| I find this site disheartening....
Posted: 11/1/2009 1:35:35 AM | You people sicken me. The OP was simply posting a thread unto how he dislikes some aspects of this site, and you all FLAME THE LIVING SHIT out of him because you just have the ability to let everyone and their brother know what is stuck up your asses because of this being a public forum and not a simple person-to-person message. What are you people all about? Do you just come home from a long and exhausting day at work just to sit your ass in a seat on your Mac and sign on here to get off to bashing other members' posts?? IT'S A FORUM. MEANING, (for those who lack the common sense to understand the purpose of it), TO POST A THREAD FOR ALL TO SEE AND REPLY ON. Not to just have a dictated subject pool to choose from and use. This isn't a ****ing smack-talk fest. It's a guy who has issues finding a women and is turning to a dating site but getting no luck because people like you all just have the nerve to be rude and inconsiderate.
Honestly, I agree with the OP. This site is really harsh. women have ultimate rule here in the long run, and it's the men fighting for who has the bigger****and the better qualities to offer. I message people in my area, which might I add is a FRACTION of what this guy gets in a search, and they either reply with a smart ass answer, (with any reply still being RARE), or leave the message to be Read and Deleted. Some even look at your profile, but throw the interest away like a crumbled paper ball. People are cruel here, but there are the few who are worth it.
However, this doesn't mean I don't see both sides. Most people who are ABLE to be contacted, this guy having a good 419. What makes you think that the 419 won't cut the amount to, sayyy, 7 because of uncommon interests or something similar that will ruin the compatibility??
My city is the same way; a decent amount able to be contacted, but what makes that amount so interesting if they all have NOTHING for me to be interested IN?? Given also, despite the town being a fair size, people still have that sense of living in a small VILLAGE, where everyone knows you, as well as the girls worth the effort are all taken by ass holes who don't deserve them. The rest are not what you may be looking for or total whores who will go out of THEIR WAY to cheat on you.
It all depends on a GREAT DEAL of factors, some varying upon where you live, and how the community is.
I am only throwing this on here due to people just annoying me with their BS posts about how this guy is annoying you by simply posting THE TRUTH.
Here's a suggestion; if you all have nothing better to do than find some poor soul on here who doesn't have the best luck in this department and just take a big smoldering dump on his parade, than I believe you will have JUST AS MUCH amusement wasting your lives by doing something just as efficient as eating a brick. Next time you have the undying urge to ruin someone's night by posting your drama, have consideration for who your dragging down. For all you know, your posts might have been read by this guy, and he might have been really unstable from a recent event in his personal life, leading ultimately to his own demise through suicide because of manic depression or something just as ridiculously horrible. DRILL THAT IN YOUR MINDS NEXT TIME.
You all annoy me like persistent mosquitoes. Go devour some pesticide and leave give this guy some mercy. | |
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| I find this site disheartening....
Posted: 11/1/2009 1:52:41 AM | Just IGNORE all of the TROllS that seem to have crawled out of the woodwork, as they ALWAYS do!!!
Yup I think that it's human to be disheartened at times in the search for that special someone...If it were that easy then there wouldn't be all of those books/songs/etc written about it, n'est-ce pas?!?!?
Anyways...this site is JUST a TOOL and NOT a guarantee...
I believe that meeting that "special person" relies on two people meeting at the "right place", and "the right time" and being the "right" people for each other...That can be a challenge and it's really a numbers game after all...the more people that you meet/ talk to, the better the chance to "click" with the right one...
You\re young though, don't get too discouraged. too quickly. and enjoy being a young single person for the moment...There ARE some advantages to THAT too ya know...
As for all of the "bitter Bettys and Crispy Critters" on here...They just have nothing better to do than to denigrate others for their VERY human feelings in order to make THEMSELVES feel (falsely) superior!!! | |
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| I find this site disheartening....
Posted: 11/1/2009 2:25:55 AM | I am far too exhausted and tired to understand, try to comprehend, or CARE if that was a "right there with you, champ" reply to my rant reply, or if it was an indirect and candy coated "Die Alone" reply. For all I know, it could have been all about something totally irrelevant. However, assuming it was the first option, AMEN TO THAT.
Like I stated previously, I am too tired to keep this explanation going of how people here pleasure me like a tasteless meal, mostly due to intake of alcohol from a failed halloween party, so I am going home, going to bed, and when I wake up, I am going to look back on how the negative pests on this site try to act like king shit on turd island.
Then I will probably just delete my profile and take eharmony up on their offer to help soon to be followed by real life effort and general social activity.
Goodnight world; i'm off to meet Kirby in Dreamland and envision the ones here who are cruel suffer the horrific and unworldly pain and agony of what my sub-conscious karmic thought has in store for them.
Die alone. Insects... | |
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| I find this site disheartening....
Posted: 11/1/2009 2:30:43 AM | I could say I find the site disheartening, but that would be in the attitudes I see displayed in the forums.
As far as meeting women, I would say none have been what they projected to be, few have even look like there photo's, one was 100 x's better looking in person... I have zero disrespect for any of them. All have been polite, on time. so no real let down's..
on the humours side. shortly after signing up here, late at night I get a mail. "hey baby you look like the guy I'm after " WTF ?? So we play . Turns out she drinking with a G/F , in the middle of a Divorce and in eastern Canada, We had fun BSing.
almost 4 yrs later we are still good friends, still I'm each other.. been through many ups and downs together. The cyber shoulder to cry on,, I really don't think there's been any lying between either of us, There no reason to, We will never meet. After about two yrs she did want to take her vacation and come here. I told her NO. It hurt her feeling, I explain why, I 'm 10 yrs older, we live two different lives. and other things I do need to post here . She didn't talk to me for at least three months, but came back understanding what I said..
I wonder how many women ... sit and wonder if they read and delete ,, There dream guy right out of there lives, Because he was honest and didn't try to seduce her with words ? | |
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| I find this site disheartening....
Posted: 11/1/2009 8:45:57 AM | | I've just started here. The thread forum isn't very comforting. There are quite a bit of jaded posters not sure why that is. Perhaps it's easier to dump insecurities here on a thread. | |
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| I find this site disheartening....
Posted: 11/1/2009 9:10:28 AM | | Yeah I feel the same way. As a guy if you put forth a lot of effort send out quality emails and try going the extra mile it does nothing towards getting any replies, let alone a real date. The only sane solution as a man is to make a profile and sit back and wait for women to contact you. If you feel like contacting a woman on your own just send emails to the new users as they are not jaded yet. The problem is people aren't willing to invest in each other. You really aren't going to get a good idea about someone until you meet them. Instead everyone throws up barriers(deal breakers) and makes you jump through hoops(lots of email, IMs, texting, phone calls, etc) to do so. All that effort and time would be better spent going on dates. That's the whole point of the site isn't it? | |
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| I find this site disheartening....
Posted: 11/1/2009 9:35:58 AM | Yep, I'm there.
I have no hope of finding anyone on here. Betta luck in real life.
And I was sooo addicted to the forums!
When I jump into these things I jump in first.
And finally, I think I'm wearing myself down. That's a good thing. I'm tired of seeing my own name all time ... so I'm sure other's are too.
I might tone it. Limit it. Try too anyway.
Life. | |
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| I find this site disheartening....
Posted: 11/1/2009 12:48:33 PM | Do you actively read all the profiles and reach out to others? If not, then you are waiting for others to make your life more interesting, instead of extending yourself to others to make the first move, so to speak.
Perhaps your expectations of this website need revising. Eastern philosophy teaches that if one has strong expectations, one is likely to be sad and disappointed. Just treat each new experience as an opportunity to learn something about the world, and you won't be so disappointed if a date doesn't turn into a romance. Perhaps this veiled sadness is turning off other people? Not sure.
Judith | |
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| I find this site disheartening....
Posted: 11/1/2009 5:23:56 PM | the net is not only tool to meet someone, you can still do real life and join a couple of interest groups like meetup.com.
i honestly prefer meeting people in real life rather than spending the time on the net. | |
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| I find this site disheartening....
Posted: 11/1/2009 6:20:25 PM | Man u are late with finding out how "sad" this site is! Thank GOD for the forums... I would NEVER be on here!! That's all it is: a DATING site!! Dating as casual dating or perhaps sex BUT no real serious intents!! POF (Plenty of Flakes) is great for fakes, flakes, serial daters and LOSERS I mean people looking for love (OOPS I forgot "dating")!!
I'm still curious at what some of these "candy store shoppers" were doing before POF??!! Maybe they need to resort to the "old ways" of doing things a little bit since this site so "disheartening"
Don't waste too much of ur time looking for anything serious on here.... There are too many women outside this site (since I heard men out number women on here) and chances your are BETTER.... (trust me)!!
GOOD Luck and Stay Thristy My Friend | |
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| I find this site disheartening....
Posted: 11/2/2009 4:05:49 PM | nmaccari,
Here's my story: I spent just over a year on this site, I had another user name then, at first I wasn't getting a lot of messages, but the more I logged on.. the more messages I got... unfortunately, those guys turned out to be...less than savory.. I closed off my first account, and thought seriously about giving up, just forgetting about this site. I mean, it's not like I had problems meeting people, just never had the time to go out, plus I was from a smaller city, so the pickings were quite slim.. So I decided to give it another try... right now I'm in a loving relationship with an amazing man... we met off of here, and we've been seeing eachother for about 5 months, those three words have been shared and things couldn't be better... so basically I'm trying to tell you not to give up... if I didn't have my account I wouldn't have met him... and I know you can meet your perfect girl too... so good luck hun! <3 | |
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| I find this site disheartening....
Posted: 11/2/2009 8:58:25 PM | | I am starting think guys are always looking for the next best thing when doing the online dating thing. I had a great relationship going on from this site (I thought) and found out he was continuing to look and keeping me on the string. It has not soured me though. I guess something like that can happen when you put yourself out there. | |
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| I find this site disheartening....
Posted: 11/2/2009 9:51:15 PM | Over 95% of my first dates are with women I meet in RL. I hang out on this and another dating site but have not tried dating from an internet site for two years. The primary reason is most of the women I met from dating sites had lied about their ages or their body weights. It was mostly a vast waste of time although I did meet a few women who worked out for a while.
Since I prefer to date women a good deal younger I do far better in RL. Women on dating sites seem to be looking for younger men to men no more than five years older than the age they lie about being. | |
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| I find this site disheartening....
Posted: 11/3/2009 10:45:20 AM |
I think that it may be time for me to delete my profile and maybe try to find meet and greet type of events instead. Or join some type of club.
Does anyone else feel the same way?
IMO you would be doing yourself a great injustice by using POF as your only means of meeting others. The more you are involved with the more likely you are to meet someone that you might share a mutual attraction. Groups that offer social activities are the best. Join a bowling league. A pool league. A softball league. Just show up where they play and watch and see how fast you are invited into the group. Who cares if you are any good at it. They usually have openings for all abilities. If you are a religious person, churches often have socail activities and fun raisers. Ooops that was suppose to be fund raisers, but fun raisers sounds good too. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 11:21:14 AM | Amen Brother....
What baffles me is I cant count how many women Ive talked too and everything was perfect they would tell me how exceptional I am and Im so different than most guys Im handsome etc etc etc.. than out of the clear blue they disapear or lose interest...
Ya maybe some found someone else but I know thats not true for all the cases, I also know Im a Good catch I know Im attractive to most women...
So it does raise suspicion not only to if this sites legit but also makes you wonder if the women on here have half a brain..lol | |
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| I find this site disheartening....
Posted: 11/3/2009 8:07:36 PM | Seriously....I think some put too much stock in thinking they are going to actually find "the one" and/or "true love" via online dating sites (whether that be paid or free). But let's face it, that ever elusive product is something that can not be ordered up, neatly packaged, and delivered to us express mail, via the world wide web.
harleyhotty you hit the nail on the head square and true.
Too many people have an image in their head of what they want in a mate. That image is a fantasy and not likely to be realized. When after emailing and a talk or two on the phone a pair decides to meet, if either one of them has fantasized of the other as to what their date is like, that person is setting them-self up for disappointment cuz their date is not their fantasy.
I think this progresses to a point that the fantasizer no longer thinks of on line dating as serious, and then only believes it good as entertainment. Then they end up wasting the time of serious people and miss out on a better life for themselves - sammiman | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 8:49:02 PM | eharmany I understand is a scam. I paid singlesnet for a month and they took my money and did not upgrade my account. another site sent me computer generated email from women that wanted to date me as soon as I paid to up grade my account so I could email back to them they all disappeared and I never received another email from anyone. so don't put alot of hope in the pay sites
perfectstxrm, keep that chin of your's up! know that the cruel are also mindless. they know not what they do to themselves by being cruel to others, of how they destroy their own future, and they certainly don't realize that they have become just like the people they hate. they only know that dumping on you or anyone they can makes them feel better about themselves for a while. they are shallow and pitiful.
DON'T LET THE HEARTLESS IMBECILES CHANGE YOU understand them and rise above their petty ways sticking to your own beliefs and convictions you will look down on the cruel with forgiving eyes and the satisfaction that you are a better person than they could ever dream of being. in a nut shell "misery loves company" don't fall into their game of hate, in that game there are no winners
In the words of Dr M L King and Gandy and many more all the way back to Jesus Christ,
Hate makes for more hate
Love makes for more love
Hate can not stop hate
only love can stop hate
Look up the full version I can't remember it all but the point is to keep love in your heart and be your own man as hard as it will be at times remember to get revenge is to lower yourself down to a lesser person's level.
Once you have the confidence in yourself as your own man the women will beat down your door to be f---ed by you- sammiman | |
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| I find this site disheartening....
Posted: 11/3/2009 9:15:57 PM |
I've just started here. The thread forum isn't very comforting. There are quite a bit of jaded posters not sure why that is. Perhaps it's easier to dump insecurities here on a thread.
Oh I wouldn't worry too much about them. You will learn who the always negative and bitter people are and also who the people who's opinion you have grown to respect. I have already given most of the regulars nicknames such as a cartoon character. After awhile you get to a point of reading posts from certain people and ignoring those of some others.
In the end you will find that you might actually learn something and that mixed in with all of the garbage are some very special treasures to be discovered. | |
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| I find this site disheartening....
Posted: 11/3/2009 9:40:06 PM | | Yep. I feel the same way. I'm only here because there is some interesting insight in the forums mixed in with the uncalled-for vitriolic bitterness. | |
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| I find this site disheartening....
Posted: 11/3/2009 11:41:54 PM | | I have never seen so much random, free-floating hostility and nastiness as I have on POF. I have no idea why. But I am glad at least one other person noticed. | |
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| I find this site disheartening....
Posted: 11/4/2009 6:08:31 AM | Yes you can get to the point where you can't swing a dead cat without getting either a lot of emails or a couple of emails FROM THE WRONG ONES.
So it's not the site that is disheartening, rather the qualities you have on your profile that are attracting the wrong ones is what is at issue. ( or the issues of the one's attracted to you lol )
If you have a stable life, a positive outlook and you are not attracting interest how can you blame yourself for that or this site? | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 7:48:01 AM | I agree with you 'PerfectStxrm"
What ever happened to having a conversation on these boards. I find it funny people posting rude things that they would never say to a person in a face to face conversation that they just met.
At least I hope they would never say it face to face. Social graces often elude many on these boards. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 8:07:58 AM | | If your happy and single and enjoying life and not looking, usually the woman will find you! more often than not she wouldnt even be from this website. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 8:45:24 AM |
If your happy and single and enjoying life and not looking, usually the woman will find you! more often than not she wouldnt even be from this website. i find thats so true, when youre not often looking. | |
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