Hartagold,
Yes, don't believe the naysayers - soul mates do in fact exist. Especially if you make a connection with someone that is unbelievable, i.e. that you know them somehow, but just met. What I find more common with the soul mate situation is there has to be a right time and place for it to happen. Obviously, he is not at the right place where you happen to be. Basically, you have two choices: wait it out and see if he comes around or move on, which you probably need to do. It will take a while to get over someone that you've over-committed to, but eventually the highly charged emotions will fade and you will be able to see the conditions weren't all there for it to work. Good luck!
Best,
zazenboy | |
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| met my soul mate, but he doesn't want me
Posted: 11/19/2009 7:26:47 AM | I have to completely agree with procolharem. There IS no such thing as a "soulmate" that word alone is like nails on a chalkboard. It's the "romantic comedy" influenced deluded thinking that seems to perpetuate the female species these days. Obviously she's lacking a brainstem to help her process the information based on REALITLY and not "magical thinking" that this guy ran his ass of away from her because of all of the stupid "soulmate" crap she was spewing. I would have ran too.
Again, this is NO such thing as a "soulmate"
Again, some people have no soul | |
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| met my soul mate, but he doesn't want me
Posted: 11/19/2009 1:15:51 PM | | Hun, if he was meant to be with you then there would be no question in his mind. I'm sorry to say hun but based on your post it sounds like he just wasn't that into you. You may have felt that spark but he may not have to that extent. Why settle for a guy who doesn't want to be with you when there's plenty who would!! You deserve better! Gluck and big hugs !:) | |
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| met my soul mate, but he doesn't want me
Posted: 11/19/2009 1:43:38 PM | Here is something that helped me in the past -
If its not right for one of you - its not right!
It takes two to have a relationship of any kind - let it go. | |
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| met my soul mate, but he doesn't want me
Posted: 11/19/2009 1:51:52 PM | Ok..... you are psychotic... or at least sound that way. Re-read your post.
" He does not want to face it and knows it is the true thing. He has made so many excuses and does not want to face reality."
You could always kidnap him and keep him in your basement. You CANNOT TELL someo0ne they are your soul mate. If it's not mutual it just simply isn't. You really genuinely need help. Re-read your post. | |
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| met my soul mate, but he doesn't want me
Posted: 11/19/2009 9:42:21 PM | First I would like to say, did you meet him in person? I don't see you talking about love,walks, talks, outings, meeting family, kids, nothing of the sort. And if none of this happend, how can you call it soul mate, when you haven't met the mate.
I just don't believe in things like that, I'm sorry, I'm on this web site a lot, but I have to really be skeptical(spelled wrong) before I say I met my soul mate. Get over it, move on go out an meet people, live your life and f-em.  | |
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| met my soul mate, but he doesn't want me
Posted: 11/19/2009 10:16:03 PM | go to the next sweety, no guy deseved you cry for them, go out and flirt when you out, buy a new outfit, get a new heircut, get in shape,lissen the song "i will survive
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| met my soul mate, but he doesn't want me
Posted: 11/19/2009 10:27:15 PM | Soulmates are a fallacy. You DIDNT meat him because he didnt want YOU. He IS facing it.. it ISNT YOU.
Hence.. NOT a soulmate.. Time to grow up sweetie.. Harliquin LIED to you | |
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| met my soul mate, but he doesn't want me
Posted: 11/21/2009 4:51:07 AM | all you have said here is that you have been talking to someone for 8 months.........so
have you actually met this person in the flesh? have you been out? gone on dates? had a laugh? made love? etc etc......................you say it has ended because YOU are hurt beyond repair...what does that actually mean? does it mean that you have been hurt BEFORE this chap and have you gone down the needy route with someone who writes well?
i'm a bit confused by your questions here but you donlt seem to be hearing that this man feels differently and if you have been arrogant and demanding about what you want from him or your level of expectation from him ...then i kind of get his point. | |
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