| Borderline Personality Disorder Posted: 11/6/2009 1:10:56 PM | I think you might want to get therapy for yourself and find out why you, at 22 years old, are embroiled in such a no-win situation. Is he the man you want for the father of your children? Are you going to subject your future children to extreme heartache and tears, mostly hell, cheating, lying, and just outright everything evil, etc.?
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| Borderline Personality Disorder Posted: 11/8/2009 3:30:41 PM | I spent a few years on the message board of the website BPD.com. I was able to finally speak to others about there experiences with those with BPD. All in all, I have to agree with the post, in which the above poster said that they do change, they just get worse and worse! That was the case for me and my past marriage, She got worse as time passed.
For me, now understanding this disorder, and how it works in the affected individual, And of how it affects a Non, well I am a Non, who thought that I was the crazy one a lot of the time. However with therapy, and removing myself from the BPD, I am now back and living in the land of Kansas, but I paid dearly to get out of the land of OZ.
For me, it goes like this, when I met and married, I was lacking a real awareness of who I was getting married to, because she hid her mental illness so well. However the disorder did rear its ugly head, and by then, I was totally confused about how I felt and thought, I was caught up in her twisted reality, and stayed that way for close to 20 years of my life, until I could no longer live with the pain and confusion that comes with a relationship with a BPD.
If they have no intention of helping themselves, then I have NO intention of putting up with Their Stuff. No reason for me to put myself through a meat grinder on a daily basis in the name of love, especially when a BPD lacks any real idea of what Love is. Its all about Them, and if you were to ask for something, they would emotionally beat you to a pulp for even thinking that you were deserving of the same Gesture that you give to others.
End of Story for me, When I see signs of personality disorders, I RUN as FAST as I can to put distance between me and THEM. | |
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