| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/29/2009 11:35:50 PM |
there's something a bit twee about a man futzing around in the kitchen
Surely you jest! There's something truly pathetic about a mama's boy who can't manage to feed his own self and depends on 'wimmin' to do it for him  There is nothing masculine about a man who can't or won't enter a kitchen and produce food for himself. Helpless/useless is not at all sexy. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/29/2009 11:43:49 PM | | I was second eldest in a family of seven. The first four was me and 3 girls. I had to carry my weight. It was good training for my adult life. I was more prepared/experienced than my mates. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/30/2009 4:17:45 AM | Geez, I said I know I can't do things for cars and most men don't have access to the specialized equipment needed for cars now days. So there isn't a real trade off or any bartering like there was in the "old days." It isn't bashing anyone.
Of course I think it is bashing men saying they are a's if they cook cause I think my beau is totally hot and the opposite of an a. I think this thread is pretty much positive. Some women have had males that cooked that it didn't make things better and others, most, that did cook seemed to add to the relationship.
Cooking imo can be an art, it isn't a chore unless you make it that way or have to cook every meal and learn to resent it as I did.
ChancesRMD so do you think it has been helpful in relationships cooking?
The thing is, from reading other threads, women are expected to cook and men aren't necessarily, so I really don't know how many men are cooking and if it has had positive effects on their relationships. That isn't negative... | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/30/2009 4:12:19 PM |
I love to cook and bake. I've had GFs accuse me of sabotaging their diets
I heard that one too inego, although I didn't bake desserts, I only made dinner, but I was making it nightly as a good housewife and always a meat, starch and vegetable, but he was the one who needed dessert and would have to go to the grocery to get it, and he did, usually ice cream, cannoli's and/or carrot cake!
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/30/2009 4:26:04 PM | aaamm asked:
ChancesRMD so do you think it has been helpful in relationships cooking?
Helpful? Yes. As in 2 people are better than one. It was never a big deal. Helping with domestic chores is pretty much the norm these days. I don't know why a woman would settle for less.
I agree it's fun to cook together, but you get noticed when you treat someone. You know, like breakfast in bed. Fresh fruits, croissants, some scrambled eggs with cheese and a bottle of Martini & Rossi is easy and a great way to start a Sunday.
With laundry I learned to read the labels. If it needs special care it means I don't touch it. I guess I'm not that kind of special. I did have to laugh when I saw someone mention the right way to fold clothes. I am kind of stupid about that. Towels, sheets, pants, tshirts and socks have to be done a certain way or I will refold them. I've noticed the smart ones just tell me :you don't like the way I fold them, than fold them yourself" 
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/30/2009 6:14:53 PM | ^^^^^Yeah, that folding thing would get me. My fiance folds his underpants/boxers a certain way. Geez, I have different drawers with unmentionables and the slips are folded, and some other things are cupped over, but some things, ummmm yeah, I toss them in the drawer and there they are...
I don't think I ever expected a man to cook well, but at this point, I would hope they can cook for themselves. I really didn't find it all that often with men I dated. Frozen things put in the oven they thought was cooking. The one guy lived near Burger King, oh yes, he had a weight problem.
It really is nice to read that men can and do cook. It is nice to read they want to share it.
I really don't know that I want to compare how my fiance cooks with me. I think he cooks great and will tell him he cooks better than I do because he does things like spaghetti sauce from scratch, here comes the but, I have naturally or hereditary high cholesterol, I have had to modify how I cook. I eat low fat etc., like using applesauce instead of cooking oil when baking etc. Some people...yes, my ex, don't like that type of cooking, they figure they are going to die anyway. I don't see it that way, I want to live a long and healthy life. I am NOT complaining about his cooking, but we will have to check his recipes to make sure the fats and/or bad cholesterol are about eliminated. That is where the creative cooking comes in. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/30/2009 7:13:46 PM | ^^^^^ahhh that is where the living comes in, everything in moderation. You have to have some great things like that every once in awhile! I have never made it and probably would mess it up, but I am sure yours is delicious
I plan on making a sauerkraut chocolate cake for my hun's bd 10/30. He mentioned it being really good, but he only had it once. I won't change the recipe at all. I do wonder if I should do a practice run before I make it. My chocolate miracle cake is delicious, my mom's recipe. This is cake that she ate while preggo with me. But I can substitute with things like the low fat miracle whip in that because I have made it enough. Perhaps make them both and let him decide which he likes...hmmm 2 cakes for your birthday, better make cup cakes. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/30/2009 8:43:45 PM | | I think a man should be able to do anything that is needed in the house from cooking to cleaning to sewing. What i dont know i learn or ask how to do it. Most of us guys are single and you do need to know how to take care of your self. The older you get the less chance you would have to get married or be in relationship. On the other hand it great to cook for someone or with someone. With my ex gf we used to cook togher or help each other almost every night. Its acutaly sexy to cook with someone. you can talk about the day and fool around. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 10/1/2009 9:42:54 AM | | I've been cooking since I was 13 thanks to my mother so I'm beyond comfortable in the kitchen. Unfortunately some women I've dated completely took for granted that I can cook so it makes what's supposed to be nice gesture become an expectation. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 10/1/2009 9:46:27 AM |
I've been cooking since I was 13 thanks to my mother so I'm beyond comfortable in the kitchen. This is nice. Kudos to you!!
Unfortunately some women I've dated completely took for granted that I can cook so it makes what's supposed to be nice gesture become an expectation. .
Now you know how women feel. Fortunately for me, I'm a lousy cook, so no big expectations on that front.  | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 10/1/2009 11:08:32 PM |
took for granted that I can cook so it makes what's supposed to be nice gesture become an expectation. So did that mean you had to cook all the meals or just cook sometimes?
My middle son was taught how to make low cal/fat lasagna tonight, it was great! Watch out women, he is learning everything I can teach him and when someone comes to the house to do anything, he is right there watching. Hopefully he will be good around the house some day. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 10/2/2009 1:06:22 AM | 8568 wrote"
I wrather have a guy who is honest and good at communicating over someone who can cook any day. I will cook, he has to just be nice.
Why not have your cake and eat it too? | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 10/5/2009 2:34:31 PM | Not knowing how to cook is a bit pathetic; refusing to cook and forcing your partner to do it all, day in and day out, is grounds for dismissal.
I used to love to cook, but having to earn the bacon, buy the bacon, cook the bacon... it's getting a bit old, y'know?
So if your boyfriend or husband knows how to cook and likes to cook - please for God's sake don't take it for granted. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 10/5/2009 2:50:39 PM | | I dont know if we are better for relationships if we cook. I would say it was a matter of gastric survival that inspired me to learn more than burning a few hot dogs and hamburgers on the grill. I left home and was on my own when I was 18. I could only eat so many hot dogs and hamburgers, which started me on the trail of actually understanding what all those jars of spices were for. Today I can do a pretty good job and have a few favorites I prepare on a regular basis beside the stand in favorites of Hot dogs and Burgers. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 10/5/2009 2:53:34 PM | I have always cooked for my girlfriends, and some have cooked in addition to me doing the cooking for the most part. My wife, on the other hand, did almost all of the cooking when we were married. I did a few special dishes that I was good at and the grilling, but she did the menus and most night's dinners. It was the best sharing the shopping and the cooking.
The last few years, I was eating vegetarian dishes. I learned to cook those as well, and could handle cooking duties any night since we recycled the dishes a lot. Now I cook exclusively for my girlfriend and she really likes it, since it's a way to take care of her and she doesn't cook for herself. I do breakfast a lot during the work week, too. It's always nice for me to make her something new and tasty.  | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 10/6/2009 8:35:37 AM | I will try not to take him for granted as I was, ok more like I was stepped all over and smashed to bits. I honestly never cooked with a man before, so it might be fun. I will be at his place this weekend, perhaps we will have some cooking going on
I really think the men on here that say they cook and enjoyed doing for their gf are wonderful. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 10/6/2009 8:51:53 AM |
there's something a bit twee about a man futzing around in the kitchen
Hey, we talkin' 'bout cooking the meat sauce here, huh? Dis aint knitting doilies you gambino. You gonna leave dat meat sauce to a non-expert? Faggidaboudit. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 10/8/2009 8:36:02 AM | It is a shame so few men seem to cook. What an asset the men that cook are! My son loves Chef Ramsey from Hell's Kitchen, absolutely nothing feminine about that guy f^ck no.
Men that cook are hot I plan on making sure my guy knows how much I appreciate him.
If more men cooked, I think there would be much better relationships from what I have read. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 10/8/2009 8:57:33 AM | All other things being equal, I think it adds to the relationship.
It adds to the 'partnership' aspect of the relationship in being able to share the household duties. Also, cooking together gives you an additional opportunity to spend time doing things together.
My ex and I would 'tag team' a meals together on a regular basis; each of us would take a portion of the meal (main dish, side, salad, etc.) which we'd divy up by our respective expertise (i.e. if it went on the grille it was mine). It was a nice way to get dinner on the table while enjoying more time together. | |
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| Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 10/8/2009 9:11:54 AM | That's not the problem. Actually it is the OP, are men that cook better for relationships and it seems they are. I hardly think that Chef Ramsey would call any woman pathetic because he has superior cooking skills. I know that my fiance can make spaghetti sauce from scratch, so perhaps he would consider that he has better skills. I know that that he is more sought after and men like him because he can cook. That is a fabulous addition to our relationship. As chef's are traditionally men, ya want to splain me tradition...
Yes, I am trying to put more positive threads out there. I am tired of reading negatives and generalizations. Women have to cook but also have to pick up the bill. We want a traditional woman but we want her to also be a liber or whatever you want to call it. I really think there should be balance in everything.
I will be so glad when I get married because I did bring home the bacon, fried it up in the pan, took care of everything, and yeah, he thought he was a man But with my fiance everything is so different. Heck, he even vacuums, sharing household chores is going to be amazing. Really have done everything my entire adulthood and started cooking for my family when my mom started working at a job that had benefits.
Sharing chores will also get things done twice as fast for other activities | |
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