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| Why Do girls go for Bad Boys
Posted: 1/26/2009 10:25:06 PM | I suppose in my own personal life I tend to be attracted to "damaged" people. I don't really know why that is, but they do seem to be the "bad boys". *sigh* I guess I'm just weird.  | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 2/7/2009 9:39:39 PM |
I think steph7393 has got the rights of it. I've only had one relationship with an a-hole. He was immensley charming and atentive when I first started going out with him. I thought he was a really really nice guy. It was only later, when I'd moved in with him, that I saw the other side. And even then he was very manipulative and would be charming some of the time to try to keep me off balance. I've never repeated the experience, I can recognise the manipulative types now and my subsequent relationships have been with nice men. But some women don't really learn how to recognise the a-hole and are taken in by the initial charm. It isn't that they don't want a nice man - it's that they mistake the a-hole for one.
But the majority of nice men who are reasonably confident do get nice women. And they get married and stay that way. Which is why you don't find too many of them on dating sites - and when they do appear they get snapped up quickly.
And as for nice men who feel they lose out because women always go for the a-holes - the problem is usually that they are the ones who have no idea how to behave around women. Many of them can't talk to women. When I first met my second husband he spent a long time telling me about the construction of railway bridges. Did he really think I was going to be interested in that? Other nice men of my acquaintance seem completely incapable of holding a rational conversation with a woman they find attractive. Often nice men don't listen to women - they give the woman what they think she wants without hearing what she is saying about what she wants. so it is hardly surprising that they get it all wrong.
This is a very good post. Most really, truly nice men are with a nice woman, in a LTR or married. They get married and stay married.
This poster also offers some reasons why some nice men may not initially attract women: their approach, self confidence, not listening and holding a decent conversation, and other things.
There are guys who call themselves nice guys but aren't really...their mean spiritedness about being 'left behind' points that out like a neon sign. | |
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| Why Do girls go for Bad Boys
Posted: 2/10/2009 2:35:23 AM | this is a good one... heres something different you may want to consider... tend to believe that both 'nice guys' and 'badboy' share many qualities that us guys can all benifit from... rather than just being one or the other, you could try and study the pros and cons of being both, for instance:
badboy pros= knows his image, risk taker (all-in for the win ), fun at any random time, highly socialble, taking it to the extreme... etc.
niceguy pros= easy to talk to, patient, safe to be around, disciplined, self control, sets out plans to minimize any risks...etc
badboy cons= easily falls off task, doesnt know when to stop taking risks,playa, wins some-loses more, always a jerk once u get past the image!....and so on
niceguy cons= boring, plain, sheep, no game!...and so on
i myself try to work on on the good qualities of both badboy and niceguy attributes. i havent been in a relationship with anybody in past3 yrs, but thats not because girls dont like me, its just that i have a choice to whom i want to be with and im taking my time on finding that right one (patience).
Yes i believe that the essence of a badboy works well on that instant attraction, but thats about it... go any further with the badboy then they will easily lose that attraction and instanly u become this class A jerk... thats when the niceguy plays his role. that way you become this cool, safe guy who is fun to be with, extreme but also with a lot of self control and better for that long term. i know it may sound a bit weird but give it a try and take note of peoples reactions of your actions and u will find which attributes will best suite you to help you find what you are looking for.
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| Why Do girls go for Bad Boys
Posted: 2/10/2009 9:08:50 AM | Because bad boys keep you guessing
because girls enjoy the thrill of being beaten and then taken out for mcdonalds
because girls think they can change a bad boy
finally bring him over to the sober side
but its so not worth it , nice guys for the win | |
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| Why Do girls go for Bad Boys
Posted: 2/10/2009 5:47:18 PM | Because anyone can be a "bad boy" .
It is not entirely written on their forehead.
But then it also varies what people define as "bad boy".
I have never been like the kind of woman you describe OP. Quite the contrary. | |
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| Why Do girls go for Bad Boys
Posted: 7/19/2009 10:40:31 PM | It isn’t so much that girls go for bad boys, it is that boys with girl experience, eventually get callous, Women teach us to be mean.
...there is that line to that song "the more i treat you bad the more it makes you want to stay..."
That and having broken up with girls who called me both “too nice” and “too mean” which do you think feels better, and makes it easier to leave? | |
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| Why Do girls go for Bad Boys
Posted: 7/20/2009 9:27:31 AM | | I heard this from an older guy at the bar one day " I'll never understand why a woman will climb over ten good men to get to an a$$hole." | |
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| Why Do girls go for Bad Boys
Posted: 7/20/2009 11:17:55 AM |
Women teach us to be mean.
Its kinda like the guy that cllimbed over 10 good threads to get to this one... | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 7/20/2009 3:09:43 PM | Why do men lie to be p-whipped by domineering women. I have seen seemingly macho men act like a whipped pup with his tail between his legs when the ol lady calls.
I am nice and I get passed up or left waiting at home all day by no show guys. Sorry I'm not aggressive enough, it's not my nature to be a biotch. | |
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| Why Do girls go for Bad Boys
Posted: 7/20/2009 3:15:42 PM | There's no smoke without a fire;
There's no heat without a flame;
There's no love without desire;
BUT I WON'T PLAY THEIR GAMES!!!
(please don't ask me why) | |
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| Why Do girls go for Bad Boys
Posted: 7/20/2009 3:28:14 PM | | Maybe for the same reason that guys go for the same ole manipulative witches time and time again...Maybe b/c they haven't learned their life lessons well enough yet? If you are sitting around wondering why someone else does something are you really living life yourself? I think it has been said on prior threads that ladies don't want someone that is "overly nice" . We are looking for something in the middle...We don't want a guy that let's us walk all over them that is too nice and we really don't want the bad boys either...Can't we find some middle ground? | |
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| Why Do girls go for Bad Boys
Posted: 7/20/2009 8:53:34 PM | Ever see a man take a backseat to a DOG? I think that is how whipped some men are.
My late friend definitely wore the pants although she never worked. She always got her way. So vice versa a woman who is more domineering gets the man.
Men seem to like aggressive women. | |
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| Why Do girls go for Bad Boys
Posted: 8/28/2009 10:54:30 AM | It's because it's sex with NSA. Several woman per "bad boy" - he gets all the sex he wants with out comittment and the women can say he is their boyfriend if anyone attempts to ask her out - she decides who she hooks up with / no losers, mingers, freaks, stalkers or creeps.
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| Why Do girls go for Bad Boys
Posted: 8/28/2009 5:13:59 PM | | I know for me personally, when I start getting to know the guy, they don't seem like bad boys, it's not until I'm hooked that I find out! | |
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| Why Do girls go for Bad Boys
Posted: 8/28/2009 6:47:52 PM | this is true, but in the end....the girl usually comes back to the good guy to complain about her problems. lol  | |
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| Why do girls go for a**holes?
Posted: 8/28/2009 7:53:36 PM | If someone likes the challenge of a bad boy, fine, just DO NOT SAY that you're not into games. Because then you are lying to yourself.
Someone who's into the bad boy doesn't treat the act of dating like a game. Instead they see the potential person of interest AS a game. Because they are window-shopping for something challenging and loads of replay value, even if they occasionally get their ass kicked or feel like the "game" is playing a bit cheaply.
Bad boys are pretty much an area of interest in the same context that hobbies are areas of interest. Not everyone is into bad boys.
Only "bad girls" would show a bias towards bad boys.
Similarly, women who are baseball fans would prefer other baseball guys.
People with an interest in jazz music would prefer to hook up with other jazz enthusiasts.
Get it?
This is not to say that most people absolutely must want similar interests to match. They just keep it as a high priority. | |
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| Why do girls go for Bad-Boy, Macho-slob a**holes?
Posted: 8/31/2009 8:57:17 AM | In my very 1st LTR, I became *P-whipped* and discovered that I didn't like it...
..especially when my friends saw it, too...and started calling me a *P****
[But then, again...Y*A*W*Y*E...!!!]
Nice Guys can be Naughty, too...they just have some form of Respect and Admiration for a Lady
that appreciates being treated with respect and admiration...!!
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| Why do girls go for Bad-Boy, Macho-slob a**holes?
Posted: 8/31/2009 1:35:27 PM |
Why Do girls go for Bad Boys
Seriously? I believe it's genetically ingrained - hardwired into their brains. It's as hard-wired in there as the attraction of males to females and vice-versa, or the mothering instinct is. Not all will have it, but I believe most will. Ask any woman (that you're not involved with) what their most intense fantasy involves. Not many of them will involve making it with a "good boy".
In a fight or flight, or similar survival situation, there's a good likelihood the only good boys will be the dead ones. It wouldn't make too much sense for nature to cause women to desire the dead ones over the survivors/ultimate (assumed) providers for their progeny.
Look throughout the animal kingdom...You'll see the same theme over and over.
Sorry - but you asked! And that's the simplest most obvious answer, barring all other brainiac theories posed by good boys - and good girls. | |
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| Why do girls go for Bad-Boy, Macho-slob a**holes?
Posted: 8/31/2009 2:34:32 PM | My response is that any male who asks that question knows little about women.
Women don't like bad boys. They like confidence, and the men who ask that question don't have much confidence.
That's why they ask this question. They know they're clueless. They know they're missing something. This proves they lack confidence.
These "nice guys" think they can make up for their lack of confidence by being "nice" (ie always agreeing with the female, even when they don't, doing whatever the female asks, gives her gifts, etc) and when that doesn't work, they get resentful, and blame the women for liking "bad" boys. They think it doesn't make sense that a women would prefer a man who has the confidence to not cave in and cater to their every whim to a man who will debase himself for a little sex.
They just dont seem to "get" that women want a partner, not a fanboy.
Nice boys don't get the girl. Bad boys don't get the girl. Confident men get the women.
If you don't believe me, re-read through this thread and notice how almost every post from a self-identified "nice guy" has a bit of hostility towards women for liking the "bad" boys. | |
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| Why do girls go for Bad-Boy, Macho-slob a**holes?
Posted: 8/31/2009 5:02:13 PM | It wouldn't make too much sense for nature to cause women to desire the dead ones over the survivors/ultimate (assumed) providers for their progeny.
If that were the case there would be no White or Asian people left in your world.....
If you don't believe me, re-read through this thread and notice how almost every post from a self-identified "nice guy" has a bit of hostility towards women for liking the "bad" boys.
I am not a Goody too shoes or a Bad Boy - just look at my posting - I don't let people stereotype me - and I have no hostility towards women doing what ever and who ever they want I don't know 99.9% of the Women in the world - it's their choice.
Like I said, I know a guy who doesn't pay his utility bills, lives in the dark, barely pays his rent, gets blitzed ever night, works for his father , has a outright negative attatude towards women, is mysogonistic personality, is narcissistic, has no personality whatsover, the biggest bull$h!tter that ever live (doesn't even have the capacity to say he is wrong.) But the ladies love the man they can't get enough of him in fact at times he has 4-5 women sleeping with him in the Dark (It's cool, just like camping - he's a real man.)
So I ask again what is it? | |
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| Why Do girls go for Bad Boys
Posted: 9/16/2009 11:24:42 PM |
My response is that any male who asks that question knows little about women.
Women don't like bad boys. They like confidence, and the men who ask that question don't have much confidence.
That's why they ask this question. They know they're clueless. They know they're missing something. This proves they lack confidence.
These "nice guys" think they can make up for their lack of confidence by being "nice" (ie always agreeing with the female, even when they don't, doing whatever the female asks, gives her gifts, etc) and when that doesn't work, they get resentful, and blame the women for liking "bad" boys. They think it doesn't make sense that a women would prefer a man who has the confidence to not cave in and cater to their every whim to a man who will debase himself for a little sex.
They just dont seem to "get" that women want a partner, not a fanboy.
Nice boys don't get the girl. Bad boys don't get the girl. Confident men get the women.
If you don't believe me, re-read through this thread and notice how almost every post from a self-identified "nice guy" has a bit of hostility towards women for liking the "bad" boys.
Guys read this. Girls want guys that can take charge, not wimps. | |
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