| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 11/10/2005 10:04:01 AM | OP: That's just the way it is, women will never change... granted feminism is backfiring on them, so most of them are kind of pissed off. LOL.
I am sure we have all seen the total loser of a guy with a really hot babe, and have wondered why in the h*ll she's with him. It's because he treats her like sh*t, and she loves it. It really works! Stop treating them like queens and start treating them like ho's. Not only will you get the hot babes, but you will also gain their respect. Trust me on this one. | |
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AI03™
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Joined: 5/3/2005
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 11/10/2005 10:09:12 AM |
This does not mean you should be a jerk, but instead you should give the vibe that you are out to have fun and could really care less if she’s interested or not. If you appear to be trying to hard, they are turned off.
Sorry but if the signals I'm getting are that he could care less that he is out with me, guess what I'm doing? Gettin the heII outta there. I really love how SOME men think they know exactly how women think and group us all together and try their "strategies" on us. Spend more time working on your own confidence and who you are and the rest will come.
He (or she) exudes a confidence that stems from intelligence, charisma and being the kind of person that other people want to be around, not treating people like crap.Find your confidence and revel in it!
Now that, makes sense. In other words, try simply being your damn self, and be confident in who you are instead of wasting mindless hours "studying" mating rituals and devising schemes and plans... It isn't that difficult !!!!  | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 11/10/2005 10:14:03 AM | Yes, I agree, we make choices, but in this particular cyber world it takes time to "feel transparency" and once this is becomes clear than someone can happily say or admit - yeah he was a**hole.
In real life
And lack of drive, confidence, ambition or intelligence
is the answer to the question above.
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 11/10/2005 10:15:50 AM | I am sure we have all seen the total loser of a guy with a really hot babe, and have wondered why in the h*ll she's with him.It's because he treats her like sh*t, and she loves it
No, the reason is, she is also an loser, and that's why the two of them are together.
If you take a woman, with no self respect and no self esteem, she'll probably accept being treated like a ho.
Take a woman who respects herself and honors herself, and treat her like a ho, you'll be out of the picture so fast you won't know what hit you | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 11/10/2005 11:01:31 PM | | Kathy, I left wiggle room ie; I said "Lots" of times. Now if I said all the time, that would be a different matter. If your going to be pragmatic and deal with the facts, then deal with them correctly. Tracy (buccaneer 38) | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 11/11/2005 11:16:57 AM | buccaneer,
I have no idea what the wiggle room is, but I assume you mentioned it for a reason.
I read exactly what you wrote, I am aware that you used the word "lots".
In my opinion, making a blanket statement such as "lots of beautiful women are pure evil" is ridiculous.
I think it would be a fairer statement to say, some people are pure evil, it has nothing to do with gender, or appearance.
Please note, I did not address you as bucco. | |
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arri
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Joined: 10/5/2005
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 11/2/2008 6:44:11 AM | | HAHAHAHAAAAA!!! YES! Nice guys are are boring, clingy, whiny, needy and they're definately not strong enough to let me be myself, and yup. They're boring in the sack, too. Some girls just like to have their hair pulled and to get called a b i t c h every now and then, and could give a s h i t about "romantic sunsets" and "candlelit dinners." | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 11/2/2008 7:37:42 AM | If a woman walks into a room full of a thousand guys, she might actually date and sleep with two of them. Maybe two of them will have that potential.
Trust me, lots of a**holes don't get the girls too.
I think there is some kind of backwards logic that says that only what men choose to do makes most women behave in a way that seems contrary to her best interests.
The first point I want to make is some people are just stupid. Some people want to date a loser with no job and a bunch of STDs and beats her because they are just plain stupid.
The second point I want to make is most women are just plain mean. Even if there were no a**holes in the world, most of you supposed "nice guys" out there would still get screwed over anyway.
The third point I want to make is that you might all have it backwards. Are a**holes more attractive? Or are people who are more attractive to the opposite sex more prone to be a**holes? Because most people will do as much as they can get away with.
Be yourself. Maybe that gets you the relationship you want. Maybe it doesn't. But at least it's true. | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 11/2/2008 7:41:26 AM | My guess it's not the same girl .. But you mean "woman" right?
Some women have a low self esteem and buy into the BS that there's something wrong if you don't have a boyfriend and stick around even if it is a horrible situation.
You treat a woman like a queen.. she's comfortable enough to be honest with you and tell you thinks are not working. NOT everyone is compatible shawn. It's NOT about you. It's about her.
you'll get over it. | |
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jas0nB
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Joined: 9/21/2008
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 11/2/2008 10:23:22 AM |
Why is it when a guy treats a girl like sh*t, she stays with him, but when a guy treats her like a queen, she leaves?
Some women are masochists and/or extremely stupid. Don't blame yourself.
Drew Peterson beats his first wife (allegedly). Drew Peterson beats his second wife (allegedly). Drew Peterson murders his 3rd wife (allegedly). Drew Peterson murders his 4th wife (allegedly). Drew Peterson currently has new girlfriend and nice guys out there can't get a date. :shrug:
Drew Peterson's 2nd wife recalls:
"This man, just oozing of confidence, he wanted to dance with me... he set his eyes on me and it was like he was going to get me. He couldn't get me to move in with him fast enough."
I'm sure wife 1,3,4 and the new flame felt the same. Fool me once... | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 11/2/2008 10:50:40 AM |
"This man, just oozing of confidence, he wanted to dance with me... he set his eyes on me and it was like he was going to get me. How ironic that the most of the so called "nice guys" can't seem to display those very same traits *shrugs* | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 11/3/2008 10:01:55 AM |
If a woman walks into a room full of a thousand guys, she might actually date and sleep with two of them. Maybe two of them will have that potential.
Trust me, lots of a**holes don't get the girls too.
I think there is some kind of backwards logic that says that only what men choose to do makes most women behave in a way that seems contrary to her best interests.
The first point I want to make is some people are just stupid. Some people want to date a loser with no job and a bunch of STDs and beats her because they are just plain stupid.
The second point I want to make is most women are just plain mean. Even if there were no a**holes in the world, most of you supposed "nice guys" out there would still get screwed over anyway.
The third point I want to make is that you might all have it backwards. Are a**holes more attractive? Or are people who are more attractive to the opposite sex more prone to be a**holes? Because most people will do as much as they can get away with.
Be yourself. Maybe that gets you the relationship you want. Maybe it doesn't. But at least it's true.
Because women are now as shallow as men; they are into looks and money just like guys are; The Girls gone wild video series has a 20,000 girl sign up list; they are into "hot" party boys and money.
Instead of women being the better sex, they are now equals; they are as shallow and sleazy as men are. | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 11/3/2008 10:29:04 AM | | I always asked myself that question I realised a few years ago what it was....girls love confidence, and simply put a$$holes are generally very confident....You might want to think there is more to it than that, but there really isnt, otherwise they wouldnt complain about them being a$$holes the moment they realise what it was they were dating. | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 11/3/2008 10:32:37 AM | | A-holes don't care what a woman thinks, when they approach a woman they have an aura of confidence about them. Women, in general, are attracted to confidence and it's not like the guy comes up and says, "I'm an A-hole, wanna dance?" | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 11/3/2008 8:07:14 PM | ^^^ Right on! *waits for the day when we can point our camera phone at them and an A$$Hole detector flashes a red stop sign for obvious reasons or. a green light  for a good guy who just happens to be confident. ..  | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 11/3/2008 8:08:16 PM | | That is just a HUGE stereotype. Yes, we've gone for a few of them.. because of their swagger. It's not seen. It's not obvious. Though, after a few of the idiots.. we learn, and want the nice guys. | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 11/4/2008 1:01:02 AM | | hey shawn wake up and look around you,have you ever heard of being**** and funny at the same time.Well your girl don;t need to be treated nice in the bedroom ,and thats where it all starts you must have said the wrong words ,which eventually turned off by you ,girls likes to be treated in a**** way make them beg for you,and you need to be the dominant person you take control.girls don't like wuess guys and thats what you are you crawl up to her all to her all the time thinking that you doing the right thing by her.wake up the more you behave like a wuess the further you driving her away from you.you need to be in control.you need talk dirty to her in the right time and the right mood.and most of all you need her to surrender to you,stop buying her any thing make her work for it if she is worth it. ignore her at some times be straight forward with her don't have any remorse and stop telling her how you feel about her (e.g.i feel so close to you when you are around and i miss you every minute of the day when i;m not around you )ekkkhhhh phewwwww.)STOP she does not want to hear that from you.she is loosing attraction for you think about it when you first met ,how was she every thing about you was all new to her now you are becoming old and lame she needs some thing new.a spark to keep her coming back for more.(LAUGHTER)yes (LAUGHTER)thats what the other person has and you don't have any more girls like guys to make fun of them selves and not feel embarased about it and make her laugh you will get her attention and don't spin like a record repeating the same thing over and over again keep her in suspence i have been there trust me and i have learnt the hard way 20 years of relation-ship and she leaves me for a B... hole guy sleeping on a single bed for 2 years and can't afford to buy her a $2.00 garment .you can imagine what i mean and she preffered to stay with him and i learnt why did she do that he makes her laugh because both are stoned on illegal drugs thats what she liked about him and she feels very attracted to him prepared to do any thing for him they recycle smoked cigaretes out of an ashtray and thats fine her she is madly in love with him. yes i did exactly what you did but her expensive clothes car always has plenty of money on her she gave it all away.he fills her up with dreams different ideas almost every day and never deliver keeps her in suspence never answers her question tries to avoid the real issue by turning her attention to some thing else that he got control of her with.i don;t want to go on any further but I hope I have been any help to you if you want know more post it and i will try to help further happy days to come . | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 11/4/2008 2:57:01 AM | [quote}don't know the answer to this one. why would anyone would, that's the question. who wouldn't want to be pampered and cared for and treated with respect? anyway, what i learn from my psych in human sexuality is that women who go for the bad guys may have low self esteem and being such they somehow gravitate to people who confirms what they think of themselves, no matter how smart/intellectual. also, people like the sense of familiarity, and if you have a low self-esteem, would you risk getting out of your comfort zone to grab that nice guy whom you think don't even know you? you'd think that if you have low self-esteem you'd find someone who will make you feel the opposite, not. that is going against your mindset and frame of reference. gosh, love this dancing banana.
I think post 48 hit the nail here.
I know someone who's attracted to "bad boys" and has low self-esteem. She actually lives a very boring life and looks at the "bad boys" for excitements and trills. She is also crises oriented and probably thrives in that type of environment as it is her confort zone. Her father rejected her (bc he did not want a child) and abandonned her as a young child (the reason why she feels she deserves to be treated like a doormat) and her own mother always left her home alone and used her as a cleaning slave. She practically raised herself and all because of two very selfish parents, who never gave their child the love, attention and guidances she needed to grow up to have a healthy selfesteem. It is a self-destructive fulfilling prophecy... Sad isn't it! | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 11/4/2008 7:47:01 AM | They don't, necessarily. But almost all (there are always exceptions) women that you would want to date are looking for a certain type of man. Some dating experts have called that type "Alphas", I think that's a little dramatic, but mostly women are looking for winners, not losers. And winners share some traits simply because they are winners. They're comfortable with themselves, which means they don't NEED any particular woman. Which allows them to be honest, and sometimes a little selfish. They have a healthy ego, up to and including being a little arrogant at times. They don't put up with B.S. They don't have to. They are the dumpers much more often than they are the "dumpees". They have success in their lives in important ways. No they aren't always rich, or good looking, or athletic, but they will usually have at least one of these attributes.
Nicey nice guys are not honest. Nobody is that "nice". And the women we want to date have been culling these losers since junior high. They are supernice, and submissive, and totally impressed with a woman because they have little to offer otherwise.
I try to be a "good guy", which to ME means solid, honest, compassionate, as opposed to a "nice guy" - essentially a guy whose self esteem needs a little work and who tries to bribe women for sex with his "niceness".
A lot of "nice guys" have called me an ***hole.  | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 11/4/2008 8:38:47 AM | ...Simple...because the A-Holes are more often than not... the ones whom have the money, variety, spice, and lifestyle to keep a woman constantly entertained and in a never-ending state of euphoria...and that's more important than love...or piece of mind...
So glad I don't want relationships... | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 11/4/2008 4:03:29 PM | | Its possible to be a good guy and also have a spine. I think your problem is that you just need to grow a pair and quit letting her/them push you around. | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 11/4/2008 4:23:56 PM |
Its possible to be a good guy and also have a spine.
UH OH...if a woman tells you that you're a "good guy", your ticket to the "friend zone" has officially been punched. | |
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