| Are most single moms looking for a guy to care for them financially?
Posted: 10/1/2009 12:46:04 PM | How do you read that in my post? i was asking a legitimate question.
Where do you get that women are the ones mostly asking for divorce.?
If it is from a source other than your own pompous azz then do they take into consideration as to WHY they are asking for the divorce.
I am not sexist in any way. I know for a fact that today women cheat MORE than men do.
Your post alludes to a sexist view. Not mine. i was simply building on what YOU said.
PS- I don't think I think ill of any of my ex's. Just because we didn't work doesn't make them a bad person. Not bitter at all about my time spent with them. Thankful really and friends with most of them still. | |
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| Are most single moms looking for a guy to care for them financially?
Posted: 10/1/2009 4:06:50 PM | 1kindman said
Edit:Oh Nappy.. go re-read the entire thread.
YOU said he MIGHT be sterile, then the OP responded to you by quoting you.
At NO TIME did he say.. "I'M STERILE" He just quoted your MIGHT BE comment.
This is the part he quoted from me....
Or he might be sterile.... with thoughts of all the above. He did not put that part in quotations, he just added the several periods and then he said
that has truth but I'd rather date younger mothers or about my same age. I'm 29
Maybe he doesn't know how to use the quotation feature but 'That has truth' is an affirmative to my saying he was probably sterile.... and that he might possibly be insecure and seeking out young single mothers because of it. I suggest you reread the comments.
I'm really sorry you all are so bitter about your marriage and divorces. That's a sad shame. It's tainted your idea of relationships and women.... and yet you are on here and in real life looking for that special someone. You are going to make it hard for that special someone what attitudes like that. If and when it goes awry (as relationships are often wont to do) then you going to resort to your old feelings that women are nothing but gold-digging whores out to get you. Your negative presumptions will be confirmed and your thoughts and feelings will never change. How miserable is that.
And prenups are good for the goose and the gander. If a woman has something she wants to protects, and the guy doesn't mind signing it, then why not get one? If at the very least a marriage is a legal contract between the state and couple, then she (or he) should be able to take it one step further and protects their own interest in the marriage. I do not think it lessens the love or whatever in the marriage. But a lot of folks are very traditional and idealistic and just not mature enough to see it that way.
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| Are most single moms looking for a guy to care for them financially?
Posted: 10/1/2009 7:01:50 PM |
You totally misinterpreted my posts.
as far as "tricking" that's right....I tricked him into falling into my vagina.
I had no desire to become a mother at all.
We had dated briefly and yes, had unprotected sex ( come on now! If I said we were using protection you would just say I was lying!) but yeah, we weren't.
He knew very much I was against abortion because we had discussed this as the reason I was in the process of getting my tubes tied.
And I had broke up with him prior to finding out that I was pregnant because his habits had become untolerable. That is what I meant by "barley tolerate".
So, you knew you were going to get pregnant. What did you think your boyfriend at the time was going to say or do when you told him you were pregnant?
WHY did you have unprotected sex with this man before your tubes were tied? You knew it would lead to pregnancy. | |
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| Are most single moms looking for a guy to care for them financially?
Posted: 10/2/2009 7:57:13 AM | You make a lot of assumptions Future. i did not "know" I was going to get pregnant. I hadn't been able to get pregnant during a marriage and a LTR I had when we tried. Had already been to a doctor twice for fertility issues and have, as you know, been back a third time recently. Not to mention I was on a full blown period at the time of conception(that we both asked the doctor about when we went in to get a due date) and as you know normally...women ovulate 2 weeks AFTER their cycle.
WHY do you insist on asking stupid questions?
I had unprotected sex because I made a bad choice. It wasn't my first and it sure as hell won't be my last.
And my boyfriend at the time didn't say anything negative at all when i told him I was pregnant because as I stated..he KNEW that i was not on birth control and he knew I was against abortion for myself. And get this...he KNEW he had unprotected sex with me!! Wow..it really does go both ways....What was he going to say? "You tricked me" ?? Yeah...that wouldn't work. | |
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| Are most single moms looking for a guy to care for them financially?
Posted: 10/2/2009 12:10:23 PM |
You make a lot of assumptions Future. i did not "know" I was going to get pregnant. I hadn't been able to get pregnant during a marriage and a LTR I had when we tried. Had already been to a doctor twice for fertility issues and have, as you know, been back a third time recently. Not to mention I was on a full blown period at the time of conception(that we both asked the doctor about when we went in to get a due date) and as you know normally...women ovulate 2 weeks AFTER their cycle.
WHY do you insist on asking stupid questions?
I had unprotected sex because I made a bad choice. It wasn't my first and it sure as hell won't be my last.
And my boyfriend at the time didn't say anything negative at all when i told him I was pregnant because as I stated..he KNEW that i was not on birth control and he knew I was against abortion for myself. And get this...he KNEW he had unprotected sex with me!! Wow..it really does go both ways....What was he going to say? "You tricked me" ?? Yeah...that wouldn't work
The reason I thought you knew you could get pregnant was because you were having your tubes tied.
He knew very much I was against abortion because we had discussed this as the reason I was in the process of getting my tubes tied. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2009 12:24:13 PM | | I was doing what all you "you should have known better " posters suggest doing. I was taking extreme precaution to prevent a pregnancy. I had been told numerous times I would have "trouble" conceiving. Was not told it was impossible. So I was taking away any and all possibility. | |
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| Are most single moms looking for a guy to care for them financially?
Posted: 10/2/2009 12:43:27 PM | Hahah tito. i have a 2 1/2 year old and another one on the way. I couldn't imagine life not being "saddled" with children. it was the best mistake I ever made. My life is a lot more fulfilling with them in it.
I did not go through with the tubular because during pre op blood work I came back positive for hcg. I had got pregnant the week before (3 weeks pregnant) And I even planned on going ahead with the surgery after the birth of my daughter but backed out after delivering her. I knew immediately that I wanted more children. And I will not be getting it after this one is born either. I am officially a breeder.  | |
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Posted: 10/2/2009 1:21:51 PM |
Hahah tito. i have a 2 1/2 year old and another one on the way. I couldn't imagine life not being "saddled" with children. it was the best mistake I ever made. My life is a lot more fulfilling with them in it.
I did not go through with the tubular because during pre op blood work I came back positive for hcg. I had got pregnant the week before (3 weeks pregnant) And I even planned on going ahead with the surgery after the birth of my daughter but backed out after delivering her. I knew immediately that I wanted more children. And I will not be getting it after this one is born either. I am officially a breeder.
I don't know what the official definition of "breeder" is, but I thought it had a negative connotation. For example, when I think of a "breeder", I think of a woman who has multiple children without giving a thought to how she would financially or emotionally support all of them.
In that regard, I don't think you are a breeder at all, taken fab mom. You are a married woman who is having a child with her husband, with possibly another one coming in the future. You don't strike me as as a woman who would indiscriminately pop out child after child, none of which you could afford. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2009 3:06:16 PM |
And no. I have never once asked myself or worried about if I could afford them or not.
I did...both times....less the second time around. Although these days paying for groceries to feed my teenage son.....I'm asking myself again if I can afford to keep him. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2009 9:35:43 PM | | do not believe the women on this forum. at some point the kid is ultimately going to be involved in some of your dates and if you take her out...she'll want you to pay for the child's meal to. DO NOT believe what women say on here. they can say whatever they want. i've dated tons of single mothers and they all say they are independent and whatever until the check comes. it ain't worth it...trust me dude. not all are like that but the odds are against you. sorry single moms talk to your lower status single mother girlfriends that have ruined the statistical curve for you all. | |
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| Are most single moms looking for a guy to care for them financially?
Posted: 10/3/2009 7:42:14 AM | | well im sry that youve been done that way.. but me personally is the one that has been payin the check and taken sry men out my fault for bein with sumone who didnt have a job but i am a single mom of a 3 yr old and a 1 yr old i do take care of my kids yes i do pay the check and yes in return i do expect him to pay the bill as well.. fair and equal.. right? i work and go to school to take care of my kids and if i need help i ask my mom or their dad.. not my bf.. now if u are livin with me yes i do expect help esp if im cookin supper and the baby is hungry of course i want and expect u to feed him.. if u are livin with me.. why should u stay there in my house n just sit on your ass while im stressin again back to the equal part. i beleive firmally in treatin others the way u want to be treated ive been used dont like the feelin and im not goin to use nebody.. im lookin for me sumone not my kids a father they have one.. | |
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Posted: 10/3/2009 8:22:20 AM | I see from your pic that you're military, and I can see how you might come to question that. Being prior military myself and having been stationed in smaller and sometimes more remote areas I can say that there are definately good odds of that occurring.
I've been amazed at how many women in the more rural areas are looking for just that. I've had women show interest in and pursue me, even when I was married back then. They know you have a steady income, base priviledges, medical, etc. Also, from your pic it looks like you're pretty young so you're dealing with a younger group of women. Some of the small town girls I've come across were looking for a way out into a more exciting world.
Some of them also had kids by other soldiers who were stationed where I was at one time, some of them really tried hard to find new soldiers to hook up with because of the benefits involved.
If you're worried about financial motivations, then look at their situation. If she's financially stable, not living check to check, not on public assistance, etc then you're going to stand a better chance of finding someone who's not more attracted to you for financial gains.
Being young and military you need to be extra careful. | |
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| Are most single moms looking for a guy to care for them financially?
Posted: 10/3/2009 1:08:16 PM | OP You will never find a woman who will say NO to a fist full of dollars, single with or without kids.
Finish your education then worry about finding a gold digger with baby daddy issues, OOOPS i mean a fine YOUNG as you mentioned woman who doesn't need or want and is NOT motivated to find a man with money to take responsibility for her child's father's lack of manhood. | |
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Posted: 10/3/2009 4:29:47 PM | You know InNCsearching... your scenario goes for all scenarios in the dating world... Like, single, no kids, but a princess who expects the designer label clothes, from your pay cheque, or single man, whom has been burn't and therefore, won't even pay for a coca cola ...
It's personality and who the person is.. Not, "single mums".... You've by your own admission stated you've continued trying those relationships but each one has been a let down for you, though you don't feel they are all like that, just the odds are against you.. Then you can't state "DO NOT believe what women say on here.
Because, your admitting they are not all like that.
Loads of single mums work full time, or part time.
Loads of princesses too,
And, Loads of guys who won't even buy you a coke earn double..
It is what it is..
If they "tell you their independent" and you establish BS.. Then you went out with a lier simple. | |
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Posted: 10/4/2009 12:08:49 AM |
What happened to hippies. Did AIDS wipe them out? Goodness I hope not. I love me some hippies. If I were born in the 60's I would have been a black militant hippie - black power fist on one hand, joint in the other, with a peace sign T-Shit. Ah the era of sex, free love, and DOWN WITH THE MAN!!
What happened to the hippies? They shaved, cut their hair, put out the blunts, put on their suit and tie, conformed, and went to work for corporate. The only true hippies they got now are either homeless or on disability.
Pour out a little libation for the true hippies -  | |
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Posted: 10/4/2009 12:46:26 AM | do not believe the women on this forum. at some point the kid is ultimately going to be involved in some of your dates and if you take her out...she'll want you to pay for the child's meal to
Tisk, tisk...I smell bitterness...
You can usually tell the women right off the bat that have entitlement issues, single moms or not. If you can't spot em, then you gotta get a better woman picker.
That said, if I was dating a guy with kids, I would buy his kids a meal or a goodie if we were out and about occasionally and not blink an eye. I would not go tit for tat with someone that I cared about enough to involve our children in the mix.
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| Are most single moms looking for a guy to care for them financially?
Posted: 10/4/2009 12:54:45 AM | I'm not.
I learned early on even the best situation with the spouse working, SAHM, financially stable might suddenly end without warning, people get sick, spouse may die, finances may not have been secured and she is left holding the bag. So I think women should always be able to financially stand alone or know how to make it survive. I've seen both sides, some that couldn't handle it and others that didn't miss a beat.
With that said, some women are looking for some guy to take care of them financially and I don't think anything is necessarily wrong with that as long as both parties are in the know up front. | |
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Posted: 10/4/2009 11:32:48 AM | Good one! ^^^
I would like to think its safe to say we're looking for a guy to care for us (about us is anothe way of putting it) in all ways. Most of us are experienced enough at meeting our own needs and all we are looking for is someone to fill the personal void in our lives that can only be filled by a caring partner. I seek nothing else more than for you to point your cupid's bow and arrow at me, but I really could care less about the "wallet" thing. | |
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