| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 11/12/2004 2:58:22 AM | | another reason we go for ***holes is cuz we let those warm fuzzy feelings get in the way and let our stupidity take over.. EXAMPLE: MY LAST TWO RELATIONSHIPS, emphasis on last relationship. | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 11/12/2004 9:06:44 AM | | sooooo true. Lots of my gurl friends are attracted to these " big bad & dangerous" LOOKING guys.. eww.. they KNOW how it is with them, but the they like having a badass b/f, sumone who everyone is scared of or knows of. NEVERRRRRRRRR make sumone a priority, if your only going to be an option. | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 11/12/2004 11:05:10 AM |
never make someone a priority if you're only going to be an option
d*mn! that's the best thing i've heard in YEARS - thank YOU!
my new lifelong motto..  | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 11/12/2004 3:01:35 PM | To Shawn: the only thing I can think of is maybe she is stupid if your a nice guy and you treated her lik a queen and she left anyway. Then your to good for her maybe she will call you in a few months sayin I did a bad thing I should not have left you. Because she will have noticed that she missed out on a great guy and she ended up with crap with a guy that treats her bad.
To Bos: Believe me I wonder the same thing sometimes to. Seeing Extra LARGE girls with buff hot guys. But when I see that first honestly I am shocked not goin to lie. the 2nd thing I think about is maybe they connect deeper then just looks. I aint the hottest or the sexyest girl in the world. But some of my ex';s people thought we should not be together but we connected as friends first. ANd dont worry you seem lik your a great guy you will find someone soon. Besides you work at a club you should be able to meet LOTS of hot chicas there | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 11/12/2004 10:11:37 PM | Here's your answer Shaun:
Girls go for a$$holes instead of niceguys, because there is more drama, and women, (no matter how much they will argue the fact) -LOOOOVE drama and the 'thrill of the chase.'
Guys, have you ever noticed how, when you give a girl constant attention, and call her alot, she eventually gets sick of it and dumps you?
There's no challenge there.
That is why girls like a$$holes. Keep in mind, this is GIRLS, not women.
Women, who are old enough and mature enough to understand relationships and responsibility, do not go for a$$holes.
usually. LOL | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 11/12/2004 10:44:25 PM | | You are 'way too young too put all girls in the same category and perhaps what YOU thought was treating a girl "like a queen" was not what she thought you were doing...how did you treat her like "royalty."...??? | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 11/12/2004 10:50:46 PM | | His pic is Big Macho Football guy-which would attract a lot of bimbos anyway...why not have a photo of himsrlf without the football stuff and forget the BigManOnCampus look...some girls go for the sports "groupie" thing...it's true...and they are the mindless idiots he may be attracting! | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 12/22/2004 8:14:55 AM | i think the girls who go for a**holes is simple,they have low self esteem,confidence
the reason i say that is when they do break up,the next guy is exactly like the last one
names are just differant
and not for nothing most guys(i said most)are pigs  | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 12/22/2004 9:47:54 AM | | girls like a guys they can hope to change, guys who are "deeply passionate" about loving them even when he is kick thier a** or ****ing thier bestfriend, but hey they can still change him. **** dat | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 12/22/2004 10:24:39 AM | The best advice is not to listen to the girls. They will lie and not mean or feel what they say. When the same situation faces them, they will not follow their own advice. The only girl who posted in this thread who gave accurate info was janabanana. It was actually good advice and a perfect illustration of how girls (not women?) are stupid. (Or should I say how they *can* be stupid? I don't wanna get in trouble! BAHHHH). This doesn't apply to JB who I think gave honest and useful info.
Basically, most girls' critieria is as follows:
1) looks
2) attitude (includes bad boy image and a**hole personality)
3) money, wealth, material items etc.
Let's talk about "attractive girls" for a minute. Most will have high standards as they'll be more shallow and superficial than most girls definitely. They're more likely to uphold all three requirements but occasionally demand just #2 and #3. No. 3 is an absolute must if they compromise on #1. These girls basically think they can have their choice so they want a jerk who they feel is a challenge or at least a guy who won't be drooling around them all the time or playing the lap dog role. As for below-average and average looking women, they desire all three as well but will compromise more than the "hotties." I suggest that their personalities aren't as snobby or shallow also. Overall, though, I wonder if it is best to guard against doing things that appear like you are trying to impress or interest the girls you are interested in. Even if you're not interested in the (hot) girl (since she's a stuck up ho), there is no need to give her an ego boost. You're not there for her amusement and self-esteem issues. | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 12/22/2004 10:29:15 AM | Shawn... Nice name but spelled wrong.. LOL... jk..
Chicks dont know what they want half the time.. Jut be you bro, either a** or not an a**.. they want security, but also variety, spice in their life.. its wierd.. Iknow.. they like badboys to treat them bad, but the good guys to be there to pick them up.. Stupid I know.. cheers bro.. | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 12/22/2004 10:30:31 AM | | Oh, I should have added... no insult intended as some at the beginning of the thread stated pretty neutral stuff. I merely don't trust what many say when they're trying to help. You can ask any guy on this forum and I bet anything that most will agree too many girls say one thing but didn't mean it. It may even be innocent or she will be unaware at the time but it's not really genuine. That's just the way it is. | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 12/22/2004 10:39:30 AM | Sometimes we don't realize they're as*'ss till they show their TRUE colors .....happens all the time..... Their called..
As*-holes is incognito!! | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 12/22/2004 10:44:16 AM | I dont date ***holes
I always seem to date the quiet, shy mysteriously attractive guy in the corner,
of course when it comes to heftymon hes blatanly attractive but def still shy, but the sweetest guy in the world, biggest heart ive come across. | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 12/22/2004 11:27:35 AM | Big dude , I hear ya , happens to me all of the times , after they have been gone through crap they want us to be their to clean up after them and their bad dude , then place us in second place because their kids come first , I seem to end up babysittin during past dates .
Haven't dated in a couple of months, if a good guy gets picky , no dates happen , if not picky , end up getting crapped on with the users you mention that now wanna good guy.
People here may not hink of me as a good guy but I never met a girl that did not like me or never lost my number , they always call me when they have problems for me to fix or to defend them from an ***hole they eventually come back too... | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 12/22/2004 11:47:40 AM | I know......My neighbor is an a**hole.He has some many girlfriends,that call him day and night.they all think they are the only one's in his life.he treats them like door mats.they all keep coming back for more.it is so funny listening to these women talk about him as ,like some god.and i know the real him.i have been looking for only 1 women.he doesn't even have to look ,he treats them like s**t for one night and there hooked.maybe he should write this,and tell you why..so all you women out there who think you are the only one,think again.ask to see his/her phone for a second.check the call history,that will tell you everything you don't want to know....done venting!!!! | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 6/14/2005 8:27:25 AM | The only thing I can add here is that profiling works.Take a list of characteristics you find attractive(ladies)and apply them to personality types.More often then not,those very characteristics will pop up on the a_sshole.The nice guys you're always dissing because they don't strike whatever it is in you that you drew you to the a_sshole,they don't possess a lot of these characteristics because they're a different profile.
So ladies,if you talk to a guy and you don't find him attractive because he doesn't have the glint in his eye,doesn't talk**** or come up with cute lines or doesn't seem all that confident.Look closer.The characteristics you like may be well within this guy,just not up on the surface like they are with a_ssholes.A-ssholes generally know what women fall for and they play upon it. | |
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| Summary
Posted: 6/14/2005 8:40:09 AM |
Devreser:
NEVER make sumone a priority, if your only going to be an option.
JanaBanana:
Girls go for a$$holes instead of niceguys, because there is more drama, and women, (no matter how much they will argue the fact) -LOOOOVE drama and the 'thrill of the chase.'
Guys, have you ever noticed how, when you give a girl constant attention, and call her alot, she eventually gets sick of it and dumps you? There's no challenge there.
Women, who are old enough and mature enough to understand relationships and responsibility, do not go for a$$holes
BigMike1978:
they want is the "badboy" a$$hole types who like you said treat them like $hit. Then later down the road when they mature and wisen up a bit and have kids they want the "good guy" but no offense ladies, We don't want someone who's used,abused and full of issues!!! I don't know what to tell you though, I do the best that I can, and 6 months down the pike they sh*t on u for some broke "badboy" loser...and then 2 months later they come crawlin back, but like I said before....I sure as hell don't want that bs back...
Sddude:
Big dude , I hear ya , happens to me all of the times , after they have been gone through crap they want us to be their to clean up after them and their bad dude , then place us in second place because their kids come first , I seem to end up babysittin during past dates .
Haven't dated in a couple of months, if a good guy gets picky , no dates happen , if not picky , end up getting crapped on with the users you mention that now wanna good guy.
they always call me when they have problems for me to fix or to defend them from an ***hole they eventually come back too...
I've been pondering a lot about this. I think should I still be a nice guy??? Or should I be a jerk and chase ****es and ho's till I find a girl I really want. But likes someone said in an earlier post dropping the act is hard to do.
The_Truth:
Basically, most girls' critieria is as follows:
1) looks
2) attitude (includes bad boy image and a**hole personality)
3) money, wealth, material items etc.
words on hotties
The_Truth:
These girls basically think they can have their choice so they want a jerk who they feel is a challenge or at least a guy who won't be drooling around them all the time or playing the lap dog role.
from what I read The_Truth believes that
the hotter a woman is the more likely she is to stick to the 3 and be snobby or shallow
and the lower she gets on the hottness scale the more willing she is to compromise and the less snobby or shallow she will be
reminds me of a song:*sings* "if you wanna be happy for the rest of your life get an ugly girl to be your wife"
NEways The_Truth asked a good question
Overall, though, I wonder if it is best to guard against doing things that appear like you are trying to impress or interest the girls you are interested in. Even if you're not interested in the (hot) girl (since she's a stuck up ho), there is no need to give her an ego boost. You're not there for her amusement and self-esteem issues.
I've seen that in action with a friend I wasn't interested in. She was basicly throwing it at me.
I wonder if any guys/gals have comments on acting not interested when you really are. | |
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| Summary Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 7/18/2005 10:15:24 PM | | i don't know the answer to this one. why would anyone would, that's the question. who wouldn't want to be pampered and cared for and treated with respect? anyway, what i learn from my psych in human sexuality is that women who go for the bad guys may have low self esteem and being such they somehow gravitate to people who confirms what they think of themselves, no matter how smart/intellectual. also, people like the sense of familiarity, and if you have a low self-esteem, would you risk getting out of your comfort zone to grab that nice guy whom you think don't even know you? you'd think that if you have low self-esteem you'd find someone who will make you feel the opposite, not. that is going against your mindset and frame of reference. gosh, love this dancing banana. | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 7/18/2005 10:32:27 PM | I would have to agree with the OP here. Most of my girlfriends would admit to having made all the wrong choices when dating men. They say usually they are attracted to guys who are "edgy" and a bit of a bad guy because they seem less boring. Then they complain that they can never find "nice" guys. What they're really saying is that they cannot find guys to come across as a-holes, but are actually nice guys instead. Women, I have found.... are VERY confusing.  | |
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