PiggyT
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| | Girlfriend going on holiday with her male friend.Page 4 of 7 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7) | Basically, I would not be cool with this. DO I have to go into the why's?? It doesn't strike me as the kind of thing that a SO should be doing with someone of the opposite sex.
That's it in a nutshell. Call me insecure or whatever label you want, but it just doesn't sit right with me. I would not tell her anything but the truth and let the chips fall. | |
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| Girlfriend going on holiday with her male friend.
Posted: 9/20/2009 6:22:55 PM | [/she already told me im being like a control freak when i took her away from a guy after i saw them dancing together in a dirty dancing type fashion.i.e. her butt wiggling on his groin.]
Ok this is not real man you are starting to seem like your pulling our leg here. How gullible can a person bee. | |
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| Girlfriend going on holiday with her male friend.
Posted: 9/20/2009 6:32:18 PM | If your insecurities and sadness have increased due to reading these posts, and you can no longer stand it, stop reading them. You've had enough, you're done.
Go take a rest, stop thinking about these posts.
Talk to your gf when she comes home.
(consider some advice that's been laid out here, some could have merit when talking with her. Plan on what you're going to say). | |
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| Girlfriend going on holiday with her male friend.
Posted: 9/20/2009 6:43:01 PM | yeah that kinda doesnt sit right with me.
i know he/she is basically comitting fraud to his company.. and i know what company he works for.. but i still dont know if shes cheating on me. | |
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| Girlfriend going on holiday with her male friend.
Posted: 9/20/2009 6:48:27 PM | No evidence of cheating at all!!!!!
The below post.... Are you still at the age of 50 believe that a man with a large penis can keep a girl around and it is his tool for success? I bet many men with an average size (15-17 cm) can be o.k. with ladies.
Why to addres this C*** to a poor OP who already is worriesd, It is a sensitive subject to many men and I wouldn't be doing it with the OP. I think it kinda not nice.... | |
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Posted: 9/20/2009 6:55:17 PM | Its normal to wonder if there's more. I would say 9 times out of 10, when a man and woman are friends, one of them wants to take it to another level. I have one very good male friend (who would love to be more if I liked him that way), and I am friends with one male (who I wish wanted more)..its the nature of the beast I guess..but it is possible from her point of view that they are and only ever will be platonic.
Go with the gut.. watch her actions and if she doesnt want to introduce you guys or avoids talking to you on her cell when she's with him then I'd say she might like him more than she's letting on. | |
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Posted: 9/20/2009 6:56:28 PM | therein lies my problem. one hand she says she likes/loves me, then she does other things like dance with other guys in a very seductive sexy manner, and goes to trips with a long established male friend who pays for it all.
it all points to her being the someone i shouldnt go out with the first place and shouldve ditched sometime ago, but on the other hand some part of me says it may not be so.. so i really need to know for sure, but i just have no means of finding out.. argh | |
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| Girlfriend going on holiday with her male friend.
Posted: 9/20/2009 7:08:58 PM | london,
do you want to know whats going on with them? ok here it is - they are not screwing however he has a crush on her and she is taking advantage of that. she's not spiritually evolved enough to know that one doesn't exploit these type of opportunities and expect there to be no repercussions. she's going to lose you - the guy she wants to date and be with. you are obviously sensitive and will not be able to handle her lack of character for long, and if you do it will be a turbullent relationship. ok? got it? they are not being romantic but she is probably stringing him along in one way or another. relax and get a good nights sleep. then get over it and look inside and ask yourself "do i deserve this kind of crap"? | |
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Posted: 9/20/2009 7:21:27 PM | The OP has fallen under her spell and allows himself to be manipulated by her. Why? Because she knows how to use jealousy to stir desire. She is really pulling your strings, like your a ****in' puppet. You gave her a license to walk all over you and you willingly signed off on the papers yourself. The reason why you tolerate this behavior is beyond me - I mean, she obviously does not respect your feelings. Either tell yourself that this has to stop, or continue to suffer - your choice. I give up because your so drawn in like a hypnotized douche bag and continue to defend her and her 'friend'. Defend yourself, because right now your unarmed and your so-called relationship is on the rocks.  | |
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| Girlfriend going on holiday with her male friend.
Posted: 9/20/2009 7:22:02 PM | Op don't worry about it. This is just a platonic friend, and she really loves
you and only you 
but on the other hand some part of me says it may not be so. but i just have
no means of finding out.. argh .
What you need pictures Video, I guess your just Naive or totally out of touch
with reality. I know she is and has gotten banged by many others that your still
clueless about. Probably has made a few pron Videos 2 on 1 as so many millions
of north American woman have.
I`m not even with her and by all the stuff you go on Whining about
her 
then she does other things like dance with other guys in a very seductive
sexy manner, and goes to trips with a long established male friend who
pays for it all.
So this woman has no respect for you, Sluts around and your still as blind
as a Bat in the day time.
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Posted: 9/20/2009 7:29:40 PM |
she needs to tell him to buy another ticket for you. it needs to be clarified that you are her other half, she would love to go but only if you are invited.
Since this is suppose to be a company paid holiday, wouldn't that just be a hoot if boyfriend came along too.
I can just see the bosses face when he introduces OP and his girlfriend as his "Significant Others".  | |
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| Girlfriend going on holiday with her male friend.
Posted: 9/20/2009 7:36:19 PM | | I think this guy wants her to say at least. He is looking for some privacy with her by having a nice vocation. I think she is opened to him and enjoys a little romance and sexual activity. It looks to be that he tries to win her by buying gifts and taking trips and looks like he is having some success. He knows how to ride the madam. | |
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| Girlfriend going on holiday with her male friend.
Posted: 9/20/2009 7:56:47 PM | There are a number of red flags that would let me run for the hills, if it was my SO.
Dirty dancing with another in front of me? Going on vacations and having stuff bought by a 'friend'? Not cool. Disrespectful. So, just because he has more money than you it's ok for her to accept everything?
Now, I do have to say, that you are in the UK. Having grown up in Germany, I know that European relationships between men and Women are very different than in the U.S., and I believe most of the posters here are in the U.S./Canada. I had a bunch of platonic male friends in Germany and it was perfectly normal. In the U.S. it seems that there always seems to be some kind of sexual/romantic overtones when men and women are relating with each other. So, please keep that in mind when you're reading the answers here.
I don't know how the times have changed in that regards in Europe. I know I couldn't handle your situation now, but maybe I've been in the U.S. too long. | |
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Posted: 9/20/2009 8:25:47 PM | | Hey OP...I know this is no joking matter for you so I am going to tell you of my experience with a very good male friend. He and I went to Mexico together and we had a blast...as FRIENDS~! Yes, it is possible for men and women to be just friends. NO, he was not gay! If she wanted him, why would she be with you. If she has known this guy for several years as you indicated..then she sees him as a friend, nothing more. Not sure why we haven't figured out that yes men and women can be "Just Friends" with no strings attached. Your woman is with you and yes maybe on her part it isnt' too cool to leave you home. Personally, I would have taken you along as well. Did you even suggest that? | |
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| Girlfriend going on holiday with her male friend.
Posted: 9/20/2009 8:37:34 PM | Seems to me at the very best he has a girlfriend who doesn't respect him or herself...
Let's face it, most women have enough self respect to say, "Sorry, I'm now in a relationship, it wouldn't be appripriate to accept this trip with you..."
But it seems her focus is the guy gives her gifts and a trip etc....
I see "gold digger" written all over this....
I know a few people who went on platonic trips together.... Funny how when the guy tells the story they slept in the same bed, the woman always says it was separate beds or "he was a gentleman and slept on he couch" or some such variation.... | |
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Posted: 9/20/2009 8:46:35 PM | | If her friend was a gay man...then I would say sure...let her go and don't question her about it. But I honestly think at the very least this is a situation that most woman wouldn't even dare to do to their boyfriend. I would tell her that it's unacceptable, and if she doesn't call it off then you now her "friend" is more important to her than you are. | |
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Posted: 9/20/2009 10:11:01 PM | | Hummmmmmm so if she went on holidays with a gal friend would that be ok? Look out they might be into each other..what it all comes down to is TRUST ..if you don't feel that you can trust her in your heart, then its time to move on. If she has never before ever given you any reason do doubt her..then why now? | |
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Posted: 9/20/2009 10:27:25 PM |
Now, I do have to say, that you are in the UK. Having grown up in Germany, I know that European relationships between men and Women are very different than in the U.S., and I believe most of the posters here are in the U.S./Canada. I had a bunch of platonic male friends in Germany and it was perfectly normal. In the U.S. it seems that there always seems to be some kind of sexual/romantic overtones when men and women are relating with each other. So, please keep that in mind when you're reading the answers here.
Yeah thats true about US relationships. Most guys imo are not good at talking to women so they do the whole friend thing hoping that that will get them noticed eventually. Thats why I don't like the idea of my so doing much with people of the opposite sex (with a few exceptions of course). I don't want to hear I was drunk or any other excuse if something happens its over. | |
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