| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/28/2009 1:06:32 PM |
And what if i was at fault as well? She left because i wasn`t paying enough attention back than. She gave me ample warning... if you`re ex didn`t pay enough attention to you what would you have done? Stay?
Now,wouldn't have been nice if you said this when you first started this post!
You made her look like the fall guy all this time and now your coming clean.
Now you know why I don't date for the most part[there are exceptions]
realtors,investors or banker's type's.
We all tend to lose track what's the important things in life and this is one of them.
Now go rent,"It's a wonderful Life" to get your head screwed back on straight and
you can thank me later. | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/28/2009 1:08:46 PM | Excuse me?... So now it is your fault that she walked out on you because you were going through rough times??? 
It is not like you went golfing or that you were a sports junkie watching football game after football game...
You were trying to keep your business afloat... Like HELLO!!!!
You already made your decision anyway... It is your life... Your path...
Wonders what the girlfriend will do if the market does not recover as fast as it is supposed to be... Wonders if she'll hang around through an other difficult time with you... Oh wait... an other man with a cottage has money and time... Guess you'll have to wait again...
Run Forest run!!! 
OP, I have a malchiavelian plan... Tell her you are going through a really difficult time and you will not be able to spend the week-end sex you guys planned...
I bet you dollars to donuts she has an other dude lined up for that too...
Dang... come to think of it... GET TESTED for STDS... Seriously...
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/28/2009 1:31:21 PM | Hi, I personally think this reunion will be short-lived,
we have all made mistakes but the fact she is not telling all should highlight warning signs.
Its difficult when you still have feelings, and prob very tempting, but think long-term before you make your decision, and dont block out the pain you felt in the past, good luck x | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/28/2009 1:46:53 PM | My God! You guys are unrelentless...We`re meeting later this evening for drinks.. It`s a friendship nothing more..based on opinions, i shouldn`t even talk to this person.. Guess what?! She can do what she pleases and so can I..... There has to be a starting point.
You guys are killing me... from STD,to shoot myself in the gnads.
As for your Malchiavelian Plan.. LOL thanks... I`ll consider it.... | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/28/2009 4:48:32 PM | Like others here, I feel that she is comfortable with you and using you as her back up plan - wanting you to be there just in case, she can't find someone else. You should never go backwards in life - only forward. She is toying with your emotions. I am sure that you do not want to get hurt again. If she wants to go out for dinner and dancing, you should tell her to hook up with some of her girlfriends.
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/28/2009 4:54:17 PM | It seems to me that now your making excuses for HER behavior...
if your attention was towards a goal..not only did she not notice but her attention was elsewhere..pa-leeze. I thought you two were soul-mates?? | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/29/2009 5:22:44 AM | Thanks again for all of your assistance in regards to this matter. Last Night we both decided to officially call it quits.There`s no pint in discussing what she said or what i said.
The "trust" issue was the main focal point of our conversation. I realized it`s really hard to just "pick up the pieces" and pretend nothing ever happened.She did break up with me and left me for another man. That's the simple truth! I allowed the chemistry to get in my way and couldn`t see the trees through the forest per se! Love is really blind isn`t it?! LOL
We`ll remain friends because of our social circle.Nothing more.
It`s never easy to simply "forgive and forget" as many of you have expressed,
no matter what your heart thinks!
Thank You again for your kindness and friendship... | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/29/2009 5:42:40 AM | Sorry it didn't work out guy, but sometimes its for the better and as you know if you don't have trust that's 3/4 the battle lost.
I'm wary of people who leaves someone for someone else and then when they get their hearts broken they want to come back and they say " oh you can trust me now" to that I say sorry Hun, there is only two people I trust , One is me, the other isn't you."
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/29/2009 6:12:55 AM | scd,
I felt you had to go down this road again. You needed to see something that you didn't see before because you were caught up in grief. You did travel the proverbial road and you saw something that helped you clarify.
Yes, love is blind when you are swept up in it. You seem the type of guy to let go, let God when you fall in love. It is 100% for you.
I hope someday there is a lucky lady out there who will see that about you and appreciate it. Stand by you through the ups and downs of your life instead of running away when you couldn't give her the attention she craved.
Good luck! It is a brand new day for you and the the brand new chapter in your Book of Life. | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/29/2009 6:35:07 AM | OP, A very long time ago I experienced a similar situation with my first REAL love. Just like you, I felt that we were compatible, in love, friends, communicated well and did many things together. And just like you, she left me telling me a similar story.
And just like you she reappeared after sowing her oats and wanted to "pick up where we'd left off". "She was wrong, and apologized for putting me through a painful breakup".
Now, I was deeply in love (marrying kind of love) with her; so I was crushed when she left me. I was an emotional disaster for about a month or so.
Just like you, I began doubting my feelings (I still loved her). But instinct told me that I'd be a fool to put myself in that same situation again. She didn't love me like I loved her, and there was really no foundation to base another relationship on.
In my opinion I'd wish her all of the best, and leave well enough alone.
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/29/2009 7:41:03 AM | I realized it`s really hard to just "pick up the pieces" and pretend nothing ever happened.She did break up with me and left me for another man. That's the simple truth! I allowed the chemistry to get in my way and couldn`t see the trees through the forest per se!
So the chemistry is the "trees" and the "forest" is, what, your bruised ego ? You just admitted a few posts above that you drove her away with the lack of attention.
I'm sorry if your conclusion from all this is that you want someone to be with you unconditionally, with no required effort on your part to maintain the chemistry. For me that's a longing-for-retirement mentality. Good luck finding a docile, undemanding, mediocre woman to enjoy the 401(k) of your your relationship career. | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/29/2009 3:23:58 PM | lol...
1childlikeman,
scd, the mods are going to be watching closer on this. They are hardlining anyone who feeds the trolls.
You are most likely in emotional pain and you don't want to be sucked up by a troll who exploits that. Can you ignore him? | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/29/2009 9:52:46 PM | Lusting,
Things she said to me just didn`t add up correctly in my head.
We lived together. We once shared the good and bad times together. I saw her everyday.. She left me,before the bed was ever cold !
She took up with another man! I truly loved her,she broke my heart! She never gave it a second thought about my feelings or for that matter my kids feelings for getting so attached to her. I can`t turn back the hands of time.. I wish i could "pretend" to forget what transpired as she keeps wanting me too.
Honestly, I wish it never happened and i was with her right now, laughing, holding hands, sharing that feeling again..
I see her, her laugh,those facial expressions and than I remember the pain of being alone. The confusion,the healing. You think this is easy to admit?
We went out a few times over the past two weeks! Yes, the chemistry was there but we`re talking on a sexual level. There are different forms of love. The hurt and pain are still there..
No matter what, it`s quite possible she could do it again, what do I do than?
In Spanish it goes something like this
"No te comprendo, no entiendo que paso
Si te di todo, quizás te di de mas
Dime que falto, dime que sobro, dime que paso
Pero dime algo, pues me estoy muriendo .."
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/29/2009 10:32:23 PM | Ok slick let me break it down for ya.. No need to thank me it's my pleasure.
I have nothing left to do but question what the feck is wrong with you?
You got dumped over a year ago and you are still hurt and in pain ?
Climb down from your cross we can use the wood!
You know she went from banging you right over to another guy and started doing all the nasty things she did for you for him. And she was doing it before the bed was even cold! Yet her absence caused you pain?
But the still pinning over it 14 months later.... Just beats all..
But no shet though. | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/30/2009 6:20:01 AM | To meet "for anything else" I dont think I have enough tissues for your constant bawling.
If you cant stand the heat, stop whining on a public forum. I'm not the only one seeing through your attention-trolling charade.
Now it's turned into a "I have to show I didnt leave my testes in her coinpurse like so many other men said" ?
I'm starting to wonder if there ever WAS a girl. | |
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/30/2009 6:54:40 AM | You`re right! Nobody can compete with you! I agree.. You`re the greatest.
After reading your profile there are too many issues for a mere mortal like myself to discuss with you. A man your age shouldn`t sound so bitter,yet here you are. Very interesting.
Therefore, please consider this my last correspondence.
Take care buddy. I truly wish you the best ..
I hope things work out for you i really do....
Peace...
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| What do you do when your EX-GF callls after 14 months?
Posted: 9/30/2009 5:40:33 PM | Dear fellow posters...
Our dear OP started an other thread which really makes me wonder about this one...
Here is the beginning exerpt...
Dating someone who doesn`t have children. Does it work for you?
Posted: 9/29/2009 5:05:59 AM
A few weeks ago I met a lovely woman on POF. Our first date went very well. I asked her out on a second. We went to a restaurant and were having a great time throughout the evening. The conversation flowed smoothly and we were laughing and simply having a great time enjoying each others company....
If I understand correctly, the OP met a woman two weeks ago and has had two dates already all the while dating the "love of his life who came back to him after 14 months"...
Here is the link.
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts13190720.aspx
I know... I am such a  ...
Here I am thinking the OP was somewhat sincere...
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