| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 7/27/2005 1:10:47 AM | | I think it's really just a simple matter of avoiding boredom. That's also why you always read "make me laugh" in profiles. Women are just people, don't necessarily know what they want, but need a lift. You know, just like guys. | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 7/27/2005 1:28:22 AM | | good question and we will never know the answer but i thought i'd share my little experiment with all of you i met this girl about 9 months ago who lived down the street and i was instantly sprung shes 19 hott and not to skinny not too big you know well anywayz she was just all out amazing i treated her like everywoman should be treated walked her home at nite opened doors thats just me and she constantly turned me down time after time well one day i just thought i'll try being an a****le and see if it's true i ignored her stopped walking her home let her open the door for me next thing you know she was trying to get me to go out with her so i still played the jerk and said well i don't know that drove her nuts she was more sprung on me than i was on her so we hooked up and and finaly told her about this soo my experiment proves that most women do go for the rude crude spitting cursing man it's just like wild lions the females allways go for the more dominant alpha male it's nature | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 7/28/2005 11:10:05 AM | That is very true, i have been experimenting the same way and got the same results.
It seems these day's when you act nice it, gets you nowhere 3/4 the time and you have to act like a as****hole just a bit to get them interested in you. Its also very hard to find a pattern because no 2 women are alike, their all different and react differently. | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 7/28/2005 11:21:14 AM |
One of the most interesting things I have learned about about a..holes Is that you dont have to like them either. walk up and beat the tar out of one and then turn to his girl and say that he doesn't deserve you. Now I know that two wrongs dont make a right. But it totaly works
You would then be considered the a$$hole......smart move! | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 7/28/2005 12:03:54 PM | I can't imagine allowing a man to hit me. My first husband came pretty close and I left him.
You can be a very large ass.shole without ever striking any-one.
I dont think the OP was talking about physically abusive people.
OT; I agree with the OP.
Most women want the pretty boy / bad guy / attitude type who acts like he doesnt care, and in most cases he really doesnt. They might come on here and say differently but in real life I see examples of it daily.
I have even tested it a few times and it is true. | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 7/28/2005 6:48:49 PM | | 'cause they don't know what they want....A nice clean-cut guy is boring-so they go for the "bad-boy", 'cause their bored-Then they get hosed-What was the question, again? | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 7/29/2005 6:12:29 PM | because these guys dress up in nice guy costumes and say the right things, do the right things until you are hooked.
the nice guys are too shy at times and dn't go for it.......that is not the womans fault...
I talked to his guy for weeks great guy, met him and told him how nice he was and he said.
"No I am not a nice guy" I found out a couple of days later and blew him off pretty quick. but I had already started to like him so was a little bummed at first.
Then this nice guy wanted to offer me the world on the platter but never pursued me, we would talk but he was not very confident and that is a big turn on but he was so nervous.
Men we need to hear it best from the horses mouth.
If you want me then tell me!!! cuz I won't know and I am not gonna guess at it either..... | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 7/29/2005 6:22:44 PM | | I've yet to be treated like a queen. I think hell would freeze over before that would ever happen. | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 7/29/2005 7:17:13 PM | I wans't going to reply to this question, but after reading all the posts on this subject, I have to agree with alot of you. I know some women who date guys who have been in jail, are in jail, or on their way to jail. Some women do like those "bad boys." Some even like the men who are not very well mannered. Is it animal attraction, or primal lust? As for the bad boy image, I once was one of those, and I was a beer drinker and hell raiser back in the day. Had plenty of women too. But now that I changed "for the better," it's seems harder to find a woman who likes decent men. Sometimes I wonder if I should just go back and get "tore up from the floor up"..and raise some hell---and then maybe I'll find the right woman. No, just kidding, I'm happy for how I changed for the better-I just have to keep looking I guess.  | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 7/29/2005 7:48:40 PM | | Um, I think you're generalizing. It happens to girls too, where she treats her man like he's the centre of her universe, and he leaves for whatever reason. I don't know why some women find the ***hole type of male more attractive, but I think it's the nurturing part of a woman that's her downfall there. A lot of women feel that they want to help out someone, and change them for the better...and then they get trapped into a relationship where they're getting hit, or abused in other ways. Some women don't realize what they want until it's too late, and it's the same for guys too. | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 7/29/2005 8:03:13 PM | These large overgeneralizations are rampant here in the forums. My suggestion is that you specifically address the issue with the woman you are specifically speaking about and let it remain an observation you've made about her. Painting women by one color because you have observed something (which, by the way is your perception) is ignorant and one sided in my opinion.
The idea that an intelligent woman with any self respect would engage herself in a relationship with a man who is ill mannered, or any other super negative characteristic is nonsense.
However, there are some things I can possibly illuminate here as far as how it may appear to some men in regards to them believing "women want ***holes" and not the nice guys.
Women with very low self esteem will often gravitate toward a man who will carry similar traits. A woman who esteems herself does not tolerate bad treatment by anyone, let alone her man. Some have abusive backgrounds and haven't dealt with them and so they consistently recreate their pattern of choosing the same personality types which will perpetuate their cycle and allows them to feel comfortable.
Personally, I know many women who are with what I would call "horrible prospects" for love...and the truth is if you examine her and her behaviour, she's just about the same as he is, inappropriately rude and abrassive or any other number of traits which compliment his own. It goes both ways. There are many women and people in general who are not healthy. They attract where they are at in their measure of self respect and self consideration. There is no such thing as a great woman who wants an ***hole. It's just not a logical thing.
I could also state that it takes loving a few bad men for a woman to truly come to appreciate a good one. So in a way, these "assholes" can be a blessing to you "nice guys"... | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes? (Blastkist)
Posted: 7/29/2005 8:13:05 PM | Good points. But, I agee it can apply for both genders, but it seems that I always hear of more cases where some woman go back to these ***holes time and time again. Maybe both men and women attract each other because they both might have that ***hole personality trait. Some men probably have dated woman who could be labled as such too.  | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 7/29/2005 10:38:54 PM | | I have been forward with women many times and approached in coffee shops,boutiques,you name it.They give me there number when I call and I get the answering machine and they don't return my calls.Or when I tell them I am a forklift operator and shipper/receiver the aren't interested.Women are just impossible and I might as well just live with my cat the rest of my life.At least she gives me unconditional love. | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 7/29/2005 10:46:10 PM | | Sometimes the girl doesnt know the guy is a jerk untill she gets into to the relationship and sometimes some people feel they have to settle for it because they feel they will find noone else.I know thats sillie but its true. | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 7/30/2005 5:38:50 AM | You no there are women A.S.S.holes to my 1st gf was one too. sometimes men don't see it the women, because love is blind sometimes. Sometimes people don't learn and repeat the same thins over and over again and fall into a trap. I now have learned from that 1st relationship and stay away from people like that.
Its like a woman who goes back and back again to abusive people.
I will not associate with my 1st, because she is surrounded by alot of abusive people. People who are willing to committ harm to other people in mind or phsical. | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 7/30/2005 5:46:45 AM | As it turns out, I think that MOST guys want what I want when it comes to "women and dating", but they just haven't thought about it long enough to be able to say it.
I think that what 90% of men are looking for is a GREAT long-term relationship with a GREAT woman. What do I mean when I use the term "Great Woman"?
I mean a woman who is naturally beautiful, who takes care of herself physically, who is
emotionally and financially stable... who doesn't "need" you, but "wants" you, who can take care of herself in every way...
...you know what I'm saying here. But guess what?
Women like this are VERY rare. I mean like one in a thousand or so. And they are NEVER at a loss for a date. I digress... but I'll come back to this later.
Now I want to talk about WHY it's such a big problem.
There are two main reasons:
1) Not knowing what you want, lowers the chances of GETTING what you want.
2) In this particular situation, when it comes to this type of woman, not understanding what you want makes your chances of getting one almost ZERO.
Let's talk about these two issues.
- NOT KNOWING WHAT YOU WANT LOWERS YOUR CHANCES OF GETTING IT
If you've read any "self help" books at all, then you know that it's important to set goals in
your life. Why?
Because setting goals makes your mind work on getting them.
When you think through your goals, and take the time to figure them out, write them down, and make plans to get them, you put a set of processes in motion that dramatically increase your chance of getting what you want.
If you don't know what I'm talking about, go read "Think And Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill.
Just do it.
- NOT UNDERSTANDING THIS PARTICULAR TYPE OF WOMAN MAKES YOUR CHANCES OF GETTING ONE ALMOST ZERO
This is the big issue here.
This is the one that most guys just don't get...and the one that, by itself, really leads to
failure. The fact is that most guys would really like to meet a great girl.
The times in my life when I've had an amazing woman as my girlfriend have been FANTASTIC.
There is nothing quite like having a stunning, intelligent, well-dressed, interesting woman in
your life. Nothing. To put it another way, if you meet a really interesting, exceptional woman, you can bet that she has been approached between 150 and 300 times
in the past month ALONE.
Think about that.
Imagine what it must be like to be a woman who is approached so often.
Even if she WANTED to spend time with many of the men, there would be no way to do it.
It's just not practical. So what's a girl to do?
The only thing that an exceptional girl CAN do is use TIME MANAGEMENT principals.
She has to decide almost INSTANTLY if a guy is "worth" spending more time with.
And she has to make her decision based on very little information.
AND, she can't make the mistake of being "too friendly" and giving a guy the "wrong idea"...
because if she does, he'll probably call her 100 times over the next month.
Unusually attractive, exceptional women become very good at ELIMINATING men based on very little information.
If you're a man who hasn't made it a goal to attract one of these women, who doesn't understand this particular fact, and who doesn't understand how to get past this initial "test", then your chances of attracting one of these women is as close to zero as anything is in the world.
The REALITY of this situation is that you are not the only guy in the world who wants a woman like this.
EVERY guy would like to meet her.
There are a lot of guys out there that are willing to call her more, spend more money on her, do more things for her, and pay her more attention than you...
You can't get a girl like this one by doing the "normal" things.
And here's the KICKER...
The next girl you date probably isn't going to be this girl.
In fact, you're probably going to need to go out with MANY women before you're going to run into one of these rare women.
But as they say, "Every cloud has a silver lining". And this cloud does.
The fact is that spending time dating other women is EXACTLY what will TEACH you how to
attract one of these exceptional women.
You HAVE to do it.
So let's wrap this up.
First, take some time and figure out what it is that you want. Write it down, and make a list.
What are the physical, intellectual, and emotional qualities that you're looking for?
Be specific, and get a clear picture in your mind.
Next, become the guy that she'll feel ATTRACTION for when you meet her.
There are two parts to this one.
The first part is preparing yourself to date many women to find her... and then getting out
there and doing it.
The second (and most important) part is to LEARN what you need to do in order to be the guy that she'll be attracted to. | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 8/1/2005 10:01:34 PM | | I think the man who wrote message #119 has read one too many of David DeAngelos' regular internet ads for his**** Comedy program. | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 8/1/2005 11:49:20 PM | yeah mike your right there.when they mature and have kids they want the nice guy because they know the bad boy will be nothing but crap as a father for the kids and they know that a bad boy also doesnt make a good husband.or serious bf material for that matter.
basically the only thing a bad boy is good for to women is for a diversion.
a bad boy is the same as a hore.guys dont want a hore as a wife.to have along term relationship with and have a future with.the same thing with bad boys except women thinbk they can find a bad boy that they can tame into being a nice guy.sorry but it doenst work i am positive about it.once a bad boy always a bad boy.meaning that he can be as nice as he can be but the bad boy streak inside him(he likes playin with fire) bad boys dont like the routine.they have to keep it exciting so they can never garantee a women that they wont cheat.a bad boy eventually will not be faithfull.thats why hes called a 'bad boy' lol
because hes bad lol | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 8/2/2005 1:51:31 AM | Reality check.........
Shawn (the initiater of this thread) experienced this with 1 woman...and now he thinks that women are not worth his time.......WOW
Shawn...whatever you do....dont become a statistician | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 8/2/2005 8:36:45 AM | | I liked a girl for the longest time, yet she wouldn't budge. I would try to woo her over with so many different types of schemes and plots, yet none worked. One day she said something peculiar, she would eventually end up in the hands of a man who had lots of money. The answer: money. Make money, and you will have flocks of the type of woman you seek. That is, if you're into a freeloading, uneducated, egocentric, self absorbed, and generally a nuisance causing woman. If you want any girl with said characteristics, you deserve what you get. If not, look for girls who are not out on Friday and Saturday nights. Look for them in places like libraries, coffee shops, etc,. | |
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