| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 10/8/2009 11:13:56 AM | Does it really matter??? We are heading toward hyperinflation where a zadzillion dollars wont buy you a loaf of bread. We have record deficits, Iran working on the nuke, a government more concerned about the Olympics than our troops in Iraq, etc. Honestly, it isn't going to matter. Our socialist-in-chief is insuring that we are all unemployed and dependant on his pittance. Can we all say banana republic? Geeze, he couldn't even see the Dalai Lama for Gds sake.
Soooo, it doesn't matter how much the man makes now. What matters is he isn't afraid to work hard, he is intelligent, he is healthy, and he has a good moral compass. When the world goes to shit, these men will be the new alpha males. They will be the stable ones able to keep their family together and still smile when all they have is bark soup to drink. They will be the ones able to think outside the box and won't be lost in the memories of what they once had.
I'm more interested in whether he can shoot, he can fish, he can communicate...more interested in whether he is an incredible man who is strong and Gd fearing. I don't want some p*ssy who fears man... I want a man who will have the faith that Gd has a plan, even in the midst of great adversity and not fear some dimplick man who threatens him.
The only reason I would want someone with fundage is to insure that we can together, buy land and non-perishable things... insure we have warm clothes and *gulp* guns. Insure we have the things we need to weather the storm about to hit.
As far as the posts about our bills... it won't matter. once the economy is completely destroyed and our dollar devalued, it won't matter. Cigs will be worth more than what our printing presses are printing now. Money is only paper... and we are getting close to where the value isnt worth the paper it is printed on. | |
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 10/8/2009 6:02:42 PM | Hey Sassy ! I'd blow the dust off my wallet for you. I might even pull my gold fillings. What do you say to you and I sitting on the ledge of the Grand Canyons southern desert view and watch the sun set with a chilled bottle of Riesling ? Later we could count the stars as we walked down the trails of history and soak in the cool nights fresh air as the hopie indians must have once done. We could shed our bodies of all that society binds us with and run as free through the woods as the deer. We could laugh as though the whole world was ours as we dashed as fast as anything back to the camper because we forgot to spray down with mosquito spray. What do ya think ??? | |
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 10/8/2009 6:30:03 PM |
We could shed our bodies of all that society binds us with and run as free through the woods as the deer. Reminds me of an old joke involving a horny Native American chieftain, a shocked female missonary, running deer and sage brush.
Careful you don't scratch your balls on the sagebrush there, Skwig.
Cindy O | |
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 10/8/2009 7:05:47 PM | If you don't have any money personally why would you expect others to have any just to keep you interested. It is a superficial question and those who seek material means would attract this question.
I prefer my potential suitor to be mentally healthy...oh and good in bed LOL. Money I can make my own. | |
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 10/8/2009 8:31:37 PM | Here's my opinion. I think the OP and countless others on this thread have this whole concept of being a provider WRONG. Actually, I never liked the whole idea of the term "provider" being solely based on the male gender. Both sexes provide for each other to some degree. They relate to each other ROMANTICALLY that's why it is called a RELATIONSHIP. It isn't based solely on the money a man makes. I think it refers to the man being a strong, stable fixture in the relationship. The one who takes care of business and puts the families needs above his own. Now income may play a part in that to some degree but the concept of "provider" isn't based on that. It to me is a rather old school way of thinking since many relationships nowadays don't function like that (man being the sole breadwinner). Focusing on the superficial nature of this concept causes many relationships to crash and burn. If couples concentrate more on physical and emotional fulfillment for each other (and partnership when marriage is concerned) instead of focusing on whatever "role" they must play in a relationship, things may go smoother.  | |
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 10/8/2009 9:03:56 PM | Men are judged by their value as a provider... .... ... ... Really?? Women don't work? They don't have jobs and careers etc etc. !?!?!?!
For dating, I'd say money contributions should be about equal or in a ratio to respect how much given people have at one time or another. (ie I get paid in a few days so can you cover dinner tonight and I'll pay for the next date?)
For long term it should again be equal contributions to Building a Life together. Both the man and the women should make an effort to establish a life for themselves Together.
To me there is no set figure. Maybe I'm just young? But I'd want to be compatible with someone to the point where we can share the burden of responsibilities of life with each other. | |
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 10/8/2009 9:18:11 PM | I'm sure there are gold-digger women out there, or so many men wouldn't start threads complaining about them. The weird thing is that I don't know any women who care that much about how much a man makes.
I want a guy to have a career he enjoys, and I would like for him to make a decent living, so he's not struggling to pay bills. I don't need his money; however, it's no fun dating someone who can never go to dinner or a movie because he can't pay his part. I would like for the guy to manage his money decently and not spend tons of money on toys he can't afford. If we are just dating, this doesn't really matter to me. If we are thinking long-term, then his spending habits will affect us both.
I am not looking for a man who is so ambitious that his work means everthing to him and enjoying life means little. I want to enjoy life and have some hobbies. It's about balance to me.
Most of the women I know are professional women who earn good salaries. They are not dependent on men to support them. My thought is that men who complain about women always wanting money are finding the wrong types of women. It isn't hard to determine if a woman is looking for a man to take care of her. If she has a "princess" attitude, then she might have a sense of entitlement. Instead of thinking every woman is like her, move on. | |
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 10/10/2009 3:58:53 AM |
So you think women are asking you "what do you do for a living" with the sole purpose of trying to figure out your income?? lol... wow.
Did I say that? You should perhaps re-read what I wrote.
Has it ever dawned on you they might be asking you that question with the intentions of GETTING TO KNOW YOU BETTER??
I know the difference between when someone is trying to get to know me and when someone is trying to only get to know my income level.
Obviously not everyone one asking "What do you for living?" asks the question in order to figure my income level.
It's all part of getting to know the other person. Not, "Hi, my name is _______,"would you stand for _______?"
The question "Would you stand for something on principle" is a question one might want to ask to better get to know another, but I never said it should be the first of questions. You made it an introductory line... not me.
And besides, just because someone makes a good salary, it doesn't mean they "have money"....that person could be in debt, not living within his means and living paycheck to paycheck.....whereas someone who makes less income, could quite possibly have more money because he's the opposite and does live within his means, etc.
Sure... hard to argue with "might" and "could". A person can make much money but have little to spare. And likewise a person can make little money but have much to spare.
It's also possible that a person can make much money and have much to spare, and a person can make little money and have little to spare.
Of the two cases, I'd say the second is more likely than the first.
So what a person does for a living tells you just THAT.....what he does for a living.
Okay. So how exactly does THAT allow you to better get to know another? If it just tells you what a person does, it doesn't tell you much about the person, now does it?
A good man is what is of foremost importance to most women; I truly believe that.
I have no doubt - so long as it's a woman's definition of good.
What a woman thinks is a good man, what a man thinks is a good man, what society thinks is a good man, and what a man believes makes him good are mostly likely not the same. | |
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 10/10/2009 5:09:48 AM |
I have no doubt - so long as it's a woman's definition of good.
What a woman thinks is a good man, what a man thinks is a good man, what society thinks is a good man, and what a man believes makes him good are mostly likely not the same. Actually, I think it depends on what the individual woman's definition is of a 'good man.' I'm pretty sure I don't think exactly like every other women in the world, and just based on the reaction (from other women) I get in these forums, not like most of them. 
One thing that is a real turn of for me is someone who generalizes that all men or women or people from one society or culture or another think the same. A good man to me is a good man to me....my very own, special, unique idea of what a good man is. And he doesn't have to be rich or to support me. | |
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 10/10/2009 9:05:47 AM | My questioning goes like this: Name? Kids? Pets? What do you do for a living? Hobbies?
I am fascinated by what people do. The construction worker who can actually lay cement or build something. The electrician who can rewire a house. The police officer and his handcuffs, etc.
I suppose living in colorado has changed my opinion on such things. This is the state where a $5000 bike will be on top of a car that is only worth $2000 and has a broken windshield with heavy, duty tires. This is the state where people cut back on hours, downsize... so they can enjoy life more instead of spending all that time at work.
I have dated a man with a 4 year degrees who was bussing tables so that he could devote his energy to skiing. Yup, sounds amazing to some but we get it out here. We understand that living is about finding that balance. So we find roommates to share in expenses, find hiking groups or skiing groups to share on expenses to do things... Many of us care less about what someone does to live and more about what he lives to do. That said, I'm not talking about the sort of person who doesn't work or is chronically unemployed. I want a man who is self-sufficient just as I expect a man to want me to be self-sufficient. | |
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 10/10/2009 9:29:44 AM | men are judged on their value as a provider? Drag yourself into the new millineum. I'd venture to say nowdays women support themselves equally with men if not more-so. MEN live off women .. first their mothers & then their wives/whoever.
Support YOURself that's all I expect. Stand on your own two feet.
We are not living in the 50's and it's nearly impossible to support a family (even just 2) on one income if you want to have vacations & retirement.
A man should make an income comparable to mine and not plan on living off MY income ~ that would be refreshing | |
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 10/10/2009 1:59:47 PM | It depends on the woman.
I have met self sufficient women who dont want anything from me but attention.
On the other hand I have met women who just want me to spend my money on them all the time.
All other women come somewhere in between.
There certainly are some golddiggers but there are also some women who dont care how much you earn. | |
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 10/10/2009 5:27:28 PM |
**** them ****es man. Lie to those trick ass hoes, pump them full of your juice and leave them. Their not happy anyways and they gonna live that way till they die.
Kind of difficult to accomplish that when they've locked you out on the porch all night and they've called your parole officer.
aaahhh - the sweet melodious language of love | |
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 10/10/2009 7:04:23 PM | Don't blame money- truth be known a sensitive, loyal, caring man can beat out any man with a ton of money.
A positive sentiment Cindy, but few women will let a man prove he is caring, sensitive, loyal etc. Females are far to quick to judge a man on his flaws -- meaning he is condemned to singledom. Amongst the common things we are condemned for is not having a job, not having a home, not having the resource of money, etc etc -- hence the link to all things money.
Men get tired of the game just as women do I am sure -- but the reasons for a man to stay single include being able to keep his money. Until those laws change I think you will find men very reluctant to commit to anything. | |
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 10/10/2009 8:44:39 PM | actual things women have said to me on dates:
"what do you do for a living" - I am a landscaper
"oh, not a landscape designer, or an estimator or something, just a landscaper? " - no just a landscaper
"what did you take in school" - construction technician
"oh, didnt you want to be an engineer instead" - no, I didnt want to be an engineer
"what car do you drive" - a sunfire
"what kind a sunfire GT?" - no...a grey sunfire and you have to you know, wind the windows up by hand. | |
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