| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 1:47:10 AM | BBQ's..
It's a man's thing.
When I was married, if my ex decided to cook, apart from spagetti bolognaise, and apart from it happening like once a year, he'd make smiley faces with the cheese and tomatoes, with steak? WT?
However, if he wan'ts to cook a BBQ of anything, or weber, it's manly so yeah, he can't say anything nore can I, I still can't work out a webber 
I'd be worried that he would then start the laundry, and his clothes would have to folded a certain way and that he'd start telling you how to cut potatoes.
My ex-fiance, was a Chef, man did I hate cooking for him, imagine being told how to cut a potato?
It's nice, but on occasions... as in special... I get the "where's my dinner beatch", or turning up late and it's dry and hard...
But, I don't know, I worry that they have a compulsive disorder of cleanliness as well. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 3:55:17 AM | 1kindMan4U ummmm I'm not married to him yet, so definitely not an ex. Just getting started out. BigDaddyJinx still cooks, not his fault she went on a diet and brightestblue is pretty happy with her beau I believe.
I actually don't think that my guy really realizes how special or different it is that he cooks. He doesn't expect or ask for compliments. Like I said when he called, he really just was letting me know it was in the oven so that I knew it was on and that we would be having it for dinner. As 2 of my kids were visiting too, that gave me a chance to make sure there wasn't anything they wanted added to the meal.
Thank you, FriendlyFreeSpirit, I keep finding out more and more that makes me happier. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 4:17:01 AM | I had two who liked to cook. They also liked to cheat, lie, manipulate and so forth.
Being that they like to cook means nothing other than they like to cook.
Does not mean they are more sensitive, more appreciating or anything else that makes them stand out in a crowd.
They just like to cook. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 4:19:15 AM | 1sortofbitterman4u: The OP is talking about her current fiance and I'm currently in a relationship with a guy who's a great cook as well. I've also been in a relationship where I had to do all of the heavy lifting (he was a good cook too, just didn't do it much), and that's partly why I'm especially appreciative of a man who shares in the day-to-day stuff.
Just givin' you a bad time about your username. I'm sure you're a swell guy; you just tend to come across as a bit po'd on these forums. 
While I think cooking skills are a perk, I don't know if that in itself makes for a better relationship. Even though I have no basis for comparison, I doubt very much that all men who don't cook are bad at relationships. Maybe it's more about the thoughtfulness that's implied by the gesture. Like the OP, I think waking up to that smell, knowing my sweetie was taking care of me, seems very romantic! | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 4:42:01 AM | I can't think of a man I have ever dated who did not cook and take a hand in household chores. It seems normal to me. These skills have nothing to do with relationship skills... although I suppose it might reduce some tension which is always a good thing.
A big boo hiss, for women who suggest men who cook are less manly. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 4:42:45 AM |
I actually don't think that my guy really realizes how special or different it is that he cooks. He doesn't expect or ask for compliments. Like I said when he called, he really just was letting me know it was in the oven so that I knew it was on and that we would be having it for dinner. As 2 of my kids were visiting too, that gave me a chance to make sure there wasn't anything they wanted added to the meal.
Thank you, FriendlyFreeSpirit, I keep finding out more and more that makes me happier.
OP, I hope the relationship is not consummated by his cooking.....One thing your man didn't do was actually cook ,all he did was put the roast in the oven called you letting you know it was there...
.Did he cook the roast or did you occasionally look in on it through out the day?
Please explain how he cooked the roast if he was working. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 5:14:15 AM | | OMG! I would kill for a man like that. It would take the stress off and the fun back into cooking when it is your turn to cook or when you are helping each other in the kitchen. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 5:33:53 AM |
I can't think of a man I have ever dated who did not cook and take a hand in household chores. It seems normal to me.
I would think that it is only right for working couples to share in chores as well as everything else.
I need a companion, not a maid. If I am am up on your roof fixing a leak, or under your car with oil dripping all over me making a repair, then maybe you can scrub the toilet or cook dinner that day. Otherwise, I will take care of my share.
I don't think this makes me special. Just fair minded. Why should you come home from work and have to do everything? I suspect you are as tired as I am.
You know, it doesn't matter how positive a thread someone starts, some miserably unhappy person is going to have something negative to say or turn it into a battle of the sexes thing. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 5:36:35 AM |
Otherwise, I will take care of my share.
That's always been my problem. I take care of my share. Sure, I cook enough for 2 or 3 people, but it's not what they want. I'm quite happy just eating a bowl of corn, but usually they want something else with it. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 5:41:24 AM | A man who cooks, in of itself, does not mean he'll be better for a relationship.
That being said, there are those wonderful moments when you're both preparing a meal. The sneak up behind, wrap arms around her as she's stirring the pot...her pressing her body against you as you are preparing dishes. ..flour on each other's noses... snatching tidbits and feeding to one another...giggles.
Okay, yeah, I miss that, too.
***Tee***, I'd be more than happy to help you in the kitchen  | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 5:49:17 AM | AAmm,
My GF and I enjoy cooking together. It`s always very romantic when we do it.
The fun starts from the moment we purchase the food, prepare it and than during dinner where the wine flows,the conversation is going and romance is in the air.
I think anything you and your BF share together is a good thing for both parties... Thats what a relationship is all about!
Glad you`re enjoying yourself and life.... | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 6:15:10 AM | A man that cooks is an added good quality, but IMO it does nothing to prove they are better at relationships.
Example, he BBQ's wonderfully but at same time drink like a fish.....while cooking the meat......
I don't like anyone around me when I'm cooking, I love to do it all or not do it at all. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 6:21:07 AM | I think it's more the pampering nature that you're enjoying, you know... the whole, "Yay! He's done something for me!" thing.
I'm the same way. Buy/make me dinner and I'm floating. I'm kinda like a stray puppy in that regard. Feed me and I don't go away.  | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 6:25:06 AM | I've only had one boyfriend (we were together a year) who used to do the sweetest things for me and cooking was one of them. I was always so impressed with that gesture. It seemed like such a loving thing to be fed. First time in my life a guy had done that for me.
We used to make all kinds of healthy concoctions together. I never felt very sexually attracted to Jason but he was probably one of the healthiest people I've been with. Except that he had a brain injury (he got hit by a bus head first on his bike when he was in his late teens) and it caused him to have difficulty with inhibition (his frontal cortex was damaged) and made our relationship too difficult for me.
I view a man who cooks for someone he loves as somewhat nurturing. And I do think that men who can nurture are probably better bets for fulfilling relationships. I have a good friend who cooks a lot and he is a very loving person so I would agree with this. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 6:47:04 AM |
I think it's more the pampering nature that you're enjoying, you know... the whole, "Yay! He's done something for me!" thing.
My sentiments exactly. I think if he'd left you a note on the kitchen counter, or a flower in a vase, anything to let you know he was thinking about you, you'd probably be just as thrilled.
My SO can cook, but I think I've spoiled him. He still grills, and mashes potatoes (the mixer broke), but I seem to do all the cooking anymore. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 7:20:45 AM |
Nothing I cooked was ever good enough.
So - you've identified the "impressive" part as him cooking... instead of...
a) being thoughtful & having food ready for you
b) not being an unappreciative douschenozzle
While, I agree it's nice your man had food ready for you... I think you completely missed the mark on what makes him a great man. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 7:31:42 AM | I think that a woman who cooks.. and I mean is making things smokin hot in the bedroom is 1,000,000 more important to a successful relationship than any other particular trait you could find.
I mean the number of breakups over NOT getting sex? Talk about being STARVED to death. It's rampant through all the posts on here.
I mean.. people must be eating well enough these days with all the obesity in the single dating sites. I dont think it was a lack of cooking skills that killed the LOVE.
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 7:34:36 AM | I'm a great cook and can bake up a storm. I am the family baker during the holidays.
My daughters often call me asking how to in the kitchen.
I do it old school though. From scratch.
How about a perfectly cook feta stuffed chicken breast with fresh asparagus and salad. Hmmmm capped of with a peach turnover.
And don't even get me started on the horrific ironing jobs I see people wearing. Use some steam you flakes, and a little starch wouldn't hurt either.
And what is it with people who only clean what they can reach as they walk by with a dusting cloth? Door frames and floor board are part of "cleaning the house".
Feck, I not only have my own baking stuff but I even own my own carpet shampooer.
I've got 3 ex wives, so no I don't think it makes much of a difference. But you know what? The place got even easier to clean once they got all their shet out of my house..  | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 8:11:52 AM | | It's possible men who like to cook are more appreciative of domesticity in general. If both people appreciate domestic life they'll make better partners for each other, than those who prefer to be out all the time. | |
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