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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/17/2009 7:49:50 PM | "Have you banged a single mother who underwent a C-serian section. The stomach is yacky. You cant go down on her. The cite is hard on the eyes and yet it sticks out like a neon sign. The pussi is is loose and the breasts are saggy."
Wow. Tacky. I've had 2 c-sections, and my "p" is likely tighter than women younger than me. And if you are going to post a reply---SPELL words right!!!! Oh, and i'm sure there are women out there with yackier stomachs than women who have had c-sections.
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Mothers have this uncanny ability to spread their love in many directions. We have plenty of time to devote to whoever we are dating. We are also not asking you to be a "dad" to our kids. It is highly unlikely for me to let any guy i'm dating get close to my kids. If marriage comes up, then that's another story. | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/17/2009 8:01:03 PM | | since when do doctor promote abortion? thats just stupid. yea I can see the comercial now: come get you unwed abortion now half price cause Tito wants fresh women. | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/17/2009 8:06:53 PM | Tito, I rarely am this direct but you really are a horse's ass.
If you are wondering why you are single....I suggest to you that you are demanding and childish in your outlook. Contrary to what you may believe, the world does NOT revolve around your needs. When you are with a woman with/without children, chances are she is not always going to be able to look after your emotional needs as she may from time to time have some emotional needs of her own that require satisfying. For some reason, you strike me as the kind of man who is not too concerned with what your SO's needs are...only your own.
Most single mothers would probably not want to date you anyway because the last thing we need is another child to take care of....especially when that child is supposed to be a grown-ass man!
Check yourself before you wreck yourself. | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/17/2009 9:28:25 PM | When I was pregnant with my son and MARRIED I could have walked into planned parenthood and gotten an abortion just like the teens and other women out there that has morals less than I do...
As for a woman's body after a c-section, your body's gonna change as you age whether you have kids or not. You want a woman with a nice body... Ok... You're choice... Just one question tito... Are you gonna be 60 and dating an 18 year old becuause her body is "better" than that of a woman YOUR age? That's just sick...
Scarelt letter, historically, has been the symbol of adulterers... NOT single mothers and their children... Try reading the book "A Scarlett Letter"... You might learn something...
Oh, and what's a "shaddy"? Its shady. | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/17/2009 10:04:08 PM | you know some of you men really tick me off, if you dont want to be with a single mom, then dont bother. but dont go around bashin us you dont know us and dont know our story and if our kids do act like brats well get over it they are our brats and we love them just the way they are.
to you tito, get over yourself chances are your one of those guys that has fathered a kid but are to much into getting laid and would rather deny it. unless you know our story go screw yourself and dont judge us. its pretty bad my three yr old acts more mature than you do.
TO ALL YOU SINGLE MOMS DOIN IT RIGHT: i am right there with yall and we dont need men like that around screwin with our heads, we are better than that and better than most the men on here.
and one other thing, if you dont want kids stop droppin your pants cuz sooner or later if not already your gonna have one then what will you have to say about yourself. " oh it wasnt my fault i didnt want this, or its not mine" whatever grow up | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/17/2009 10:07:03 PM | | No Doctor promoted abortion to me and i went on to have a kid in marriage, and my oldest doesnt think any less of me for birthing her as a single parent. | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/17/2009 10:14:15 PM | What people don't seem to understand is that sometimes its BEST for us to be single moms... Some women are abused beyond belief and put up with it because they don't see any other way out or think its best for the kids. If kids are raised around violence, they BECOME violent. Violence can only be LEARNED. We let our son watch violent movies and shows but TEACH him that it is only a show and we DON'T act like that in real life. If you do, you get in trouble and go away (to jail but he doesn't understand that... he just needs to know that you "go away").
Then there are the lucky ones... Like me... My ex and I saw that we were arguing more than we were getting along and decided to end it then. Before our son learns that behavior and thinks its "right"...
THough, of course, we're demonized because we put our kids first and leave a bad situation. Or if we do get pregnant out of wedlock, we're still "irresponsible" for taking responsibility for our actions. | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/17/2009 11:04:09 PM | | I'm going to chime in here my two cents and refer to my own personal experience. I dated a single mother who had broken up with her child's father (they had a very lopsided on again/off again relationship, one that's lasted 6 years) and after a few weeks she decided she wanted to go back to him (because he claimed he'd changed), so she did and he played the model role well for a couple months then turned back into his typical jerky self and they went ahead and broke up (To clarify, he dumped her). Based on that I've tried to shy away from single mothers because of that experience. She and I are still friends, but being dumped over someone who consistently disappoints, disrespects, and verbally abuses her was a very low blow. I don't know if anyone else has had a similar situation, but if so I can understand why guys would be hesitant about dating a single mother. | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/17/2009 11:31:10 PM | G-sos the above thing happens as well whether the woman is single with no kids or single with kids.
Watched my sons father get dumped by a woman with no kids, and take him back and dump him over and over again. So it happens regardless if she is a single mum or not. | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/17/2009 11:49:26 PM | | It probably would have helped to mention that she claimed one of the reasons was so her daughter could have both of her parents there for her on a daily basis. In hindsight I can't blame her, but it still didn't feel that great being kicked to the curb for a jerk, but hey life goes on. I see what you mean though, that can happen if kids involved or not too. | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/17/2009 11:59:55 PM | Where to start with the faults with the OP and his post ?? Remember, it takes two, so for every "loose" mother there is a "loose" father who has/had no better judgement. Your post screams "mysogyny" louder than everyone on the site can hear. Bitter perhaps?
1. No one asks you to do anything for their kids. You're not dating their kids.
2. Professional women (well, all women come to think of it) have "zero time" for people like you. Just because a kid is in a single parent household does not mean they "run the family".
3. Exes can be a problem no matter what the familial situation, so quit generalizing about single mothers. They're not the only ones with an ex. And just because a single woman has a kid does not mean that her ex is a problem. But It will be if you make it one.
4. Women the world around value their mothers and their contribution in their lives. If you can't respect that a woman has a close relationship with their mom (worse yet, if you end up getting close to a woman who has no relationship with their mom!) , then you should just quit dating.
5. Again, non-parents have exes too. You think childless women keep quiet all the time about their ex?? Dream on babe.
6. You dont know each and every person's situation. You dont know that they weren't in a commited relationship at the time. "Out of wedlock" so terrible, who gave you the priviledge of forcing your religious views on all women? And what about the MEN that contributed equally to said child out of wedlock? Oh wait, I forgot, nothing can be wrong with men right? They're not "selfish" or "irresponsible" for participating in the exact same act? Only women. Here we go with the men are "studs" if they fertilize as many women as possible, but the genuine women along the path automatically become "sluts" because they have t!ts instead of a d!ck. Grow up.
7. Kids of single moms are no less disciplined than of single dads, and certainly not more so than one where there might be 2 "adults" in the house. Many kids in 2 "parent" households have issues too, particularly if one is gone all the time. What if that 2 "parent" household isnt both biological parents? What if they live together but aren't married? Quit generalizing. | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/18/2009 12:11:48 AM | good one bassgirl ^^^^
i wish the men on here would quit bashing single mums, granted there are a couple of the good ones here who show us they aren't all like that.
and since im not in your country and can't send a private message, the bass totally rocks. Im a bass player here too, mines purple sparkly. | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/18/2009 3:05:42 AM | I wholeheartedly agree to all of the above.... U go girl, lol....
Me now ex partner , after moving him in loved my moldable daughter, but hounded my son out the house!!
My son was idle as in house work or picking up after him self, but he's never been out of work, doesn't smoke, hardly drinks... Got a lovely sensible girlfriend...
My ex's way of disciplining him if he left a towel on the bathroom floor was to soak it, and leave it in his bed!!!
Like that would of worked or gained him the respect he was looking for!!!
Some men think it's their god given rite to come in to a loving house hold and lay the law down, no... no... no.....
I didn't need it, didn't want it.... I discipline my kids, and they love and respect me.... | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/18/2009 2:30:48 PM | | Bouncy Donna, its like you're quoting my life's story. My mother married this guy and its been hell for our family ever since, only difference is my mother abandons her kids and uses him as a reason to do it, he gets involved in everything and acts like he is the head of the house when he has no job (I might add that I and my siblings are all legal adults, so he has no right to act like he's a stepfather). | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/18/2009 4:59:06 PM |
5. talking about your ex all the time at how bad he treated you. okay...here's the deal. he wasn't bad enough to spread your legs for and for you to get pregnant so....it makes you look really stupid and bad decisions. Oh please, that is the stupidest thing I have ever read. Just because a child was conceived we're supposed to accept their treatment of us if it's badly? You're basically saying shut up and put out. What third world country do you live in? | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/18/2009 8:13:44 PM | The people that really irk me are single parents who won't date other single parents, especially when they turn around and lash out at people who won't date them because they have kids.
To me, it's mainly about lifestyle comparability and also the notion that what you go through in life prior to meeting your true love, if there is such a thing, takes away from that love. | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/18/2009 8:34:14 PM |
These stories read like lines from horror film. The only thing from a horror film in this thread is your ignorance and repulsive attitude towards single mothers.
What the hell are you doing in the single parents forum if you have this opinion? You think anyone on these threads values any of the repulsive bile that spews out of your keyboard?
What sickens me the most is that you have aspirations of becoming a lawyer. A profession, that at its bests holds a belief that every person is worthy of respect and has value. That every person deserves equal and fair treatment.
The bigotry and ignorance you display in this thread and elsewhere screams that you are going to make a lousy lawyer.
A single mother might be considered "damaged goods" or a "have been" by you, but that does not make it a fact.
Your comments scream "damaged goods". Don't know how it is you ended up with such a screwed up view of single mothers, but maybe instead of spewing your revolting words around here, you might want to think about how YOU got to be so damaged. | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/18/2009 9:12:49 PM | [I know this cuts both ways....some men are like this to. But what are you teaching your children by coddling them and making them the center of the universe....nothing about life or real relationships so they can't go make their own relationships later on. they will be too self centered. I'm fully aware of the fact that a lot of women don't want to date me because of some stereo type about some guys with children and the crap they pull but it seems to be worse with single moms. the odds are much higher you'll run into the scenarios above with a single mom because she has her kids all the time. I'm not bashing single moms but you have to realize there are a lot of selfish, irresponsible women (with a 40% out of wedlock birth rate now and a 50% divorce rate) that are ruining it for the good ones.]
You start out by saying that you know it cuts both ways, but, let's face it, you only date women! It may seem to YOU that women are worse, but that is likely due to the fact that you don't have the same relationship with men as women, or the fact that there are more women with full custody then there are men. I fail to see the correlation between having your kids all the time and being selfish & irresponsible; in fact, it would seem the opposite.
I could begin to rant about single dads who call themselves such but don't see their kids regularly, or hide income in order to avoid support. I could defend women who "coddle" their children out of guilt about their absent fathers, or the inability to provide them with their wants.
In any case, have you considered that part of the problem is the type of woman you choose to date, regardless of whether or not she has children? There are many single moms who do NOT leave parenting responsibilities to their own moms, and do not constantly talk about their ex. I suspect that the women about whom you speak would be lazy & "me" centered even if they hadn't given birth. Of course, those of us who don't act this way don't have a lot of free time. If that is a requirement of yours, it may be part of the problem. Let's face it, it is difficult to be a single parent involved in a relationship. Everything changes, from the practical to the deep & meaningful. We have to open our eyes to reality, and adjust our expectations accordingly.  | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/18/2009 9:58:48 PM | And all women who DONT have children are pure moral virgins.
So if your father dropped dead tomorrow, would you call your mother damaged goods, because she is now a single woman who has birthed children? | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/18/2009 10:05:27 PM | | Or even better sweetness, a military wife who's husband is killed in the line of duty (or police officer, firefighter, etc)... Is she damaged goods now? SHE didn't ASK to be a single mother! Her husband was TAKEN from her by some whacko with a gun or some terrorist ass over seas. | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/19/2009 10:52:53 AM | For the OP to come to these conclusions about single mothers he must have a very poor sample of the single mother population. Out of all the responsible single mothers in the population, he could only find the worst? What does that say about his judgement?
Deep down the majority of anti-single mother ranters are misogynists with an axe to grind based on personal experience. Perhaps a little cognitive therapy would help them trust themselves enough to stop assigning blame to avoid their own issues. | |
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| Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/19/2009 11:49:57 AM | I just find it amazing that women find a single mother to be a good thing, but a man who has not had kids and/or has not been married over 40 has something wrong.
From what I see it means I should have an ex-wife, kids, and child support...then I would be in the high demand pool of men the women look for. LOL
A single mom won't give me the time of day because I am not a father nor been married...love that!! WTF? | |
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