| Am I about to be dumped?
Posted: 9/19/2009 7:36:34 AM |
So you're saying you withheld information about something from your past for a full 5 weeks. Is that deceitful, dishonest, evasive or is it simply lying? Why did it take you 5 weeks to decide to be honest?
Oh for cryin out loud!
Perhaps it took him that long to feel like he could trust her with this info?
The thing about our personal info is this.. it's PERSONAL. To do with it what WE please and WHEN. You are no one to decide for others when personal info should be shared and you've absolutely no reason to give someone grief over their time frame. If the guy had NO integrity at all, he'd never have told her whatever the history was.
Some people take this "be honest" thing to completely ridiculous levels and forget that they aren't "hall monitors".
Say it with me now:
"YOU DO NOT DECIDE FOR PEOPLE"
I know you can do it.
And to the people asking him what his secret was.. you ought to be ashamed of yourselves. It's none of our business. He obviously felt is might be the business of this woman he's interested in, but if he didn't post it here... it's really crass to ask him what it was. | |
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| Am I about to be dumped?
Posted: 9/19/2009 7:43:53 AM | | ^^^^^^^^ Posts like the above help to restore my faith that some women actually use their brain. | |
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| Am I about to be dumped?
Posted: 9/19/2009 8:01:08 AM |
The thing about our personal info is this.. it's PERSONAL
O'rlly ? Personal huh? Then that's how you get dumped!
I hate stupid people who think they can change someone's mind if they can make them invest some time (waste, more like it) - trying to sell their dirty laundry...
There was a herpes thread somewhere.... same thing... disrespectful people choose to hide it until they feel comfortable... WTF! ?? !
I want to know if you have a BUG right after the first friggin MAIL ! - not right before I kiss you.... (after wasting months and countless dates ) ....
Would you like to learn if your potential match was in prison ? killed someone ? ...
stole money ? or he is HIV +. ??? before the first meet ? would you huh ?
or would you like him to wait (make you invest monthssss into a no good relationship) until he's comfortable enough to share ?
He should have known better ...bah! - good that she dumped him.... | |
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| Am I about to be dumped?
Posted: 9/19/2009 8:40:38 AM |
Would you like to learn if your potential match was in prison ? killed someone ? ...
stole money ? or he is HIV +. ??? before the first meet ? would you huh ?
Stupid comments.. Sorry. The OP said it wasn't bad, it was just personal history. We're not talking about diseases here.
And even if we were, while I wouldn't endanger a guy's life... MY business is MY business, until *I* decide otherwise... especially the bits that WON'T affect the other person in the grand scheme of things, if privacy is foreign to you, then I suggest some serious problems on your part.
In fact.. I can almost see them glaring out at me from your post. | |
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| Am I about to be dumped?
Posted: 9/19/2009 8:54:09 AM |
The OP said it wasn't bad, it was just personal history. We're not talking about diseases here.
How do you know ?
It may not be "bad" to him... (and probably that's why he thought it'd be ok to hide it for a while)
Go to herpes thread...that's exactly what they say over there too... My business! My privacy!..... yeah BS!
MY business is MY business, until *I* decide otherwise especially the bits that WON'T affect the other person in the grand scheme of things
Who are you to decide what affects who in what way ? You have NO right to decide for anyone else.... You have to give them the option right at the begining. and let them decide!
Privacy is for people who hide things. I have nothing to hide. My closet is EMPTY...
Obviously yours is quite full.... YIKES!  | |
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| Am I about to be dumped?
Posted: 9/19/2009 10:33:43 AM | Hmm, what is the Big Secret?
The terms "sex change" and "one inch cut" are coming to mind.
Probably one of those. | |
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| Am I about to be dumped?
Posted: 9/19/2009 3:56:25 PM |
Who are you to decide what affects who in what way ? You have NO right to decide for anyone else....
My life is private. If it's my info we're talking about here.. and we're talking about past history here (re-read the OP, if you doubt me).. then you're god damned right *I* decide. Have you forgotten that it is past history we're talking about here? You must've to keep making such incredibly dumb demands that people tell you EVERYTHING.
Since I obviously have to repeat it for the dense... I would not endanger anyone, but I am the ONLY person alive who gets to decide what I share and what I don't.
So who am I? The person to whom the damned info belongs in the first place. Duh.. why is this even a debate?
Privacy is for people who hide things.
Such complete bull. Privacy is for people who like to keep to themselves to a degree. Privacy is for ANYONE. The idea you present is a cop out and a shaming technique for anyone who dares tell you "mind yer beeswax". You must be one of those busy-bodies the way you're going on about this.. insisting people tell you crap that's none of your concern.
Strangely, anybody thinking people have no right to privacy invariably will also claim that they have nothing to hide, thus what is the big deal about privacy anyway. Sorry... this is NOT a valid argument as to why I should have to tell everyone I meet everything about me upon the instant I meet them because I somehow OWE them my personal info. None of which is terribly interesting or salacious anyway.
I understand about keeping folks out of harms way, but anyone telling me I ought to be an open book cause I've NO RIGHT to privacy can essentially just get bent.
Obviously yours is quite full.... YIKES!
Ahh.. the accusation based on nothing more than my belief in privacy. As stupid as the rest of your comments have been so far and so issue laden, I'm almost truly shocked. | |
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| Am I about to be dumped?
Posted: 9/19/2009 6:40:00 PM | Your arguments are getting dumber....
Nobody said you don't have the right to privacy, of course you do. But when you get DAS BOOT.... don't come here and ask "what happened ? "
Just because you think it's no big deal (whatever you're hiding).... don't expect everybody else to feel that way about the suject matter (whatever it is) ...
He tells you, well into the relationship " oh honey...I killed 5 men and 2 women, and I got away with it... but it's all in the past now... I am a "changed man" .... how would you feel !?
Right to privacy my azz. Again god knows what kind of dirty stuff you're hiding in that closet.... or anybody who thinks the way you do for that matter... 
BTW, I had a dumb broad just like that... A young woman in college. She decided to hide the fact that she used to be a stripper (and a part time call girl) - when she finally came clean ( 4 months into the realtionship) , she exactly said that "oh it's all in the past now " ..... again past my azz!
"I don't go to bed with no whore, and I don't wake up with no whore.That's how I live with myself."
-Wallstreet
I wasted 4 precious months for her... and the sad part, I was about to fall for her...yikkesss!
So, when you say privacy, I say " go kiss yourself, and have nice life"  | |
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| Am I about to be dumped?
Posted: 9/19/2009 7:39:00 PM |
Your arguments are getting dumber....
Odd, I was thinking that about you.
But when you get DAS BOOT.... don't come here and ask "what happened ? "
Um.. when did I do that? I don't EVER ask for advice here. Psst.. this isn't MY thread.
Again god knows what kind of dirty stuff you're hiding in that closet.... or anybody who thinks the way you do for that matter...
You obviously CAN'T read. My life is quite dull. I already went over my closet. Keep up.
So, when you say privacy, I say " go kiss yourself, and have nice life
And I say you have issues GALORE, but that's your business. Just oughta think about maybe making them a little less obvious. | |
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| Am I about to be dumped?
Posted: 9/19/2009 9:06:48 PM | Privacy is for people who hide things. I have nothing to hide. My closet is EMPTY...
Haha, the "Nothing to Hide" argument, aka "if you're hiding something you must be a filthy terrist". Let me guess, you voted for Bush twice. In the miniscule case you want to educate yourself, google for "privacy have nothing to hide".
I wasted 4 precious months for her... and the sad part, I was about to fall for her...yikkesss!
Hope you don't believe in Karma.. I'd pay to see your stupid face being dumped out of the blue for some irrelevant BS and didn't think that might offend someone as stuck up as you years after the fact. | |
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| Am I about to be dumped?
Posted: 10/5/2009 10:49:45 PM |
I was on a Coffee Date with an old friend....
This is a very common notice - you've been dumped.
There was no coffee and the deed has been done - so your toast.....
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