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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/27/2009 8:38:52 PM |
We discussed it and did the adult thing. We both felt if she wanted to pursue this man than i would simply "Fade to Black" and give her space.
is this a troll thread? please tell me it is.
"fade to black"....omg take your bawls out of her purse and stop being such a puzzy. | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/27/2009 9:40:33 PM | I have herd from lots of experts to not keep in contact with your ex because it is just like giving yourself permission to give into them.Now,if you were friends to begin with&you still are now, even before she called you have to ask yourself."Am i really going to go there again?"all these old feelings are just going to come back&will allow you to not think clear because you might be feeling vulnerable right now.Best thing to do in my opinion is to let it go.Ex's are ex's because you usually x them out because it was never meant to be.:)Good luck to you. | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/27/2009 11:42:11 PM | ask her if you can bring your gf...lol....
sorry...
an ex is an ex for a reason....most of us are rules - not exceptions. (hes just not that into you)...a friend of a friend who lost her soulmate reunited 2 years later and they have been together for 35 years...thats the exception.
she wants to see how high she can still make you jump. you said it yourself that she wants to do exactly what she knows you love - dinner and dancing. if she brings the past into your first "date", what else is history going to repeat? HHMMM??
be firm and tell her things ended for a reason. | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/28/2009 1:20:35 AM | Pot calling kettle you wuss. YOU came on here whining about it all. YOU are wussing out and letting your peni and her looks drag you back in like a ****. Yes.. a peni-led ****.
Why on earth did you come on a public forum whining and complaining about this soap opera? What exactly did you expect from reasonable REAL people after 7 screenloads of this claptrap about she did this, she did that, I'm a wussyboy victim after she dumped me for some guy who took her to the keys.. and yada yada yada
Go read your own crap and try to tell ANY of us that you manned up. You are a doormat, LIKE being a doormat, and want some sympathy from all the shoeprints on the front of your shirt.
Naturally you dont see it. You are blinded by her ALLEGED beauty. The same hot sexy beauty she DUMPED YOU with and want off with a bigger, better, take her to the mall and the keys peni. You whined the whole story to people online and DONT expect a reaction??
I'm just saying what others are thinking. Man up sucker. Many other posts say the same thing, but you are being a sucker. I'm just HONEST about it.
It's sickening actually.
Act like a man.. hahahahhahahah.. Check your ovaries . A MAN would have kicked her to the curb the day she left. | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/28/2009 2:10:45 AM | An Ex after 14 mths !!! had hassels from an X for five years because the grass wasnt greener on the oposite side of the fence. She got no where and everytime told her to get lost !
Think once your out of someones life and if you have been pretty decent you tend to find the dumpee after some bad relationships will on off chance contact you.
Early on fine but anything over 3mths then tell her to get lost.Also think its on what terms you split up !!
Think after 14 mths i wouldnt even say hello, she really isnt worth the effort. | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/28/2009 4:48:40 AM | 1kindman,
The next time i`m in Cali which is twice a year I promise to look you up so we can do dinner and drinks.A 54 year old macho man. Wow! I thought guys like you were extinct like the dinosaur. You keep going and they`ll have to reinsert those stents in your heart... maybe you should ease off the viagra... You`re quite a guy!
You can tell "face to face" about being a man! Is that OK sweet heart?
Guys like you are so involved in acting tough. In reality you`re insecurities about yourself and relationships speak for themselves..
I`m positive your ex is grateful that you left...How many times did you punch a wall out in your house? It`s really very scary reading your comments..
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/28/2009 6:22:24 AM | K guys, cut down on the testosterone and adrenaline.
SCD, I told you my story, simply stated, because I think it would be wise for you to follow my lead, not that you have to.
As you said I did what was right for me !
But brother people are creatures of habits, both good and bad. You said it took months to get over her, well reflect on how you felt when she dumped you ! Do you really want to give her the power, to put you back into that position again ? Man you seem like a decent bloke to me and I'm sure you deserve better ! Give youself a chance to let something better come along !
Good luck Bro, whatever you decide !!
Cheerz
Paul | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/28/2009 7:25:37 AM | Hey.. get back on track with your whining about ms. brokemyheartwhensheleftmeforsomeREALmanbutisnowbacktodumponmeagain
Now that the cat is out of the bag you're calling me out?
hhahahahahhahahahahahahahahahah
You ARE an attention-troll since now your own thread has turned to posturing up with some GUY who is pointing out a truth you arent man enough to hear.
It's obvious where you are going with this. Enjoy your narcisism | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/28/2009 7:35:19 AM | 1kindman4u.
For a man your age don`t you think your tirades are an indication there`s something rather odd about you?
Have a fantastic week. I enjoy watching you on other threads. You`re so typical of so many old timers who are from another era. Ease off the testortone pills... | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/28/2009 7:39:58 AM | You are just so enamored with me and my comments you are now scanning through ALL my posts for something to whine about?
I'm flattered. I can hear you quoting the Jerry McGuire line now... I'm really honored | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/28/2009 7:43:52 AM | Jesus guys give to mud slinging a break. JCD posted looking for advice, if you couldn't provide something positive for him to ponder, why did you bother posting period.
Sounds to me like you're trolling for a fight, lay off JCD and JCD don't respond to his negativity, it's not worth the aggrivation. Be the bigger man bro !
Cheers
Paul | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/28/2009 8:01:53 AM | I gotta say something here. Stop swinging for just a second? 1kindman, (I never did get that screen name, btw), your posts tend to be mean-spirited, aggressive and like some kind of inner vent for your own stuff. Sometimes you have good stuff to say but I have thought many times to myself, "I don't get where he came up with that screen name". It's almost like an attention thing. If these people who post on here make you so frustrated and angry, why do you hang out here? I dunno. Call me crazy but I don't get where you're coming from.
OP: Your ex is working you by trying to be your "friend". She obviously is seeing the error of her ways and wants to work her way back into your heart. You seem to still have feelings for her. Your #1 priority needs to be your SELF. She dumped you before...she can do it again. I would want to know what's different this time? What would keep her from repeating past behavior? The trust level has to be at zero...no matter how many feelings you may have for her. Big risk here. Don't be easy on her. She needs some hardcore feedback like this:  | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/28/2009 8:13:53 AM | Adventurous -
Emotion within these typed forums is like "offense" It's always inferred, not always implied.
I'm not angry at all. I suppose there MIGHT be a little disappointment in the overall LACK of common sense, emotional maturity, and maybe just plain stupidity that sure seems to come through these postings.
Are you just a little amazed at the way these threads wind their way with mis-statements, totally misleading facts, and/or all the other DRIVEL that gets put on this site? Seems the society is just plain getting caught up in all their trauma/drama.
I get more positive feedback than negative from my forum posts. Seems I just say what others are too afraid to say.
Oh, just re-read your comment. I didnt make the name for the forum posts at all.
If so I should have made a name like IRONYMAN, or YOUareREALLYSTUPID2BePOSTING THIS CLAPTRAP ON A PUBLIC FORUM man
I mean comeon.. have you READ how much crap is being posted on here? I'm talking about the original posting/questions. | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/28/2009 8:19:04 AM | ad57,
I fully agree with your opinion. We`re friends, nothing more.I don`t expect anything from her and have told her the same. Sharing each others company doesn`t mean we`re dating again. I hold no ill will towards her and her actions anymore.
It`s over and i have moved on.
What once was is now past.14 months is a long time. I`m on pof.com for a reason..
As of the "court jester" of POF. I`m done with his antics. His other threads indicate he has issues with the majority of posters here...
I love how he "degrades" many of the female posters here including his above tirade towards you!... That in itself speaks volumes about his personality.... | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/28/2009 8:26:57 AM | 1orneryman: LOL. You make a few valid points.
I'm not angry at all. I suppose there MIGHT be a little disappointment in the overall LACK of common sense, emotional maturity, and maybe just plain stupidity that sure seems to come through these postings.
Are you just a little amazed at the way these threads wind their way with mis-statements, totally misleading facts, and/or all the other DRIVEL that gets put on this site? Seems the society is just plain getting caught up in all their trauma/drama.
I couldn't agree more. That is why I limit my time spent on here. It sometimes drives me completely crazy. I leave the responses to people who have the "patience or perseverance" to respond. If I hung out on here for too long, I'd be as pissed off as you. 
If so I should have made a name like IRONYMAN, or YOUareREALLYSTUPID2BePOSTING THIS CLAPTRAP ON A PUBLIC FORUM man
Now you're talking!  | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/28/2009 8:34:03 AM |
So in August my ex, shows up at my old bar, apparently the guy she picked up after I dumped her, dumped her as well. She showed up with her housemate, the lady who lives with her. I was watching, my ex's friend wouldn't even look me in the eye ! Right then I knew exactly what my ex was there for !!! The first chance I got I told the ex to take a hike. I wasn't getting on that train again, didn't like the destination.
I had to read that one a couple times. I got what you were saying but was trying to figure out where everyone stood in the drama here. First time I read it I could see that she showed up where you hang out...but I didn't detect anything that said that she was there to meet up with you...just that she happend to be in the same place. I then thought...if she was just there with her friend and they weren't even talking to you what did it matter....and why would you tell her to take a hike. you don't really give any indication that she even talked to you...just that she was there with a friend.
ok....then I reread it and figured she must have called you up (which again you don't indicate) and asked you to meet her there...but she brought her housemate...then you figured out what is going on.
There's a few other ways to read what you said...but only you two meeting there would lead to the last part of what you said. I mean...wtf does it matter if she's in the same area as you are? You don't have to talk to her. Hell I live in a pretty big town (Lincoln NE is not a city) and we have over 100 bars in town. I've ran into ex girlfriends all over the place. I see them (they might see me..don't know) but I view them as just another person in the crowded bar. again...I see your point, and would go the same route if the situation warranted it. | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/28/2009 8:49:18 AM | Moun10dew:
My ex, played a lot of games, got the police involved, had me so stressed and confused I had a breakdown, spending a weekend in the hospital, I also lost my job because of it. Luckily I had a friend on the force who could see the whole thing and last december I ran into the officer who almost put me in lock up because of her. He asked me, " She likes to play games doesn't she "? Apparently my friend spoke to his fellow officer and she now is on record with this history. The man she was with after me dumped her and she's thinking after allmost a year, that she's going to get me back. No Fing way.
I told her to take a hike, not going through that trip again. She's bad news ! Everyone at the bar calls her Psycho Sharon. | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/28/2009 9:01:45 AM | | Alright sweetie this is my opinion-you are a great guy and your ex realizes this....But she wants to see whats greener on the other side....apparently she realized what a douche she is for letting you go for an affair....it has soured and now she wants a stable relationship. please don't take her back-this could very well turn into a vicious cycle..please think that you a a better man than to put up with such nonsense. be strong-DO NOT GO OUT WITH HER AGAIN...good luck | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/28/2009 10:09:04 AM | Hmmm - 14 months???? After you got over her and your feelings for her? After you have moved on? What nerve!!!!! No brains but all kinds of nerve.
I myself have been through this a couple times myself. - My ex after 14 years decided he wanted to be with someone else. - Well, his new relationship blew up in his face and he tried to come crawling back - a little over a year after we ended things. - I basically laughed in his face, had a field day with it and told him that he made his bed.....now he could lie in it.....without me. Some time later, he tried again. - Again, I told him NO and to keep on moving. and NOT to ask about it again, because it won't happen.
Why did I do this??? Well, I have a rule about relationships and it goes like this: Once you walk out the door and say you are finished, then you are. This rule applies to both parties and is nontransferrable. - Translation: Never, ever break up with someone more than once. It is not only unhealthy, but unstable leaving you with the on/off again crap that can exist for many years.
- see jabarian - so you want a second chance thread on the Broken Hearts section.
Forget her. She left you sitting in the dust in quest of something she perceived as better. - and if you let her in again, guess what? She'll do it yet again. To be blunt: You are her "fall back guy".
Do you really want that for yourself? Somehow I don't think so. You deserve much better. Tell her no thanks and to stop contacting you - set your boundaries and stick to them. If you need to, block all correspondence. - emails, texts, phone calls, etc. | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/28/2009 10:52:41 AM | renegadeoutlaw,
And what if i was at fault as well? She left because i wasn`t paying enough attention back than. She gave me ample warning... if you`re ex didn`t pay enough attention to you what would you have done? Stay? | |
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