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| EX-GF callls after 14 months.She wants to now be friends again!
Posted: 9/24/2009 7:37:46 AM | M-Rush,
Guilty as charged.. I don`t think "Right" was anything she really envisioned in her man.
He offered her a nice weekend get away condo down in the Keys which they went to often.
I couldn`t compete at that level,which is why i bowed out in the first place... I realized back then i was mistaken about her.
I`m sure "right" took full advantage of her and probably did a number on her which is why refuses to discuss the entire matter.
She`s looking to get back into a relationship with a man who worshiped her and truly loved her. I gave her something money could never buy,my love and devotion to her and her family.....
I guess she regrets what happened between us..
I do appreciate your perceptiveness.
She`s like a siren calling me back for more trouble. Only problem is my friend is she is so damn beautiful..lol... | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/24/2009 7:38:23 AM | Scd. It is clear that this woman has a hold on you. Sadly, she probably knows this better than anyone. As another poster suggested, maybe she lacks character. For some of us (ME ME ME) character is essential.
I think this really sucks because she is coming back to you when you had clearly tried to move on. What it says to me however, is that you have not moved on. If you had, this would have been a simple conversation that would have ended with "are you out of your fukin mind woman? No way in hell would I subject myself to your crap again... I would rather have a red hot poker rammed in my.......... you get the point (double entendre.... woohoo)
Dude, I don't know about you, but for me... a GOOD loving woman is way more preferable than some hashed over, angst ridden, been there- done that regurgitated relationship with a narcassist....
I wish some woman here would come over to your house and help you forget this train wreck.
VVV Agreed!!! Listen to him man! | |
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| EX-GF callls after 14 months.She wants to now be friends again!
Posted: 9/24/2009 7:46:00 AM | LOL you know I figured that out , I figured she was probably very attractive
but the bottom line is, you're setting yourself up for heartbreak, she may know that she pooched screwed it, but and I want you think about this, if she was still with the other guy , would she of thought about you do you think she would of realized she made a mistake?
Probably not, it took some guy that broke her heart and she turns the guy who wouldn't break her heart, prop her back up, until she gets bored with you and finds the next " exciting " guy.
Women like that who claim they want a man to worship them, and finds it, generally gets bored, its the nice guy syndrome, doing everything for her, worshiping the ground she walks on blah blah blah, and she gets bored and looks for excitement elsewhere.
Not good grasshopper, cut your losses and find someone who isn't flaky now matter how beautiful physically she is, remember beauty fades, good character doesn't. | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/24/2009 7:48:48 AM | | Boot her off! You don't need her bs despite any feelings for her. She fell out of love with ya the last time what makes ya think she will not do that to you again. Tell her to go find someone else to be her friend. | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/24/2009 7:51:14 AM | Piggyt,
That's why am staying away... The disrespect she showed me did hurt and as i mentioned took a lot of soul searching to move on. I realized back than as i do now what she was about and how much i misread her. The confusing part of our relationship was how we would laugh, hold hands, and simply enjoy each others company together. She`s a great actress i guess. I thought i knew her well, it`s appears i really didn`t know her at all.
What`s done is done!
I know the moment she gives me "The Look" with her Cheshire green eyes,tilts her body and head to the side so her hair falls towards her right eye and gives me that smile which used to kill me with passion it`s over for me. Thats why am staying away.. She`s playing me once again... I know my limits... Believe me it`s not easy... | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/24/2009 8:00:52 AM | First, let's cut to the chase.
Are you still sexually interested in her? I mean, if she does the seductive moves that you remember ~.
If she gets you into bed, you are back on the the same road as before. Are you ready for it? | |
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| EX-GF callls after 14 months.She wants to now be friends again!
Posted: 9/24/2009 8:03:49 AM | M-Rush and Belle,
When a Latina puts on their game face it`s quite deadly.I`m sure you know exactly what i mean!Sexually, this woman always rocked my world Belle..
She can have any man eating out of her hand in a matter of seconds. I used to tell her she`s deadly..This woman is very intelligent and extremely attractive...
She grew bored,i was way too nice because i was deeply and madly in love with her..
I once spoke to her Mother who actually told me and i kid you not "Don`t be so nice to her"... At the time i didn`t realize what she was telling me or why.
I fully understand now and for that reason my attitude towards her has changed.
She plays the game better than most. | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/24/2009 8:07:21 AM | WOWwwwwwwwwww Op like many said she was fine for 14 months.
Your her back-Up plan, therefor if you want to be used as the main
SUCKER go right ahead, as soon as something better comes along,
She will be gone faster than a Category 5 Tornado. | |
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| EX-GF callls after 14 months.She wants to now be friends again!
Posted: 9/24/2009 8:20:18 AM | This woman is very intelligent and extremely attractive...
She grew bored,i was way too nice because i was deeply and madly in love with her..
I once spoke to her Mother who actually told me and i kid you not "Don`t be so nice to her"... At the time i didn`t realize what she was telling me or why.
I fully understand now and for that reason my attitude towards her has changed.
She plays the game better than most.
So you know *exactly* what went wrong. The question is, can you use that knowledge to not just get her back but keep her ? Can you and do you want to learn how not to be "a nice guy" towards her (aka doormat, lapdog, wuss) all the time ? Do you have what it takes to be a Lover instead of a Provider? If you answer yes, go for it and don't f*ck up again. If not, be honest with yourself, leave her for someone that can handle her and find yourself a nice, accommodating, mediocre girl that just looks for stability and doesn't care how boring and predictable you become. | |
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| EX-GF callls after 14 months.She wants to now be friends again!
Posted: 9/24/2009 8:55:49 AM | Don't you love when they come crawling back.
Especially when THEY dumped you.
OP, while I am sure you still have feelings for her and you are very attracted to her, in my view you are asking for a one way ticket to a world of hurt.
She disrespected you and she told you, you were not Mr. Right.
Are you now?
Plus she became bored and dumped you for material reasons.
Is this really something you want to do?
Me thinks....BAD IDEA. | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/24/2009 10:19:11 AM | | Be careful my friend. The same thing happend to me. After ending a very long realationship (9 years) , my ex, contacts me out of nowhere. She was my best friend,lover and confidant as well. But like your situation, she said that spark was not there anymore and she started seeing a guy she worked with. Needless to say that hurt like hell. It took a long time to forgive her and get over her, but i am soooo grateful i finally did. Now she wants to hang out for drinks or coffee or lunch or dinner..whatever. My first response was "hell yeah" i would love be friends again and maybe work on us getting back together. But then it hit me. She thought the grass was greener on the other side.Well i guess it was'nt! Anyway can you trust that she will never pull that BS with you again? Hurting you all over again? Don't do it my friend. If she found it that easy to leave you before...then let her go! Dont put yourself through it again. | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/24/2009 10:56:11 AM | | Good Lord.....Can't you see you're Mr. Rebound man???? She knows you're always there in case things don't work out with whoever it happens to be.....you must have given her the impression that you would always be there for her bla bla bla...being mr. Nice Guy.....Stop it , and don't even go there.....She left you for a reason and she sounds so messed up that I have a word for it which I'd rather not use on here....What do you think will happen if you took her back, she meets someone else down the road and leaves you broken hearted YET AGAIN....Learn your lesson and let her go to a therapist because it's what she obviously needs | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/24/2009 11:03:16 AM | Mad,
I`m sorry for what happened to you.I`m not doing a thing right not except acceptingher text and being friendly. I`ve been dating on and off since then, so am in no major rush to get back with her.
It`s a shame these things happen, but heck, thats life... You take the good mixed with the bad...
Crystal,
Thats very true... Yet, i guess it`s sometimes difficult when love is involved. You know how it goes, am sure you`ve had it happen to you as well in some form or another... | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/24/2009 11:09:04 AM | | Bottom line don't waste your time my friend it's best to let her wallow in her shit by herself. No need to throw a rope to a person who pulled thier rope from you and gave to someone else. Plus you said she left you cause you could'nt compete with the other guy money wise, so waste your time. Let her find some sucker for love with the money she desires. | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/24/2009 12:56:32 PM |
Good Lord man, there's enough dis-functionality there for my mom to knit a sweater!
I'm sorry but this just really cracked me up! 
What it sounds like is it didn't work with "Mr. Right" so rather than be alone (why are people so afraid to be on thier own?) she's going back to "Mr. Right Now" until the next Mr Right comes along. Don't fall for it. I had an ex try this on me once. | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/24/2009 1:06:56 PM | My first and strongest opinion is what an admirably mature, non-self-centered guy you are.
As to whether or not to join your ex for dinner, the sentimentalist in me says GO AHEAD! My assessment of her motivations is that whether or not she' s still attracted to you, she does love the trustworthy guy you are and, at the moment at least, she needs that sort of unconditional love more than she needs romance. | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/24/2009 1:56:36 PM | Tell her your heart has not healed.
I can see it plainly hasn't.
One look at her one touch,
and you 'll throw 14 months of suffering to
to the back burner.
Is she financially stable
Or are you being used for some table?
Better yet can you just be "friends"
You know you like her, maybe even love.
You say she was up front with you,
and you think she was totally honest?
This would be hard for me.
Enjoy what you can as just being "friends"
You know you won't find another, to enjoy times with
if you are all tangled in her snair.
The Question is will She?
Can you see any change
Of course you did't the first time,
What if it happens again,
How would you take it?
Only you know this.
Do you want a "f*__ Buddy as a friend.?
Only you know this? | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/24/2009 2:10:25 PM |
What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
1) Don't answer it
2) If you do accidentally answer, you hang up
Doing anything else it taking a trip back to dissapointmentville. 
Case closed....next | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/24/2009 2:25:56 PM | Is she also, I wonder, the sort who has to have someone in her life?
Is she, perhaps, wanting to occupy herself with the adoring you so she doesn't have to reflect on what went wrong with Right
or avoid feeling her feelings at the end of a relationship?
Perhaps she is not very introspective. If that is the case, it may be impossible for her to be really honest, as she wouldn't know herself well enough.
It's possible while you are "just" texting with her that you are sneaking behind your own back into resuming things with her. "Tricking" yourself, as it were, with a "I'm just doing this" whilst you're setting up "that" to happen. << take a look to see if that thought has any merit. | |
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