| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 8:25:10 AM | I have always been more than willing to contribute my share to the domesticated aspects of a relationship; cooking is part of that. Domesticated qualties are admirable in either sex; being able to cook and clean, plant a flower or decorate your home, shouldn't be a gender-specific quality... everyone should have the knack for it. It's profoundly off-putting to see anyone, man or woman, act uninterested or incompetent with regards to domesticated qualties. And on this subject I'll say that it's pretty dang sad and disheartening to see the way things have gone in society with many girls rebelling against anything domesticated.
It's gotten to the point I feel that if all the microwave ovens and fast-food places suddenly disappeared, then no doubt a substantial portion of the female gender would surely and literally starve to death; at least if it weren't for the men in their lives having pity and fixing them something to eat. This isn't the least bit funny either; it's pathetic. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 9:08:48 AM |
I didnt keep count, but after reading all the posts on here it seems that for ALL the WONDERFULNESS of these men who cooked, they were all EX's. I dont see ONE post on here where any of the women say...
"OMG, Once I tasted his spinach casserole and the chicken, I never EVER wanted another man"
I mean.. WTF??? ALL the men you ladies are gushing over about being great in the kitchen got left behind in divorce court of got dumped.
Splain that one to me Lucy.
I'm a great cook. Have owned restaurants too. However, have yet to find a woman who could bring home 6 or 7 figures, much less the raw food FOR me to cook. Seems I had to do the heavy lifting too. Money, cooking, kid raising, cleaning, yard, house, cars.
Maybe men should rent-a-uterus for offspring and just be alone..
now, before the hate mail, look for SOME of the irony in the truths.
Jesus. Every single lighthearted post on this site has you rushing in enraged to say something ugly. It must suck to be you. You're furious all the freakin' time. You're going to have a stroke in front of your computer and die. Chill, dude. Christ.
Oh, and I LOVE men who can cook. There's nothing sexier than a guy in the kitchen. Gordon Ramsay....need I say more?  | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 9:20:27 AM | I learned how to cook out of self defense.
My wife was a lousy cook. I used to pray after we ate. I didn't brush my teeth after a meal, I counted them!
She was such a bad cook, one Summer the flies chipped in to fix the hole in the screen door.
Am I off base? I don't think meat loaf should glow in the dark.
She was a baaad cook. One morning I came down to the kitchen and the****oaches had hung themselves over the counter with dental floss. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 9:22:01 AM | Friday, when I arrived, he did the Bar-b-Que. He worked Saturday and we, my kids and I, went to the Celtic Festival, when we got back I saw something on the stove, but was busy with getting kids changed out of kilts for comfort. What I saw was that he had the meat out getting it marinaded etc. He had actually totally planed and prepped the meal for Sunday on Saturday. Sunday, he did have it pretty much ready to go in the oven. I didn't do the cooking or watching. And he did the dishes, I did ask if he needed help.
My son said that the steaks he did on Friday were better than the steaks at the steak restaurant we went to on Saturday! I am not saying that because my fiance is a good cook, just that he cooks, seems like it will be helpful to the relationship. But he is a good cook, previously of the many things he has made this past year, he made spaghetti and made his own sauce. My home sauce comes from Prego...
After having only been with men that never cooked, really see it as a new adventure for us. I really do think it will be fun to cook together. Not to have to worry about it being my responsibility to cook every meal will relieve stress too. I see that his cooking can make for a better relationship. Hopefully some fun new memories. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 9:27:46 AM | OP in today's society and if both are working it's nice that both help
out in cooking cleaning doing laundry shopping and groceries or grocery's with
out being asked.
I do all the above mentioned and much more. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 9:35:51 AM | | For me when a man cooks he's giving me something from his heart. It means a lot to me. I'd rather him cook dinner than take me out to a restaurant. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 11:19:43 AM | Are men that cook better for a relationship? Only if you require cooking skills in your partner due to a lack of your own, or if you are lazy and dislike preparing meals. I really see no correlation between a man's cooking skills and a woman's likelihood for relationship success with that man. It's on the order of wondering if Sagitarians make better lovers.
I get the gist of what the OP is saying. She likes that her man prepares meals on occasion. It is something that falls into the "nice to have" intangible list.
Now as a man, I have no problem cooking a few specialties that I prepare well. In one of my relationships, my partner enjoyed the meals that I prepared for her. I suppose it was a bonus for her. IMO it really is practically irrelevant in a relationship sense.
Today, before my fiance left for work, he put a roast in the oven. I'd worry about the house burning down with an unattended oven on moreso than wondering if I'm fortunate that my partner is a good meal preparer. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 11:26:09 AM |
Jesus. Every single lighthearted post on this site has you rushing in enraged to say something ugly. It must suck to be you. You're furious all the freakin' time. You're going to have a stroke in front of your computer and die. Chill, dude. Christ.
Pink give the guy a break. Most would never know how nasty he is if he never posted. Leaving alot of women to find out for themselves in person. Imagine that on a first date..... Ouch..
Now how about some baked Perch with a lemon butter sauce sitting next to a nice vegetable salad lightly covered in dressing? | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 11:26:40 AM |
....I have never been with another man that really cooked, so just now I thought that I bet relationships, where the man cooks, are perhaps better. I am not saying both people don't cook, just that the man does too. It seems like it relieves stress because the woman doesn't have to stress about dinner every night. It also seems like it could be fun cooking together, something I have yet to do.
So if you are in a relationship or have been and you are a woman, have you had a better relationship because your SO cooked, or if you are a man do you think your cooking helped your relationship? .
I think that if the man cooking indicates he is someone who is an equal partner in many ways, then yes, he would be better at a relationship. Though I do put something together about half the time, I don't really cook anymore, not on a daily basis, and I don't miss it. If I had a live in boyfriend or partner, I would want it to be someone who pulled his weight around the house, which includes all household duties, including cooking. Or, we could get a maid and eat out most of the time, I'm cool with that too.  | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 11:56:35 AM |
Now how about some baked Perch with a lemon butter sauce sitting next to a nice vegetable salad lightly covered in dressing?
Damn that actually sounds pretty good... throw in some sweet-tea and I'm there. Hmm... 
Just sounds so much more appetizing than these two weenies and two slices of plain wheat bread I just had. I need to fix myself something decent soon. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 12:41:14 PM | I used to cook the tea before my wife came home, but thats because I could. I usually get home from work by 3pm and didnt used to get home till after 6, so why wait till she came in ??
Oh forgot to mention I used to be a chef !!! That helped lol | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 12:44:09 PM | It's so simple - stupid simple, really - but there is something so nice about a clean kitchen, with sunlight streaming in, maybe in the fall with the windows open looking out into the backyard (or back alley, as the case might be). It's so nice just to take care of someone on such an almost embarrassingly mundane level. Whoever could find something wrong with sharing food in a well lit kitchen, having a laugh over a fresh baked loaf or cup of fresh hot soup - well, that's not someone I could get along with. It could be my grandmother's Sicilian influence, but cooking is about taking care of someone else, being creative and having fun.
Mixing and sharing drinks is fun also. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 12:46:12 PM |
It's so simple - stupid simple, really - but there is something so nice about a clean kitchen, with sunlight streaming in, maybe in the fall with the windows open looking out into the backyard (or back alley, as the case might be). It's so nice just to take care of someone on such an almost embarrassingly mundane level. Whoever could find something wrong with sharing food in a well lit kitchen, having a laugh over a fresh baked loaf or cup of fresh hot soup - well, that's not someone I could get along with. It could be my grandmother's Sicilian influence, but cooking is about taking care of someone else... Nice post.  | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 1:03:19 PM |
So if you are in a relationship or have been and you are a woman, have you had a better relationship because your SO cooked, or if you are a man do you think your cooking helped your relationship?
No, I don't think it makes it a "better" relationship - it just adds another dimension to it like if a woman could fix a car as well as the man in the relationship. Come to think of it, I know a number of women who can't boil water without burning it and they do all the cooking...does that make the relationship better just because they do it? | |
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Posted: 9/28/2009 1:03:57 PM | Hmmm... well... a guy that can cook is certainly better for his single seasons. At least then, he doesn't have to run home to Mom 4 nights a week or starve to death. But the question is about whether a guy who can cook is better in a relationship.
My gut response would be that he sure is but then... I was with someone who "thought" he could cook. I am not a breakfast person and I generally like to eat small amounts throughout the course of my day. When I was with him, I would wake up to breakfasts that would have sent Jethro Bodine screamin' for them thar hills... He'd usher me into the kitchen and insist that I just sit. I would be served stacks of pancakes with the butter so copious it would actually separate the 2 cups of maple syrup into rather loathesome pools, half a pound of bacon sitting in it's own rapidly-solidifying grease, hash browns glistening from their own fresh mound of butter and a great big stack of toast. Behind it all would be his scrutinizing eyes... I tried! Gawd help me... I tried to eat! I'd take a bite of this or that, all the while with my stomach heaving at the idea of being in a big greasy clump all day! And when I would only manage a little bit? The proverbial sh*t would hit the fan! It would start with him saying I didn't have to eat... then progress to "you don't appreciate anything I do" and pretty soon, he'd be mad as a hornet! I tried so hard to be "appreciative" that I actually managed to make myself sick a number of times. I just couldn't eat like that. But next weekend, there he'd be again. I actually came to feel like I was being tortured.
So... for me... I've gotta answer your question with the additional knowledge of one who has known breakfast Hell and say, "that all depends on the guy and what his expectations might be"... | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 1:06:41 PM |
Gordon Ramsay....need I say more?
Well, **** ME, Pink, if you love ****ING Gordon Ramsay you should be head over heels with our Mr Unchill Pill...coz Gordon's an unreconstructed ****ING mc piggie.. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 1:16:33 PM | ^^^SilkenFire: Wow! Lol - Sounds like he thought he was feeding an "army"..........
I wish I could say that sparsity had been a problem in his childhood Sabrosura... Unfortunately, he was actually hoping I would "fatten up" so that there would be some validity to his insults.
When I finally got rid of him, I learned that he had been diagnosed as a sociopath many years before.  | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 1:26:52 PM | hallie said,
It's possible men who like to cook are more appreciative of domesticity in general. If both people appreciate domestic life they'll make better partners for each other, than those who prefer to be out all the time.
Good point Me Leona.
Now I can understand those that don't think so cuz their relationship has already jaded already and all the prime rib and shrimp on the barbie is not going to change or help a relationship that already gone sour! lol
~jmo~ | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 1:27:45 PM | "that all depends on the guy and what his expectations might be" Oh that is so true. Honestly when my ex and I first got together, he appreciated my being able to cook. He was living on chicken soup and rice. Honestly he couldn't cook, he appreciated me. Now I didn't depend on his appreciating my cooking, but when you get a complaint at every meal, ugh. SF sounds like you went through a different kind of Hell to be sure.
Someone that cooks and is expecting high praise and not doing it for themselves, is the same as doing a favor for someone and expecting something in return instead of the gratification from doing something. My fiance really expects nothing. He just does it and I don't know that he realizes how wonderful the things are that he does, at least I know that I see such a difference in him.
Only if you require cooking skills in your partner due to a lack of your own, or if you are lazy Really, is that how you feel about yourself? I agree so much about the sharing and being equal. I don't think you get it all. Do you even know what modern ovens are like now? They have self timing and can do different temperatures at different times etc. We aren't talkin no coal stove here
Ismene2 did you see the movie Tombstone? I always liked the line in Tombstone, "we can live on room service." | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 1:35:59 PM |
Now how about some baked Perch with a lemon butter sauce sitting next to a nice vegetable salad lightly covered in dressing?
Damn that actually sounds pretty good... throw in some sweet-tea and I'm there. Hmm..
Sounds like you two have a date. I'm jealous.  J/K | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 1:37:26 PM |
Well, **** ME, Pink, if you love ****ING Gordon Ramsay you should be head over heels with our Mr Unchill Pill...coz Gordon's an unreconstructed ****ING mc piggie
Nah, I think it's his tv persona. Besides since I'll never be a chef (to put it politely) I don't have to worry about his criticisms. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 1:49:23 PM | | I have been in relationships with alot of men who did not cook..and a few who did. I always liked this because of the fun we had cooking together. It definitely helps in a relationship..haven't you seen Stripes ;-) ?? Seriously...it's infinitely more appealing to me to pop open a bottle of vino & cook & laugh together than to be expected to shop for & cook dinner..and then sit down to some meal. Once in a while that can be fun, too to take care of everything..but usually I'd rather the company in the kitchen myself. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 1:50:53 PM | Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Damn skippy we are. 
Cooking just for one sucks, but with the kids for the last over 5 years we make it fun.
I was lucky in that Mom published a cookbook with all the family recipes so I didn't have to decipher her hieroglyphics on those little scrappy cards in a tin. That doesn't mean I always start with or follow a recipe. Sometimes I don't have a clue what I'm going to make depending on what's in the freezer and that's half the fun if you ask me.
If I'm home early, I totally dig doing something like making a spinach salad, marinating a pork tenderloin, steaming some zucchini & squash & serving with rice or *real* mashed potatoes (nothing out of a box.) Then again, I can be the King of One Pot Dinners with chicken stir fried rice, for example. It depends on my mood.
But...the best part is having enough time to draw her a bath, set out candles and a glass of her favorite wine so when she comes home she can have her Calgon moment while I finish being Grill Master.  | |
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