| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 1:53:01 PM |
I'm jealous.
Well don't be, I changed my mind and decided on pork steaks rubbed with my dry rub seasoning , onion and bacon green beans, creamed rice and a jalapeno (on a stick) cornbread.
Steaks just hit the broiler, and the rice is cooking too. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 1:55:12 PM | Hmm Im reminded of several things that are pertinent to this topic. Nathan Bowman, a Brigadier General in the Confederate Army was once quoted as saying....."Any soldier who don't know his way around his own mess kit ain't fit to wield a musket in defense of our cause."
King Ferdinand of Spain threatened to behead his own nephew for speaking badly concerning the Kings personal chef.
Now there can be many points of conjecture about a man who knows his way around a kitchen. Some may call him effiminate (overly feminine) or less manly for the simple reason that historically cooking has been a duty traditionally relegated to females. But with the diversification and development of gender roles I believe it is starting to be seen differently.
I myself am an accomplished cook. I can prepare dishes of Filipino, Chinese, Brazilian, Mexican, Polynesian, Sicilian and Italian origin as well as traditional American and BBQ dishes. And my father for many years was an accomplished chef and passed much of his knowledge on to me. I dont buy that crap-in-a-jar salsa as I was taught to prepre my own. So is it more manly if a man learns how to Barbecue Tri-Tip outside or how to make a Five Cheese Sausage Tortellini with a Basil and Almond salad in a kitchen? One of the most mood altering senses by far is taste. There are fewer aphrodesiacs more effective than a well-prepared meal with the right choice of wine befitting the dish.
And in closing I believe the reason many women find it attractive if a man has at least the basic knowledge of what he is doing in a kitchen it shows some semblance of his independence and that he does not depend on the domestic skills of a female for his survival as well as his ability to impress her a bit with his culinary prowess from time to time (almost like a mating dance LOL) | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 2:47:48 PM | I would have to say no. I have learned to plead ignorance when it comes to being able to cook. Have lost a few promising women in my life because they got openly insulted that I cooked better then they do. Guess it was an insult to their identities as "women". One relationship even ended because I was a better house wife then she was lol. Funny how sensitive some women are over this.
Personally I think a person has to have a special kind of empathy to be a good cook. But as we know some women do not want a man like that IMHO. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 3:54:12 PM |
It seems like it relieves stress because the woman doesn't have to stress about dinner every night.
I guess that would relieve stress for the NON-cooking partner, but doesn't it have to be done either way?
I enjoy cooking - usually because it involves alcohol and gets me out of doing other household tasks. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 4:34:55 PM | I guess that would relieve stress for the NON-cooking partner, but doesn't it have to be done either way?
I enjoy cooking - usually because it involves alcohol and gets me out of doing other household tasks. I am talking from my stand point. I always had to do everything. I used to work about an hours drive (1 hr drive), so not only was I gone about 11 hours every day, I had to plan the meals, do the shopping, cooking, cleaning, absolutely everything was my responsibility. If you don't have to plan every meal and your SO does some of them, it seems it would relieve stress. I know that it would for me. And after reading the posts, it seems like it will be a wonderful way of connecting and making some new memories by cooking together. It sounds like it will be a positive thing.
I rarely drink and can't see how you would get out of other responsibilities by cooking. But again, there was no division of duties when I was married or now, everything is/was my responsibility. When I get married, I believe we will be sharing so many things including cooking and other household duties. It will be REALLY strange for me, but it will be nice I am sure. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 4:41:21 PM | My feeling has always been that if you eat - you should be able to prepare at least a few decent meals - take-out, delivery, and grilled stuff don't count !
And it's really fun to create a great meal together !
It's also a really nice gesture to be able to go all out , and feed your lover in grand style - with all the things you made yourself .
Sometimes, food IS love ! | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 4:43:04 PM | Old school.
New school.
What you are asking for is equality..
Nothing to do with cooking. It's the understanding that two people work, two people live together and so two people, should participate and help each other out as an equal.
Take that into the bedroom as well, most important lol...
I wouldn't expect 50/50 nor would I make a list of what your doing and what he's going to do..
Darn, he may just have done something to please you, sounds like you've told him about your history to me... and so.... he put on a roast in a cooker, and texted you.
Don't visualise into the future... Rather, take today as it's journey... Sounds also like your grooming him mentally in your mind to be the opposite as to what you had. | |
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Posted: 9/28/2009 4:45:25 PM | Its kinda sad, but I'm yet to meet a man who can actually cook- not just toast or scrambled eggs, but actually know of several good recipes or at least be able to follow recipes fairly accurately. I LOVE cooking, and I'd do it all the time if I could but in relationships I rarely got the chance to do it with my SO.
I'd love to meet a man who could cook...just think, being able to share cooking responsibilities, making dinner together, and if you're lucky, even have breakfast prepared for you... *sigh*...Men who can cook is *such* a turn on, it makes them even more manly in a way...
eyeofthecamera- are you saying you pretty much got dumped by women because you could cook better than they could? Gosh, I feel so sorry for you. Why aren't there more men like you around where I live? :( | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 5:04:16 PM | I dont think so OP. I lived with a man who was a red seal chef, who had his own restaurant.
He was one of the best cooks i ever came across. He use to make the most elaborate, delicious meals for me and my kids.
Only problem was, i found out he was screwing a few of his waitresses.
Think id rather have the guy that burns his toast. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 5:08:20 PM | lol dreamcatcher, you remind me of the ex-con who made me egg mc muffin sandwiches for breakfast... how sweet, and it was... and so it seemed, was he... 
But this has been such a positive thread and that's refreshing for a change, and I for one not only don't mind a man who can cook, or who likes to cook, or who even tries, it's something I appreciate, and I agree, it's just one piece of the pie, so to speak, and not one that is necessary in the overall scheme of things. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 5:59:28 PM | I think they could be better for a relationship.
I enjoy cooking very much,and women always seem quite pleased when you invite them over for a great meal.
Plus if both of you like to cook,it can be alot of fun working on meals together,somewhat erotic really.
Living alone most of my life,it was either cook or eat take out,so I'd rather make something tasty and healthy to eat.
"Meats meat,and a man's got to eat",Farmer Vic said this in the movie,"Motel Hell",a terrible,but funny horror movie. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 6:00:07 PM |
Darn, he may just have done something to please you, sounds like you've told him about your history to me... and so.... he put on a roast in a cooker, and texted you.
Don't visualise into the future... Rather, take today as it's journey... Sounds also like your grooming him mentally in your mind to be the opposite as to what you had. Welp, he is a butcher that likes to cook. What can I say, he can pick out the meat and knows how to cook it. He has been married before, but being married to an anorexic wasn't an easy thing. Cooking for her was impossible. He likes to cook and I know that my appreciating it hasn't hurt. He had told me before we met that he liked to cook, his dream was to open a butcher shop with a restaurant. But the economy isn't going to make that so.
If I am grooming him verbally, great, it isn't just mentally, I let him know how much I appreciated the love.
I do like looking forward into the future and dreaming. I think knowing and living in the present is great, but I do think we all need dreams and goals. Mine is to somehow keep looking at the positives of getting married and none of the scary things about moving. Having someone that cooks in the kitchen and bedroom...oh baby | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 6:21:27 PM | As I'm sure has already been said- cooking skill does not directly correlate to relationship skill.
I would argue, though, that if they're cooking to be caring and nurturing it's bound to help the relationship. If they're cooking because "you don't do it right"... well, probably not. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 8:01:39 PM |
Well don't be, I changed my mind and decided on pork steaks rubbed with my dry rub seasoning , onion and bacon green beans, creamed rice and a jalapeno (on a stick) cornbread.
Steaks just hit the broiler, and the rice is cooking too.
I'm having dinner over at Rock's tonight. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 8:14:20 PM | Ok, here ya go. Got me thinking to much about the last time a whipped some good shet up. So now I'm ready for the a.m. I am also going to share my recipe for Carmel, rings and cream..
You will need:
1 can sweetened condensed milk.
1 can of pineapple rings
1 bowl of whipped cream
1 heavy duty sauce pan.
Cooking time 8 hrs.
Remove the wrapper from the can of sweet milk and place the can in a sauce pan.
Fill the pan with water untill the water is a little over half way up the can. Boil for 4 hours. Check often to make sure the water level stays at least half way up the can.
Flip can over and boil for another 4 hours. Remove from heat and place can in freezer over night.
Use a can opener to open both sides of the can. Just do it. Nothing is going to leak out.
Pushing from one end force the Carmel out the other end, slicing about every half inch.
Place 2 slices of Carmel on top of several rings of pineapple and top with whipped cream.
Extreme it up by add a few lines of chocolate syrup .
Believe me when I say it will be one of the richest deserts you've had from a kitchen in years.
Yes I've been divorced 3 times...  | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 8:59:01 PM | Gawd, that sounds better than SOME sex I've had.
And way richer than my X. LOL!
But wait, doesn't the can explode?...
Oh God, ROCK! Run!!!!!!!! Your kitchen is about to be demolished!  | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 9:01:35 PM | Rock Man, have you visited the Recipes and Cooking forums, more specifically, Naughti's Hey Good Lookin, Watcha Got Cookin Thread? You have some very enticing and interesting dishes to contribute.
Aaaahm...(?) let us know how that roast turned out! | |
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Posted: 9/28/2009 9:08:39 PM | Oh you know, it melted in our mouths. It was absolutely delicious. Vegetables were nice and tender too. Butttt...oh yeah, now I am going have to get greedy or start cooking at his place when I am there...Rock, your dessert sounds really good! A must try. Have you done it with apples? Just wondering with a firmer apple, like a Rome, perhaps it might be a good pickup food. Wellll next time I visit, it should be sans kids, so some hands on feeding could be fun.
Some of these men have us women figured out, the way to our hearts is through our stomachs. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 9:25:23 PM |
Having someone that cooks in the kitchen and bedroom...oh baby
haha.
GEEPS, you will be his dream girl how can a man who loves his meat not have it at the dinner table , nor the boeddroom, lol...
Nothing at all wrong with dreams and goals, it's a must... As, long your both on the same path mentally, then good for you both...
I can only add, watch out for the steak knifes... they might not be free...  | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 9:31:51 PM | He knew he would starve if he relied on you....kiddin' LOL
I don't think its a gender issue more the person that he/she is where stuff like this is part of what they like. I know guys who love eating but don't care to cook unless its the barbie. However, with Aussie men they love to be seen the man doing the BBQ...one hand on the tongs and the other hand holding his beer LOL
As I assert in my profile, I am not the best of cooks but I haven't k*lled anyone with my cooking LOL | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 9:54:48 PM | | You know what I found out to be a truism? That pancakes are much better when made with cake flour, rather than regular flour. And with buttermilk too, of course. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 9:54:54 PM |
Rock Man, have you visited the Recipes and Cooking forums, more specifically, Naughti's Hey Good Lookin, Watcha Got Cookin Thread? You have some very enticing and interesting dishes to contribute.
Can't give it all away. Right now I'm one of the unique ones. Why in the hell would I train my own competition?
AAMM: The pineapple acids and bitter flavors mix perfectly with the sweetness of the camel. As I said it is very very rich.
No the can will not explode,if you keep the water level up.
Op, since you brought up apples and this is the season, try this the next time you go to bake an apple pie...
Do not cube the apples! I repeat do not cube the apples. Core them, then run them over a cheese grader. Yes shred them like a block of cheese.
The only thing you change in the recipe is the amount of apples it takes and maybe 5 to 10 min's more cooking time. All the other mixtures will remain the same. When you slice into it nothing will fall out from the sides.
I cover mine with a butter and brown sugar topping rather then pie crust, then drizzle carmel over it after it cools down a little. Rock Mans "Camel crumb top apple pie".
See how your man likes that one. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 10:00:35 PM | All the guys I've had a great relationship with all cooked...I can't cook very well actually but I'm always willing to help out...like chop stuff or clean up...I'm a really good assistant  Ha...I really can't recall any guy that ever expected me to cook...they just would naturally start preparing/cooking everything...I will sometimes attempt at breakfast...attempt being the operative word  One time when I did cook breakfast...he looked over at me and gave me the best smile and said thank you...and I just turned to mush  | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/29/2009 12:18:04 AM | Honestly surprised by this question...I just figured everyone could cook...to different degrees obviously, I mean what do these guys do if they can't cook when they are single?? starve? kraft dinner??
I learned to cook EARLY, because of many factors, I don't like the same food as my family, and i'm a bodybuilder...I HAVE to eat like SIX times a day. Eating that often for so many years, you come up with recipes to make certain foods go down nice and easy but still be healthy.
My ex LOVED that I could cook, was the first guy to ever cook for her, and we both enjoyed cooking together, (like everyone mentioned, stealing kisses and etc) and ya I miss that haha.
but the ex before that, was a chef...and her cooking was awesome...but WAY to picky on my cooking.
On a sidenote I HATE doing dishes (thank god for dishwashers!!) so if there is no dish washer, the rule that's worked in my relationships, is Cook doesn't do the dishes.
Haddock in a white wine sauce with garlic mashed potatoes?
Chicken teriyaki stir fry on basmati rice?
good ol stand by STEAK on the BBQ!!
and various other concoctions...I actually recently learned to cook omelettes, still perfecting it, reason why I just recently learned...is I HATE EGGS, stopped eating them for 12 years, cuz I hate the taste, but trainer said I had to eat them...so I had to come up with different ways of making them...anywhoo
I don't think it makes me a better guy for a relationship, I think it's just something that makes it easier for us to bond, and in the long run is good for BOTH our stress levels, if we can share cooking duties (except contest time!!) | |
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