| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 7/19/2005 11:31:37 AM | Here's a question, how do you *know* that the ***holes get more women ? I certainly haven't seen any stats.
I'd guess most nice guys have two functioning eyes and ears. If the average nice guy looks back at all of the times he's known his female friends to have dated an ***hole, compared to a nice guy, it's at least 5:1 if not a higher ratio. If you then go and compare notes with someone else, you start to notice that these are trends and not statistical anomalies. Even if you don't believe that, just read the threads made by women here and you'll see that the ***hole to nice guy dated ratio is probably even higher. It's just common sense. | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 7/19/2005 11:40:05 AM | "usually the prick appears to be the dominant one"
You don't have to be an a-hole to be the dominant one in the room. Bad boy may be another word for immaturity. It's very childish for someone to yell and scream and throw a temper tantrum when he doesn't get his way. Confidence is always attractive to both sexes. No one wants a wimp or someone who can't stand up for himself. And I think most women are happy to have fun with the "bad boy" but when it comes to settling down they want a whole lot more than a sexy image. | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 7/19/2005 11:45:23 AM | | confidence spills over to arrogance and they arent far apart from each other. Its the arrogance that is perceived as being an ahole. | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 7/19/2005 11:52:24 AM | well rafael in response i'd have to say that women usually don't go out looking for ***holes, and usually the stories you hear from your female friends are one-sided.
a) you only hear about the bad stuff usually, you never hear the good stories
b) you're only getting one version of the truth
c) people after breakups will try and pin it on the other person so that it's not their fault and they don't have to admit something is wrong with them
plus, you have to go through the bad ones before you find a good one. just like hairdressers! | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 7/19/2005 12:22:04 PM | plus, you have to go through the bad ones before you find a good one. just like hairdressers!
That's true but haven't you ever known a woman who kept getting stuck with the same personality types all the time?I have lots of female relatives and as an outsider male looking in it's easy to see the pattern.
I'm not getting one version of the truth I'm sitting back as a passive,objective observer.As far as "good stuff",all I see are the traits that got the woman's attention.Cocky (confident)behavior and a smart a_ss sense of humor.The bottom line:these guys know how to push a woman's buttons.It works 98% of the time.The only women I know who don't easily fall for these types are the older ones who have done so in the past and learned.Then there are some women who never learn. | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 7/20/2005 3:07:09 PM | | burnabyblondie.. you are soo true, but what about the guys that you know are *ssholes, I have a few friends that are unbelievable *ssclowns!! The girls know this too but they still seem to throw themselves at him, why is this?? | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 7/20/2005 3:17:46 PM | | Danger is enticing, and quite often a bad boy image is very appealing to a woman because her girl friends will think, wow, he's dangerous and hot! I think sometimes women go out of their way to choose people based on how their friends will react. I could be wrong. | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 7/20/2005 3:20:17 PM | | There has to be more to it than just falling for "***holes". Some women apparently think it somehow makes them more independent and better men for protection, and even love. The nice guy image seems to conjure up ideas of either they are lying, too weak to argue, would not be strong protectors of the woman, and this somehow gets them to feeling nice guys are weak and can't take a stand. Such are considered losers. So the woman in many cases wants the macho image of a REAL man! So nice guys are placed in the category too often of being chicken nerds who aren't good manly types that would appeal to women. | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 7/23/2005 11:30:55 AM | Well I can ad a good point of view to this topic, due to the fact that I have been at both ends of the spectrum. I started out as a bad boy ***hole type but changed my way's to the nice guy type. As a ***hole I was extremely confident,**** and manipulative I treated women like crap and they were even more attracted to me for it, 4 out of every 5 women I met wanted me. Now that I’m a nice guy women either, don’t think I’m for real, or think this guy is too good to be true, or they try walking all over me just because some ass did it to them lol. It really is a vicious cycle but all you can do is keep learning, get smart abought it and keep in mind that not everybody's bad. There are still nice people out there, they are just getting buried by the ever increasing amount of trash.  | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 7/23/2005 11:36:09 AM | Is there a proze for how many times this thread can be recycled? If so, what's the prize please? I'm DYING to know.
OY.. er I mean OT:
Consider this.. ***holes align themselves with other ***holes? The longer you pretend that your average decent girl will pass you over for an ***hole, espcially if you vocalize this... the longer you will be single.
Guys who are insistant about girls liking ***holes fail to realize that THEY are ***holes.. but they're complaining.. so obviously their theory is then proven wrong. | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 7/23/2005 11:44:30 AM | here,s the trick
dont treat her like shit treat her like a queen
when she,s around with you treat everyone else like shit | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 7/23/2005 12:17:56 PM | I think Janbanana said it best. I'm glad a woman said it. If a guy had said it, it would be discounted.
However, it seems to be age related. When woman are young, they are attracted to bad boys. No question. However, after they have been burned five times, and they age two decades more, then their thinking changes. But usually it is far too late to start over.
So to the original poster, yes there is some truth to this matter. But don't be bitter about it. There are lots of girls who will not dump you for some lout. And the type that do, you don't want anyway. Consider it a filtering mechanism. And take consolation in the fact that the bombshell woman who is that way, will end up getting cheated on and run over by the very guy she dumped you for. Call it nature. Call it karma. Call it poetic justice. Call it revenge of the nerd. But you will end up having the last laugh. So just laugh it off.
Good women are everywhere. But, remember, don't be too nice right off the bat. Play it cool and you will probably fair better. Ironically, this is what many would call playing mind games. | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 7/23/2005 2:30:08 PM | I personally go for the pretty boys...***holes turn me off.....altho when a man walks away and he has a fine butt, I have been known to follow.....
Squeak | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 7/23/2005 3:16:38 PM | | **holes turn me off too. Good manners are a must! Great sense of humor along with good morals and values. That is a turn on to me! | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 7/24/2005 8:03:23 AM | | I agree that when most women have been run over by a$$holes they learn their lesson.Much the same way a man eventually learns that a hoe don't make a housewife.Yet there are some who never learn. | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 7/26/2005 5:46:12 PM | Hey I would never let a guy treat me like shit and stick around... well except for that one time...Okay here is the anwser WE DO NOT KNOW THEY ARE A- HOLES TILL IT IS TO LATE... we fall in love with nice guys who turn into jerks so then we have to go through the grieving ,guilt stage, why me stage,and finally the break up.
In my life guys have lied through the roof to get me to date em ..(ie. oh no I dont smoke) then they make sure we are falling for em and break the news (well I was quiting baby have some faith) so by the time we figure out they are total creeps (which might take months by the way) we are already emotionaly invested into the relationship. So my question to guys is: Why wait to become an a-hole and why lie?
Not saying all guys do this.... I know alot of really great guys so no hate mail.... | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 7/26/2005 7:09:58 PM | been away for a while but had to add another side to the coin
Some women will go after guys they know are wrong for them because they're not ready to commit or are afraid of being tied down.
Also people tend to find certain things attractive so they'll keep ending up with similar personalities of men/women even though it has little chance of survival in an attempt to find what they're looking for. | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 7/26/2005 7:51:12 PM | i've noticed this trend as well.
my last girlfriend cheated on me with a guy that has taken a swing at her, threatened her life, had the cops called on him, etc - but she would rather be with him than me.
she's complained about him threatening to kick a baby out of her if she got knocked up, and she's complained about him leaving her at a fast food place and going home without her, stranding her there.
another ex girlfriend ended up staying with a guy (and having 2 kids with him) that supposedly gets all crazy violent every now and then because of a drinking problem.
another girl i know has been with her boyfriend for a long time now even though he's beat her. | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 7/26/2005 8:32:55 PM | I think the problem is a women's "chemistry" is set off based on what a woman needs instinctively rather than what she needs emotionally.
In the past having a big strong scary guy was useful for survival. Women don't need men for survival anymore. Their instinctive attraction didn't change but society did.
Their "chemistry" is set off based on things that make men good hunters, and protectors which has nothing to do with satisfying a woman's emotional needs.
A lot of nice guys feel sorry for themselves because they have a really difficult time competing with the types of guys that women call jerks.
Personally, I feel sorry for women because they end up with the exact opposite of what they need. | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 7/26/2005 8:41:46 PM | | One of the most interesting things I have learned about about a..holes Is that you dont have to like them either. walk up and beat the tar out of one and then turn to his girl and say that he doesn't deserve you. Now I know that two wrongs dont make a right. But it totaly works ;) | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 7/26/2005 8:41:50 PM | I have found that women are deathly afraid of nice guys. They are afraid they might actually like him and settle down. You have to find the one who not only SAYS they are ready to settle down but actually means it. That is the kicker. Some will screw you and leave. Believe me, it isn't as fun as it sounds. Some will tell you, no, I don't want you as a friend, you are different but still leave you (this is for those who are not the **** type of nice guy.) Otherwise I just don't know. The bad guy is always there waiting and the low self-esteemed (not sure if that is a word) woman is all for it because she thinks she deserves it. Find a well-rounded successful woman who is confident in herself and ready to commit. LOL, I know, it ain't happenin. Anyway, no solutions here, just observations.
Jeremy | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 7/27/2005 12:17:57 AM | | well it is true most of the time, then they complain about it to nice guys like us afterwards, do it all over again. Those type of idiot women want to get blood from a stone. Some advice, those women are BEYOND stupid and shouldn't be worth your time dude | |
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