| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 9/25/2009 1:58:30 AM | A mans money never was an issue for me, and maybe it should have been since I ended up providing more than my past LTR partners did. lol
I'm not the gold digger type, and I don't need/want a sugar daddy, but from now on any future prospects would have to be at least reasonably financially secure. | |
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 9/25/2009 2:02:20 AM | I have found that with women, as long as they feel I am going somewhere in life, and as long as I am both generous and creative with how I spend money to fascilitate fun...
That is usually enough.
Some of these dudes who think all chicks go for $$ need to get a personality.
Sure, some women go only for money, but I would say they are the minority.
I find it offensive that I need to break character from my normal a-hole routine to be sincere.
Some people need to get a clue and stop blaming the opposite gender for their own shortcomings as a person.
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 9/25/2009 3:29:42 AM | [Is that a serious question? Bro, unless you're dating strippers or prostitutes, and as long as you're paying your bills and handling your business it shouldn't make any difference. If it does, or has, you've definitely been seeing the wrong women or going about this all wrong. Next one you meet try NOT lavishing them with money or gifts- just be yourself, see what happens. I mean just go on the very simplest of dates where money can't be an issue and let your charm or your sense of humor or whatever do the talking. Making a woman smile and laugh can do wonders and it doesn't cost a thing. BE the ice breaker, don't use props to create one. Just give yourself more credit than you have been. K, that's it.... you asked! lol]
Hi badanimal,
I like what you have to say. And, seems like good advice.
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 9/25/2009 3:49:23 AM | [Why do you assume that if a person makes rational and intelligent choices about whom they decide to partner with, that there is no love or heart felt feelings in the relationship?
Lifestyle is only one compatibility factor in a relationship but it is a very important one. How many relationships disintegrate because a couple discovers that they have nothing in common outside of the bedroom and don’t enjoy spending time together in mutually agreeable pursuits?
Love and romance are definitely necessary ingredients in a successful relationship but the reality is, the majority of time in ANY relationship is going to be spent “living your lives”. If one or both is prevented or held back from living their lives the way they want, resentment will eventually tear that relationship apart. Perhaps if more people assessed ALL compatibility factors before they engaged in their relationships, there wouldn’t be so many failed relationships and so many people bemoaning that they made poor choices.]
Hi Babe in the Woods,
For some reason your explanation didn't seem as cold or cut and dry this time, so I applaud you for your expalanation and please forgive me for my quick judgment. Your logic seems to make better sense the way you explained it this time.
Thank you for your follow-up! | |
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 9/25/2009 10:32:48 AM | I cant beleive i'm saying this, but i think it should count.......to a point.
I mean , i dont think women like dating guys on welfare? Right?
On the other side of the coin, i HAVE dated women who have asked how much i make per year on the very FIRST date! 
Needless to say, there isnt usually a second.......and not because of my income....... | |
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 9/25/2009 10:49:16 AM | well if you are wondering how much money you need to keep her, just ask her what her rates are! she sounds like the kinda hooker a man needs to save up for!
not all girls care about money. maybe you should ask if you are doing anything wrong that would make them not want to be romantically interested........ | |
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 9/25/2009 2:24:08 PM | I am constantly amazed that so many women arbitrarily nay say on this issue. It is a known scientific fact that for a large percentage of the female population, that a man's social status (there many factors that affect it, including perceived income and job security) lands in the top three on their list of needs/wants.
Yet so many men have no problem that we do something similarly superficial by putting overall looks into the our side of the equation. Every once in a while a good friend will trust me enough to admit she agree's but even then there's almost a qualifier first...
Out of curiosity, let's say a man is receiving spousal support from his ex wife...what's your initial reaction or thought? | |
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 9/25/2009 2:34:56 PM | Ok... I re-thought this issue...
And I think it comes down to instict and genetics.
Kind of like, even though I don't want children, I still am more attracted to healthy women who could probably give birth easier.
Same with women prefering a man with means.
And the more I think about this, although I am not making gobs of money now - pretty average income, actually....
When I talk about my past and how I used to earn almost 3 times as much, I am sure that it could be a deciding factor for a woman when she is considering her future with me.
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 9/25/2009 3:10:23 PM | For me, just show that he can manage his finances is enough.
If you are able to keep up with your bills and payments, and don't go around spending money you haven't got, that's great with me, even if you just have a basic salary. I work hard and budget on everything, and I don't need somebody coming to bring financial uncertainty into my life.
I went on a date with a guy I met here and, when he showed me his house, he looked at a pile of bills on his kitchen and said "I won't be dealing with them any time soon". The only thing that kept me from leaving at that point was that I had driven 50 miles to meet him, and had just been with him for 10 minutes!!!
Take care. | |
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 9/25/2009 3:20:23 PM | I've always taken care of myself completely without ever having to borrow money from anyone (friends or family). When I was married (and living with him before that), I always paid 1/2 of EVERYTHING.
We made good decisions and bought a house at the right time and sold it at the right time. Made a killer profit which we equally divided when we split. I'd like to continue this trend. Meaning I will not move into someone elses house. Other then that, I don't care how much he makes as long as he is self supporting and responsible for HIMSELF. | |
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 9/25/2009 3:26:54 PM | Your Guy Next Door want's to meet the girl next door. (according to your profile) so.... here is a book for the both of you. Might be just up your alley!
The Millionaire Next Door! by Tomas J. Stanley Ph.D
All your answers are in there lol
Happy reading!
Wild | |
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 9/25/2009 3:35:40 PM | Post 120 -- Interesting story....and typical of what men encounter....women who make negative judgments based on one simple perceived flaw in character. The guy might have just been making a joke to explain away his financial problems at the time.
I was at the grocery store checkout tonight with a friend who I had driven there for some groceries. There were two very attractive women, one with a kid in the line in front of us. My buddy noticed that one without the mother was being all nice and cozy with me -- just small talk. My buddy then just said you should ask her out jokingly. Then the one with the kid turned to her friend and said coldly "so how is your rich friend doing btw? Is he back tonight?" The other one sized me up, and then without a further word they just picked up their groceries and walked away.
Pretty common reaction along the lines of what women do. It really does say alot about female attitudes on the subject. Stupid value judgments based on shallow or superficial flaws in image, conversation mistakes, or general humor. Sad really. | |
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 9/25/2009 3:51:49 PM | Eyeofthecamera,
I do admit I was far more insecure at the time, because I was in a horrendous life situation and I didn't need anybody who could make it worse.
I suppose it just shows how careful you have to be sometimes with what you say. It can be taken the wrong way and be a dealbreaker.
I've had to work, very hard, to bring my child forward and try to build a future for both of us. The prospect of a man who is unable to manage finances and whom, therefore, could destroy all what I've built with so much hard work, is a big turn off and a dealbreaker.
There is nothing shallow about it. It's called being responsible. | |
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 9/25/2009 4:10:27 PM | It is a known scientific fact that for a large percentage of the female population, that a man's social status (there many factors that affect it, including perceived income and job security) lands in the top three on their list of needs/wants.
Yet so many men have no problem that we do something similarly superficial by putting overall looks into the our side of the equation.
so according to you and the scientists who study such things, a man's primary value is in his material status, but women deny it. however, both men and women agree that a woman's primary value is in her physical appearance. so tell me, how does any of that change the fact that this is nothing more than humanity at it's dumbest common denominator??
Out of curiosity, let's say a man is receiving spousal support from his ex wife...what's your initial reaction or thought?
traditionally, women have received alimony & child support because of traditional child custody issues and their more limited ability to earn a self-sustaining living. personally, i don't believe in alimony in this day & age. child support is entirely appropriate... depending on who has custody. usually -- but not always -- it is still the mother. | |
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 9/25/2009 4:43:45 PM | Intellectually ~ I love to travel; to go places that have beautiful architecture and there is lots of history for me to wallow in. Museums and Art Galleries are a must. Culture is big for me. He must be able to do that, to provide for that. Taking the Orient Express is a must do.
You mean "materialistically"...
Emotionally ~ I am a sappy romantic who loves the lifestyle of wine and roses. Having a lovely Better Homes and Gardens styled home is mandatory. Driving a red Porsche Carrera GT is well.....just me. Having him take me to lovely dinners in which I partake in Chateau Mouton Rothschild with my meal and having a glass of Krug afterwards is guaranteed my appreciation of him. Also, gifts such as a watch made by Vacheron Constantin with a few diamond trinkets thrown in will put me in a wonderful mood. No bytchiness or depression from me for a long time. The adrenalin rush makes me want to go to the gym to keep myself toned and sexy looking.
You mean "materialistically"...
Sexually ~ It goes to say that if I am happy intellectually and emotionally, then I am turned on sexually. Dress me up in your favourite fantasy, pour champagne over me and...
You mean "pay the bills you run up, and he can get some..."?
Based on your post, a guy could hire a smokin' hot 24 yr old escort, pay to keep her in a condo for his pleasure when the mood suits him, and invest the remainder of the money he would have spent on a 46 yr old grandmother who works in retail, describes her figure as average, and lists sewing as an interest...
I guess looking for that man on POF and finding him is as rare as a 1500 lb. pig that flies.
Without even a picture to allure him, how do you plan on even getting noticed if such a guy were to exist, let alone pick you out of the crowd of women who he could choose from?
this is not the thread for revealing my creativity.
You've already made the boo boo of clowning around enough for us to figure you out out quite a while ago... | |
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| How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 9/25/2009 5:01:08 PM | "How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?"
I think this question is wrong, it is sort of putting the cart before the horse sort of thing, it should say "How much money does a man need to make to get a girl interested in him in America?" Once a girl is interested in a guy she tends to stay interested till her options change. If a guy does not care what kind of girl he gets the answer is very little money is needed. Now if a guy does not want to make compromises in quality I would think the minimum is around 200K a year, and above 620K a year a guy can get pretty much whatever he wants, I think after this point more money has very little effect. Women have a natural money nose like a bloodhound, the only problem is money is a scarce commodity. All this changes if the girl is already wealthy, then all these numbers will change. Women like men have to make many compromises all women want all the options a Joe Millionaire or wealthy celebrity guy can offer, but he is nearly impossible to find.
Money is bar none the most important thing in a relationship with a woman. Some women say this does matter but pick any relationship that is going bad and you will almost always find it has money issues at the heart of it. | |
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