| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/15/2009 4:26:40 PM | Walk a day in the shoes of a single mother to understand what real love is.
Remember next time you meet one she deserves respect for not abandoning her child or taking the easy way out.
Every man should date a single mother once, just to understand what it means to have something real in your life that has substance and meaning.
They are not all perfect, but a few are just for making the effort. | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/15/2009 4:28:15 PM | | These boo hoo I won't date single mom/ dads are really getting old. Heres the real answer: If you don't want to date a single parent, then DON'T. why does it have to be the main topic of discussion on here. there must be a hundred threads on why not to date single parents. Go read them, its all been said over and over again. I have alot to say about this topic but guess what, I already said it a few times in a few threads, so Now all I have to say is, if you don't like then just don't date them. I think this is the simplest answer. | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/15/2009 4:36:36 PM | | Tito- for someone who is against dating single mothers you sure have fvcked a lot of them. maybe you should keep it in your pants and focos on having real relationships before you wind up spawning a kid yourself | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/15/2009 4:46:44 PM |
breasts are saggy
Getting really sick and tired about hearing about my boobs. My ex couldn't keep his hands off them during my pregnancy and when I was breast feeding. My boobs are not saggy. They are bigger then they originally were but they are still better then FAKE BOOBS!
And plus u lil boys saying how we have saggy breast well u know what gravity does the same to ur ________. Feel in the blank. Its called aging. Its a part of life accept it. Get over it.
Oh and some of u men better check ur receding hair line and ur beer guts before u get all high and mighty complaining about a single mom's body. We have babies what's ur excuse. | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/15/2009 5:05:17 PM | no adult relationship has guarantees
married, common law, booty call....whatever...cast your stones only if you haven't sinned....your post makes you look like a jacka$$.
it sounds like you dated a single mom and she put you in your place...now you just hate us all...
has it ever occured to those who think like the OP, that maybe....juuuust MAYBE...
we CHOOSE not to date men like you?
ya, we're all miserably single because we aren't *good enough* for you...
roflmao.....
IMO, i think you are getting anxious in this dating world. you haven't found a *normal* girl who will date you (i can see why)...and now you have to rag on the mothers...way to raise your chances now!!
i have one word...well, a few, but pick whichever one suits you best bud
bitter, burnt, egotistical,****, lonely, angry, douche, a$$, grinch...etc. | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/15/2009 5:07:23 PM |
I wish I had a dime for every mommy's boy I've met.
And a dime for every single mother with ZERO help (myself included)....
Well, you should tell all your daughters and your friends' daughters to expect a lot more of it.
There are a lot of strong, independent women out there who believe they don't need a man around to help teach their sons to be men. They try to teach their sons to be sensitive, communicative, marvelous little men....
... some of whom learn how to use women's language and feelings to the guy's advantage in getting laid, while others turn out to be little wusses who over-identify with women's perspective.
I love it. My boys are gonna have a lot of selection 'cause they're gonna be cool, very desireable men.
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/15/2009 5:08:20 PM |
Statistically the children of single mothers are responsible for 70% of the crime rate. I will pass that info on to my late spouse's mother, she missed that memo and her boys ened up as police officers and doctors, and family men that treated their families like precious gold. And was a single mother. | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/15/2009 5:14:14 PM | My two boys are well behaved little gentlemen. They win behaviour awards at school.
My eldest son won a scholarship to University where he is studying Politics.
He's got a clean criminal record and has never been arrested for anything..He is more than aware that I raised him myself and he couldn't be more proud of having me as his mother.
I wish people would stop pigeonholing single parents into the deadbeat category.
I've raised my sons to be good, well behaved, respectful young men. | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/15/2009 5:19:34 PM | ^^^ don't go get any surgery done, you might be yucky on the eyes, then NO ONE will want you.
and breasts being saggy and the "pussi" being loose has nothing to do with a C-section.
Some men I tell you, so uneducated about the female body its rediculious. | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/15/2009 5:22:38 PM | Agreed Matariki
(How can having a c-section make the p**sy loose? hahaha...)
Breasts getting saggy has a lot to do with aging Tito - something you are going to do and then your ya yas will hang to your knees - now that's yucky. | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/15/2009 7:12:58 PM | Walk a day in the shoes of a single mother to understand what real love is.
Why do you need a single mom to show you what real love is? By my common sense and from what I have oberved from single moms over several years, I conclude that they are the ones most likely to subject their children to abuse wheter intentionally or unintentionally. Small children being left at home unattended because the single mom has to work or date. Different men who are not the father being around the kids, bringing kids into the world and not being able to afford them anyway and upset that now you are a mom and alone and it's harder to find a man...etc...the list goes on and on. There is nothing special about being a single mom. That's the answer. | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/15/2009 7:28:04 PM |
Walk a day in the shoes of a single mother to understand what real love is.
Means nothing...
Every single mother was once a woman without a kid... therefore all women have the capacity to show real love....
Having a child is not a catalyst of real love | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/15/2009 7:43:36 PM | Sigh really another one of these. Hasn't this dead horse been beaten enough, its starting to stink. Look Dating is a gamble. You roll the dice and sometimes it comes up craps sometimes you win the pot. But you got to roll them to see what you get. So if you think the person is interesting give them a chance. The rest will work itself out. You can wind-up with a childless person who is a drug addict, drunk, pervert, abusive, con-artist, theif, point is you don't know until you take that chance. Everyone have a round and relax a bit. I know I will I got the Ocktoberfest to got to this weekend.
Cheers | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/15/2009 7:57:54 PM | "there are a lot of single mothers that ruin it for the good ones and once or twice bitten, a man then gets turned off by it"
"I'm not saying all single moms are like this but....there are a lot of them out there like this and it ruins it for the good ones."
"I know this cuts both ways....some men are like this to."
"I'm not bashing single moms but you have to realize there are a lot of selfish, irresponsible women (with a 40% out of wedlock birth rate now and a 50% divorce rate) that are ruining it for the good ones. "
Seriously i don't see the reason us single moms have to get so defensive bout a post like this one or post replies as to why YOU aren't like that. He wasn't saying ALL single moms, so therefore its not really stereotyping. He was basically saying that some are good and some are bad (which is pretty much the case with everything in the world) and that some men may decide its not worth their time to weed out the good ones and stated POSSIBLE reasons why. I think his point is very valid, especially cuz of the way he worded everything. He was very careful not to attack ALL us single moms probably with the intentions of not offending anyone cuz he does realize that not all of us are the same. Think of all the times women have been "duped" by men. Now think of the consequences for the men that get "duped" by the "bad single moms." Do we expect them to have some kind of radar to tell them whether we are a good one or bad one? ALOT (not ALL) of us obviously don't have a radar to tell us the bad men from the good men or we probably wouldn't be in our situations. Maybe we now avoid "certain types of men" because of where it took us in the past. I personally will never date a guy that has ever been in jail again, even for a minor offense. Does this mean all men getting out of jail are bad or aren't going to live their lives better? Absolutely not. There are exceptions to everything. But personally i'm not willing to take chances on exceptions anymore cuz of what its cost me in the past. I think its a similar case for alot of men that prefer not to date single moms. Is it fair? Maybe not, but its not fair to yourself to waste your time arguing or cryin bout the ones that don't want you cuz you could easily miss the ones that do. | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/15/2009 8:05:46 PM |
Is it fair? Maybe not, but its not fair to yourself to waste your time arguing or cryin bout the ones that don't want you cuz you could easily miss the ones that do.
Damn, how did you get to be so smart at such a young age....? LOL
You at least seems to be able to see it sensibly, and I think your point of " There are exceptions to everything. But personally i'm not willing to take chances on exceptions anymore cuz of what its cost me in the past. " is a very important one... | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/15/2009 8:25:10 PM | | wow, compliments from the infamous m church, i'm flattered. (blushing) lol. as for the young age, thank you. although i am younger than you, i don't feel young most days cuz i did have to grow up and take on alot of responsibilities at an even younger age. i usually don't post replies in these forums unless i feel strongly enough bout something. cuz then i just become a target for someone else's negativity and bashing. definately not something i need in my life. i simply felt the need to stand up for this guy's post cuz while i agree some men are very brutal in their opinions of single moms, this guy was not. and being that i'm a woman AND a single mom, that should stand for something and maybe open some eyes. | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/15/2009 8:46:03 PM | I am a widow and identify as a single mother, as I no longer have a husband abd co-parent. A widow is about as singhle parent as you can get, as the former spouse is NEVER going to be in the picture, EVER, except in memories.
Loser single mothers and the loser dead beat dads that knock them up spawn loser kids. Most normal decent people avoid dating single parents because they dont want a single parent girlfriend/boyfriend who will drag them down into thier lowlife lifestyle. . Wow. That stung. So childless people and married people are all the "decent folk", and the single parents are......lowlifes
being a cops wife I know who Most of the lowlifes in MY community are, and trust me it IS NOT......iS NOT...... the single parents of the community. Most of our infamous lowlifes are..........wait for it....... childless.
Most parents i know are too busy being.....parents....to be out being a lowlife. | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/15/2009 8:53:50 PM |
My kids are my world, but I do not let them have everything they want. They can have everything they need, no doubt. But they don't need playstations, Wiis, etc. I have a playstation and am planning on getting a Wii, but not for the kids. For my son, its a reward. Honestly, since the start of school, he hasn't been good enough. Yes, he acts up, but he is special needs and is trying to adjust from his preschool where there were 11 kids and 4 or 5 teachers to a kindergarten class that has 22 and only has one aid for him. Its a big adjustment for someone who's been through all that he has. My daughter has a thing about new people or people she hasn't seen in a while. That's normal for a 15 month old though.
Not all single moms raise little heathen brats. I've seen married couples that have heathens for kids... The sword does cut both ways, as you said. Only, you forgot to add in married couples and their heathen kids...
LOL !! I dont get my kid everything they want, they dont need playstations or wii's--
"I have a playstation and am planning on getting a wii for a reward for my son" LOL!!
"He hasnt been good enough--he is "special needs" aka A BRAT! (most of those ADHD ritalin brats are single mothers kids) "a class of 22 that only has one aid for him--So 1 teacher can control the other 21 kids but your nasty little brat needs a teachers aid there just to control him. NICE! Single mothers children are a burden to society, just think how much resources and money having the aid there just for her kid costs the school system in these hard economic times.
"Its a big adjustment for someone who's been through all that he has" Typical single mother refusing to be accountable for her bratty kids actions and blaming others. Like on the news when a young teenage male murders someone and is being hauled off to jail and the loser's mother is on T.V. crying saying wah wah ma baby didnt do nuffin he's a good boy, it's just that society failed him wahhhh wahh.
"Not all single moms raise little heathen brats."
Statistically the children of single mothers are responsible for 70% of the crime rate.
Most single mothers kids are nasty and the mothers never let thier new boyfriend discipline them so don't bother dating them unless you like dealing with spoiled brats 24/7.
Try READING my post. I never said the Wii was for him. In fact, I said it WASN'T for the kids. Second, I never stated his special needs... Lets examine it... Cleft palate (i.e no ROOF OF THE MOUTH), almost died in my arms when he was a month old from stopping breathing, developmental delays because speech is SOO important and affects just about everything else... His "reward" for being GOOD is 10 mins playing Buzz! Junior which is an educational game. It teaches numbers, colors, memorizing things, etc. Look it up. I'm getting a Wii for ME, because I want one. My son won't even touch it. My son is 6 and just started saying "dada" about 11 months ago. He still can't say alot of words. When you don't have the roof of you mouth AT ALL, alot of words are difficult. Try looking up Cleft palate. Of course, I'll still be looked at as making excuses or somehow causing his problems. As for discipline, he IS disciplined by me AND his father. Again, I'm just "making excuses" for my kids' behavior and am a slut even though I was married to my kids' dad... Things just didn't work out between my ex and me... | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/15/2009 8:57:34 PM | What do you call a childless person who doesn't respect and doesn't want to date a single parent but hangs out and posts in the single parents forum?
Answer....a troll!!!! | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/15/2009 9:24:39 PM | [Here is another one that you missed. Getting attached to the kids, it not working out with the mom, and you end up hurting the kids. My brother got in a situation, where the kid got confused and started calling him dad. When things didn't work out, well it tore his heart out. Because of the little girl, not his girl friend.]
Ah, by far the most important, most understandable, and most mature response. Were more women so concerned with the well being, and the hearts of their children, there would be far less casual dating of single parents going on. It is the exceptional (not better, simply the exception) man who can take on a blended family , and the exceptional woman who can do so successfully. A small dose of foresight & maturity goes a long way. Thank you! | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/15/2009 9:33:44 PM |
Try looking up Cleft palate. Of course, I'll still be looked at as making excuses or somehow causing his problems
They probably will say you caused it as the consensus of the men is we are lowlives because we chose not to live in abusive relationships.
Funny how some state that the children of single mothers are no good. Hmmm makes me wonder about all the other kids in my daughters class who have both parents, yet she as a child of a single mother is head of the class.
So to all those men out there who think we are worthless what would you have said if we told you we stayed with the men who helped us create our child and continued to be beaten and abused????
Probably would say oh they aren't worth it because they were too stupid to leave.
Seems to me damned if we do damned if we don't | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/15/2009 9:34:26 PM | | That's why you don't get the kids involved right away... Even if my kids meet a guy I'm seeing he's just "Mommy's friend Mr so and so"... I don't let them know WHO the guy is until I've been with him for quite some time... I did the opposite once, and my son was affected by it... He really like the guy and was upset when I broke it all off... He's adjusted though and doesn't even remember the guy now... If you do it right, your kids won't be affected AS much... Unless of course you're with the person for years and then things go sour... | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/15/2009 9:38:45 PM | Matariki Sweet, This is VERY true.... Though I have to make sure EVERYONE is 100% clear, my ex never ONCE abused me or my kids. We decided to split because we were fighting and didn't want the kids to be affected. Well, at the time it was only one. We found out a couple months after the split that I was pregnant again... OOPS... lol... We wouldn't change it for anything though....
No abuse while in utero can cause a cleft palate. The tongue for whatever reason, fails to fall out of the roof of the mouth there for causing a cleft palate. SOmething can't grow if something is blocking the growth. | |
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