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Posted: 9/16/2009 6:17:49 PM | I've been on the verge a couple of times.......of a nervous breakdown that is! Hmmm...how shall I put this? I've been smitten a couple of times but for one reason or the other it wasn' meant to be. I think in a sense though I have found what I'm looking for....Peace!! I'm also happy for those that have managed to find what they were looking for.  | |
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| Have you found what your looking for..
Posted: 9/16/2009 6:23:26 PM | As you can see from my start date, I have been on and off here for a while. Spoken to a few nice ladies, but alas I'm still mining through the coal to find that diamond. I'm serious about finding "THE ONE", and have never messaged a ladies for the sake of it. If you want something bad enough? I'm a great believer, in that it will eventually happen. As the very old cliche says, rome wasn't built in a day. Congratulations, to those who have found their diamonds.  | |
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| Have you found what your looking for..
Posted: 9/17/2009 12:39:47 AM |
after two years on this site, I finally have a date, my very first POF date!!
Go for it Labby , baby 
just hope she is also not 6'2" and 15 stone hehee 
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Posted: 9/17/2009 12:41:37 AM | i was with someone for a year off this site, when you tell people they always say "oh it works then" obviously not or we wouldnt have split and i wouldnt be back on here!!
the thing with this site is there is a lot of sh*t and messers out there, but along the way you come across the odd nice and genuine person that makes it worthwhile | |
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| Have you found what your looking for..
Posted: 9/17/2009 12:47:32 AM | Nope.
Lots of dates (not from here, but another paid site) So far in the last 6 years, I've only felt 'excited' by one date. That was a few months ago but unfortunately........didn't work out. I have pretty much decided to stop the serial dating thing since it doesn't seem to work.
To be honest, the two main relationships I've had in my life (and by main I mean people I was really 'into' were ones I met through everyday life. Not a dating site.
Part of the problem I think is that there is this expectation that if sparks don't fly on the first date, neither of you pursue it further........you don't get to know each other.
The flip side of the problem is that you could invest a lot of your time dating a person only to find the sparks never do fly!
My ex partner I met when I was a student working in a cafe. There was instant attraction.............but since we worked together twice a week, we got to flirt and talk over a period of about 4 weeks before we even went on a date, so we were fairly certain we wanted to be dating before we actually did.
That to me is the problem with internet dating full stop. | |
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| Have you found what your looking for..
Posted: 9/17/2009 12:54:32 AM | | Havent you just answered the problem then TJ, why dont you get to know the person through a series of messages and conversations before dating them, there doesnt have to be a rush to go on a date. What you described with your ex you can do through internet dating. | |
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Posted: 9/17/2009 1:01:03 AM |
Havent you just answered the problem then TJ, why dont you get to know the person through a series of messages and conversations before dating them, there doesnt have to be a rush to go on a date. What you described with your ex you can do through internet dating.
I have done this.........and personally I don't think it works as well. You miss a lot in text. I have made MASSIVE mistakes, having chatted to people in MSN and feeling a connection, only to find the real life person is completely different to how I had perceived them (not physically, I mean as a character)
I have tried it a few times.
Then I changed tactics and went to 'I only date women who wanted a brief chat, telephone, then a date straight away'
i did this because the kind of woman who is not scared of meeting up with a person is more likely to be my type. This worked far better for me, and whilst I have not met the love of my life, I have met many people I've liked and had a good time with this way.
Of course I recognise the safety implications.............but before any date I give my address and phone number without being asked. If I'm taking my car I also give my registration number so she can tell her friends which psychopath she's dating that evening. | |
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Posted: 9/17/2009 1:08:20 AM | | makes sense, ive had that problem with msn, ive found the phone being the best guide, i was chatting to a great looking girl a month ago, messages on here had alot of banter, spoke to her on the phone and she had the personality of a fridge freezer!!!! | |
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Posted: 9/17/2009 1:18:33 AM | Erm kitten, do you mind not saying you have found badge this morning as can lead to rumours and me bints get jealous!! Lol
on topic, to find somethink means to know what you have lost, so that would be a no as dont know what ive lost, except half a kebab from last night! Im lucky enough to have good girl friends on and off the site. Some actually understand my humour .... Yeah right!  | |
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Posted: 9/17/2009 2:27:22 AM | msg 34 I hope you don't mean me !!
I think this site can be many things to many people; I've met many people from here, made some great friends but not found the love of my life. | |
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Posted: 9/17/2009 2:51:49 AM | no .. if i had i certainly wouldn't be here .. i would hope to be having better things to do
i don't understand why people who aren't single are on here ... i wouldn't go drinking in singles bar if i wasn't single ... get a life | |
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Posted: 9/17/2009 4:22:12 AM | I don't mean to hi-jack the thread, but a question that was glaring me in the face when reading some of the content within was:
1) Have the majority of you and/or net users in general become to dependent on the net for meeting someone? | |
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Posted: 9/17/2009 4:25:23 AM | ^^^^^^ Of course not, never put all your eggs in the one basket, especially if your biological clock is ticking
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Posted: 9/17/2009 4:38:48 AM | | msg 40 - yes I'd have said I've only got the net in the main, dating someone from work is a big no-no and my social life is very quiet at the moment so barring stumbling across from someone in the supermarket this is it !! | |
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Posted: 9/17/2009 4:45:23 AM | It should be stated that some women are just as guilty as some men in their blatant search for sex and not much else via this place. Or from my experience anyway.
I used to state clearly that I wasn't out for a one night stand or quick fling on my profile and I would get regular offers for such. Since taking that element out of my profile, the offers have stopped! Strange but true!
As for the main topic of convo the answer is, not yet.
I've been on some great dates, met some really nice girls and made some really great friends in the 8 or 9 months I have been frequenting the site. (I've met some right dogs too but the less said about them the better).
I guess you could say things are ongoing for time being but unlike some it would seem, I am enjoying the POF experience for the larger part.
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I forgot to add, a month or 2 ago female friend of mine from London had been asking me how I had been meeting so much women and going on so many dates etc and I directed to her to this place.
She scoffed at me and said that paid dating sites were the only ones worth using and that POF must be utter shit. She then promptly signed up.
After one disastrous date where she ended up puking in her handbag (she is a classy girl really) she actually ended up meeting her perfect match and has been with him for a couple of months now.......
The system works. Both parties just have to be honest about what they are looking for! | |
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Posted: 9/17/2009 4:50:33 AM |
barring stumbling across from someone in the supermarket this is it !!
I think you'd probably have more chance in a supermarket !
I've heard other sites (pay ones which means most people are actually genuine) are pretty good, but lets be honest, pof is rubbish as a dating site! | |
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Posted: 9/17/2009 5:23:10 AM |
pof is rubbish as a dating site!
Really  ? I have found the opposite to be true...
I don't know what the secret is (if there is one), but I have ticked over nicely where dates (formal/informal) are concerned. Therefore, POF gets the from me | |
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Posted: 9/17/2009 6:32:14 AM |
pof is rubbish as a dating site! Demand a full refund, mate, and get your lawyer working on how to get out of the contractural obligation you have to stay on here.
And good luck with it. | |
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Posted: 9/17/2009 6:58:21 AM |
I've heard other sites (pay ones which means most people are actually genuine) are pretty good
On pay sites, most of the people there either cannot read messages or are unable to reply to them. Whether they're genuine is a moot point if you cannot communicate because they or you don't have a current subscription.
It isn't exactly unheard of for such sites to have "plants" who send out messages to get people to join or renew their subscription. | |
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Posted: 9/17/2009 7:10:51 AM | message 40 - I think you have a good point here, I think lots of people myself certainly has become far to dependant on the internet.... When I did a search to see what social things we had in my town the only thing there was was nightclubs!
No interest clubs at all are around here so maybe no real places for meeting someone......just some food for thought :)
Also Good luck on your date Labdien - Hope you have fun :) | |
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| Have you found what your looking for..
Posted: 9/17/2009 7:12:40 AM | | A friend told me to stop looking and it will find you and he was right, i do not think the internet is always 100% successfull but as long as you do not take it too serious it might just surprise you. | |
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Posted: 9/17/2009 7:19:52 AM | I've been on this site for about 6 weeks now and I'm loving these forums. I read a lot of here and from what I can make out theres quite a few here that have been here a few years.
6 weeks is a mere drop in the pond!
Is there anyone here that has actually met there partner through pof?
Yes and married him too.
Maybe Im not in the right zone or something but the guys ive spoken to either want to meet on the first message, be a penpal?? , or blatantly ask for sex - there was me thinking I may get a date
Oooh wait till you get the dates then the fun starts most of mine (to quote a post from the archives) entailed me turning up and thinking...
a) You are a lot shorter (As in do you live with Snow White)
b) You are a lot fatter (I thought the camera added 10lbs not took off 10 stone)
c) You are boring as helll....
d) My god if you are 40, you have had a hard paper round, me thinks you are a tad older really
e) Don't touch me you oooze slime.. obvisouly crawled from the bottom of the pile
f) Very sweet and cute.... in Puppies I like sweet and cute.... not in men
g) Ok, you have proposed in a restaurant full of people, where is the bathroom and does it have a window I can climb out of (BTW for those interested yes it did)
h) Thank god that man in the pub pretended to know me once he recognised my distress at you refusing to let go of my arm
i) What do you mean you have no money? Dutch I can do... Me pay for everything? Sod Off!
j) You are very drunk already
k) You smell of wee
l) You just smell
m) Two mobiles and no weekend dates.... attached are we?
n) How long ago was the divorce cos the white mark from your wedding ring is showing
o) No, when I said dinner would be nice, I ment dinner, not a shag at your place
p) Does your Mummy know you are out?
q) Nice guy, no spark though
So has anyone actually met the great love of there life?
On a date from here a resounding NO!
At a meet, yes, online as some of the old timers know I actually blocked him, twice as I recall.. luckily he didn't take no for an answer and turned up at a meet I hosted, so I ignored him (what else would I do) and then in the usual fickle manor of women mailed him and asked him to dinner the following week...
I am back for a fleeting time courtesy of SATAN  | |
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| Have you found what your looking for..
Posted: 9/17/2009 7:35:00 AM | I am not looking anymore as I believe if it is meant to happen it will, so I am more biding my time  until I see someone that flicks my switch with his sense of humour and personality. There are some great guys and ladies who attend the meet nights I host in Wolverhampton and I cannot for the life of me understand why they are still single.
I have however found 'what I was looking for' with a great social life and made loads of cool friends from all walks of life, who would never have enhanced mine were it not for being encouraged to join POF and going along with a few mates to my first Birmingham meet and the ball ran from there for me to do my own local events..
Thank you to all the friends I have made from chatting on this site  | |
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