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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 10/4/2009 1:10:23 PM | | why won't people just be honest on these issues? guys, yes, women like men who have a lot going for them & money is no exception. the more the woman has going for her (whether looks, education, job, etc or some combination thereof), the pickier she's going to be. did i really have to tell you that?!! btw, i think men are pretty similar...they're a bit more focused on looks, but let's face it: given 2 equally attractive women, but one has a lot more money, education or whatever, now which one does the guy really prefer?? i also believe that a lot of guys are willing to settle for looks only because there aren't that many women around who have looks plus everything else. gee, i want a guy with looks AND all the rest! folks, we all want the whole enchilda if we can get it! | |
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 10/4/2009 1:51:24 PM | All you have to do is review personal profiles for incomes they expect their dates to make.
I've done quite a few profile reviews and absolutely never remember anyone writing anything about how much someone had to make to date them. Usually people write about what they are looking for instead of what they like to do with a date that would interest someone, but ummm no salary requirement ever listed.
That doesn't prove that there isn't an expectation that exists. NO, that proved that what the quote I responded to was a lie. I responded to that people put that on their profiles, and that isn't true.
Perhaps you want to make the excuse people don't date you because you don't make enough money, but I HAVE NEVER met or known anyone that wasn't dated because of their financial situation. Finances are another bs excuse men want to make...NOT ALL MEN, just ones that want an excuse as to why they aren't being dated or why someone dated someone else instead of them. (Of course their salary probably never even came up in discussions.) Another crap excuse some women use that they are too fat or not Barbie dolls. EXCUSES, not reality.
Traditionally, women were taught to look to marry someone "successful", meaning someone with money, if they wanted nice things.
Men were taught to look for good "homemakers", and good "mother to your children", not for the woman's earning potential. Traditionally, what back in the 50's? I grew up with hippies, free love, no one owns the earth, and who the person is is what is important. That was the 60's and 70's no crap about how much someone makes. Personally I have even dated men unemployed, oh the shock and horror of it
And again, I earned more money than my ex husband made when we married, bought my home, and bought all of the cars. Unless you are in your 60's or above, I have a hard time with the "traditional" roles crap.
EDIT TO BELOW: We need to have a flower child thread!) | |
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 10/4/2009 1:57:57 PM |
Traditionally, what back in the 50's? I grew up with hippies, free love, no one owns the earth, and who the person is is what is important. I have found it quite surprising on these forums to read so often this idea of traditonal roles and expectations coming from people of my generation. I too was not influenced by such traditional ideas, aaamm, but by the 'social revolution' of the 60's and 70's. It never occured to me in my entire life to look for a man who would support me or to see myself in the role of a 'good homemaker.' What I want to know is, what happened to all the hippies?????? | |
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 10/4/2009 5:11:09 PM |
I've got 14 dollars in my wallet, about thirty some cents and a wad of lint in my pocket...... ANY LADIES INTERESTED !!!!!
Let us know how many real actual complete dates you get from that. :)
What happened to all the hippies?
You know what I think when I think of hippie chicks - Berkley, Malibu etc.
These are high income places that attract hippie types.
Reality check - They are after money more than most women are. That is the reality I see in the real world. Think about it kick back laid back low ambition types tend to look for an easy ride right. They are not thinking about working 80 hours a week to make it. | |
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 10/4/2009 5:17:42 PM | | Usually a man's character shows him as incompatible long before a finance situation ever would. I've really no reason to be picky on the number. I would prefer someone earning the same or more than I do. Able to manage their funds/debts/income. If they are able to manage their money and a home that's where my interest ends. I'd much rather have someone who is spiritually wealthy than have all the material possessions in the world. | |
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 10/4/2009 5:45:06 PM |
The more he has on the ball (education, looks, ambition, personality, etc, etc...all reflects), usually, the more he makes.
Are you suggesting that women could sniff out how much a guy's worth based on his personality alone? That's rather interesting, if true. | |
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 10/4/2009 5:48:29 PM |
btw, i think men are pretty similar...they're a bit more focused on looks, but let's face it: given 2 equally attractive women, but one has a lot more money, education or whatever, now which one does the guy really prefer??
The one who loves giving bj's, of course....
... that's a no-fvcking-brainer....
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 10/4/2009 7:13:53 PM | **note...I didn't read all the posts**
This is just for me. I can't answer for others.
A man must be able to support himself for me to be interested. I don't want someone who's unemployed and NOT trying to find a job. I support myself and live the life I want to live. I expect him to support himself and the life he wants to live. | |
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 10/4/2009 7:14:14 PM | That doesn't prove that there isn't an expectation that exists.
NO, that proved that what the quote I responded to was a lie. I responded to that people put that on their profiles, and that isn't true.
Then you don't disagree with me? Or are you merely defending something I didn't accuse you of?
Perhaps you want to make the excuse people don't date you because you don't make enough money,
Where have you gotten the idea that I don't make enough money?
but I HAVE NEVER met or known anyone that wasn't dated because of their financial situation.
That's funny. You must live in Utopia.
Because I know both men and women who were not given consideration because they didn't have a whole lot going for them in the "money" department.
And you must not read the threads where women openly state they won't date someone who doesn't "pay" for dates. They are obviously NOT oblivious to a man's money (or income), now are they?
Finances are another bs excuse men want to make...NOT ALL MEN, just ones that want an excuse as to why they aren't being dated or why someone dated someone else instead of them. (Of course their salary probably never even came up in discussions.)
Are you prone to projections or what? 
We're simply discussing a principle. You haven't the foggiest notion what any man's net worth or salary is on this thread...
Traditionally, what back in the 50's? I grew up with hippies, free love, no one owns the earth, and who the person is is what is important.
Where you or I grew up has no bearing on whether or not some people subscribe to "traditional" gender roles or not.
Unless you are in your 60's or above, I have a hard time with the "traditional" roles crap.
I agree 100%. I think the "traditional" stereotypes are pure BS.
But, you still expect a man to pull out a chair for you, don't you?....
That's kinda "traditional" ain't it? | |
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 10/4/2009 7:19:51 PM | oh my . . . oh my . . . that's lots of $$$$ . . . what would sweet little harmless me do with it . . .OP . . . to each their own . . . if you are happy and he doesn't have a problem . . . then to each their own . . . . me personally I would buy a me a long need NEW BOB . . .and plenty of fresh batteries . . .  | |
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 10/5/2009 7:39:00 AM | Before this thread ends I just have a few questions I'd like to ask:
* Is there an email filter I can use to prevent golddiggers from contacting me?
* If I continue to date women who refuse to pay for the date, can I claim them as
dependents on my income tax?
* Is there a minimum purchase amount required to date a golddigger?
* Are golddiggers planning on installing ATM's in their homes, so we don't have
to stop by the bank on the way to the restaurant?
* If I'm buying dinner for two, is it acceptable to use a "buy one get one free"
coupon on a date?
* Are men who pay for bad dates entitled to a refund?
* Does a woman who expects a man to pay for everything expect to be paid
for sex?
* Are women on pof who insist men pay for everything known as goldfish?
* If I date a golddigger on Halloween who dresses up as a french maid would
she be offended if I asked her to clean my house?
* Is it too late to change the name of this dating site to PAY PAL.com?
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 10/5/2009 4:34:09 PM | The old clunker just went in for repairs, I still need to buy candy for the little beggers, and the rent is due. I'm so darn broke this month that I can't even afford to pay attention. Would there happen to be a sugar mama out there some where looking to help a sweety pie of a fellow like myself out when he's down on his luck ??? If so we can do a little Bob Barker by saying..."COME ON DOWN.....THIS FELLER'S YURS IF THE PRICE IS RIGHT". (please, no checks. Just certified money orders)...  | |
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 10/5/2009 5:00:25 PM |
NOTE: Notice how the called the poor **stard a CHEAPSKATE where she did all the eating and had no intentions of contributing...THE LAWS NEED TO BE CHANGED...TOO MANY MEN ARE SUFFERING...
What laws? there are no LAWS dictating that men MUST pay the tab on dates.
The fact that the author of the article used the word "cheapskate" merely indicates that Menzies subscribes to the still fairly common( especially in the Midwest) social construct that the man pays for dinner.
Actually, I think this story brings out some other commonsense rules about meeting/dating people you've only been in contact with via the internet, speed dating events, personal ads, even blind dates set up by friends or family.
1. Get to the location of the meeting/date under your own auspices. Smart people of both genders exercise caution about letting internet acquaintances know the exact location of their residence at first.
2. Make it, if at all possible, something less than a dinner date. Coffee, dessert, meeting at an event or public venue(bookstore, library, museum, botanical garden, auction, flea market, free concert or jamboree, for some examples)
3. If it MUST be a dinner date,ladies,bring YOUR wallet. That way, if your date has trouble remembering HIS, at least the establishment doesn't get stiffed( I sincerely hope that the lady of the article settled the bill,and wrote it off as the price of a valuable lesson.
And again, I want to point out that it was the author of the article who used the term "shameless cheapskate". And despite the many "either sex" first names ( i.e Jesse, Dana,Avery, Jordan) "David" is pretty much a male name. So it was a MALE promoting this horrible social construct...
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 10/5/2009 6:40:25 PM | | Well known by whom? Perhaps you should choose your dates more carefully! I have never once asked a man how much money they have/make. True, if they are homeless & don't have a car, I am not likely to date them, seriously or otherwise, but let's face it, if that is the case they are likely drug addicted, mentally incapacitated or otherwise a bad idea to begin with. I expect a man to "provide" respect, mutual interests, love & fun in order to keep my interest. | |
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