| EX-GF callls after 14 months.She wants to now be friends again!
Posted: 9/25/2009 6:49:23 PM | OMG man be carefull. this i one roller coaster ride that I don't recomend you taking. However it sounds like to me, when she's attracted to another man she automatically throughs you on the back burner. There after she gets her little heart broken she runs to you as a back up.  I'll tell you another rason it's not such a good Idea, in doing that; you're putting your heart and feelings in some serious jeoprady. Trust me, I've made a mistake just like this once. live and learn | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/25/2009 7:00:15 PM | | inspite of the pretty picture that you've painted for her, The red flags/warning signs are decorating her like a christmas tree. You need someone that deserves the love, care, conpanionship, and attention that you'll provide. don't waist your time on her. Enjoy life, pick up a hobby, take advantage of the things that you were'nt able to do during the time that you were with her. There's plenty of women out there pick youa decent one. ones like you had are a dime a dozon. | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/26/2009 5:16:11 PM | scd, There comes a point in life where we know what we know - and if we choose to 'play with fire' - hey, what's life without a bit of risk? Right. You know the score.
You know what your dealing with, but all said you'll continue to fly toward the bright light.
I've done the same thing. Got burned the second time too, but in my opinion, it was worth it. Everyone in my life who 'knows' thinks I'm a fool.
Maybe so, but as they say - there's no fool like an old fool.
If she's 'all that' in your eyes - go for it! Is it wise, safe, or adviseable - No. But at our age - I think we're entitled to a bit of foolishness and fun.
You probably didn't enjoy life enough when you were in your teens, twenties, or thirties. Have at it!
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/26/2009 5:32:52 PM | Usually I answer the phone and say "Hello"
Now, if it's 15 months, it's a whole nother story. I'll pick up the phone and say:
Hey.. you blew it when last month passed cause that 14 month mark is the final straw. | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/27/2009 12:03:25 PM | Sinlov,
We spent the weekend together.
We both discussed what we want from each other.
We`re both adults and know the score.
The sparks were there once again, we always got along fine in that department.
We`re both not looking for any long term relationship this time around. The words "exclusive" didn`t come up, nor will it. Time will tell if we`ll continue seeing each other,but my eyes are wide open.I made it very clear to her.
At this point i`m keeping my options open, and told her she can do the same.
I`m not looking to get even with her as you`ve mentioned.
Her and i have an attraction towards one another and if we can get it right again, who knows? If we can`t "it is what it is" ... for the time being..
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/27/2009 12:28:56 PM | Holy Hannah!
You posted on the 24th with your angst.
Today is the 27th and you've already did the "weekend" (sunday is only half done here) sexual marathon.
Never underestimate a woman's expertise sexually.
Now it's time for you to finally ask her what made her fall out of love with you the first time. Are you up for that? | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/27/2009 12:49:01 PM | | This woman dumps you for another man because she fell out of love for you..and your "willing" to spend the weekend with her, no strings. Did you take her back because you could ? Are you doing the "no strings" to get even? hhmm I wonder how much of this is actual love on your part. Don't mean to do the cynical spin but don't think for a minute this is actually ok with you just wanting to be friends. | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/27/2009 12:59:28 PM | Belle and Lanta,
I`ve always known why she fell "out of love with me"... I`m a Real Estate Broker. I`ve operated my own company for 14 years.
Three years ago the housing market collapsed in Florida. I had 3 locations across the state and had to make some very hard decisions. She complained I had "No Time" for her and to some extent she was absolutely right.
I was working 7 days a week, 15 hours a day. I understood where she was coming from.
To tell you i wasn`t struggling would be an understatement.
She wanted more in our relationship, I kept telling her I had to ride out this storm. I knew she cared,but she wanted more.
She found another man at her company who she thought was going to "pay more attention" to her.He told her everything she wanted to hear.
He showered her with gifts at first, took her to his condo every weekend in the Keys.
The "honeymoon" lasted several months for her.
She began to realize "Mr.Right" might not have been everything she wanted in her man. When we bumped into each other a few months back her relationship with "Right" was already over 6 months before. She hadn`t been dating anyone.
I`m not denying what she did was wrong,nor will I make excuses to what I had to do in order to survive.
She deserved more attention, i just couldn`t give it to her at the time...There are maturity issues she`s working on as we speak with a professional..She admits that.
We both made a mistake..
S&&& Happens. I think we`re both really sorry for what transpired.And no i don`t regret being with her over the weekend.. | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/27/2009 3:51:02 PM | | OP... I say.. just proceed with caution. Everyone has an opinion of what they will do.. when it is not them.. so I will say this... be true to yourself and do what you feel is right. I think people go through things and learn to appreciate a person from the past. She is human and she made some mistakes. So allow her many many many months of proving her truth to you. She seems like a lil bit of adrenaline junkie... and she likes the honeymoon phase of things.. if this is who she is.... and this is who she is.. she may never settle that part of herself... but you don't have to be a victim of it. I say just don't overly invest yourself.. until she has proven worthy of your loyalty. I say do what you feel is right... for YOU.. proceed with caution... Chemisty is something that is usually hard to find.. she had to see that the hard way as well. Yeah I do believe she thought the grass was greener... but people can be some serious manipulators... I just say be careful.. and Have fun while you do it. | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/27/2009 4:14:22 PM | Girlred..
She is an Adrenaline junkie.. She`s dealing with issues about herself for the past year. I didn`t fully understand what her interior was like or what she was capable of doing when we first dated. She knows my feeling towards her and i`m not into being treated like a "rabid dog" thrown to the side again..The chemistry is never an easy issue to deal with nor is the hurt involved in this type of relationship. She`s trying and i will give her the space she needs. As for me, like i mentioned i`m leaving my options opened.
Bandito,
Thanks for your concern. I`m a grown man, I haven`t thought like that since i was 15 years old.. This is a real adult situation not some kids game.... It does happen to many of us... | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/27/2009 4:34:08 PM |
The sparks were there once again, we always got along fine in that department.
We`re both not looking for any long term relationship this time around. The words "exclusive" didn`t come up, nor will it. Time will tell if we`ll continue seeing each other,but my eyes are wide open.I made it very clear to her.
At this point i`m keeping my options open, and told her she can do the same.
Amen brother. Wish more people didn't conflate intimacy and real connection with exclusivity and realized that the latter is just hidden insecurity to be rooted out. | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/27/2009 6:22:05 PM | scd --- I've heard this storyline so many times!
Speaking from experience regarding relationships, although I've applied my rule to other aspects of my life as well, my Golden Rule is: ** Not to look back, the past is the past and it's best to leave it there, right where it should be!!! **
I'm not here to judge, as I don't judge anyone, until I've walked a mile in their shoes!
As per your Subject, I've been there and if I had of known then what I know now. I wouldn't of even went there, if you know what I mean. Anyway, I'm very proud of the choices that I've made!
Something to think about! A person has to be happy in "their own" life, before they can be happy with someone else, let alone life in general.
If you'd like to chat, send me a personal message. I'd be happy to share my experience with you.
All the Best! :) | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/27/2009 7:10:03 PM | the actors strike is over.. The online soap operas are coming back on line.
Here's a preview.. wait.. the above is a preview.
I never in my life thought I'd ever see an attentionwhore in a male like the one I read above.
Not sure whether to laugh or cry.
Stay tuned. I'm sure more will follow.
Edit: Oh, to offer some non-irony.. Frankly I'd keep dating others.. let's see, for 28 months no matter WHAT she may say or do. NEVER see her on a date night, always see those others with your phone turned off. Let her "get therapy" and "grow up FROM her issues" for DOUBLE the time she was dumping on you.
Call it penance to keep your peni safe.
Hero complex comes to mind. You are so full of excuses to ignore the writing on the wall that ALL those who commented on here can see it, How do you type on here Stevie Wonder? | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/27/2009 8:06:59 PM | OP Sadly you will never be able to trust her,
let her go for the sake of your self respect and manhood. You may never find another one as beautiful or as intelligent, but hopefully you can find someone who can truly love you and be loyal to you, and that is something any man can fall in love with..................... | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/27/2009 8:20:14 PM | Ikindman,
Wow! I`ve seen some hostile people in my life but you`re a leader when it comes to this.
Are you so insecure that you have to act like this towards others?
I would strongly suggest you grow up and act like a man! | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/27/2009 8:21:59 PM | | So in August my ex, shows up at my old bar, apparently the guy she picked up after I dumped her, dumped her as well. She showed up with her housemate, the lady who lives with her. I was watching, my ex's friend wouldn't even look me in the eye ! Right then I knew exactly what my ex was there for !!! The first chance I got I told the ex to take a hike. I wasn't getting on that train again, didn't like the destination ! | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/27/2009 8:27:27 PM | | Everytime someone has a breakup they always think about the past one. That's what she's doing with you. You finally got over her she will sucker you in because she does no t want to be alone. If that guy broke up with her she will go back to him once your suckered back in. If yo do go back never let her have any control over the relationship... She left you because she lost her attraction for you. Be the man. | |
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