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Posted: 10/20/2009 1:18:10 AM | ^^^^^^^^ whoaaa... easy there, chief... 
Considering the OP doesn't have a full body shot on her profile, but does have a very clear cleavage shot... I can't resist asking how you define FIT... 
** sorry OP.. overtired, and time for bed ( ) ... bye thread, and g'nite folks ** | |
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Posted: 10/20/2009 1:27:39 AM | Sweetie, I'm sorry as well you've been hurt so badly.
I don't think you got played and I don't think you did the wrong thing by falling in love. I think all those older people telling you that you should know better are being harsh. Why should you know better? We're all brought up to believe in the fantasy. Why couldn't someone fall in love with me in a matter of weeks? I think I'm very loveable!
You picked a guy who's a flake. It doesn't mean you can't believe a man when he tells you he loves you. It just means you have to take longer to decide whether you love him back.
Good luck. I hope you feel better soon. | |
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Posted: 10/20/2009 3:24:13 AM | | OP I'm sorry this happened to you and you are hurt. It happens to the best of us, 20 or not and you weren't wrong for falling in love with him and letting your guard down escpecially if it felt right. It felt good to have someone want you, care about you and love you so I agree with FreeSpirit, don't lets these OP with thier harsh comments get to you. I would chalk it up as a learning experience and keep your chin up and keep busy. You are a beautiful woman, all you need to say is NEXT! | |
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Posted: 10/20/2009 2:56:10 PM | | Dont give up....there are some good guys out there...... Keep your chin up and someday this will all be a distant memmory ;) | |
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Posted: 10/20/2009 3:21:44 PM | | He said hes still in love with his old girlfriend.Now go out there,grow some titts and fight for your man.Get rid of that other women,make him forget all about her.Shes yesterdays news anyway......... | |
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Posted: 10/20/2009 5:56:59 PM | It's been over a month since you've started this thread, OP.... and, in all this time haven't even responded.
So, your point in starting this thread waaassss..... ??? | |
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Posted: 10/20/2009 7:19:20 PM | Hey - I think that guy was talking to me too! | |
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Posted: 10/21/2009 4:02:39 PM | | every woman who is looking for a man, lover or husband need to read steve harvey's new book and dr kirschner book on "love in 30 days" and the "he is just not into you" (don't remember the authors) and the "rules" book which was written almost 10 ten years ago. make a long story short, date and talk on the phone for at least 30 days to 6 months before you say "i love you" and sleep together (get VD checkup first). | |
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Posted: 10/21/2009 4:17:47 PM | Chalk it up to experience.
It is okay for everyone to judge, when they have been through it and have learned.
You haven't.
This is your learning. Don't listen to others, I wouldn't even ask others.
Fact is, in order to find our heart sometimes we need to weave our way into the darkness that sometimes threatens to swallow us whole, and then slowly rise back up into the light as the lessons unfold.
You did nothing wrong in letting go and believing, as you progress, you will learn to protect your heart by filtering your feelings with your mind. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2009 7:02:09 PM | NEVER NEVER NEVER let a man take up all your time until you're married (of course). No matter HOW crazy you are about the guy, I wouldn't see him more than 3 or 4 times a week - 4 tops
Don't spend hours on the phone with them, even if you want to & have nothing else to do - after 10 or 15 minutes - you're busy & have to go.
see .. once the angler gets the fish on the hook, he forgets that one & goes fishing for another ... but - if a fish slips off the hook, they'll obsess about that for days, go back to that spot with same or better bait & tackle. Don't give up too much of yourself in the beginning.. you have years for that later after you put the kids to bed 
go very slowly - tell him interesting things about yourself, let him 'discover' others but keep some mystery.
Be a 'creature like no other' and you'll blow ex-girlfriends out of the water
You have to let a man chase you ... until you catch him | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 7:05:09 AM | Op,
We all (women) are raised with the fairy tales of Sleeping Beauty, Snow White, Beauty and the Beast. The young girls are still being exposed to these tales today. Don't beat yourself up because of programming by society. Plus, we all want someone special in our lives.
As the other posters say, there will be someone worth your time. This guy just seems confused. | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 1:39:07 PM | Sorry Alicia,
He is now off reading that script to another hapless victim and I doubt it was the ex. Learn from it and never say "never," you have a ton of lifetime ahead of you. You are a beautiful young woman and lucky to have run into this creep so early in life. Making mistakes is OK, just don't start beating yourself up unless you are repeating mistakes. 
Repeat after me, "this is PLENTY of FISH" I am going fishing.
Repeat after me, "this is PLENTY of FISH" I am going fishing.
Repeat after me, "this is PLENTY of FISH" I am going fishing.
Repeat after me, "this is PLENTY of FISH" I am going fishing. | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 4:00:20 PM |
FriendlyFreeSpirit said, Sweetie, I'm sorry as well you've been hurt so badly.
I don't think you got played and I don't think you did the wrong thing by falling in love. I think all those older people telling you that you should know better are being harsh.
I agree too as you were ripe for the pickings as was the guy. Love sucks when the other has baggage unbeknownst to you but if you take it a little slower next time his suitcase might expose his true worth in the relationship.
op,they mean well at times with all the answers,[the old farts aka dr. laura's & uncle phil type's] are harsh, cuz they are stuck on the forums trying to understand their own fuzk-ups! lol
Don't worry op cuz you have so much more life to live without the third degree form the peanut gallery.
good luck and take it easy,but take it... | |
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Posted: 11/10/2009 2:05:24 PM | | My brother was 20 and his wife was 18 when they married and they are perfectly happy together. | |
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Posted: 11/12/2009 6:49:35 AM | | If any man ever told me I was his "soulmate" I would know he was saying whatever sounded good at the time. I would wonder why he was lying and what he wanted from me which would probably be sex. | |
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