| Cell phones and the first date
Posted: 9/28/2009 6:13:59 PM | | The problem with this world is we're too busy waiting for the one we WANT to call to the point we miss who is in front of us. | |
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| Cell phones and the first date
Posted: 9/28/2009 6:14:59 PM | | That being said... if she doesn't have kids or a sick parent, she shouldn't be checking her phone when we're trying to talk. Deal-breaker. | |
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| Cell phones and the first date
Posted: 9/28/2009 6:29:24 PM | | OP: Very rude, and the ONLY reasons this is acceptable is if children are involved/for emergency reasons or work-related. Otherwise, it should be on vibrate and away! | |
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| Cell phones and the first date
Posted: 9/29/2009 2:54:27 AM | | I do leave it on vibrate and excuse myself to go to the bathroom a few minutes later and then answer my calls. After a few dates or a comfort level with a girl I do answer my cell phone most of the time but I keep the calls brief and I will then discuss my friend or family member who called and say something to the effect that you have to meet this guy he is a pisser. It kind of indicates that you have a warm relationship with your friends and that you kind of see a future with your date cause you want them to meet your friends. | |
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| Cell phones and the first date
Posted: 9/29/2009 7:35:25 AM | | I was just having a discussion about this with my friend the other day, we both have had this happen to us, went on a date and the man was checking his phone constantly. She said she was going to post a rant about a missed connection, because even though he was sitting across from her, they seemed to have missed each other since he was spending more time with his cell than he was with her. | |
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| Cell phones and the first date
Posted: 10/9/2009 4:50:33 PM | UHH Does this bring back bad memories. Recently did a first meet, nice day in the park, talked at the park bench, there it was a text. We were having a half decent conversation, decided to walk a 1 1/2 running track around park. Halfway around the track dude got this phone call and about half way through talked on the phone for about 7 to 10 min. I dropped off to talked to someone just to give him the privacy and yes probably to relieve myself from the trying to ascertain who this was. (sinking to his level) . He continued on a little ways or at least 4 to 5 min. After he got off , he apologized as he was expecting someone who apparently "came to soon" and needed directions. If the meet and greet was going good before it most certainly was not after that. Was I suppose to be as turned off by the matter ? Couldn't wait to get back to the car and continue my day elswhere. He might have had company coming but that was just rude. Short phone call alright, only human. 10 min. Retarded. I wish I had worn my tennis so I could have  back to my car. LOL | |
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| Cell phones and the first date
Posted: 10/9/2009 5:24:42 PM |
I'm going to leave mine at home next time I go out. I kind of like the idea of being able to feel like I'm not wearing pants even when I have them on. I'll make sure it's a warm enough day and I'm not expecting an important call.
 Good one!  | |
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| Cell phones and the first date
Posted: 10/9/2009 5:45:10 PM | | Unless your date is someone's doctor, someone's lawyer, or somone's parole officer, there's no reason he ought to be checking his phone every time it makes a noise. I don't know why people do stuff like this. However, I suspect part of the problem is that cell phones are still relatively new, and cell phone etiquette is still in the process of developing. Maybe another 10 years will solve this problem. | |
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| Cell phones and the first date
Posted: 10/9/2009 6:56:54 PM | Yeah he was a couple yrs younger,
I am thinking that was it, I don't usually see
mature men doing this.
10 yrs will be talking on our wrist phones
wearing them like a watch looking at who your
talking to, unless of course your on a date and you don't want her/him
to know then it just has a blank screen, incognito, voicedial the number, talk
walk ahead a few paces, who knew? Hey that's here already.
First date or Any date. | |
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| Cell phones and the first date
Posted: 10/9/2009 7:00:13 PM | | Honey, I'm so sorry, but people just aren't as respectful and courteous as they should be in formal settings anymore. I'd keep my cellphone off if dating you. Hmm.. that's an idea! I'll break the cycle for you. jk | |
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| Cell phones and the first date
Posted: 10/9/2009 8:25:07 PM | Hey Rod that so nice of you, but actually I'm afraid of men in there 20's LOL 
Lets see it wouldn't be the cell phone ..... what other difficulties might a 27yr and 45yr old incurr. Haven't tested those lines of communication either. LOL | |
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| Cell phones and the first date
Posted: 10/9/2009 10:33:48 PM | Rude. I dont like it.
Most cell-phones have caller-ID, so surely the user can glance at the caller ID to know iof its the sitter or job or whatnot.
I would walk right off the date. | |
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| Cell phones and the first date
Posted: 10/10/2009 2:52:15 AM | Before you walk out, just grab your cell phone and pretend that someone called you before you started your date but you didn't know cause you were busy looking for your date.
Then, just make up a phone conversation so your date can hear, "Hi mom (Bill, Jane, whoever), I am sorry I didn't answer your call earlier. I am on a date, and yea I know it would be rude to answer the phone during the date"
Add whatever creative stuff you want. You could also start making farting noises and such to add suspense, http://www.thepooter.com/
If you ordered your meal and ate it, just walk then. It's on them.
If you haven't noticed, I never answer my phone. There are also ample times when your date will use the restroom, you could if you had to use the cell phone then. I don't use the cell phone as a tether, but more as a message box. I reply when the time is convenient for both, otherwise the other person won't even know I have it with me. | |
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| Cell phones and the first date
Posted: 10/10/2009 8:52:43 AM |
I do leave it on vibrate and excuse myself to go to the bathroom a few minutes later and then answer my calls. After a few dates or a comfort level with a girl I do answer my cell phone most of the time but I keep the calls brief and I will then discuss my friend or family member who called and say something to the effect that you have to meet this guy he is a pisser.
Now that's fine, IMO, as long as your date is comfortable with it, and clearly you're making sure that that is the case. Recently someone I'd dated a couple of times asked if I minded if he took an incoming call while we were finishing up dinner. We were very easy with each other and I said, "Sure, go ahead," certain that he'd keep it brief and not seriously interrupt our time together. And he did.
Unfortunately, he also made the cardinal mistake of saying "Nothing," when asked what he was doing... fortunately, it wound up funny. I gave him A Look, and he quickly amended, "Actually, I'm on a date" (at which I started laughing - his "Oh, no" expression was priceless). Sweet man, though, he genuinely didn't mean it dismissively, it was just automatic. | |
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| Cell phones and the first date
Posted: 10/11/2009 7:21:43 PM |  Well, are you dating the mayor/alderman someone like that, who's expected too be able to answer calls frequently? I understand the feeling, been there. Some people are rude that way. But in todays connected world, sometimes you haveto be able to make compromises on things like that. | |
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| Cell phones and the first date
Posted: 10/11/2009 8:37:28 PM | | Ya its poor dating behavior but some people dont know proper edicate on dates who have cell phones. What can you do to help stop it, say its a fact that "men who utilize cell phones on dates at resturants statistically get less sex in a lifetime". That sould send a message. | |
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| Cell phones and the first date
Posted: 10/11/2009 9:24:55 PM | I agree with the safety issue of responding at least once to let your point of contacts know you are ok.
I also agree to a point that if it is your children or family member you take care of, by all means take the call.....but to a point....
Endless calling and taking calls to "them" mean if they are THAT much of a priority (and I understand they are) then you need to quit farting around with your damn phone and haul yourself home to take care of business.
Or you need to haul yourself by the seat of your balls and tell me honestly that you want to leave. It's the first date. I've never crumbled yet. | |
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| Cell phones and the first date
Posted: 10/11/2009 10:28:47 PM | usually I put my phone away, but I like to know the time (I'm somewhat obsessive compulsive). Also, I am always on call for my job with 12 hours notice so sometimes I HAVE to answer the phone, does not mean I want to.
ummm...here's a thought, wear a watch!! | |
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| Cell phones and the first date
Posted: 10/20/2009 5:25:17 AM | my phone goes on silent on the first date... well, most dates actually.
i like to devote my full attention to that person.
if i feel it vibrate, i might check who it was when I/they go to the bathroom, but otherwise it's rude. | |
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| Cell phones and the first date
Posted: 10/20/2009 6:03:45 AM | I think it's extremely rude to pay attention to your phone if you're with *anybody* one-on-one, let alone a date.
If you are expecting an emergency call (from the babysitter, for example), you should tell your date at the beginning "I'm so sorry and I don't mean to be rude, but if my phone rings, it may just be the babysitter. Do you mind if I leave it on?". At least he then knows what to expect at the worst. | |
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| Cell phones and the first date
Posted: 10/20/2009 8:14:14 AM | During a date: turn that damn phone OFF!
I've always wondered why people bring their fuc.king cell phone to the gym and spend 1/5 of their time there talking in it. Can't they possibly spend 1-2 hours of 24 hours without it? Who can be so important? Nobody. The same applies when you're dating somebody. You either focus on the person you've just met or you don't. | |
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| Cell phones and the first date
Posted: 10/20/2009 11:10:34 AM | | If you are dating a MD it is necessary for them to check messages. Otherwise turn them off and if you have a week when you can't turn it off due to your job don't do a first date that week. Nothing worse than phone calls on a first date and I really don't care for it on any dates. I go on a date the first thing I do when we get there is take my phone out and turn it off in front of her and she usually does the same. If you got kids tell the person watching them where you are and to only call if it is an emergency. | |
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| Cell phones and the first date
Posted: 10/20/2009 11:15:14 AM | | I work as a 2nd level supervisor at a manufacturing plant and carry my work phone they provide for me everywhere.. I make many decisions every day and night and so I do get calls or text messages at all hours, but I agree with most..constantly checking your phone whether it be a man or woman is very distracting and rude...I try to keep it to a ocassional check, when going to the bathroom or convienient times.. | |
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